A woman and her husband have quit drinking. Hooray! But now that hes sober he no longer feels comfortable getting pegged. Boo! How can he lower his inhibitions without the liquid courage? Dan chats with a woman who finally convinced her boyfriend to tell her about his secret, deep, dark, unrealizable fantasy. She and Dan problem-solve how to make it all work for him. Lucky lad On the Magnum, just when you thought Pride month couldnt get any gayer, Dan chats with Manuel Betancourt, author of The ...
Jun 27, 2023•47 min•Ep 871•Transcript available on Metacast Ah. The old jiz-on-the-couch problem. This time its a 13 year-old boy just learning about the wonders of his youthful body. His mother wishes he would learn about socks and tissues. Weve been hearing the word narcissistic hurled at exes a lot these days. But it is a genuine psychiatric disorder, and a rare one. Dan chats with Rebecca Fishbein who wrote an article in Bustle about therapy-speak and how its been weaponized lately. On the Magnum, Dan brings back sociology professor Dr. Kelsy Burke t...
Jun 20, 2023•48 min•Ep 870•Transcript available on Metacast They are a butch, gender-queer AFAB, kinky pervert. As such, they love going to sex parties. Their boyfriend meanwhile, is straight, vanilla and family oriented. Their relationship is open, and hes found a lass he wants to bone down with. But the caller doesnt want him to! Its a complicated situation, and Dan is here to help. Next up, Dan chats with a caller whose new dom demands that she shave off all her body hair for an erotic inspection. But shes a feminist and has issues with this request. ...
Jun 13, 2023•55 min•Ep 869•Transcript available on Metacast A straight man detests condoms with all his heart. Even the thought of putting on one of those rubbers makes him deflate like the ears on a 2-day-old balloon rabbit. Is this a fetish of some kind? It prevents him from having sex and its bumming him out. There seems to be a fair bit of confusion about silicone sex toys and lube. Can silicone lube harm silicone sex toys? Or do they love each other so much? Dan hops on the phone with Searah Deysach from Chicagos Early to Bed sex toy store, to set t...
Jun 06, 2023•52 min•Ep 868•Transcript available on Metacast A woman feels guilty that shes only interested in tall men. How can she weed out the little fellas? Our guest this week is author Matt Baume, to discuss his fantastic book Hi Honey, Im Homo, which looks at queer history through the lens of old TV shows. Shows like Soap, Bewitched and All in the Family grappled with gayness in secret and overt ways that reflect the historical context of when they aired. And because this is the Savage Lovecast, Dan makes Matt answer a question about fucking trees....
May 30, 2023•52 min•Ep 867•Transcript available on Metacast A gay man is simultaneously weirded out and turned on by using the word daddy with his boyfriend. Should he stop immediately? A womans husband cheated on her and it breaks her heart. She cant divorce him because she would get deported. How can she stay married and stay sane for the next three years when she can become a legal citizen? On the Magnum, we take a deep dive into the freaky, freaky world of the animal kingdom with zoologist and best-selling author Lucy Cooke. Her book Bitch: On the Fe...
May 23, 2023•48 min•Ep 866•Transcript available on Metacast A small time influencer has just been propositioned by an aspiring pay pig asking her to be his findom. He backed up this offer with $5 for coffee. Enticing! Should she do it? And if so, what are the rules in keeping the relationship lucrative and ethical? The other day? This guy was wanking? And guess what came out of his wiener along with the usual stuffBlood! This call is disgusting. But Dan answers it, and manages to make it even grosser. On the Magnum, uh oh! Its time for a Second Opinion. ...
May 16, 2023•49 min•Ep 865•Transcript available on Metacast A woman suddenly started having orgasms while using the elliptical machine at the gym. To help explain this potentially embarrassing phenomenon, Dan brings on Dr. Debby Herbenick, author of The Coregasm Workout: The Revolutionary Method for Better Sex Through Exercise. And you now have a new goal. A dom woman and her bi male sub are having a trouble trying to find a male unicorn. They have time constraints, and they live in a suburb, not a city. The guys they meet either cant get it up, or ghost...
May 09, 2023•56 min•Ep 864•Transcript available on Metacast A very vanilla woman is so vanilla that she doesnt know what a kink is. Thats really vanilla! Heres a complicated three-way situation: He is the top with his husband. But he is the sub for his Dom boyfriend. When the three get together, who does what? On the Magnum we welcome back Dr. Carlton Thomas, the intrepid gastroenterologist who fears no anal sex question. Example! One caller wants his butt to feel raw from rough use. Then, a woman wants to stretch her asshole for her boyfriend and wonder...
