I used to believe that high conflict divorce and mediation were mutually exclusive, that only amicable couples can mediate their divorce. I was wrong! Listen as Susan Guthrie, Esq. shares how mediation can and does work in high conflict situations. We talk about what you need to know, how to choose the right mediator, other professionals to add to your support team, and how mediation can be significantly less expensive and more beneficial than litigation. You will feel like you are ‘sipping from...
Jul 04, 2022•57 min•Ep 175•Transcript available on Metacast Tune in as KP shares her life as a southern girl growing up in Louisiana and Alabama, her experience in leadership that began as a child and her intuitive sense that coaching was the right fit for her. KP shares how her coach training opened her eyes to the possibility that her challenging marriage might not be best for anyone in the family and how she navigated her divorce with a compassionate heart and emerged wanting to dedicate her skills to working with men and women navigating the transiti...
Jul 01, 2022•37 min•Ep 174•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome back to our Series on Healthy Romantic Relationships. Today we are chatting with Emmy Hernandez about the “4 Pillars to a Romantic Relationship’. Emmy shares her FORMULA for engaging in and enjoying an “Epic Relationship.” We talk about playfulness, sexiness, nurturing and your ‘boss babe’ and what the ideal formula is in bringing these different aspects of yourself into your relationship daily and why. A great conversation! Emmy Hernandez is an executive-level love and relationship coac...
Jun 24, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Ep 173•Transcript available on Metacast While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she chan...
Jun 20, 2022•31 min•Ep 172•Transcript available on Metacast So much of our suffering is due to the voices in our head...the stories of how we have been wronged, or what is happening is bad or the certainty of why s/he did that thing...the 'why' placing us squarely in the victim seat. Divorce is painful, when we suffer, it is our own doing as a result of ruminating about our perspective, judgement, unforgiveness, insecurity, fear, etc. Today's episode shines a spotlight on what happens between your ears and the steps you have to take to Let Go of your sto...
Jun 17, 2022•35 min•Ep 171•Transcript available on Metacast While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty. Today we help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can become clear in determining your best next steps. We also share the huge value in staying long enough to work on your shortcoming so that, regar...
Jun 13, 2022•52 min•Ep 170•Transcript available on Metacast The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter. Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP. She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion. While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or...
Jun 13, 2022•50 min•Ep 169•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome to Today’s Episode: Know Your Personal Operating ‘Style’ and That of Your Partner’s. We have a great conversation for you today with Sandy Weiner who brilliantly highlights how important the little things are. She shares the value of a ‘Personal Operating Manual’ which she developed for her clients that enables them to share their authentic selves with their new partner. It includes Lifestyle, Worldview and Sex. It covers all the small stuff that drives our perspectives and behaviors and...
Jun 10, 2022•50 min•Ep 168•Transcript available on Metacast Molly knew early on in her marriage that things were not good. She experienced emotional abuse and walked on eggshells to 'keep the peace' with her new spouse. When their child arrived, things got worse as she needed to focus more on the baby than on dad. Once she decided to divorce, she began setting boundaries, finding her voice and her authenticity. The biggest challenge and surprise was how their parenting dynamic went from all her responsibility to 50/50 custody with dad getting the help he...
Jun 08, 2022•43 min•Ep 167•Transcript available on Metacast Today’s episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 - Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages. We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency disorder. Ross speaks passionately about how vital it is to heal trauma from childhood to gain the self ...
Jun 06, 2022•52 min•Ep 166•Transcript available on Metacast Divorce offers a plethora of opportunities to get triggered, react and then remain upset. Today's talk is about the difference between the pain of divorce and the suffering so many of us experience. The difference is your ability to take responsibility for your emotional reaction and ultimately let go. Most of us weren't taught to 'go in' when we get upset, but rather to look outwards and blame other people or circumstances. Karen challenges that approach and shares a powerful practice of notici...
Jun 03, 2022•29 min•Ep 165•Transcript available on Metacast As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard. Today’s episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and inspires the narcissist to cooperate. (Get ready to take notes!) Special gue...
May 30, 2022•56 min•Ep 164•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome to our Healthy Romantic Relationship Series and today’s episode: Entering New Relationships with a Positive Mindset and Self Compassion. As we dive into this topic, Dr. Jennifer Reid, who is a psychiatrist and award-winning educator with a practice in Philadelphia, shares the importance of realizing how we are wired and therefore how we communicate and react in relationships. Jennifer invites us to create a safe space to speak to our partner and the critical skill of active listening. We...
May 27, 2022•45 min•Ep 163•Transcript available on Metacast Today’s powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse’s high conflict personality. You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking. You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end. What you didn’t know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach. HCPs do not respond to logic. Their brains...
May 23, 2022•59 min•Ep 162•Transcript available on Metacast When we are faced with divorce, we go through a grief process. The death of our marriage brings the loss of the hopes and dreams we had as a couple, the loss of our normal family life, friends, community, etc. Grief is the normal reaction to loss. And, no two people will grieve their losses in the same way. You'll learn that there is no "one size fits all" approach to grief recovery, and yet there are experiences we all share when overcome by grief. There are a range of emotions - often referred...
May 20, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep 161•Transcript available on Metacast Ann Margaret shares her struggles around faith and family when deciding whether or not to seek a divorce from her spouse of 19 years. As a devout Catholic, she needed to be 'right with God' and sought to understand if and how her desire to leave her marriage was aligned with her deep faith. She goes on to share her concerns for the impact the divorce would have on her children, the challenges of living under the same roof during Covid and keeping the 'secret' of the impending divorce from her ki...
