Episode description
Rebuilding the self before we venture into any new relationship
Loss of the familiar
Loss of the comfortable
Getting in touch with the self
Slowing down
Sitting in silence
Step ONE- accepting the grief as being an essential part of the process
allowing ourselves to "feel" the feelings of grief in order to assimilate and process them
Consider a few simple tasks at hand
AND recall
It doesn’t happen overnight
One drawer at a time
One shelf at a time
One minute at a time
Reclaiming who we are
Building relationships with people who lift us up
AND
Love us unconditionally
Find the beauty in life
Compliment others
Read… self-help books/“shelf help” books
Journal
Connecting to God or Universal Power
Join a support group
Find other women going through a similar transition
Practice Extreme Self Care
Important here to remind ourselves and everyone that LIFE change in all areas is difficult
When we are faced with a change of any kind is a loss
Illness
Job loss
Death
Move
Pregnancy loss
Divorce
All require a shift in thinking and action.
After we get done with the finger-pointing and blame…
Its all their fault…it’s all my fault
Mercury is retrograde
Making excuses
If I only took better care of myself
I should have known better
What the hell was I thinking
Go through an array of emotions
Need to create a self-care plan
Have to do the work
Transformation and change is only possible if you can let go…do the work…heal, rebirth and rebuild.
The only way to get through the pain is to feel it first.
One has to embrace it and walk through the fire
Examine what, if anything is currently working and serving us
And not until that time and healing has occurred
When to consider making changes
When you are safe
When you are strong
When you are healing
When you are free to do so
When the "old you" is ready for a "new you"
When you can handle the game and possible rejection
When you are ready to play again
What needs to change?
First, ask yourself and write down your answers
- Can I move on?
- Do I want to move on?
- How can I move on?
If the hint of an answer is YES…
Next, ask yourself 3 questions and write down your answers
- What’s one thing you’re doing right now not because it’s true for you, but because you feel it’s expected of you.
- What’s one courageous change you’d like to make to be more true to yourself.
- What’s the first action step you can take now?
Finding ourself and healing after the loss of any kind is not a quick fix but a beautiful journey into a new unimaginable life
It’s a long careful detailed approach to deciding our next best step…
My journey into healing started by cleaning up my diet…
Paulette jokes that she lived on Snickers bars and Diet Coke…but It’s true..
Her idea of a healthy meal was a greek salad from a pizza joint
I had to clean up my diet
I had to clean up my buying habits
I had to clean up my relationships
I had to clean up my wor