In this heart-stirring episode of "Mend or End," we dive deep into the crossroads of decision that many find themselves standing at, teetering on the edge of staying in or leaving an unhealthy marriage. Karen's journey is one that resonates with the silent battles many face: the weight of religious or marital commitments that bind, the daunting financial fears of navigating life solo, and the complex web of fears surrounding the well-being and future of their children. It's a narrative wrapped i...
Apr 26, 2024•23 min•Ep 334•Transcript available on Metacast Navigating a high conflict, high net worth divorce is exceptionally challenging, blending intricate financial issues with intense emotional tensions. The stakes are high with substantial assets in play, demanding informed and strategic planning to ensure your financial stability after the divorce. A Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) can be your ally, offering insights to bridge the gap between the divorce's financial and legal complexities. They do more than crunch numbers; they provide...
Apr 23, 2024•53 min•Ep 333•Transcript available on Metacast The way we communicate will make or break our divorce. It will move us closer to what we desire or farther away. It will invite curiosity and compromise or judgement and destruction. In order to be able to communicate with mastery, we need to first be aware of our triggers and ways of behaving under stress. We also need to be able to read other people, their mood, body language and tone. When we combine these skills with clear communication, we are on the right path. With me today is Lisa Brick,...
Apr 18, 2024•38 min•Ep 332•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, we delve into the intricate dynamics of divorce proceedings at the crossroads of high conflict and high net worth. Marriages unraveling in such scenarios face a myriad of challenges, from navigating complex financial landscapes to the heightened emotional intensity that often accompanies disputes over substantial assets. As the stakes escalate with greater financial resources at play, so too does the potential for drawn out courtroom battles, where each party may wield significa...
Apr 16, 2024•58 min•Ep 331•Transcript available on Metacast Stephanie faced infidelity and broken trust during her marriage. As she began coaching, she realized her patterns and part in the disillusion of her marriage. Her work led her to healthier communication and behaviors in all her relationships. Listen as she shares her fears, struggles and the unexpected treasures found through coaching and leaning into her faith in God. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Reclaim Yo...
Apr 12, 2024•38 min•Ep 330•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome to today's episode, where we delve into the profound impact family origins have on adult intimate relationships. We'll explore how the imprints of our family dynamics shape our approach to love, conflict, and connection, setting the stage for the patterns that unfold in our most intimate bonds. With insights from a seasoned psychologist and love life researcher, we aim to illuminate the unseen threads that link our past experiences to our present struggles, providing a roadmap for unders...
Apr 10, 2024•54 min•Ep 329•Transcript available on Metacast Emerging from a high-conflict marriage can feel like stepping onto a battlefield, where every day presents new challenges and uncertainties. In these tumultuous times, the need for support is undeniable - but what form of support is best suited to your needs? Enter therapy and coaching: two pillars of assistance offering distinct yet powerful approaches to navigating the complexities of divorce. As you traverse this terrain, understanding the disparity between these two forms of support becomes ...
Apr 05, 2024•20 min•Ep 328•Transcript available on Metacast I am thrilled about today’s conversation with Hesha Abrams, a brilliant mediator, negotiator and author of Holding The Calm, a book jam packed with strategies to minimize conflict, settle disputes and create a safe space for the most thorniest of individuals to feel heard and seen so they can find their way back to the negotiation table. I’ve asked Hesha to join us and custom tailor some of her advice to our JBD listeners who have made the courageous decision to leave your high conflict spouse a...
Mar 20, 2024•47 min•Ep 325•Transcript available on Metacast How to Safely Plan Your Exit Strategy As a High Conflict Divorce Strategist, I will be speaking directly to and about just that - the high conflict dynamic and how it is so very different from your typical divorce. All divorce has conflict and some more than others. High Conflict marriages and divorce are in a realm of their own. So let’s start at the beginning… In the early stages, knowing on a deep intuitive level and being ready takes time. Being ready and yet not being able to take action ma...
Mar 18, 2024•25 min•Ep 324•Transcript available on Metacast I’m excited to share today’s conversation with you as my guest, Kerrie Droban-Zhivago, offers profound insights into the minds of sociopaths, psychopaths, and narcissists. For those of you undergoing high-conflict divorces, understanding these characteristics is crucial. As you know, these personalities can significantly impact the emotional and psychological well-being of their partners, often leading to highly contentious divorce proceedings. By educating oneself on the traits and tactics of t...
