"It only takes one person to make change, and I'll try." Janiqueel's approach to love and life is so incredibly powerful and beautiful. Janiqueel started exploring non-monogamy about a decade ago and most closely identifies as solo poly. This conversation is essentially a master class in empathy, compassion, and having both while setting boundaries so you can live the life you want. It's definitely not easy, but it is amazing. We also highly encourage you to go check out Janiqueel's work, blog, ...
Mar 22, 2023•1 hr 12 min•Ep 280•Transcript available on Metacast This wonderful conversation with Laura has a little bit of everything! She's been exploring non-monogamy for over 15 years and has done so in a wide variety of polyamorous dynamics. Together we talk about her experiences co-parenting in a V-relationship, confronting guilt and shame, and consciously exploring sexuality. And of course, so much more. A bit more about Laura in her own words, copied from her website www.readyforpolyamory.com ... Laura Boyle is an advocate for relationship anarchy and...
Mar 15, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep 279•Transcript available on Metacast Life is an adventure... And that's exactly how Jill and Stephen live it. These two have been best friends since they met, married over 18 years, and adventuring together the whole time from exploring Europe to opening a bakery. They opened their relationship almost immediately, but moved slowly with it. To their cores, they truly just want the other person to be happy. They've explored a wide variety of non-monogamous flavors, from swinging to polyamory, and mostly just try to embrace the freedo...
Mar 08, 2023•1 hr 28 min•Ep 278•Transcript available on Metacast This conversation with Brian is so amazing and covers so many facets of relating to other humans, regardless of your relationship dynamic. Brian is a cis, queer, polyamorous, sex and relationship educator who grew up evangelical Christian and came out as queer in 2004. He's been with his partner for over 14 years and they slowly opened their relationship about a year into it. And today, he is also one of the co-founders of queertheology.com ! One of the things we love about talking with Brian is...
Mar 01, 2023•2 hr 31 min•Ep 277•Transcript available on Metacast Sara is an amazing, community-building badass! She's been exploring non-monogamy since 2006 when she and her husband decided to open their marriage after reading Stranger in a Strange Land. Fast forward to today and Sara has navigated opening a marriage, having a child, transitioning her marriage to co-parenting, solo polyamory, and nesting again with a different partner. Sara talks about her journey in a way that beautifully weaves her story with valuable learning opportunities around everythin...
Feb 22, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep 276•Transcript available on Metacast We rarely recommend gathering your kids for one of our interviews, but here we are. We'll wait for you to wrangle the whole family. Got everyone? Good. Susan has been exploring non-monogamy for over 30 years in a beautifully fluid dynamic that blends swinging, kink, and polyamory together. She elegantly weaves her personal story in with the powerful activist work she has done to make the world a better place for people in the ethically non-monogamous and kink scenes. Along the way we talk about ...
Feb 15, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Ep 275•Transcript available on Metacast Kate was accidentally monogamous for a bit, but as long she can remember, non-monogamy has been who she is. She's a mother of two, a community leader and builder, a therapist, and an all around kick-ass human. We have some amazing conversations with her about her time at the Kinsey Institute, relating to metamours, how attachment styles manifest in her relationships, community parenting, and the power of community. If all of that wasn't enough for you, Kate is also the co-creator of Southwest Lo...
Feb 08, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep 274•Transcript available on Metacast Libby and Cal have been playing music together for the last five years and about three years ago they stopped fighting their urges and embarked on a romantic partnership as well. On Libby's side, she has never been in an officially monogamous relationship. For Cal, he's always felt he was non-monogamous but didn't have the language or framework for it until about a decade ago when he got out of his marriage. We have so many amazing conversations with Libby and Cal during this interview. They sha...
Feb 01, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Ep 273•Transcript available on Metacast Casey and her husband have an absolutely incredible story. They met during a blind date threesome, ended up getting married a few years later, and are now exploring a hotwife dynamic together. However, the insight and power in this conversation reaches far beyond hotwifing and swinging. We don't dig into the sexy stuff together, we dig into the emotions, the feelings, and some really big challenges she, and they, have overcome. Casey explored the swinging lifestyle for almost two decades as a so...
Jan 25, 2023•2 hr 45 min•Ep 272•Transcript available on Metacast Cat and EJ are back after 252 episodes and almost a full five years! They first came on the show back on episode 19... Way way back! No need to go back and listen if you haven't yet, we'll catch you up and you can go listen afterwards. We promise you'll want to. This conversation picks up Cat and EJ's journey where we left off back in 2018. They were just at the start of transitioning from a swinging-style approach to non-monogamy to more of a polyamorous dynamic. They were just learning words l...
