You're not late to the game, nor have you wasted too much time. You're simply showing up out of the closet when it best fits for you and your life. Now start being comfortable and proud about that. Here's a few tips for embracing your late in life, coming out journey! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love...
Jun 17, 2022•8 min•Ep. 177
You do not, do not, do not, need someone elses validation to make your 40+ gay life complete. If you think you do, then that is why so many things are out of balance for you and your life. Let's change that by stepping up to the plate and validating yourself, then anything coming from outside of you is just the icing on the cake. Take a listen and learn how to give yourself that validation. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gath...
Jun 10, 2022•8 min•Ep. 176
It's PRIDE month, but PRIDE should be something as a guy over 40, you should have in yourself all year long. Every day, in every way. But what do you do when you question that PRIDE in yourself, and buy into the crap of "I have nothing to be proud about in my life"? You listen to this short little podcast about building up your pride and truly loving your 40+ gay self - every minute of every day! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, w...
Jun 03, 2022•9 min•Ep. 175
A sports-phobic single gay dad faces his longtime insecurities about jocks and athletics when his son lands a spot in a competitive NYC travel soccer league. Does this sound like a nightmare, reality, or a new TV Sitcom. All of the above and it is all brought to you by writer, journalist and hopeful TV Writer of a new sitcom - looking for a home - Bradley Jacobs. No he's not looking for a home but his sitcom, "One of the Guys," to bring laughter, empathy, and understanding to the life of gay par...
May 27, 2022•39 min•Ep. 174
Many of us as gay men grew up always doing what was expected of us, trying to fit in, compartmentalizing our lives and never letting anyone see the side of us that unacceptable. We end up feeling isolated and alone, but we do what we do to be successful by every other external measure until the pain becomes to great. In his new book, No More Neckties: A Memoir in Essays , Dr. Loren A. Olsen, MD, flings open the doors and reveals he wasn’t always a good boy. While not always noble and admirable, ...
May 20, 2022•58 min•Ep. 173
We've all been there and you are NOT alone. Friendzoned! It isn't fun and it can truly screw with your confidence and cause you to lose hope in ever finding a man and being in a relationship. But fear not gay men, there is life after being Friendzoned and here's how to move forward. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, fina...
May 13, 2022•12 min•Ep. 172
You want a man, you feel like you need a man (even though you don't) yet, are you making room for a man in your life? Once we hit our 40+ lives as gay men, we may not be making room for a man in our life, and that harsh truth is what we are exploring today plus some ways to open up that door and make room in your life for Mr. Man. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gay...
May 06, 2022•8 min•Ep. 171
What do you do when you just can't find the way to make money doing your passion? You just keep doing it on the side until you find the way. Is it difficult? Challenging? Worth it? Yes, yes, and yes. Tom Brickman - known as The Frugal Gay - shares his insights on how to make money and live your passion as a guy in your midlife, without screwing everything up. About Tom Tom Brickman 39, Married dog dad from Dallas TX. Recently retired from 9-5 to work on Real Estate full time (18 doors) a resale ...
Apr 29, 2022•45 min•Ep. 170
We all screw up. We all are too hard on ourselves and not in a good way. And, we all find it really hard to forgive ourselves. Well time to put that crap aside, and give yourself a spoonful of forgiveness and move on beyond whatever has got ya hung up. Here's a few tips how to practice The Art of Self-Forgiveness as a gay man. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays ar...
Apr 22, 2022•10 min•Ep. 169
SHOULD, ought to be banned from the english language. Or at least from the gay man's talk. Because when we should all over ourselves, we don't have much fun. You should do this, you should do that, you don't get much done if you are SHOULD-ing. Instead start doing. Here's 10 Things Gay Guys Over 40 Can Start DOING to improve their lives! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but n...
Apr 15, 2022•14 min•Ep. 168
You hit that point in your life where something has got to change. Get that promotion, find that next gig, be more intentional about your passion. Regardless of how you look at this as a gay guy over 40, you lead yourself, and you can lead others to have that impact in the world. Joining me for a candid, fun, conversation about leading your life - personally and professionally is author, leadership expert and all around great guy - Dr. Steve Yacovelli a.k.a. The Gay Leadership Dude. He's a top d...
