I want more. I want to be better. I need something different in my life. Ok, cool. But do you get so obsessed about that as a gay man that you never get where you are going, or get what you are trying to achieve? Well then this podcast can guide get more, better, different with some simple tricks you can implement today. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’...
Jan 13, 2023•14 min•Ep. 207
Whether it is better sexual health - rock hard erections, stamina, or screwing like a porn star - most gay men want great sex but do they do what they need to do for better sexual health. The answer is "NO!" Here to guide towards better habits and practices, is Dr. Judson Brandeis, Top Urologist in the SF Bay Area, and ally to the LGBTQ community, with ways to improve your health, sex life and even the length and girth of your penis. About Dr. Brandeis Dr. Judson Brandeis is honored to have been...
Jan 06, 2023•56 min•Ep. 206
New Years is just two days away and while we could do, "Tips for making the most of your New Year," instead let's declutter our lives so we can have a great start for making the most of our new year. Here's a no bullcrap way of getting the junk out of your life so you can get focused on what is really important in 2023. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s...
Dec 30, 2022•17 min•Ep. 205
Instead of getting caught up in your gay life that doesn't please or serve you, go have a stroke. Actually don't. I speak from experience in this podcast about how to stroke other things in life to bring you happiness, rather than dealing with a stroke. Just make sure what you are stroking pays off, and I'm not talking about a money shot! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but ...
Dec 23, 2022•12 min•Ep. 204
Your partner has cancer, then recovers. Then you have cancer, and recover. Then your partner and pets both pass on. All of this while lovely COVID is reeking havoc on the planet. How do you thrive through this much turmoil? You trust the process and see the beauty in the challenges. Avid listener and beautiful gay man with a soulful heart, Jason Arnold, vulnerably shares his journey of loss and grief and how he is navigating is 40 Plus gay life when most of us would have just said FUCK IT! About...
Dec 16, 2022•45 min•Ep. 203
If I make them happy, then I will be liked. Or even better, if I do this for them then they will do something nice for me. Sound familiar? It's call being a pleaser and as gay men, we have tried to please everyone else, hiding our true self, and then when we come out, it doesn't end, until you confront the pleaser within, and fix that madness. Today we explore who to take your pleaser saboteur and put him in the right place to make you please yourself while finding the right way to please others...
Dec 09, 2022•15 min•Ep. 202
Authenticity is one of those words that can be cringe or cult worthy. For most gay men, it is something that we all struggle with as we battle the demon of "that's not what you're supposed to be." Let's end that battle and look at authenticity through the lens of how you define it, and only how you define it. Joining me on the podcast today is Coach Maddox - the authenticity activist and host of The Authentic Gay Man Podcast to give you straight up insights on how to be more authentically you. A...
Dec 02, 2022•44 min•Ep. 201
Dating. It's either fun or the bane of your existence. Whatever happened to the good old days of waving a magic wand and meeting Prince Charming. LMAO. Yeah, keep dreaming men. It's time to do the work and make those relationships happen. What better way to celebrate the 200th episode of 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk than to have a candid conversation about Cupid's Arrow with Michael Kay, Head of Global Communications at OKCupid, where love and dating are their hearts desire. Take a listen as we ex...
Nov 25, 2022•44 min•Ep. 200
Stop whining and start celebrating your milestones of life - age, career advancements, make-ups and breakups, losing weight, gaining weight. They are all milestones that give us the goods to move our lives forward if we use those milestones to kick ourselves in the ass for good instead of moping around like a whiny old man. Here's the goods on turning those milestones into opportunities. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather ...
Nov 18, 2022•13 min•Ep. 199
Sex, sex, sex. That's all gay men care about. Not exactly true but even if it is, sex and sexual pleasure can get the best and worst of us as we age...or does it? Intimacy expert, Susan Bratton joins me today for a very candid, raw, sexual chat about everything sexual and how to take care of your cock, balls, and masculine energy around sex. Jump on boys, this is one you won't soon forget. About Susan Susan Bratton "Intimacy Expert to Millions" is a champion and advocate for all those who desire...
