Are you constantly made to look like the “uncooperative” parent while your ex plays the perfect one on paper? You’re not alone. In this video, we dive deep into what it’s like to co-parent with a toxic or narcissistic ex who manipulates perception, weaponizes cooperation, and uses your kids to provoke emotional reactions.🎯 What You’ll Learn: • The harsh reality of trying to co-parent with a toxic ex • What “hybrid no contact” really means and how to apply it • How parallel parenting helps prote...
Jun 20, 2025•21 min•Ep. 221
If you’re co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic or BPD traits and you’re in a 50/50 custody situation, this podcast is for you. A listener asked: “My son is 3.5 years old—do I say anything about his mom, or just keep her out of my house entirely?” In this podcast, I dive into: How to talk to a young child about a toxic parent (without causing damage) The mistakes I made early in my divorce—and what I’d do differently When to speak, what not to say, and how to create emotional safety Gro...
Jun 02, 2025•31 min•Ep. 218
After years of surviving family court, toxic co-parenting, and the emotional warfare of dealing with a narcissistic ex, the day finally comes—your child turns 18. The court orders stop. The forced contact ends. You’re finally free. But what happens next? In this video, I reflect on my own journey and what it feels like to finally cross the finish line. I talk about: The countdown to 18 and how fast it really goes What it really means when court oversight ends How to emotionally process your new ...
May 25, 2025•19 min•Ep. 217
In this impromptu test livestream, I dust off the setup, tackle some technical hiccups, and get back into the groove of live streaming! Together, we revisit the heart of this channel: creating a safe space for honest conversations about recovery, relationships, and overcoming narcissistic abuse. I field live calls, including one powerful story of perseverance and healing through a challenging family dynamic. If you’re struggling with toxic relationships, recovering from a divorce, or navigating ...
Jan 26, 2025•1 hr 31 min•Ep. 216
In this podcast, I tackle a powerful viewer question: “Do you know of anyone who, after divorcing a narcissistic spouse, went on to remarry, build a new family, and live a healthy life?” This is such an important topic, and the short answer is: YES, it’s possible—but it takes work. I’ll share key insights into what’s required to break the cycle of toxic relationships, including: ✔️ Doing the inner work to heal and grow. ✔️ Setting and maintaining firm boundaries. ✔️ Learning to trust your gut an...
Jan 13, 2025•20 min•Ep. 216
Listener asks the question of do I take her to arbitration again on minor stuff or just save my money? Show Notes Duane discusses a question a listener asks about when to go to court and when to fight the battle? He covers the topics of what do you really hope to accomplish? Will this action “move the needle”. You have to take a hard look at the reality of the situation and what is the perception of other people involved. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Particip...
Jul 23, 2024•35 min•Season 1Ep. 214
Father’s always seem to be rejected by children, we discuss the reasons and how to cope. Show Notes A common problem people experience in high conflict narcissistic divorces and custody is being rejected by your children. This is a very painful thing to experience and it is very hurtful when you feel your own children “rejecting” you. In this episode Duane discusses the reason this occurs and ways to help you cope with the frustration and disappointment when your children are used as weapons. Su...
May 16, 2024•25 min•Ep. 214
Slower learner | Take your life back after narcissistic abuse Show Notes DSD discusses the reality of it taking time to learn how futile it can be struggling to make a different in your life with a narcissistic ex. Duane shares how he continues to see people struggling with this concept. You get stuck in the mode EXPECTING justice and accountability. He shares how he hates to see people only learn this lesson after losing in court and then questioning why they even fought for it. Ultimately you ...
Mar 14, 2024•1 hr 45 min•Ep. 212
Taking care of yourself | hobbies are important! Show Notes In this episode Duane talks about the importance of having a hobby or something that you enjoy doing. He also talks about the struggles when you are down, depressed, and beaten with ways to push yourself to break yourself out of that downward spiral. He then fields questions from others on silver bullets, narcissists seeking control, being forced to spend time with the ex, and finally an update on his current medical situation. Support ...
Feb 14, 2024•1 hr 36 min•Ep. 211
Dealing with the pain is the only way to get through this Show Notes In this episode DSD starts with a clip from Brad Pitt talking about his experience of running from the pain and ultimately how he worked through it to take his like back! Duane has a discussion with the audience about their experiences and ways to approach things Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE We...
Feb 10, 2024•1 hr 32 min•Ep. 210
A deep dive discussion on the struggles of letting go with an update and review of the redacted Order Sustaining Demurrer on my civil case. Show Notes In this episode DSD talks about the struggles and importances of learning to “let go”. We discuss how difficult it is to actually do, being forced to learn the “lesson”, recognizing when you’re being pulled back in, and notice when you are stuck in the rumination cycle. Duane then shares how things really start to change ONCE you accept the situat...
Feb 07, 2024•2 hr 3 min•Ep. 209
A discussion on how difficult it is to let of the past Show Notes The Healing Path: Navigate the path to healing with practical tips and strategies. Discover effective coping mechanisms and self-care practices to nurture your mental and emotional well-being. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD ...
Jan 28, 2024•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 208
Alex on the news again & dealing with the stress of family court Show Notes Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 🔗Links Mentioned During Show DSD Discord DSD Channel Memberships Show Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more a...