Apr 08, 2022•37 min•Ep. 167
We're all fools. Every one of us gay men. No one gets out of life without being a fool. Crappy dating habits. Pursuing wrong careers. Eating unhealthy foods. Not believing in ourselves. It's all foolish. But that doesn't mean you have to stay in that space! Instead, turn your fool into a gay jewel. And what better day to say "Stop pitying the fool" than on April Fools Day, and I'm not fooling with you. Listen and learn how to stop being the fool in your life. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay T...
Apr 01, 2022•9 min•Ep. 166
What motivates gay men? Do all gay men only want sex? What if an open relationship can work? Can I be spiritual or religious as a gay man? Questions, questions, questions. It seems we as gay men are constantly questioning ourselves. To help me answer some of these questions is Brian Madigan of Gay Guru Coach. Join us as we laugh, go deep, and try to dissect the truth of what so many gay men struggle with so they can live their life on their terms. About Brian Brian Madigan has been a full-time l...
Mar 25, 2022•48 min•Ep. 165
Gaslighting. Blaming. Pulling wicked "not me, that's you" bullshit on ourselves and from others. It's called being a Narcissist. If you've ever lived with one you know what I mean. And, if you've ever been one to yourself, you know what I mean. But it's time to slay that narcissistic dragon and move on to a better place in your life. C'mon boys/men, let's to do this - slay that narcissist once and for all. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. ...
Mar 18, 2022•10 min•Ep. 164
As RuPaul sez, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you going to love someone else?" But what many of us as gay men don't realize is when we love ourselves, all is well, all is coming, all is delicious. Our guest today, Jerome Braggs, guides, teaches, and illuminates ways for us as gay men to step into the powerful space of loving ourselves fully. About Jerome In 2004, Jerome checked into the hospital with what he thought was the flu, but instead got diagnosed with anemia, pancreatitis, gia...
Mar 11, 2022•50 min•Ep. 163
As the queen of soul sez: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It is time to respect yourself and if you don't then that is on you, and only you. Because self-respect is where confidence grows. And as another queen sez (RuPaul) - If you can't respect yourself, how the hell you going to respect someone else. Ok I took some liberties with that one, but you know RuPaul would agree with those sentiments too. Now listen and learn how to R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday...
Mar 04, 2022•10 min•Ep. 162
Like it or not, all of us gay men are aging. It's a conveyor belt and there is nothing we can do about it. Nor should we feel pressure to do something about it. Yet, some gay men do choose cosmetic surgery and skin care regimes to make themselves feel comfortable in their aging bodies. Then others do what they do to ensure they take the best care of their bodies in a way that suits them. Rather than be judgy about men who choose skin care, botox, and cosmetic surgeries, listen and learn and you ...
Feb 25, 2022•49 min•Ep. 161
Roles, roles, roles. Everyone wants us to play some role so that it makes it easier to relate to them. We all do it, and don't say you don't. Yet, as gay men, we feel like we have to fit into some constrained role to make our gay lives work...or do we. We're rolling out the roles and saying now more as we explore the sexual roles we play as gay men! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about t...
Feb 18, 2022•8 min•Ep. 160
Valentine's Day is just a few days away. So let's start crying the blues about what sucks about being a gay man and no one to love. Nah. Let's not do that. Let's talk about the challenges of not having someone to love but what we can do to be more in love with our lives and ourselves this Valentines Day. Joining me is fellow coach and gay dad, Steve Disselhorst as we dish it about love, careers, aging, health, and all that jazz before we let Cupid's Arrow hit the target of love in our lives. Aft...
Feb 11, 2022•41 min•Ep. 159
How do you as a gay man, conquer the confidence conundrum? we say the last part of that question 3 times really fast, and if you can say that, you've got confidence! Just kidding. But, gaining/finding confidence as a gay man, is about as close as grabbing your middle leg and stroking it to life. Yes, it is that easy to find your confidence if you are willing to do a little bit of work. Listen and learn how! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m....
