Episode description
In another "off the mic" episode, your hosts Adeel and Ant dive into the philosophy of Alfred Adler and discuss whether people prefer to be liked or simply not disliked. Adeel shares his personal experience of caring about what other people think of him as a child growing up in Pakistan but now following his own path in life, while Ant admits that he is okay with the fact that not everyone will like him.
The hosts argue that people who try to please everyone and be liked by all are not standing for anything as individuals, and they discuss how being authentic and being oneself can lead to popularity and success. They also talk about how being divisive can sometimes lead to popularity, citing examples like Donald Trump and Kanye West.
Adeel mentions the book "The Courage to be Disliked", which requires accepting that other people's opinions do not necessarily get one closer to their goals. They explore how Adler believed that people are in control of who they are and that the past does not matter; what matters is what a person wants their future to be. Adler also believed that all problems in the world are interpersonal problems and that everyone is focused on not being disliked.
Overall, this episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own values and how they can stay true to themselves while pursuing their goals. It also challenges the idea that being universally liked is the ultimate goal, and suggests that being disliked can sometimes be a sign that one is standing up for something they believe in.
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