Mar 12, 2024•53 min•Ep 323•Transcript available on Metacast When Maria reached out for support she was still resentful at her ex and regretting staying so long in a marriage that had been over for 2 years. Maria shares her journey to self awareness and acceptance of herself and her circumstances. In a short time, Maria developed an understanding of codependence and began shifting her behavior to more self loving and less fearful about what other's thought about her. Maria also shares her 'hot pepper moment' and the powerful impact our signature Emotional...
Mar 08, 2024•46 min•Ep 322•Transcript available on Metacast Our guest is none other than Bill Eddy, a leading expert in managing high-conflict personalities. As the pioneer in understanding and navigating the tumultuous waters of relationships with individuals exhibiting narcissistic or borderline traits, Bill brings a wealth of knowledge and practical wisdom. In this episode, we'll unravel the intricacies of his acclaimed book, "SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Narcissistic or Borderline Personality Disorder". If you're facing...
Mar 05, 2024•50 min•Ep 321•Transcript available on Metacast High Conflict Divorce is hard and in the beginning you may struggle with self doubt and uncertainty. I found this mind hack a while ago and was fascinated by the concept. So here goes. Activating your alter ego engages a mind hack that can support you in creating the change you desire. The Alter Ego Effect , written by Todd Herman teaches you how to adopt a different mindset and get motivated by cooperating with an alter ego of your own. By implementing this mind-hack, you can awaken your hidden...
Mar 01, 2024•19 min•Ep 320•Transcript available on Metacast If you feel like you are losing your mind as you enter divorce, I want you to know that it's totally normal. Today I share what happens when you begin the journey through divorce and how your mental and emotional overload show up in your life. I discuss the changes you begin to see in yourself and why things like brain fog, ADD tendencies, short triggers, and memory problems arise in the short term. Tune in as I share what you can do to support yourself and what you are ill advised to do. Seeing...
Feb 27, 2024•20 min•Ep 319•Transcript available on Metacast Geri was the primary parent for the entirety of her children's lives. During the four years of their court battle, dad never took the boys for an overnight...not even once. Yet she lost custody in an expensive, drawn out court battle. Listen as one woman tells her journey of heartbreak and healing, her court ruling on custody and the grief, personal growth and gifts that followed. Journey Beyond Divorce Resources mentioned in this episode: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.co...
Feb 20, 2024•45 min•Ep 317•Transcript available on Metacast Telling the children about your impending divorce is always a fragile, emotional conversation. The general rule is both parents tell the children together, refer to the decision as mutual and assure them that they are loved and their lives with continue with limited change. However, when facing a high conflict divorce, such advice may be unwise and even dangerous. If you are expecting your high conflict ex to blame you, create undo chaos and emotional overwhelm and catastrophize your choice, tel...
Feb 15, 2024•24 min•Ep 316•Transcript available on Metacast Ah, Valentine's Day! That time of year when love is in the air, and heart-shaped chocolates seem to pop up everywhere. For some, it's a day of romance and roses. For others, it's more like a scene from a tragicomedy – minus the comedy. But fear not! If Valentine’s Day feels like just another blip on the calendar, that's great. Carry on!! However, if you find yourself feeling a bit blue as heart-shaped balloons float by, here’s an invitation to consider…why not turn the day into a celebration of ...
Feb 14, 2024•13 min•Ep 315•Transcript available on Metacast Ann Margaret shares her struggles around faith and family when deciding whether or not to seek a divorce from her spouse of 19 years. As a devout Catholic, she needed to be 'right with God' and sought to understand if and how her desire to leave her marriage was aligned with her deep faith. She goes on to share her concerns for the impact the divorce would have on her children, the challenges of living under the same roof during Covid and keeping the 'secret' of the impending divorce from her ki...
Feb 08, 2024•41 min•Ep 314•Transcript available on Metacast Deciding whether to mend or end your marriage is a tender and complex decision. Today we speak with Brian Burns about Discernment Counseling and how it is a safe and gentle process that brings immense value to the couple during this difficult time. Brian walks us through how Discernment Counseling works, the reason it is a short term process, under 2 months and how it differs in many ways from Marriage Counseling. The goal of this approach is very simply clarity and confidence for each member of...
