While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she chan...
Oct 28, 2023•37 min•Ep 295•Transcript available on Metacast We are looking at how to Reboot Your Mind and Heal Your Heart with a uniquely painless and rapid trauma recovery modality called Rapid Resolution Therapy (RTT). In this modality, the mind is cleared of negative beliefs, reorganized to see new possibilities, and stops regretting the past and dreading the future. Negative habits and painful emotions are replaced by positive feelings and actions. Freed from the grip of past events, blocked energy is released so that physical and emotional healing c...
Oct 27, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep 294•Transcript available on Metacast Corinthians 13: 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails. Love and divorce, what’s the connection? I love you. I am leaving. I don’t love you. I am leaving. The question was asked by Tina Turner...
Oct 25, 2023•41 min•Ep 293•Transcript available on Metacast While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse. Our guest takes us through a 4 phase process that helps you to uncover the impact of unforgiveness, examine the benefits of choosing forgiveness, begin the journey to forgive and the healing that journey invites and ultimately, how forgiveness, healing and growth is the cornerstone for finding meaning in the struggle with the HCP. The psychologica...
Oct 21, 2023•54 min•Ep 292•Transcript available on Metacast Whatever else life promises, it pretty much guarantees that we will face stormy times. The question is not IF, but HOW you traverse them and what your toolbox of skills and strategies includes. Even High Conflict Divorce - which is more like a tsunami - can be experienced with greater ease with the right, healthy set of tools. Today we’re speaking with Lynne about a spiritual practice that has been her lifesaver through her divorce. Lynne Goldberg has been practicing and teaching mindfulness and...
Oct 20, 2023•51 min•Ep 291•Transcript available on Metacast Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality. There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations. For...
Oct 17, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep 290•Transcript available on Metacast If you’ve found yourself avoiding conversations with your spouse after being blamed or attacked for insignificant events, accused of things you haven't even thought of doing, ignored, or had the topic changed before anything you said/asked was addressed, you are living with someone who uses “deflection” and the blaming and shaming that goes along with it to protect their fragile ego from having to look at themself in any way that would shatter the inflated view of him/herself that s/he must main...
Oct 13, 2023•49 min•Ep 289•Transcript available on Metacast In this enchanting episode, we unlock the secrets of using "magic words" to navigate interactions with narcissists. Join us as we explore the fascinating world of communication techniques that can help you get what you want from a narcissistic personality. Today’s episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and insp...
Oct 10, 2023•57 min•Ep 288•Transcript available on Metacast When you have been living with addiction, alcoholism, and trauma, divorce is bound to feel and be high conflict. There have likely been many toxic episodes if not seasons. You may know your soon-to-be-ex needs help. So do you. Today we look at the journey from ‘dis-ease’ to wholistic health - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Our guest has journeyed from addiciton to recovery and then through divorce to coparenting. He helps people out of their pain and onto a path that can enha...
Oct 07, 2023•54 min•Ep 287•Transcript available on Metacast Co-parenting in after the standard, ‘garden variety' divorce can be difficult. When you add high conflict divorce where communicating, collaborating, showing respect, kindness and grace is often absent, co-parenting takes on a new level of complexity. Today my friend, Lesa Koski, and I explore those challenges and the solutions available for parents who are willing to always put the kids first…even when it requires you to bite your tongue until it’s bloody…something I have had a lot of experienc...
Oct 06, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep 286•Transcript available on Metacast Today we are looking at an alternative to therapy that may sound quite new to many of you. We’re exploring the use of psychedelic medicines, such as ketamine, MDMA, cannabis, and psilocybin (mushrooms), to engage the subconscious. When used in this therapeutic safe ‘container’, they express meaningful manifestations of your mind. The non-rational sensations, emotions, thoughts, and images that are seen in these altered states of consciousness are your body and mind’s way of expressing deep, subc...