May 02, 2023•49 min•Ep 863•Transcript available on Metacast A gay man living in the south is having a heckuva time trying to find a trans man to hook up with. Also he doesnt want to come across as a chaser Hear the unpleasant tale of the careless, selfish dom who boxed his lover on the ears twice (after being told not to) and took some non-consensual pics as well. You hate to see it. On the Magnum, Dan brings on non-binary the comedian Mae Martin. They talk about the gender thing - gender fluidity, top surgery, the difference between sex and gender, neo-...
Apr 25, 2023•47 min•Ep 862•Transcript available on Metacast Is it feasible to start your pro-Domme career at age 43? This married woman with kids wants to get back in the life. A lesbian is married to a woman with a Catholic upbringing and actively religious family. They live in a country where they have to pay dues to the church. When her wife goes to Catholic ceremonies like baptisms and funerals, the caller feels white hot fury. Should she let her wife go with the conservative flow, or fight it? Dans answermay shock you. On the Magnum, Dan chats with ...
Apr 18, 2023•57 min•Ep 861•Transcript available on Metacast A theme emerges! Sadly, the theme is seeing your dads dick. Would you be able to pick out your dads dick in a dick line-up? No, you would not. A womans brother is about to do time for pedophilia. Compounding the tragedies here, the caller has lost all sense of her own sexuality due to her brothers crimes. How can she get back to herself? On the Magnum, Dan chats with artist, writer and gay activist Leo Herrera on gay men using words like pussyand mangina to refer to their butts. They also get in...
Apr 11, 2023•54 min•Ep 860•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever been to a terribly complicated orgy? This one promises to be epic. Hear about the game they invented called Spin the Bottom. A trans woman has started feeling claustrophobic when she goes down on either her male or female partner. Oral is her favorite! What gives? On the Magnum and the Micro, Dan welcomes professor and sex researcher Dr. Lori Botto to talk about the nature of asexuality. Is it mutable? Can you be in a relationship if youre ace? On the Magnum, Mistress Matisse is ba...
Apr 04, 2023•54 min•Ep 859•Transcript available on Metacast A special bonus podcast just for you.
Apr 01, 2023•27 min•Ep 858•Transcript available on Metacast A couple with adult children want to start using apps together. The kids know their mom is bi, but they dont know about the open relationship. What happens if their kid sees them on one of the apps? Some people need sexy costumes for their scene. Some people need toys or bondage gear. This lady needs a large quantity of blood. On the Magnum, have you ever thought about how awkward it would be to have to act in a sex scene? Dan brings on Intimacy Coordinator Jessica Steinrock to explain her profe...
Mar 28, 2023•53 min•Ep 857•Transcript available on Metacast What is up with using the word cuck as an insult? Has it replaced faggot as the slur of choice? A man has been dating a woman for a few months. He feels they could have long term potential, even with the possibility of children. But! He doesnt feel a chemical attraction to her pussy like he does with other women. How ill does this bode? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Paul Scheer-actor, comedian and host of the film podcast Unspooled, about the Oscars, belly fetishes, noisy sex and what its like t...
Mar 21, 2023•54 min•Ep 856•Transcript available on Metacast For the stout of heart, if you dare, hear the tale of shibari bondage gone wrong. A woman had a nice date with a man she suspects is very short. Then he kind of ghosted her. Should she tell him that she doesnt care about his height? Drag mega-star Jinkx Monsoon joins Dan in a righteous rant against red state politicians cynical attacks on drag performance and trans people. And they call out the silence from high profile straight allies who have been profiting off drag for years. Some of this fie...
Mar 14, 2023•56 min•Ep 855•Transcript available on Metacast A woman masturbates in her sleep. Although shes currently single, she worries about times when she has to share a room with family or friends. Should she warn them? A womans sister plans to gallivant off to Texas to meet an online lover for the first time, on his rural cattle ranch, for some no-strings-attached BDSM sex. What could go wrong? The caller plans to slip an air tag in her luggage, and hope for the best. On the Magnum, Dan brings back anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein. In his practice a...
Mar 07, 2023•53 min•Ep 854•Transcript available on Metacast Ok, lets say you dont drink alcohol. But you do drink piss, right? If your lover drank a bunch of beer and then you drank his piss, did you just drink alcohol? A woman had an affair with a man she had been very close friends with. His wife found out, and it all blew up. He asked to cut off all contact while he fixed things with his wife. She just learned that he has cancer, and the caller wonders if she can reach out to him now. Heart-breaking! On the Magnum, Dan enlists the help of sex and cult...
