On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Santacon in NYC and a follow up from the Awkward Sexual Encounter from our 12/7 episode. The first emailer asks if men are getting cheaper after more of her recent first dates accepted her offer to split it. Are these guys into equality or just not that into her? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sisters with a lot in common. Later, a listener asks J&J’s opinion on a Curb Your Enthusiasm theory about non-single...
Dec 21, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep 407•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with special instructions for shouting them out in public and a story about how Jordana doesn’t “respect sleep.” This week’s email is from a woman asking if her situationship ended because she doesn’t play games in dating. Did time apart over Thanksgiving get in the way or was the breakup text coming either way? Plus, Jared breaks down how men see the “men are like cabs” analogy from Sex and the City. Learn more about your ad ch...
Dec 18, 2022•40 min•Ep 406•Transcript available on Metacast On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a boutique coffee shop cautionary tale. The first emailer asks how to make her new relationship more romantic now that they’ve gone from just friends to dating. Is this the right relationship for her to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very amateur diagnosis. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they find appealing about the “marriage to suburbs pipeline.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nic...
Dec 14, 2022•1 hr 28 min•Ep 405•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another bite-sized Sunday Spesh, and after a brief sidebar about TJ Maxx’s slogan, they’re jumping right into the episode. The emailer writes in about a situation going back 5 years that started with a first date that turned into a platonic relationship until last year when they both expressed romantic feelings. Once she got invested in the idea of them being together, he called it off, blaming the 4 hours distance between them. Is that the real reason he backed off? Plus, they...
Dec 11, 2022•36 min•Ep 404•Transcript available on Metacast On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jared and Jordana start with a Thanksgiving recap and Jordana’s belated anniversary gift to Jared. The first emailer asks why a woman who didn’t want to go on a date with him is now responding to his stories on Instagram. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing tampon. Later, a listener asks if she’s setting her expectations too high when making her list of traits she wants in a partner (inspired by Jordana’s list). How specific do you need to be on...
Dec 07, 2022•2 hr 30 min•Ep 403•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Emily Nagoski, sex researcher, educator, and author of Come As You Are. They start with a discussion about spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and Emily explains why she believes we need to center pleasure in your sex life instead of desire. Then, they answer an email from a listener who says she can’t have an orgasm and feels like she can’t ask for things in the bedroom because she won’t come anyway. Emily breaks down all ...
Dec 04, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep 402•Transcript available on Metacast This week’s episode is coming to you virtually from Jordana’s apartment and Jared’s parent’s pool house. Jared gives a breakdown of his experience being the main character of his family’s Thanksgiving. Then, J&J dive into Bumble’s dating trend report for 2023. They compare Bumble’s statistics to the results from our Instagram polls and talk about why this whole survey feels a little bit like propaganda to keep people on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a marina makeout gone wrong. Later...
Nov 30, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Ep 401•Transcript available on Metacast Thanksgiving is over, and the Board Lord and the Tree Betch are back. This week they’re helping a listener interpret some strange messages from her ex talking about “their song” and then his engagement photos with his new fiancé. J&J break down why he might be sending her these things and tell her what she should say to cut off this weird behavior. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 27, 2022•29 min•Ep 400•Transcript available on Metacast On this week’s episode, J&J start with a coaching session for Jordana’s gift-receiving reactions and a pep talk for listeners going out on Thanksgiving Eve. The first emailer asks how important a sense of humor is to a relationship. The guy she’s seeing checks a lot of boxes, but is it doomed if she cringes at his jokes? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another almost fairytale in the streets of Rome. Later, a listener asks if you have to live together before getting married. J&J finish the episo...
Nov 23, 2022•1 hr 24 min•Ep 399•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start about how Jared is feeling about dating now that cuffing season is fully underway. This week’s emailer asks how to move forward after one of her boyfriend’s friends called her a 3/10. Should her boyfriend “dump” him as a friend? Do guys even have friend breakups? Jared and Jordana unpack why he would say that and how to handle him going forward. Plus, Jared shares a story where he offended a friend with a joke about sixes. Check ...