Sep 29, 2023•49 min•Ep 285•Transcript available on Metacast It is natural to experience strong emotions such as grief, anger, resentment, fear, and anxiety during and after divorce. Resisting those painful feelings will not make them go away, it will make them grow and fester inside of you. Conversely, ongoing, repetitive thoughts that focus on blame, shame, past hurts and disappointments, and worries about the future will leave you feeling exhausted, stressed, and stuck. As Albert Einstein wisely said, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing...
Sep 28, 2023•56 min•Ep 284•Transcript available on Metacast If your marriage has felt chaotic and confusing and over the years you have become unhinged, shut down and felt a loss of self, you need to hear this podcast! A lightbulb goes on when you understand what narcissistic personality disorder looks and feels like. You have been gaslit, diminished and belittled for so long you have begun to believe their narrative about you and probably deeply dislike the triggered person you have become. Then you listen to a podcast like this one…and the curtain is p...
Sep 21, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep 283•Transcript available on Metacast When going through the divorce process, it is easy to be in an unconscious state of living regarding your well-being as you are focused on so many other things...at least until something happens and you are forced to address it. Our encouragement is to begin now and don't wait for the crisis. JBD Coach, Tammy Oswald, suggests living more consciously and focusing on wellness bringing awareness and self-care into the process so you can show up as your best through and beyond the divorce process. W...
Sep 20, 2023•52 min•Ep 282•Transcript available on Metacast Journeying into and through divorce has. at best, many moments of ‘normal’ anxiety. Then there are individuals who have an anxiety disorder or who are married to someone who does. What is the difference? What happens when your normal or disordered anxiety is triggers? And most important, what can be done to calm these triggered reactions. Today we take a look at how to manage normal and disordered anxiety and we also look at the children and how divorce and anxiety can affect them, what the norm...
Sep 14, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep 281•Transcript available on Metacast With High Conflict Divorce comes significant challenges; legally, emotionally and financially. When wealth is added to this mix, the complexities can feel astronomical. These complexities can come in the form of financial control and withholding, complicated high risk or international investments, multiple real estate holdings, etc. Education is vital in these cases and today we have one of the best financial experts here to explain what you need to know, who you need to have on your support tea...
Sep 13, 2023•46 min•Ep 280•Transcript available on Metacast This entire series is designed to speak with practitioners in modalities that cut through months or years of therapy, helping clients rapidly regulate so they can engage in and benefit from divorce coaching. Today we look at Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) which is a combination of ancient Chinese wisdom and modern psychology that relieves energetic blockages and regulates the nervous system. Today’s guest is also a hypnotherapist, so we will be taking a look under the covers at the subconsci...
Sep 01, 2023•55 min•Ep 279•Transcript available on Metacast If you are going through a divorce - or contemplating taking this step - and you have children, this podcast is for you. There are many who hold the position that divorce harms children. There is also a lot of information out there that claims this is not necessarily true. Under the best circumstances, children can emerge from “broken” families without being damaged in the process. Today we will talk about family systems, the impact that divorce can have on the system, the challenges to the syst...
Aug 30, 2023•53 min•Ep 278•Transcript available on Metacast When living with and divorcing a dysfunctional high conflict personality is fraught with triggering experiences and reactive engagements. And this dynamic didn’t start with your marriage, it began earlier in life with trauma that ‘set you up’ to be in a high conflict relationship. So how do you regulate your nervous system so that you can be more effective and confident entering and negotiating throughout your divorce? I have experienced and am fascinated with the work of guest, Elisabeth Kristo...
Aug 24, 2023•58 min•Ep 277•Transcript available on Metacast While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she chan...
Aug 22, 2023•34 min•Ep 276•Transcript available on Metacast The way we communicate will make or break our divorce. It will move us closer to what we desire or farther away. It will invite curiosity and compromise or judgement and destruction. In order to be able to communicate with mastery, we need to first be aware of our triggers and ways of behaving under stress. We also need to be able to read other people, their mood, body language and tone. When we combine these skills with clear communication, we are on the right path. With me today is Lisa Brick,...