Jan 18, 2023•1 hr 25 min•Ep 271•Transcript available on Metacast Rose identifies as monogamish and her favorite relationship dynamic is a committed longterm partnership "with room to explore." She also identifies as a lesbian, but she's insatiably curious about all things sex, and so sometimes the boxes and labels don't align with her curiosity and desire to explore. Rose is a legacy non-monogamist in a few different ways. Her parents are non-monogamous as well, and of course we have an amazing conversation on that. She's also our third interview with a lead ...
Jan 11, 2023•1 hr 29 min•Ep 270•Transcript available on Metacast Lara and John got married over 30 years ago, 9 months after their first date at the library... About 22 years ago they opened their relationship and started blazing their own trail without a script or resources. The initial catalyst was Lara's bisexuality, but there was so much more to it than that. They've been tweaking the formula together and finding what works for them in the moment ever since. They started with more of a swinging focus and learned that polyamory with a bit more autonomy was...
Jan 04, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep 269•Transcript available on Metacast As long as Stephanie can remember she's been attracted to, and curious about, lots of different people. Of course, most of us are conditioned for this to not be something to embrace and so she didn't know what to do with it all. She began exploring her sexuality in her twenties and ended up in a relationship where she was able to start dipping her toes into non-monogamy with a partner before diving deeper into solo polyamory. Throughout this beautiful interview she shares with us how she has lea...
Dec 28, 2022•1 hr•Ep 268•Transcript available on Metacast Maria is back! And! Steve is here with her for the first time and the conversation we have is beyond powerful. If you listened to Maria's first interview on Episode 239 , you heard about how her infidelity was the catalyst for them to open their marriage. Today we have the rare opportunity to talk with both halves of a couple about their experiences facing, navigating, repairing, and healing from the breaking of trust and cheating. We owe a ton of gratitude to both of them for how vulnerable and...
Dec 21, 2022•1 hr 29 min•Ep 267•Transcript available on Metacast Kelli and Conner opened up their relationship pretty early on as a way for Kelli to explore her bisexuality. For the last few years they have been on an adventure together to find ways to get each of their needs and desires met, both as individuals and as a couple. However! As they put it, it's about way more than just sex... These two were on an amazing journey of self-evolution before they came together, and now they're taking life on as a team. We have so many beautiful conversations around s...
Dec 14, 2022•2 hr 41 min•Ep 266•Transcript available on Metacast This conversation is so much fun! So much! Eve opens this interview by saying "I'm a woman who does a lot... That means work-wise, and people-wise!" She is such a delight to talk to and our conversation is full of laughs that also weave in some beautiful and important lessons Eve has learned along her journey. Eve has been in open relationships since pretty much her first adult relationship. How those relationships have looked has evolved over time as she has grown and learned more about herself...
Dec 07, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 265•Transcript available on Metacast In case you haven't listened to Episode 145 ... Here's the super short version, but you'll want to go back and get all the amazing details for yourself... Rah and Tom are wonderful humans who are married. A few years back, another wonderful human danced onto the scene, enter Mel. The three of them forged an incredible bond and throuple relationship. Again, there's so much more to it. But, that brings us to where this episode starts. So what's changed? Well, they're still wonderful humans. Rah an...
Nov 30, 2022•1 hr 25 min•Ep 264•Transcript available on Metacast This conversation is incredibly powerful in so many ways! Elizabeth is in her early thirties and has been exploring ethical non-monogamy for over a decade. Things got off to a bit of an unethical start during college but she quickly decided to just take ownership of her wants and who she was. She didn't have any language for what she was doing or wanting but that didn't stop her from blazing her own trail. As she puts it... She sort of "wrecking balled" her way through polyamory for a bit. The w...
Nov 23, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep 263•Transcript available on Metacast Wendy Strgar is an author and an award-winning social entrepreneur and the founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, a pioneer in the organic personal care product industry. Wendy started Good Clean Love in her kitchen almost 20 years ago and has since grown it into a multimillion dollar, certified B-Corporation. Wendy’s mission in life is to increase the quality and quantity of healthy, loving, relationships in the world. Married for over 34 years, her daily life has always been the laboratory for he...
Nov 18, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Ep 10210•Transcript available on Metacast This conversation with Rainey and Paco is incredible. We laugh, we cry, we laugh some more... Don't skip this one. These two have been together for about six years, nesting together for two, and recently got married just a few months ago! A few years back, they decided to open their relationship and it's evolved over the years. Their particularly flavor of ethical non-monogamy falls somewhere between swinging and polyamory. It's not a clearly defined boundary but one thing is clear... "It's not ...
