Jared and Jordana are putting themselves in the shoes of listeners who are facing tough situations today. But before diving right in, they caught up with their producer Belle about her bachelorette party and wedding prep. Then, the first email is about the pros and cons of auditioning for a dating show. Next up, an Awkward Encounter from a listener who searched through her dates wallet and found a lot more than she bargained for. Then, we hear from a listener who needs help deciding if they shou...
Aug 14, 2024•1 hr 16 min•Ep 579•Transcript available on Metacast This Sunday Special is full of disconnects today, but before diving in, J&J take us to Plug City to talk you through where they were right before the recording. They spent the first part of their day at Albert’s Bar after the owner (a subscriber!) reached out claiming his spot was great for a first date. They took in the ambiance during a special project for the pod and ended with lunch to get the full experience so they could assess for themselves. Afterward, they read an “Icky or Picky?” about...
Aug 11, 2024•40 min•Ep 578•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are diving right in because Dr. Naomi Bernstein, Jordana’s sister and co-host of Oversharing, is in the studio to ease us into this episode. Plus, her husband Jeff tagged along, so we got both sides of their story as they take us back to dating in 2006. Afterwards, Jared sneaks in a mini session about his “hoodfishing” issue on the apps. The first email is from a listener struggling with talking to her boyfriend about grief. She recently lost her dad, but her boyfriend’s obvious discomfort h...
Aug 07, 2024•1 hr 17 min•Ep 577•Transcript available on Metacast We’re kicking off the first Sunday Special of August with not-so-unique dating experiences. J&J play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a seemingly flirty line that rubbed one listener the wrong way. Then, an email comes from a listener who keeps getting what he calls the “hero treatment breakup,” a breakup involving loads of compliments leaving you alone and confused. Jared and Jordana have played both sides of this breakup style and lend perspective over what they think is happening. Learn more...
Aug 04, 2024•38 min•Ep 576•Transcript available on Metacast This episode is full of red flags and awkward moments, starting with a guy in his late 20s unsure of how to give green flag energy. Before diving in, Jordana is celebrating her husband’s birthday soon so they discuss thoughtful gifts and Jared plans a date for them. Then, a listener asks how to show girls he’s interested without being overwhelming or pushy. The Awkward Encounter is a truly wild escape from “the Bear.” Next, a listener is struggling with her partner wanting to abstain after they ...
Jul 31, 2024•1 hr 16 min•Ep 575•Transcript available on Metacast Jared and Jordana are unraveling relationship problems, from an impending fight to a friend wondering whether she should voice how she really feels about her bestie’s latest relationship. Before diving into emails, J&J caught up about Jordana’s double date and Jared’s time spent with older singles in Boca over the last weekend. Next, they weigh in on a “Couple’s Court” about whether it was weird that our listener’s boyfriend revealed he still had access to his Bumble months after they’d been exc...
Jul 28, 2024•34 min•Ep 574•Transcript available on Metacast Before diving into emails, J&J get caught up in the sitcoms of the 90s. Plus, they follow up on a recent "Petty or Prudent?" after a YouTube comment schools them on the difference between kinks and fetishes. Then, the first email comes from a listener concerned her guy friend’s intentions may be more flirty than friendly. The Awkward Encounter will make you think twice about where you hide your sex toys. Next, a listener is her boyfriend’s first girlfriend and that’s been noticeable as their rel...
Jul 24, 2024•1 hr 16 min•Ep 573•Transcript available on Metacast This Sunday Special is a dream brunch group as J&J are joined by Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin and Jac Vanek of The LadyGang podcast. They start with learning the famous toxic ex origin story behind The LadyGang’s formation before J&J get into relationship icebreakers and questions that will tell you exactly how everyone’s relationship style differs. Then, they play a round of Firsts and Worsts, for a lightning round catchup on The LadyGang’s past and present relationships. Plus, Jared is outnumber...
Jul 21, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep 572•Transcript available on Metacast Long intro lovers, today is your day! J&J have a lot to unload this week, from the one quality Jordana’s husband isn’t in love with to Jared’s weekend in the Hamptons with Hannah Berner, and a one-and-done take on this season of Love Island USA and that Casa Amor shakeup. Next, J&J get an email from a listener four years into her relationship and itching to know whether I do’s will ever be in their future. The Awkward Encounter is a trip down memory lane. Then, a male listener writes in wonderin...
Jul 17, 2024•1 hr 28 min•Ep 571•Transcript available on Metacast We’re deep into summer and Jared’s in a bit of a rut. He talks Jordana through where his mind’s been while he’s been on the road. Then, they kick off the Sunday Special with a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a secret kink. Our listener stumbled upon her date’s Reddit and saw his activity in fetish communities online and, after witnessing what he was into, she felt turned off. Next, J&J answer an email seeking redemption for revenge. Our listener is happily married, but still pining over the perf...