Nov 20, 2022•54 min•Ep 398•Transcript available on Metacast It’s U Up?’s fifth anniversary, and J&J are celebrating with a special episode reflecting on 5 years of the podcast and sharing U Up-Dates from previous emailers. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise quick change. Later, an emailer asks J&J when a couple should celebrate their anniversary. Is it the first date or when you DTR? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about names, DM slides, and nerdy decor. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betche...
Nov 16, 2022•2 hr 46 min•Ep 397•Transcript available on Metacast We love a Sunday Special, and this week J&J are answering an email from a listener who’s struggling to bond and set boundaries with her boyfriend’s family. After an awkward dinner with his family where they left her with more than half of the bill, she’s wondering when she can have a conversation with her boyfriend about her inability to relate to them. How much can she expect her boyfriend to defend her? Plus, Jared talks about how he handled similar issues in his own relationships. Check out o...
Nov 13, 2022•37 min•Ep 396•Transcript available on Metacast On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start with a recap of their Halloween weekends and a warning to single people with the new iPhone. The first emailer asks how to handle a breakup with her boyfriend of 5 years when neither of them can afford to move out. J&J dish out the hard truths of the situation and her responsibilities as the dumper. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a study abroad adventure. Later, a listener asks why his friends won’t set him up. As the resident set up expert, Jorda...
Nov 09, 2022•2 hr 52 min•Ep 395•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a conversation about Jared’s run-ins with Al Roker and the “seven year itch.” The emailer asks if you have to reply to a breakup text after she gets one from a guy she was dating exclusively for four months. Jared and Jordana break down each line of the breakup text, and Jared shares some relevant experiences from his dating life. Plus, they tell the audience exactly what *not* to say in a breakup text. Check out our latest ...
Nov 06, 2022•53 min•Ep 394•Transcript available on Metacast Jared and Jordana are back with the first episode of November. They start with a discussion about Jared and Jordana’s favorite holidays and break down what it means when people say they’re “so single.” The first emailer asks if a guy not asking any questions about her is a reason to end the relationship. J&J rephrase her email to help her see this situation clearly. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves some improper condom disposal. Later, a listener asks why old situationships pop back up once...
Nov 02, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Ep 393•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are are joined by special guest Delaney Rowe for a spooky Halloween Special. They start with some horror stories about UTIs, DM slides, and the meanest comments they’ve gotten online. Then they dive into Delaney’s dating life and how her career has impacted it. In the spirit of spooky season, they answer an email asking whether or not it’s ghosting if both people stop texting. Is “ghosting” overused in general now? Plus, Delaney asks Jared why men make promises they don’t intend to keep. Lea...
Oct 30, 2022•53 min•Ep 392•Transcript available on Metacast On this week’s episode, J&J start by launching Jared’s presidential campaign to fix Halloween scheduling and giving some Halloween dating tips. The first emailer asks if “He’s Just Not That Into You” holds up in 2022. If the guy she hung out with once wanted to see her again, wouldn’t he just make a plan? What do people actually mean when they say “if he wanted to he would”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a cautionary tale for sports bar hookups. Later, a listener asks how to recover from the f...
Oct 26, 2022•1 hr 28 min•Ep 391•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Ramit Sethi, author of “I Will Teach You To Be Rich.” They start with a conversation about Ramit’s work with couples to change their mindsets on money, and he gives an exercise for couples to open up the conversation about their finances. Later, they answer an email from a listener wrestling with an income difference in her relationship. She’s moving in with her boyfriend who makes $300k more than her, and she can already ...
Oct 23, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep 390•Transcript available on Metacast On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jordana’s weekend with her entire family and Jared’s bloody mary tour of Milwaukee. The first emailer asks if she’s gotten too comfortable being single after a friend told her she feels like she’s giving up. Does she need to put herself out there more or should she continue focusing on herself? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a “king size” man and a CPAP machine. Later, J&J listen to a voicemail asking how to approach dating a...
Oct 19, 2022•1 hr 18 min•Ep 389•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they're talking about being friends with exes. Jared and Jordana share their own experiences trying to be friends with exes and how that idea changes as you get older. Then, they dive into the email detailing a listener’s relationship with her ex from college. They broke up but stayed in touch through their friend group, and they eventually ended up in the same city again. When she told him she was thinking about getting back together, he s...