Nov 11, 2022•58 min•Ep. 198
Aging. Wondering what do I do and where will my life lead me? It's happening to all of us. One of the biggest questions is "When the time comes, where do I find a community that is welcoming to me as an aging, retired gay man, without the fear of having to hide back in the closet?" Loren Ostrow, the founder and developer of Out Palm Springs shares how he and his organization is changing retirement living for the LGBTQ community. This insightful conversation might surprise you of the things you a...
Nov 04, 2022•38 min•Ep. 197
You have this burning desire to do your own thing, start your own business, be your own boss. Great. Awesome. Then the challenges arise and instead of walking away from a job, you just built yourself a job that you can't get away from. Stefaan DeVreese candidly shares the in's and out's of being a gay man in mid-life who is building a business, and the resilience it takes to be a titan in your own world. Listen for great tips and advice of how to start that side hustle or full blown business as ...
Oct 28, 2022•42 min•Ep. 196
Living life is messy. Messy, messy, messy. Now add to it being a gay man, and Lord help us, it can get real messy. Helping us undo some of that mess when we think it is impossible is Author Britt East, sharing wisdom from his book "A Gay Man's Guide To Life." Listen up and you just might learn something that you need to. About Britt BRITT EAST is an author and speaker who uses his experience, strength, and hope to challenge and inspire change-oriented gay men to get down to the business of impro...
Oct 21, 2022•45 min•Ep. 195
It's too late to come out. It's too late to find a relationship. It's too late to find my passion. BULLSHIT! You can come out of the closet of your life, regardless of what that closet is, even when you think it is impossible. These five tips will help you see the thought - "too late" - in a whole new way. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about bu...
Oct 14, 2022•9 min•Ep. 194
Seems non-monogamy is more and more common as gay men try to find themselves in their relationships in a way that works for them as individuals and as a couple, or even a thruple. So how do you make it all work when Monogamy isn't the way. Polyamory expert Kitty Chambliss joins us today to give you great insights on how to thrive in your relationship when the typical just isn't going to cut it. About Kitty A born-and-raised Philly girl with nothing more than passion, a laptop and a dream, I’m pr...
Oct 07, 2022•44 min•Ep. 193
We guys over 40, should have so much figured out in life, like how not to get our "buttons pushed" by other people. Ok, that is probably not 100% true, but we should have a way to combat that, right? No matter where you are in your station in life, people are going to get under your skin, and sometimes it will harbor there for weeks and months on end. I know, and I am sharing first-hand how to combat this "button pushing" syndrome in real time, with real issues, so that you can find real peace o...
Sep 30, 2022•11 min•Ep. 192
Imagine going from being an active member of one of the most well known evangelical churches in Houston - Lakewood Church - yes that one...to becoming a drug addict, dealer, being homeless and serving in the armed forces. Talk about polar opposites, but it is his reality, his story, and his journey to be himself as a gay man. De'Vannon Hubert shares his journey of life beyond struggles and near catastrophe. About DeVannon De’Vannon Hubert is the author of Sex, Drugs, and Jesus, a memoir about hi...
Sep 23, 2022•43 min•Ep. 191
What does it mean to be masculine? Who defines it? What does it matter? These are all the big questions we're asking on 40 Plus: Gay Man, Gay Talk Podcast today with fellow Life Coach Travis Stock. He brings his own unique insights into the world of masculinity into play to make you go, "Hmmm? What does masculinity really mean?" About Travis Travis helps you find what creates balance in your life by first seeking acceptance of what is. He helps you connect to your truth in the moment, so that it...
Sep 16, 2022•43 min•Ep. 190
There's a lot of shaming going on around how people do their most intimate relationship(s). You get shame for wanting monogamy. Shade gets thrown if you are in an open or polyamorous relationship. Shame, shame, shame for how you choose to live your life. Well it's nobody's business and here's some tips on dumping the shame. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren'...
Sep 09, 2022•9 min•Ep. 189
First it was HIV and AIDS, now Monkeypox. And the LGBTQ+ community, and more specifically gay men are being called out as the source of these issues. Really? Are we truly going to do this again? Not if we take the right stands and the right health approaches to addressing these issues. Jill Baker, FNP-C helps gay men find the right focus for their health in a nurturing approach to HIV, AIDS, and Monkeypox by taking a holistic approach for thriving with these diseases. About Jill Jill Baker, FNP-...
