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A "Stressless”, "Fearless” life -
Eliminating all fear and stress from life ain’t gonna happen, BUT it is definitely possible to reduce the amounts of both...to "stress less", and "fear less". This week, I’m giving you the 5 keys to do just that…
- Purpose
What is your overall mission in life? What is the reason you're driven to get out of bed each day? If you don’t know your purpose, that’s okay. It will evolve and change over time, but defining a reason is important. Pick one. I believe our mission is to become the person God made us to be. Yours may of course be different, but will likely be some version of being the best you can - physically, spiritually, and financially. - Gratitude
Gratitude is a weapon! When you consciously acknowledge the things you’re grateful for, you can overpower stress and fear. Gratitude is an incredibly powerful emotion and it’s important to know the things you’re grateful for so you can wield this weapon at will. - Talk to Yourself More Than You Listen to Yourself
Our thoughts can drift into territory that brings us down and can quickly spiral into catastrophic thinking if left unchecked. Be conscious of the thoughts you think…don’t let them run on autopilot. Become the programmer - Don’t run the program written by others. - Growth and Contribution
In nature, you’re either growing or dying…there’s no middle ground. It is important to continue to grow as a human being and maintain a mindset (like the one described by Carol Dweck in the book, Mindset) that is conducive to that growth. According to Tony Robbins (and now accepted by many trained psychologists as truth), there are 6 basic needs that all humans must fulfil:
- Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
- Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
- Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed
- Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
- Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
- Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
- The Combined Fulfilment of the Need for Connection and Love
Why these two? The needs that Tony laid out are “basic necessities”...one is no more important than the other, BUT I believe focusing on these two as your “go to” needs, will give you the most satisfaction, reward, and positivity.
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Links
- Mindset: by Carol Dweck. An excellent book that I highly recommend (not an affiliate link...just a good book)
- The 6 Human Needs - Read more about them on Tony Robbins' official blog
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