Aug 18, 2023•40 min•Ep 275•Transcript available on Metacast Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality. There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations. For...
Aug 16, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep 274•Transcript available on Metacast As you enter divorce negotiations it is imperative that you have a good handle on your financial picture and the value each asset represents. The fear and uncertainty of what your financial reality will be post-divorce can be paralyzing. Getting educated and enlisting professionals to support you in negotiating a win-win settlement is vital. can be paralyzing Today’s guest Jaime Goodman, a CDFA (Certified Divorce Financial Analysts), shares the importance of managing your expectations, understan...
Aug 06, 2023•55 min•Ep 273•Transcript available on Metacast Today's conversation highlights both the unique differences one faces when coparenting with a high conflict ex and the common challenges that we all face coparenting no matter when level of conflict we've experienced with our ex. Jess and TH are the founder of Exexperts. They were friends in marriage and besties post divorce. Tune in the hear the real life stories of fear, upset and overwhelm followed by self awareness, personal growth, and the self esteem and understanding of their healing path...
Aug 01, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep 272•Transcript available on Metacast This episode is being shared from the Divorced People podcast which Karen McMahon was recently interviewed on. Divorced People is a podcast about divorce, marriage, and relationships. The host, Nicole Quallen, a divorced person and collaborative divorce lawyer, speaks with story-tellers who have been through the difficult, beautiful, complicated, super-stigmatized institution and are brave and ready enough to share their experience with us all. Here is Nicole's introduction to this episode: Kare...
Jul 01, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep 271•Transcript available on Metacast Distance parenting was a new term to me when I found today’s guest and given that I have been in the divorce field for over a dozen years, that surprised me. So today we are discussing “Long Distance Parenting: The challenges, rewards and best practices.” The term Distance Parenting refers to those who are parenting from afar…another state, region or country….physically very far away from their children. Carrie has been a distance parent for over two decades. She explains some of the circumstanc...
Jun 29, 2023•52 min•Ep 270•Transcript available on Metacast Part 3 of our series focuses on how to appreciate and benefit from the different voices in your head and their unique perspectives by using “The Brain Huddle” , a practice author Jill Bolte Taylor, PhD refers to as a “Power Tool for Peace”. The four voices or characters generated by four different types of neural tissue in our brains are somewhat stereotypical in their behavioral patterns which means that the more that you are willing to observe their responses/reactions to circumstances the mor...
Jun 22, 2023•55 min•Ep 269•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome to another episode of All Things Parenting. You’re post divorce and survived the chaotic, complex, often times hostile and overwhelming divorce process. You thought you would be free, feel better, be less triggered and engaged with your ex. But you have kids together and somedays it feels like nothing has changed except you’re living under separate roofs! How can you successfully co parent with a high conflict person when there is so much that continues to trigger you. The answer lies in...
Jun 16, 2023•53 min•Ep 268•Transcript available on Metacast The neurons in our brains are not all alike. Our brains think and feel in four different ways, every one of us. We may be more aware of certain ways than others, and define ourselves by the ways of thinking that are habitual...which does not always serve us well, especially when navigating divorce and post divorce life. In today’s show, Part 2 of You’re Not Crazy: Exploring the Voices in Your Head , Lisa and Karen familiarize you with the four distinct thinking and feeling modes in your brain in...
Jun 15, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Ep 267•Transcript available on Metacast As if divorce is not overwhelming enough, those facing ‘international divorce’ complexities encounter an entirely unique and complex set of challenges which are even further intensified if there are children involved. Join us as we speak to matrimonial attorneys Nicole Centracchio and Bryan Reed who specialize in international divorce. They talk about the importance of strategically deciding when to make the decision to file for divorce and what to consider when choosing jurisdiction. Another ke...
Jun 09, 2023•59 min•Ep 266•Transcript available on Metacast 