Jul 14, 2024•49 min•Ep 570•Transcript available on Metacast Double-standard debates in the dating world are weighing on us today, specifically those that are more of an issue for women than men. Before diving into emails, Jared and Jordana discuss the backlash to a Forbes article, “Are We Still Not Ready For A Mixed-Weight Romance On Screen?”, and the topic of mixed-weight relationships in general. Next, the first emailer wants to know how to let a guy know that you aren’t interested in hanging out when you still have to work – or be stuck in some capaci...
Jul 10, 2024•1 hr 25 min•Ep 569•Transcript available on Metacast After Jordana dished on some UK setbacks, it’s Jared’s turn to share what happened after he left Cannes including a scary solo travel experience en route to Ibiza. Plus, Taylor Warning: Swifties may not like what Jared has to say about Travis Kelce's Eras Tour cameo, but if you take Taylor out of it, he’s got a point about the dire state of today’s dating world. Next, J&J receive a Couple’s Court asking them to decide if it’s fair for a listener’s fiancé to hire a stripper for his bachelor party...
Jul 07, 2024•41 min•Ep 568•Transcript available on Metacast Listeners are in for a double rant to kick off this week, but if you thought it’d be from Jared, guess again. After Jordana gains a new commercial enemy, Jared makes a request to single listeners for this 4th of July: take advantage of the fun holidays. The first email comes from a confused listener after a man drove 3 hours to surprise her and quickly lost interest after. The Awkward Encounter comes from a single mom who met a man in France, but had to work through logistics for a hookup while ...
Jul 03, 2024•2 hr 32 min•Ep 567•Transcript available on Metacast We’re balancing out the seriousness with a lot of laughter as comedian Rachel Feinstein (@rachelfeinstein_) joins J&J on the pod for this Sunday Special. She’s married to a firefighter, but didn’t mean to be, so she recounts bad dates, awkward dumpings, and the lessons learned from dating through her 30s that got her to find the right guy. Then, J&J read a “Petty or Prudent?” about wanting custody of a neighborhood after a breakup. The trio discuss post-breakup boundaries, both physical and emot...
Jun 30, 2024•47 min•Ep 566•Transcript available on Metacast Let’s get vulnerable! This week’s episode is full of listeners reaching out regarding intimacy, awkward conversations, and heavier topics. Before they get into it, J&J delve into differing life stages after Jared hears from a friend in full dad mode. Then, the first email comes from a male listener whose relationship seems to be teetering into the friend zone after 2 years with his girlfriend. The Awkward Encounter includes a throwback to a memorable Awkward Sex Encounter from July 2019. If you ...
Jun 26, 2024•1 hr 13 min•Ep 565•Transcript available on Metacast It’s an extra special Sunday because we’re letting you in on some office goss. Divya, a Betches staff member, joins J&J for a debrief about her neighbor. She met a cute guy in her building during cuffing season and, at the time, Jordana warned her that dating a neighbor is a risky move, but also gave some helpful advice on how to proceed. Now that summer is in full swing, J&J are dying to know if the risk was worth the reward. She retells how the situation came to be, the dates they shared along...
Jun 23, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep 564•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are questioning narratives today, starting with what happened to romcoms. After seeing Jared’s criticism of “Anyone But You,” Jordana wants to discuss thoughts on Sydney Sweeney, Glen Powell, and the state of romcoms in 2024. Then, we hear from a listener who can’t figure out how to get a guy out of Instagram DMs and into exchanging numbers. Their mutual friends advised her that he’s just “playing it cool,” but it’s starting to feel intentionally avoidant. Next, J&J receive a long email that...
Jun 19, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep 563•Transcript available on Metacast The perfect episode to tune in ahead of a Father’s Day brunch, J&J are back with another bite-size Sunday Special. They start with a “Petty or Prudent?” about sending an obituary after someone ghosts you, but they also saw a red flag before our listener got to the point of being ghosted. The episode ends with an email about another TikTok dating trend. Several fun #DatingTok videos are telling single people to try dating with an expiration date, but our listener didn’t have fun with the concept ...
Jun 16, 2024•24 min•Ep 562•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are tackling nuance in the modern dating world. Before jumping in, Jordana recounts her Sonoma vacation and her driverless ride reminds Jared of dating apps’ impact on society. Plus Jared has feedback for a fan that shot her shot for an upcoming tour date, and his reasons for what was wrong with her approach tie into the first email. A listener has a crush on her fitness instructor, but is there a way to shoot her shot without making it awkward if he wants to pass? In true U Up? fashion, Joh...
Jun 12, 2024•2 hr 32 min•Ep 561•Transcript available on Metacast Jared and Jordana are getting pumped for their trip to Cannes, but they have to get a few things crossed on their list before they go. First up, Jordana needs answers on what the f*ck is up with Jared’s beard? Next, they read a wedding note from a subscriber before delving into a “Petty or Prudent?” about a SIL asking to share a wedding anniversary date. The episode ends with an advice email for a listener’s mom. He’s tried helping her navigate dating after her divorce, but she has excuse after ...
