A narcissist is always “performing” Show Notes In this show Duane discusses the realities of performances and how they can quickly adapt to changing responses to continue their narrative and illusion. We discuss the underestimated ability to “fake it”, how when corned in a lie they are able to “get out of it”, their abilities to manipulator and control narratives and how important it is to NOT REACT to their drama and not feed into their continued delusions Support the Channel Donate through Pay...
Nov 18, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 184
Trust your gut when you feel things just aren’t right! Show Notes Oftentimes we ignore the signs and red flags of toxic situations and relationships. When we “look back” you can start to see those signs and “remember” when your gut was telling you something was wrong. In this podcast we discuss the signs and ways to approach “listening to your gut” and your body! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (...
Oct 26, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 188
Reaching the point where you have no more F’s and energy to give! Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about reaching that point when you change your perspective and shift your energy and focus toward yourself AND making your life better. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Con...
Oct 24, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 187
Toxic narcissistic people thrive off of generating pain, misery, and controlling their target. Show Notes In this podcast we discuss how a toxic narcissistic relationship will push you to your breaking point. Even before the relationship ends the stress and torment can be too much to endure. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also ...
Oct 11, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 186
A high conflict narcissistic divorce can make you start to question your sanity and in this show we discuss the realities of this and ways around it. Show Notes Duane discusses the hardships of going through a high conflict narcissistic divorce and ways to deal with it while focusing on maintaining your sanity. He then takes viewer questions about the topic with advice on how to deal with it. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the sh...
Sep 25, 2023•1 hr 27 min•Ep. 185
A narcissist will always be looking for wedge issues to exploit. Parental alienation is always a concern Show Notes In this show Duane talks about the reality of how high conflict narcissistic ex’s will always be looking for wedge issues to exploit and use for parental alienation. Even when you feel like your relationship is strong with your children you must keep your guard up. Kids, even older ones, are susceptible to narcissistic manipulation and parental alienation. You also need to understa...
Sep 14, 2023•57 min•Ep. 184
A discussion about the voluntary manslaughter conviction of James Brashear in the killing of John Mast. Show Notes In this discussion Duane discusses the jury verdict for Jame Brashear in the killing of John Mast during a scheduled custody exchange in February 6th 2021 in Lewiston Idaho. The discussion covers the charge for murder 1, murder 2, and voluntary manslaughter. The trial started on Tuesday, August 22nd 20223 and completed on Friday, August 25th 2023. There were what appeared to be “mis...
Aug 28, 2023•1 hr 35 min
We discuss the live changing experience validation provides when we learn about the reality of personality disorders and their patterns of behaviors. Show Notes Validation is a very important part of the healing process after a high conflict narcissistic divorce with a person who shows all the patterns of behavior of a personality disorder. You go from feeling like you are living a one man nightmare or in a never ending twilight zone episode. Although validation is important you have to be caref...
Aug 02, 2023•48 min•Ep. 182
Discussion of the importance in watching for narcissistic traps in their search for narcissistic supply and control! Show Notes High conflict narcissistic people unfortunately. This is recurring issue that you will probably experience from personal relationships, ex spouses, family members, children, and work situations. In this video we talk about the importance of being vigilant in watching for traps. How you have to be extremely careful with how you react to their provocation and traps. The i...
Jul 28, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 181
A discussion on defining “victory” while going through a toxic narcissistic divorce. Show Notes This discussion starts with a look at perspective and how we look at things when we are going through a toxic narcissistic divorce. It really is a means of “how you look at it” and how you compare your current situation with your previous expectations. This covers the key points of perspective, how the kids are with you, what happens if/when they do not chose “you”, do the kids engage and love you, an...
Jul 10, 2023•26 min•Ep. 180
Can everything actually work out? ❋ Support the Channel Donate through PayPal (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=4XTY6LZGAFHUA) DSD Channel Memberships (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join) ☎ 1-424-373-5483 or 1-424-DSD-LIVE International Calling use this for free calling ❋ https://www.callinstudio.com/show/dsdlive Sign up for text notifications ☎ Text "DSDLIVE" to (844) 598-0012 Take a break from this - go camping! 🏕https://www.y...
May 27, 2023•1 hr 37 min•Ep. 179
Stop second guessing why you fought for your kids ☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/ ❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join 📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications 🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A ⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channel. Use of these links do...
May 25, 2023•25 min•Ep. 178
Coping with narcissistic in-laws and their influence on our ex and lives! ☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/ ❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join 📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications 🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A ⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channe...
May 20, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 177
Getting close to summer vacation and graduations ☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/ ❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join 📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications 🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A ⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channel. Use of these links do ...
May 14, 2023•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 176
Catastrophic emotions can send you on a dark path! Show Notes Oftentimes when going through a narcissistic divorce you can fall into the trap of thinking and feeling everything is catastrophic. This is a dangerous place to be in and oftentimes things are not as bad as we see them. This discussion cover the importance of recognizing the “positive” information you’re getting and not falling into a defeatist attitude. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in ...
Apr 29, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 175
Duane talks about almost being “done” with family court and how life is going to be afterward. Show Notes In this improtu episode Duane discusses being “almost done” with family court, custody, and child support. The decade long experience is coming to an end in a few months and everything is going to change. All of his kids will be adults living their own lives. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (...