Oct 16, 2022•39 min•Ep 388•Transcript available on Metacast Jared and Jordana are back in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Hawaii and a look into her family dynamic with 9 siblings. Jared updates Jordana on his dating goals from his latest U Up? With Benefits episode. The first emailer asks if guys care less once the relationship becomes official after noticing her new boyfriend has been putting in a lot less effort. Should she “match his energy” or speak up about her annoyance? The Awkward Sexual Encou...
Oct 12, 2022•2 hr 33 min•Ep 387•Transcript available on Metacast Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re tackling the age-old “right person, wrong time” question. The emailer sends in screenshots of the very nice breakup text she received after two great dates. He didn’t want to keep dating because he was moving but told her to let him know if she was ever in his new city. Fast forward a year, and she’s moving there for work, so should she ask him to grab a beer? J&J break down all the possibilities she should think about...
Oct 09, 2022•34 min•Ep 386•Transcript available on Metacast This week’s episode starts with a big shame on Jordana for straying from Delta Airlines for her trip to Hawaii and the Bach By NoonTM plan for Park City. Then they dive right into the second half of your Lightning Round questions about everything from moving in with your long distance S.O. to making a coffee date actually feel like a date. Plus, Jared gives the world’s saddest pep talk. Detours include planning where Jared would move for a date and Jewish mom erotica. Learn more about your ad ch...
Oct 05, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep 385•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with our first Sunday Special of October, and they start with a chat about Jared’s trick or treating observations from last year and Jordana’s days as a babysitter in the city. Then, they dive into the email from a listener whose husband wants her to lose weight. They’ve both been on their own health journeys, but she’s healed her relationship with her body and he’s still struggling. After he revealed he prefers a thinner body type than hers, she asks if she should try to lose the w...
Oct 02, 2022•34 min•Ep 384•Transcript available on Metacast On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are answering your lightning round questions submitted via Instagram, but first they’re breaking down Jared’s adventures in Buffalo and the recent cheating accusations against Adam Levine. Then, they get into your questions ranging from how to stand out on dating apps to how to meet people IRL as an introvert. Plus, they discuss the old line that “the best relationships are when the man loves the woman more than she loves him” and give advice for disgust...
Sep 28, 2022•1 hr 21 min•Ep 383•Transcript available on Metacast Jared and Jordana are getting right into it on the Sunday Special, and this week’s email is about a “somewhat-unsuccessful” trip to visit a long-distance situationship. They go into what you should expect when you’re taking a chance and getting on a plane to meet up with someone. The first night of her visit went great, but the next night felt off and he made excuses to not see her again before she left. She says she got the ick after he needed too much reassurance that she liked him, but J&J ar...
Sep 25, 2022•40 min•Ep 382•Transcript available on Metacast On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about interpreting comments from strangers on the internet and getting set up by Jared’s mom. The first emailer writes in to ask if she’s jumping into a commitment too quickly after a long term relationship ended. Should she stick with her goal of staying single for at least a year even if she really likes the guy she’s seeing? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves way too much tongue. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfrie...
Sep 21, 2022•2 hr 34 min•Ep 381•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and they start with a chat about how to enjoy dating on football Sundays. This week’s email comes from a male listener who keeps finding himself in the same dating situation. After about two months of dating someone, he gets a text saying he’s a really nice guy, but they don’t see it going anywhere romantically. Jordana gives the honest version of these texts that he’s not getting. Is there anything he should do differently or is this just a normal part ...
Sep 18, 2022•38 min•Ep 380•Transcript available on Metacast Jared and Jordana are back in the studio on Jordana’s birthday to record the first episode for our new YouTube channel. They start with a discussion about happy birthday etiquette and. Then, J&J discuss a New York Times article all about dating app burnout and how to avoid it. Have dating apps done more damage than good over the last ten years? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very large man in a very small bed. Next, they answer an email from a listener asking if how her boyfriend talks ...
Sep 14, 2022•1 hr 25 min•Ep 379•Transcript available on Metacast J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a refresher on the “reveal” and what being “exclusive but not in a relationship'' actually means. The emailer writes in about how she regrets responding poorly to a reveal from a guy she was dating. She tried to make up for it, but he ended the relationship a few weeks later. Did she ruin it with her original response to his reveal? Or is she just more attracted to him now that he’s pulled away? Plus, they talk about how...
Sep 11, 2022•40 min•Ep 378•Transcript available on Metacast 