Jun 09, 2024•58 min•Ep 560•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are taking on complicated relationships and realizations in this week’s episode, but first, they catch up on Jordana’s latest trip, get excited for their voyage en France, and Jared vents about the unknown era he’s navigating. The first email comes from a listener looking to collect $1,000 her ex owes her. He’s gone radio silent and it’s been a year, but J&J think she’s making a mistake with her ask. Then, our final “Friends to Lovers” submission takes a turn when a listener found her lover’...
Jun 05, 2024•1 hr 17 min•Ep 559•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are joined by Olivia O’Brien ahead of the release for her upcoming EP, “Love and Limerence,” but before they get started, Jordana and Olivia fill Jared in on what limerence means. Then, Olivia shares the struggles with being vulnerable in her songwriting and dating other public figures, and Jared can relate for why he’s cautious with the real experiences he puts into his work. Plus Olivia shocks J&J with the aftermath of her song with gnash, “i hate u, i love u,” blowing up on the charts in ...
Jun 02, 2024•39 min•Ep 558•Transcript available on Metacast The pod is buzzing this week, and we’re starting with Jordana’s NBA experience seeing the Knicks play (and lose) Game 7 against the Pacers reminding her of a relationship falling apart and Jared’s fired-up morning after a workout. After catching up, they jump into an email from a listener reeling over getting stood up. She had an online relationship with a man in another state for 8 years, but when the stars aligned and she found herself in his area, he blocked her. Is she wrong for wishing he w...
May 29, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep 557•Transcript available on Metacast This week’s Sunday Special delves into boundaries, appropriateness, and perception, but first, J&J are catching up with Emma Willmann (@emmawillmann). The conversation from Emma’s last time on the pod gets a quick update with where it continued with a sex therapist on Emma’s podcast, Ask Men Anything. Then, Jared needs the insight of women he knows for his latest TikTok finds. Next, a male listener thinks his personality is to blame for his lack of dating life. He’s friendly and chatty, but the ...
May 26, 2024•54 min•Ep 556•Transcript available on Metacast This week, J&J are finding the balance in a few debates, from ideal thermostat temps to awkward callouts. The first email asks if there’s a limit to how much an ex is brought up during a date. Jared and Jordana don’t initially agree and weigh both sides of the conversation. Next, in a segment sponsored by Netflix, they get a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission that's out to motivate other listeners to make a move. The second advice email is looking for the line between going for what you want a...
May 22, 2024•1 hr 10 min•Ep 555•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are jumping right into this week’s Sunday Special, kicking off with an “Icky or Picky?” about a delayed Hinge response. Our listener’s match explained that he took so long to get back to her because he only likes to focus on one match at a time, but she can’t decide if it’s unfair of her to be put off or if that was indeed too much too soon. Then, they get an email from a listener struggling to forgive herself for giving her ex a second chance despite problematic circumstances. J&J discuss w...
May 19, 2024•27 min•Ep 554•Transcript available on Metacast We’re talking guilty pleasure shows, that time Jared almost experienced death by pizza bite, and wedding planning ahead of jumping into the episode. Our first email comes from a listener dreading an upcoming wedding knowing they’ll be single, without a plus one, and only know two other guests on an acquaintance level. Then, we receive a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission in a segment sponsored by Netflix, and this one takes a turn. The second advice email comes from a gay listener in his late ...
May 15, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep 553•Transcript available on Metacast This episode is all about communication and honesty, but it’s not addressed in the usual way. First, Jordana fondly remembers her go-to first date question that she’s no longer allowed to ask. It may have ruffled feathers and ruined a friend’s date, but it gave her all she needed to know to engage with someone early on. Then, J&J play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a listener’s reaction to her husband’s ex. Our listener was fine with a filmmaker ex keeping in touch with her husband until h...
May 12, 2024•48 min•Ep 552•Transcript available on Metacast Something’s comiiinnnnggggg – before we dive into the first email, Jared and Jordana have an announcement (spoiler: it has to do with Fra)! Then, the first email comes from a 32-year-old listener in LA with a common issue. She’s going on dates and they’re fine, but she doesn’t really care to push further. Where’s the lapse in connection, and is it safe to assume it must be coming from her end? J&J start at the crux of her dating issues and, like many of us, it has to do with an old situationship...
May 08, 2024•1 hr 8 min•Ep 551•Transcript available on Metacast This Sunday Special, we’re taking notes from a professional! J&J are joined by Matthew Hussey (@thematthewhussey), a life coach and best-selling author with nearly 20 years of work elevating lives and relationships. We start with what Matthew came to terms with in the modern dating climate as his career evolved, then J&J get him to delve into how his own love life developed over time and the long-distance relationship that led him to say "I do" last year. His wife Audrey enters the chat to give ...
May 05, 2024•1 hr 14 min•Ep 550•Transcript available on Metacast 