Sep 02, 2022•45 min•Ep. 188
Now we're being blamed for Monkeypox, and of course, there's threats that Gay Marriage could be overruled just like Roe vs. Wade. So how do you stay positive, and vigilant as a gay man? Here's some ideas to safe and sane. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health, coming out - all that stuff that we t...
Aug 26, 2022•9 min•Ep. 187
One of the most common things men tell me in our coaching sessions is, "I'm just not happy. I have no purpose. I've lost my passion in my career." I get it, it's tough. So let's change all that or at least start that journey. John Thorpe, real estate broker and expert, found his passion in real estate but took it even deeper to help build LGBTQ roads in the industry. Today he shares how he keeps his passion alive and also how he fully embraces being himself in the workplace. About John John Thor...
Aug 19, 2022•39 min•Ep. 186
It WAS my birthday, and it WAS great. That's why today, I want to share 10 things with you gay-man-to-gay-man, that I feel are some of the greatest lessons I've learned from my 59 years on this planet. They've changed my life, made me a better man, and continue to kick my ass when I need it most. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should -...
Aug 12, 2022•16 min•Ep. 185
Loneliness is an epidemic that is growing by the day. Gay or straight it is causing huge amounts of mental health issues. For gay men, the isolation and lack of connection often compounds our isolation. You just want to cry, "Hear Me!" That's exactly what Adam Lippin, founder of HearMe.App has created. A way for anyone, anywhere to connect to someone who is trained just to listen to you. A way to connect. A way to be heard and seen. Today we explore his company, his reasons for bringing this app...
Aug 05, 2022•39 min•Ep. 184
One of the things many gay men struggle with the most is finding their passion and purpose. Landing in that career that truly lights them up. But what if it was as easy as getting clear, taking the first step, being unafraid of change, and then taking the leap? It can be that simple, even though it won't be easy. Scott Gatz, founder of Q.Digital, the media company behind GayCities, Queerty and LGBTQ Nation, takes us on his journey of navigating his career, fatherhood, and the never ending pursui...
Jul 29, 2022•48 min•Ep. 183
Whether it's showing up on a gay vacation, hitting the bars on the weekend, or walking into work, it can be petrifying to show up in your world as a gay man. So how do you not let being petrified hold you back from living your best gay life? Take a listen and find the three step process I use to full be myself in the world. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren'...
Jul 22, 2022•12 min•Ep. 182
I'm going to be an actor. No wait, I'm going to be a Broadway star. Nope, I'm going to be a financial planner. Ay yes, I'm going to run a talent agency and be a coach. Sounds like this guy doesn't know what he's doing...but he does. Michael Novin has leaned into his life fully, brining each experience to life and building upon by constantly saying, "If you can, you must!" Today we explore the can and must of navigating the ever changing landscapes of shifting careers and being a gay man over 40!...
Jul 15, 2022•48 min•Ep. 181
Ever feel challenged to live an inspired queer life? Feeling aimless and not sure what is next? Fellow Queer coach Darren Stehle challenges us to take a deeper step into self-mastery, ideation, and the journey of inspired action to live our most powerful lives as gay men over 40. You'll learn useful techniques for bringing your ideal life to life. About Darren Darren Stehle is a thinker, writer, host of the Think Queerly Podcast, and a Neuro-Coach. He helps queer solo creatives and leaders go fr...
Jul 08, 2022•44 min•Ep. 180
As men we want to take care of our bodies...we really do...even when we don't do it. But oh my goodness me, if our man junk - PENIS - stops working the world has come to an end. Yet, we don't take our sexual health as seriously as all the rest of our health...BUT WE SHOULD. Helping us dive into a candid conversation about sex, penis health, our libidos, and growing into our sexual health at all stages of life is Brian "Uncle B" Ayers - a men's sexual performance coach to get us back to be an ama...
Jul 01, 2022•51 min•Ep. 179
Aging and losing our parents is inevitable. Losing ourselves and having no life doesn't have to be inevitable. As much as you love your parents, don't forget that you are part of the equation and you need to take care of you and have your life so that you can take care of them. Let's explore the right balance of making room for you and for them as we all age, after 40. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom ...
Jun 24, 2022•11 min•Ep. 178