Apr 02, 2023•2 hr 21 min•Ep. 174
Show Summary In this episode Duane discusses the difficulties of seeing a way through a high conflict divorce with a toxic narcissist person. Part of the problem Show Notes A discussion on how to get to the other side of a toxic relationship and finding a path to take your life back! In the early stages of this it can be almost impossible to see a pathway to getting to the other side of this. It often feels like there is no way through and that no one truly understands what you are going through...
Jan 04, 2023•19 min•Ep. 173
A discussion about how being present in the moment can be a catalyst to getting your life back Show Notes In this episode Duane discusses the topic of being present in the moment and how that can be a critical shift your perspective that gets your life back. This came up in a recent coaching session with a client. When you are stuck in the chaos you are not able to “enjoy the moment” or to be present. Although this may sound like a simple concept it can take decades for you to understand and rea...
Dec 25, 2022•20 min•Ep. 172
Toxic narcissistic abusive people will use the children’s medical bills to continue abuse Show Notes Duane receives a question about how I dealt with the continued finical abuse through medical billing. In this podcast Duane talks about the importances of understanding your emotions, what you can do, and how our perspective MUST change over time. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (...
Dec 11, 2022•32 min•Ep. 171
YouTuber and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach Angie Atkinson passed away Sunday, November 27th Show Notes In this show Duane takes a moment to recognize the loss of Angie Atkinson and the impact she has had on the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Duane and Angie have previous guested on each other’s shows. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free...
Dec 05, 2022•27 min•Ep. 170
Show Summary A response to a listener who wants to know the timelines of recovery from toxic narcissistic abuse/divorce Show Notes In this discussion Duane answers a listener question who asks how long the divorce process was, the length of anxiety, how long it took to turn things around with the kids, and the overall timelines before you start to get your life back. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at...
Nov 28, 2022•29 min•Ep. 169
A discussion about the steps Duane when through to go from the anger, bitterness, and despair of a high conflict narcissistic divorce to where he is now. Show Notes The hardest part of recovering from a high conflict narcissistic divorce is finding your way through. We start this process looking for answers and thinking something has to change before anything can get better. At the beginning of this journey we think and believe the change has to be accountability, justice, vindication. As we pro...
Oct 27, 2022•55 min•Ep. 168
A viewer shares their story of breaking “no contact” with their ex and how it stalled their healing! Show Notes A listener shares their story of breaking 3 months of No Contact to meet up with their ex. They thought they had healed and this would be a good idea but it was definitely not. Immediately after the meeting they felt as though they were back at day one. Duane talks about the dangers of breaking no contact and what it means when you have one of these setbacks. Duane then reads another c...
Aug 02, 2022•22 min•Ep. 167
A listener posts a story about how they are fighting through parental alienation in Kazakhstan Show Notes In this episode a listening from Kazakhstan posts their story of parental alienation in Kazakhstan. Duane go through the story and offers thoughts and ideas on how to go forward. The listener is original from Brazil and is also trying to get “approval” to take his daughter to see her grandparents for the first time, but mom is blocking him every step of the way. He is also dealing with the m...
Jul 31, 2022•26 min•Ep. 166
Learning to trust again after a toxic narcissistic divorce where you feel like you were conned and tricked! Show Notes In this episode DSD talks about the struggles of learning to trust yourself again after a high conflict narcissistic relationship. Often times people feel they can no longer trust themselves to see “red flags” with personal, professional, and romantic relationships. Duane deep dives into this issues with reasons why it happened and techniques to help yourself get your life and t...
Jul 24, 2022•1 hr 19 min
Reno Law Review files motion of intent to intervene in the Alex Falconi, Our Nevada Judges, American Civil Liberties Union case for transparency and 1st amendment rights in Family Court Show Notes We update the listeners on the news of Reno Law Review filing a motion to intervene in the ACLU and Our Nevada Judges case against the Nevada Court System. Duane discusses how important it is when we are presenting and telling people about our situations. We then discuss the unfortunate news of Spiritu...
Jul 18, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 164
Toxic narcissistic people have a unique ability to push your buttons and get you emotionally dysregulated. It is incredibly important to recognize when this is happening and take steps to keep yourself calm. Show Notes In this show we discuss how a toxic narcissistic ex is able to target their “button pushes” to trigger raw emotions and emotional dyregulation. Duane discusses the importance of recognizing this and then taking steps to calm yourself down. We then address a concern, example, where...
Jul 16, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 163
In this show we discuss how a toxic narcissistic ex will use the information they know about you to push your buttons Show Notes Duane discusses how a toxic narcissistic ex will use they information they’ve learned about you to target how to push your buttons and get a reaction from you. It is important to understand what they are doing, why they are doing it, and how to effectively respond and react to it. We then take a caller who is struggling with the fact the ex has married his ex-best-frie...
Jul 14, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 162
Show Summary The American Civil Liberties Union of Nevada has join the case with Alex Falconi from Our Nevada Judges to fight a new rule allowing unprecedented control of family court proceedings Show Notes Our friend from Our Nevada Judges, Alex Falconi, has been arguing with the Nevada Court System on their efforts to prevent his organization from covering court proceedings. The new rule they implemented would allow the court to deny access to ALL court proceedings without cause. The American ...
Jul 13, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 161
Taking your power back is a difficult process and in this podcast Duane and callers discuss this process
Jul 12, 2022•1 hr