Feb 04, 2022•10 min•Ep. 158
The clothes are coming off. Your heart's racing and an appendage is growing, and you can't wait to touch him and have him touch you. Then your head - the one above your shoulders starts creating a story that - you're no good, you're no good, you're no good - buddy you're no good at this SEX thing. Get over it. You're good you just need to figure it out and own it! Let's go have some fun exploring being good at gay sex! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month ...
Jan 28, 2022•11 min•Ep. 157
The biggest question I get asked, by guys coming out of the closet, is not how do you take a big penis, it's how do you do gay? Ok, maybe the penis question comes up to, but today we're exploring how you do gay, whether you've been out since you were a teen or just coming out after 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 years old, or older. Let's go explore how you do gay! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk abo...
Jan 21, 2022•12 min•Ep. 156
OMG. My penis no longer works, and my prostate no longer feels pleasure. My life is over! That may be the way it seems, but does having and living with prostate cancer mean, your life is over as a gay man? No! Just ask today's guest, Kenneth A. Johnson. He's living his life to its fullest, owning his challenges with his prostate and sex life, and thriving beyond what would cause most gay men to say, "Screw it. No more sex for me!" This is his awe inspiring story and advice. About Kenneth Kenneth...
Jan 14, 2022•49 min•Ep. 155
It's the beginning of the year, and what do you want to do with this year? I don't know! What do you want from this year? I don't know! What would make you feel fulfilled this year? I don't know! Fine, then sit on your little victim, wandering in the desert of your lost life, and just keep saying, "I don't know!" Or, break the "I don't know" syndrome and get shit done this year. Take a listen and learn to the possibilities that await you when "I don't know," becomes "I do know!" Join Our Live 40...
Jan 07, 2022•10 min•Ep. 154
Do not set a New Year's Resolution. Do not head out to that party dreading the start of another year. Do not do anything that you do not plan to do without a solid INTENTION. That's my advice for this coming year, and every year. And, here's how you do a new year filled with intentions! That is if you want to up your game and your life as a gay guy in 2022! Download The Manifesto Click Here Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep...
Dec 31, 2021•9 min•Ep. 153
You're running yourself ragged, trying to get all the right gifts for everyone. But, what have you done for you? What gift are you going to give yourself? And don't go saying, "That's so selfish!" There's nothing selfish about giving yourself a gift this holiday season, and here's a few gifts you should consider. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time t...
Dec 24, 2021•18 min•Ep. 152
Religious trauma. Seems to be the norm for a majority of LGBTQ people that you encoutner. "You're damned to hell!" or "You're a sinner!" Of course most those people hurling those words for get that they're divorced (a sin), have committed adultery (a sin), have eaten pig (a sin), worn woven fabrics (a sin), but all of that is forgivable, but you just can't be a man and lay with another man, or a woman and lay with another woman - well women that's ok because men find that pleasing to their naugh...
Dec 17, 2021•49 min•Ep. 151
What if there were no Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam? What would you do? Get out and meet guys? Resort to hooking up in the back of bars or restrooms? Or Isolating? Regardless of what you use the in-your-hand apps for, your world may just come to an end...or would it? That's what we're exploring today on the 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk podcast. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but ...
Dec 10, 2021•8 min•Ep. 150
From a young age, the fear of God caused him to tremble in his boots about his secret. Then, in his 40's he could no longer live within that secret, and he realized he had to be who he was, a gay man. Then he made national headlines by taking a stand as a gay educator, fighting for the right to teach in his classroom, when parents saw him as a threat to their children. All because people judged who he was and who he was meant to love and share a life with. James Merrick shares is truth and his j...
Dec 03, 2021•36 min•Ep. 149
We're coming into the home stretch of the year and it's - HOLIDAY TIME! Don't freak out, don't put pressure on yourself, and please don't try to please everyone. OK, EASIER SAID THAN DONE. However, you can have a peaceful holiday season in your gay life by following a few of these tips, without being or needing a douche! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’...
Nov 26, 2021•9 min•Ep. 148