Feb 01, 2024•42 min•Ep 312•Transcript available on Metacast Join me as I speak to a christian man about his journey through a high conflict marriage where he owns his part in the dissolution and shares the challenges of parallel parenting post divorce. Chris Espinoza of Men's Divorce Recovery speaks deeply about his recovery and healing journey and the vital role his faith played in keeping him tracking true to his desires to be the best dad and the best ex husband. Chris recently began dating, met the love of his live and is engaged and about to merge h...
Jan 30, 2024•56 min•Ep 311•Transcript available on Metacast Parental alienation is a deeply complex and emotionally charged issue, where one parent, influences the child to reject or fear the other parent. This process distresses the alienated parent, who experiences profound loss and heartache. It also inflicts psychological harm on the child. The child, caught in the crossfire of adult conflicts, might develop issues with trust, guilt, and self-esteem, often carrying these emotional scars into adulthood. The alienated parent grapples with feelings of h...
Jan 25, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Ep 310•Transcript available on Metacast In the turbulent waters of high-conflict divorce, finding your anchor is essential for staying afloat. In this episode of "The Power Tria," we dive deep into how valuing your values, honoring your habits, and breaking down your behaviors can be the lifebuoy you need during this challenging journey. Discover the profound impact of aligning your actions with your core values. Today’s guest will discuss a process of self-discovery, helping you identify what truly matters to you and how to use these...
Jan 23, 2024•39 min•Ep 309•Transcript available on Metacast Living in a toxic intimate relationship can feel like being caught in an emotional maze—depleting your energy, disorienting your sense of self, and clouding your judgment. The journey to disentangle from harmful behaviors and limiting beliefs, deeply ingrained in such relationships, often appears daunting, terrifying, and isolating. Today, I’m thrilled to have Stephanie on the show, a beacon of light for women embarking on this transformative journey. Stephanie specializes in guiding women from ...
Jan 19, 2024•37 min•Ep 308•Transcript available on Metacast Thoughts on Attitude, Gratitude and Intentionality as we Wrap Up 2023 If you're in any stage of divorce, it can feel especially lonely, unfair, tender, confronting…today I want to talk about the gift of Attitude and Gratitude! Charles Swindoll Quote: The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other p...
Jan 13, 2024•15 min•Ep 306•Transcript available on Metacast Married couples over 50 are the fastest growing segment of the population divorcing. There are numerous unique challenges with Grey Divorce. Your children are older, which means you may need boundaries around their opinions and your desire to lean on them emotionally or financially. You most likely have more life behind you than you have ahead of you. This limits your ability to recoup funds lost in the divorce. It may impact spousal support if the monied spouse is close to retirement age. You a...
Jan 11, 2024•44 min•Ep 305•Transcript available on Metacast Most men and women who live in dysfunctional marriages are challenged to find the strength and courage to leave, navigate what may very well be a high conflict divorce and figure out how to reinvent themselves post divorce. Today’s guest walks us through her journey of using the pain of childhood challenges and an oppressive marriage to fuel personal growth and a better next chapter. Kate was a monied spouse who also took on the lion’s share of raising the family and household tasks. Overwhelmed...
Dec 15, 2023•32 min•Ep 303•Transcript available on Metacast Custody battles are typical in high conflict divorce. The problem is the fight is often between two disregulated parents who love their kids but put them in the middle, causing unnecessary pain and suffering. Today’s episode is meant to spotlight the confusion, suffering and trauma your children experience in the process of you fighting for what is ‘best for your kids’. There is a better way, one that requires parents to pause and regulate yourselves so you can truly act in your children’s best ...
Dec 12, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep 302•Transcript available on Metacast I have a very special guest today. She is a deeply respected colleague of mine, a fervent advocate for women and has dedicated her life to helping them get clear on who they are, what they want and if their marriage is enhancing or diminishing them and the life they desire. Should I mend or should I end is one of the most excruciating decision to make. Living in a high conflict marriage means you are attempting to make this decision after years or decades of being abandoned, diminished, belittle...
Dec 08, 2023•58 min•Ep 301•Transcript available on Metacast A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce. If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!! Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators. What they all have in common is their training as a parent coordinator with the ability to help pare...
Nov 07, 2023•1 hr•Ep 298•Transcript available on Metacast Today’s powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse’s high conflict personality. You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking. You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end. What you didn’t know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach. HCPs do not respond to logic. Their brains...
Nov 02, 2023•59 min•Ep 297•Transcript available on Metacast 
