Episode description
Are you struggling with your finances?
Do you feel like money is a Mafia Lord or a Comforting Advisor?
Join Paulette and Adina Laver as they discuss money, curiosity and authenticity.
Adina Laver is a brilliant educator and coach. With her MBA, Master’s in Education, former Principal, a Certified Professional Coach and Neuroscience Junkie she has the skills and insight to get you unstuck. Paulette and Adina chat about the current flawed divorce landscape and how they both are determined to help others get through the process with was little damage as possible, emotionally, mentally, physically and yes…financially.
Even though Adina was an experienced educator who taught internationally, a non-profit leader, a change manager and a leader to navigate change she was always contenting to grow and increase her skills and education. Her life all changed when she enrolled in a course in coaching and the instructor asked the question….List 3 things that make you HAPPY??
Well, this question sent her into a sweat!! Sad to say she confesses she had no idea that made me happy! I did hard work, obligation and commitment I didn’t do happy. She was terrified and couldn’t answer the question. Adina began to ask more thought provoking questions. How am I going to figure that out? If my life has not been centered around being happy what was it entered around? What has been the common theme surrounding all her decisions.
What do I need to do to seek approval? What do I need to do to win approval? How do I gain the most approval? I can relate MAN OH MAN!! Courage to be Curious was born. Money Mindset was created. Free women from old stories with learning to ask bold questions. If I can’t work through my stuff how can I help others? Adina and Paulette both share how Divorce shouldn’t just be a legal matter. Give then them the tools to become more authentic in and with themselves.
We start to ask our selves… Whats wrong with me? OR Blame the other person. Rejection is a real fear we all face. Judgement is real fear we all face. Question: What is the worst case scenario? Could you handle it and what would you do? Our subconscious can’t handle it so we avoid it. We learn to know what is a priority in living authentically. Dealing with old world ideologies and paradigms. Are you willing to accept the outcome? How do you cultivate the courage to ask those questions? We all have an Innate curiosity when we are younger and the diminishes as we age because we seek security and comfort.
Habituation causes it to be harder to create change as we get older. Curiosity as a skill but it is teachable. Like going to the gym. Courage and curiosity More you do it the easier it gets and the more success you have. And we all have curiosity with money too. It gives us a certain kind of freedom and yet it is one of those things we struggle with the most due to our relationship with money. How do we treat money?
We … Disrespect, Disengage, Surrender our power, Abuse, Hoard, Control, Fear, Paralysis...with money.
How do you suggest people start getting curious about their money mindset?
Adina gives us a few techniques and exercises. If money were a person what would they be? A loving advisor confidant father Mafia lord What’s your person? You can’t change it if you don’t own it.
Write down the last 5 interactions you had with money. Note emotions and thoughts in each of these. Shifts we need to make are subconscious!
You will find Adina Laver on her Facebook and Instagram page Courage to be Curious, and on Linkedin Adina Laver. For her free PDF downloads and webinars you will find her on: www.couragetobecurious.com Or you can email her directly at: Adina@couragetobecurious.com