Nov 16, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Ep 262•Transcript available on Metacast Taylor has been exploring polyamory, swinging, and all kinds of non-monogamy for over a decade at this point. She was married for 25 years, monogamously for about 12, and then Hedonism Resort made an appearance. Thirteen years after opening their relationship, her and her husband separated (not because of non-monogamy and she will prove it to you if you don't believe us) and now she's on her own solo journey and it is incredible. Taylor can best be described by her own self on her website: www.o...
Nov 09, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep 261•Transcript available on Metacast Elisa and Mike have been together about seven years and polyamorous for about four of them. Two years into their relationship, Elisa had an affair and that became the catalyst that led them to digging deep into their truest needs and rebuilding their relationship in an intentional way. They talk through a lot of their process of repairing and co-creating a dynamic that feels good to both of them. At the same time, in order to do this, they needed to go at their own pace, not compete with one ano...
Nov 02, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 260•Transcript available on Metacast If you are looking for a beautiful journey of what it can look like when you live intentionally and seek out your authentic self... Look no further. We often use this space to give a high-level overview of the relational dynamic our guests are in... There isn't a better way to describe this for Arielle besides that she is in a relationship with living an incredible life and giving love to those around her. It's a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it. A bit more about Arielle from her ...
Oct 26, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Ep 259•Transcript available on Metacast Taylor and Andrew... Wow, we love this conversation. They have been together for 13 years, married for 9, and have only been exploring ethical non-monogamy for a few months. Non-monogamy came up right around the time their son turned two and Taylor realized she had no idea who she was. She describes it as an identity crisis that lead her to becoming resentful of her husband and son. Then her and Andrew teamed up and dug in together researching and finding ways to support, repair, and connect wit...
Oct 19, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Ep 258•Transcript available on Metacast Gabrielle is back! It's been just over 100 episodes since we talked to her last on episode 151 ... You definitely don't have to listen to that episode to get a TON out of this one. She catches you up pretty quick and then we hit the ground running. Just a reminder... Gabrielle is solo poly and has been exploring non-monogamy for a few years. She takes us on a journey of how things have changed in her relationships and life as the pandemic has been shifting. We also talk about jealousy, anxiety, ...
Oct 12, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep 257•Transcript available on Metacast CC and Steve are back! We first talked to them way back on episode 84 ! They're in their early fifties and have been together for over thirty years. They have a mismatch in libido, CC loves exhibitionism, and wouldn't you know it, Steve loves being a voyeur! They discovered this a few years ago and began exploring a hotwife dynamic together. In fact, we would say it's probably the "purest" form of hotwifing we've ever seen. At the same time, it's about way more than just the sex... We have a won...
Oct 05, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep 256•Transcript available on Metacast Eka is from Portugal and is an AMAZING storyteller! This interview is really much better described as Eka sharing her life story with us and it is beautiful. She's in her mid-thirties and has been exploring ethical non-monogamy for over a decade. She has also just welcomed a new baby into her life! This conversation covers so many incredible topics, but the overall takeaway is to embrace life... We have no idea what's coming our way. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Live it! Check out the full show notes h...
Sep 28, 2022•2 hr 31 min•Ep 255•Transcript available on Metacast This episode is a behind-the-scenes conversation with our friend and host of the Podcast Growth Hacks podcast, Pat Cheung, about how we built our podcast and community from scratch. We share pretty much everything from our stats to our income. Podcasting is an infinite game for us. . . We're not trying to beat anyone or take over. The more eyes we can open to the world of ethical non-monogamy and sex-positivity, the better. The more people we can help create meaningful and positive content in th...
Sep 23, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Ep 10209•Transcript available on Metacast Jace has been out as a trans man for about a decade and exploring polyamory since right after he graduated high school roughly seven years ago. He's currently in a long-term nesting relationship with his two husbands and exploring a bit of dating on occasion as well. He sort of stumbled into polyamory without a framework and has been learning it as he goes. We have a wonderful conversation about his journey not only in polyamory, but in coming out as trans. Like many of us, personal growth and u...
Sep 21, 2022•1 hr•Ep 254•Transcript available on Metacast Yana has been exploring non-monogamous relationship structures for over a decade and describes herself as solo poly in which her primary relationship is with her three year old son. She's also been in a relationship with a couple for over five years, designed a beautiful co-parent relationship, has some girlfriends, and perhaps a few other people in her orbit. Our conversation covers a lot of ground from hard lessons she's learned along the way to a wonderful conversation on the beauty and chall...
Sep 14, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 253•Transcript available on Metacast