May 18, 2022•45 min•Ep 160•Transcript available on Metacast You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them. Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce. Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning. Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to...
May 16, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep 159•Transcript available on Metacast Today’s episode is chuck full of valuable tips and guidance around the vitally important question of when to move from dating into a committed relationship…and when not to. Alaya is a Sex and Relationship coach who helps men and women get clear on who and what they want and how to use the dating experience to insure that they get it. Tune in to learn the questions to ask, the key conversations to have, and the red and green flags of both your date AND yourself. Alaya further shares the importanc...
May 13, 2022•1 hr 17 min•Ep 158•Transcript available on Metacast Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality. There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations. For...
May 09, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 157•Transcript available on Metacast Divorcing a spouse when there are "bigger" concerns at play - like mental health issues or addiction can add an additional layer of complexity to an already challenging situation. In this episode, Karen & Diane talk about the value of compassion in these difficult times, and how to balance concern and compassion with setting effective limits and boundaries. Ultimately this will support you in avoiding codependency, and staying balanced as you consciously move through the process. Scedule a call ...
May 06, 2022•34 min•Ep 156•Transcript available on Metacast Living with a narcissist is ‘crazy making’. Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior. Today’s episode invites you into a ‘coaching experience’ where we validate your reality of fear and uncertainty, of your self esteem and confidence hav...
May 02, 2022•58 min•Ep 155•Transcript available on Metacast Today’s expert acknowledges that online dating can seem intimidating and if you don’t follow best practices, it can lead to disappointment. Alyssa Dineen, is the author of ‘The Art of Online Dating: Style Your Most Authentic Self and Cultivate a Mindful Dating Life’. She became a dating coach after getting divorced with two children and navigating her own dating experiences. Alyssa got crystal clear on how to be effective and successful and has gone on to share her approach with scores of single...
Apr 29, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep 154•Transcript available on Metacast If you have lost yourself amidst your marriage with a narcissist, today’s show will reveal and explain much about the insanity you have been living with. It is vital to understand the traits of the pathological narcissist and your role as a codependent in order to emotionally heal and change behaviors that have kept you stuck in your unhealthy marriage. Our guest, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, coined the name 'Self Love Deficit Disorder' to explain codependency. Ross has invested significant p...
Apr 25, 2022•50 min•Ep 153•Transcript available on Metacast Does your soon to be ex-spouse appear cooperative, but your gut tells you otherwise? Do they seem outwardly calm and rational, but your interactions feel hostile and chaotic? If you answered yes to either or both of these questions, you are, in all likelihood, divorcing a passive-aggressive spouse. This dynamic may not appear to be high conflict, but it is. Being on the receiving end of passive-aggressive behavior can trigger frustration, anger, anxiety, and confusion. In this podcast, you will ...
Apr 22, 2022•33 min•Ep 152•Transcript available on Metacast High conflict personalities drive high conflict divorces. If you have been married to and are divorcing this type of personality, today’s show helps you to understand the traits common to this personality type. You will begin to understand your spouse’s inability to manage his/her emotions, their black and white thinking, extreme behaviors and tendency to blame are common to his/her personality and not about you. Our guest expert, Virginia Gilbert is a family and marriage therapist. She also she...
Apr 18, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep 151•Transcript available on Metacast Today we dive into the nuts and bolts of setting up your online dating profile. Our guest Elise is not a dating coach like so many of our other guests. Elise comes at online dating as a former journalist who is divorced and decided to use her journalism skills to investigate what works and what doesn’t in terms of dating apps, platforms, profile images and bios. Along with having hosted dating experts at events held by her company, “Untied, Elisa shares her personal experiences and success after...
Apr 15, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Ep 150•Transcript available on Metacast Veronica was a child of a high conflict marriage who desperately wanted her parents to get divorced. However, once she received news that they were, she realized that she was thrown into a situation she didn’t know how to navigate. Today, Veronica walks us through how her parent’s divorce affected her on a deeper level than what parents see. The divorce left her with a sense of dread, anxiety, and overwhelm. As Veronica entered adulthood, she realized the anxiety was affecting her adult relation...
Apr 13, 2022•36 min•Ep 149•Transcript available on Metacast Your Divorce Settlement has been negotiated and agreed upon. Now it is time to step off the divorce battlefield take off your ‘coat of armor’ and begin the task of coparenting post divorce. The good news is that much of the ongoing stress and tension around the negotiations quickly melts away which provides you with the opportunity to be fully present in attending to your children’s needs. But old habits die hard...so today we are going to highlight some of the most important Coparenting Do’s an...
Apr 11, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 148•Transcript available on Metacast As we continue our post divorce series, today is all about you guys! As you enter your new life chapter, we will guide you on how to refresh and reinvent yourself through style and image. Today’s guest will share tips on how to become your most authentic, magnetic and powerful self. Grab a pen and begin to explore how to hone in on the deeper blocks keeping you from attracting your dream woman! For more info, visit www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com...
Apr 04, 2022•58 min•Ep 147•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome back to another conversation about dating after divorce. Today I am joined by Bela Gandhi, a dating expert and founder of Smart Dating Academy. Bela chats with us about how fun, exciting and fulfilling the dating process can be…under the right circumstances. She shares the three key approaches to dating and yes, online dating remains the most accessible and successful approach. And if you are wondering how to write a true and enticing profile, what images to use and to avoid and how to e...
Apr 01, 2022•53 min•Ep 146•Transcript available on Metacast 