Jan 09, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 207
Anxiety is a slow killer in narcissistic abuse Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about the effectives of the constant anxiety and stress these situation put you under. He covers different techniques he has used to help him and other in dealing with this reality. Later in the podcast he takes a caller working through severe parental alienation and we discuss techniques on dealing with his minor and adult children. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in...
Jan 08, 2024•58 min•Ep. 206
Showing up is more important than you realize! Show Notes Although these situations are very complicated, stressful, and more frustrating then they really should be it is important to show up and be there for your children. In this podcast we discuss some examples of this with callers sharing their stories. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free diali...
Jan 05, 2024•58 min•Ep. 205
Handling when older kids are alienated Show Notes In this podcast DSD continues yesterday’s topic discussing the ways to deal with older children who are in the throws of parental alienation. He also takes the same caller to deep dive in his situation and talk through scenarios and ways to help his children Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free diali...
Jan 04, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 204
Don’t fall for the narc daughter-in-law’s trap! Show Notes Don’t fall for the narc daughter-in-law’s trap! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 🔗Links Mentioned During Show DSD Discord DSD Channel Memberships Show Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Download...
Jan 03, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 203
Can you “disarm” a narcissist? Show Notes In this podcast DSD tackles the question of HOW to disarm a narcissist or if it is even possible. He covers the blame shifting, understanding their “motivation”, no engaging and other techniques to minimize the effect of narcissistic attacks! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a ...
Jan 02, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 202
Starting 2024 strong when dealing with Narcissists! Show Notes Duane starts the new year with a BANG covering topics on perspective, getting them out of your mind, removing chaos in your life, using exercise to minimize stress, focusing on where you want to go and building your support network! We Also have a few callers talking about their experiences and perspectives! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live...
Jan 01, 2024•2 hr•Ep. 201
Dodging the narc rocks & taking your life back! Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about how toxic narcissist person will continue to find ways to throw “rocks” at you and drag you back into the drama. It is important to recognize what is going on and to find ways to minimize the damage. Ultimately the best course of action is taking your life back and protecting yourself from their drama and chaos! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! ...
Dec 30, 2023•2 hr 4 min•Ep. 200
Having an Un-Narc Christmas! Show Notes Hang out for a DSD Christmas livestream - take your life back and make the most of this difficult situation! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 🔗Links Mentioned During Show DSD Discord DSD Channel Memberships Show Sponsor This ...
Dec 25, 2023•2 hr•Ep. 199
Don’t play the narc “what if” game Show Notes In this show DSD covers a question/comment a listener had about ruminating about the past and asking “what if” thinking they could have done something “different” to have a better outcome or to not having this nightmare experience Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemai...
Dec 22, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 198
When do you fight unilateral narc medical decisions? Show Notes When do you fight unilateral narc medical decisions? Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 🔗Links Mentioned During Show DSD Discord DSD Channel Memberships Show Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Hypnosi...
Dec 21, 2023•58 min•Ep. 197
Picking your battles with a narcissist Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 🔗Links Mentioned During Show DSD Discord DSD Channel Memberships Show Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http:/...
Dec 20, 2023•59 min•Ep. 196
Do we attracted narcissist? Show Notes Duane discusses the reasons why we seem to have so many toxic people in our lives. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 🔗Links Mentioned During Show DSD Discord DSD Channel Memberships Show Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Hy...
Dec 19, 2023•55 min•Ep. 176
Supervised visitation and playing “the game” Show Notes The main topic of the show is dealing with supervised visitation and playing the game with the “professionals” to start to eek back time and success. This is a very trying time and emotionally draining but it is important that you jump through the flaming hoops and demonstrate that you are NOT the person your ex is claiming you are. We have a caller who talks about their struggles even after winning full custody of the children and how the ...
Dec 18, 2023•53 min•Ep. 194
Winning feels like losing with a narcissist Show Notes When you're dealing with a toxic, drama-filled person, it can feel like even when you win, you lose. It's important to realize that going through this mess puts a ton of stress on you. Sometimes, we want a big, impressive victory to feel like things are finally turning around, but the emotional and mental toll makes it hard to see the progress. These experiences mess with your head, making you compare your past to what you hope for in the fu...
Dec 17, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 193
Dealing with the impossible dealing with a narcissist Show Notes In this podcast Duane discusses the reality of dealing with the impossible scenario when dealing with a high conflict narcissistic ex. DSD talks about how they push you to your breaking point, holding on to what you think should happen, trying to force the “system” to work the way you think it should, accepting the reality of your situation, and choosing to “respond” differently to these situations. Ultimately helping you to make t...
Dec 12, 2023•59 min•Ep. 192
The stressors of dealing with toxic and narcissistic people Show Notes In this podcast we discuss the unique stressors of dealing with toxic people and the catastrophic thinking we can find ourselves in. We can also find ourselves getting advice on “letting things go” which is just almost impossible in our situations. Duane talks about techniques he has used to deal with his own personal struggles and way you can leverage that experience in your personal situation. Support the Channel Donate thr...
Dec 02, 2023•1 hr 43 min•Ep. 191
You have to set boundaries! Show Notes In this podcast Duane talks about the importance of having and setting healthy boundaries for yourself with toxic people AND your own children. He discusses the issues on how toxic people, including your children, will push and poke at you to “test” your boundaries or to even see if you have any at all. He also talks bout where to draw the line when setting boundaries and the how critical it is that you are prepared to follow through with the “consequences”...
Nov 19, 2023•1 hr 26 min•Ep. 190
