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EPISODE 29 - 4 Tips On Disciplining Your Kids Effectively that Makes Them Better

Grab your coaches whistle!  Hit the field, let's talk about building our team within our home - so that we are all playing together, towards the same goal and serving the team with our efforts - how to discipline without driving your kids away in the process

Every child requires discipline to grow into a responsible adult. However, many parents often find it challenging to foster discipline in their children. Debates rage as to how you should teach your child, but what is clear is that your child should grow up in a way that serves them as adults. Here is why you should be disciplining children. 

(1) To have and understand their boundaries Our home is our team, and in our home we should have "The Home Team Advantage".  Our kids have young and fresh minds, and as a parent, it is our job to help shape and guide how our kids act and react to life. One thing you should do is to teach them to understand the boundaries of the team (your home). Disciplining them when they mess up teaches them to understand their limits and how much they can stretch them.  Sports has rules - it would be chaos without written, defined rules that shape game play - we aren't making things up as we go - break a rule in sport and there is a penalty - same for our home!

(2) To foster independence - Disciplining children helps them to master the art of being independent. When they learn that unpalatable consequences await them if they stray, they grow to get to think and make decisions independently. It is important because you don't expect your kids to remain kids forever but to mature as the years pass. As they grow, they will find it easy to be on their own and only nominally require your help. As their coach, give them the tools they need to think for themselves, to try, to fail and to learn - the independence to become a better team player!

(3) To teach responsibility - Many parenting tips mention teaching responsibility as a key pillar to discipline. Our actions and reactions define us!  Help your kids see the correlation between their decisions and the outcome of their choices.  Like a coach, let them develop their responsibility muscles by doing things for the team and around the house that helps them demonstrate their own responsibility.  They need to see how a good home team is run, and where they fit into the mix!  As a coach, help them to envision how their commitment to the team is demonstrated in their responsibility to each other.

(4) To establish self-discipline - One reason for disciplining children is to foster self-discipline. There is only so much you can do, and remember, you can't be with your children all the time. They’ve got to go to school, and you have your duties to perform. The greatest gift you can give your kids is the ability to understand the rules, anticipate game play, adjust to changes in life and think for themselves.  Remember, coaches - coach.  They don't play the game.

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