Feb 28, 2023•51 min•Ep 853•Transcript available on Metacast How do you organize a sex party with your pals- without it being awkward? Meanwhile, a woman asked her male friend to join her at a swingers hotel takeover. But she has a crush on him, and now regrets asking him to go. Should she bow out? On the Magnum, sometimes you need a pelvic floor specialist, am I right? Dan revisits the question of the man who asked if he should surprise his wife with a vibrator after she gave birth, to try to rekindle her sexual desire. Dr. Rachel Gelman, pelvic floor sp...
Feb 21, 2023•49 min•Ep 852•Transcript available on Metacast A woman has been with her boyfriend for 4 years. He is so wonderful! Buthe doesnt bother to give her orgasms. He has all the orgasms! As many as he wants. Orgasm, orgasm, orgasm. He wont do anything to get her there. Has she talked to him about this? Yes! She has! He doesnt care. Happy Valentines Day. Heres the reason you listen to the show. A man ordered a butt plug, but it arrived broken in two pieces. The question? What kind of glue should he use to fuse it back together? On the Magnum, Dan c...
Feb 14, 2023•54 min•Ep 851•Transcript available on Metacast Your place or mine? A recently divorced woman wants to sleep around. Is it safer to havemen come to her house, or should she go to theirs? A married man remembers a fling he had decades ago. But its a bit of a blur. They were drinking, but he vaguely remembers not wearing a condom. As she was cheating on her boyfriend at the time, she asked him to cut off contact afterward, which he happily obliged. But now he wonders if he possibly could be the father of her (now adult) child. And if so, should...
Feb 07, 2023•55 min•Ep 850•Transcript available on Metacast A tortured, indecisive woman is on the fence about whether to continue her relationship with her husband of 11 years. Every day she wakes up wondering, Is this right? Is this normal? Hear the cautionary tale of the professional cuddler in an ethically non-monogamous relationship with a would-be dom and his much, much younger co-worker. Your life will suddenly feel manageable. On the Magnum, RIVAL relationship advice maven Damona Hoffman from the Dates & Mates podcast is on to swap strategies. Wh...
Jan 31, 2023•50 min•Ep 849•Transcript available on Metacast A man wants to partake in some orgies with his girlfriend. But he loses his erection when there are other men in the room. How can he teach his boner to come out and play? Meanwhile, a man in a 6-year relationship hasnt had sex in the past 3 years because his girlfriend just doesnt wanna anymore. Theyve talked and talked and talked. Is it worth going to couple counseling to try to work it out? On the Magnum, how can you turn your vanilla man into a dom? Naturally, Dan brings in the ultimate expe...
Jan 24, 2023•53 min•Ep 848•Transcript available on Metacast A woman remembers with shame how she reacted when her then-boyfriend came out to her as bisexual. She hasnt talked to him in 9 years and wants to apologize. Should she? How? For you sci-fi pervs, what happens to the eggs that get deposited with an ovipositor dildo? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Samantha Cole, senior editor for Vice Media, about her new book How Sex Changed The Internet And The Internet Changed Sex. They discuss ancient history of the internet, how furries built the web, Fosta/Se...
Jan 17, 2023•47 min•Ep 847•Transcript available on Metacast A woman is head over heels in love with her new boyfriend. He is a cross-dresser and they both enjoy exploring this kink together. The problem? He isnt interested in having sex with her and its shredding her self confidence. A man is seeing two women in a poly triad. The second woman struggles to feel included and incorporated in the couples life but they make it work. But it all falls apart when time of the month rolls around, and then she becomes unkind, needy and too demanding for the caller....
Jan 10, 2023•46 min•Ep 846•Transcript available on Metacast Happy New Year dear listeners! Things are starting off great! A listener discovered an old journal left behind from her newly ex-boyfriend. It contained erotic fantasies about a previous girlfriendsdaughters. So, the conundrum: Should the caller tell his ex about his written fantasies? Should she burn it and forget the whole thing? Or calmly hand it back, looking him squarely in the eye? Dan couldnt resist chatting with porn star Leo Louis because he digs guys who look like Janice from the Muppe...
Jan 03, 2023•52 min•Ep 845•Transcript available on Metacast A trans man has heard that desperate straight men have been scouring Grindr looking for trans men because they will accept any vagina at all. Is it true? How can he weed out these unscrupulous, horny cads? As a woman from Texas was researching how to obtain a medical abortion, a scammy, stealth anti-abortion pregnancy crisis counseling clinic came up on Google. And even worse, its the center where her mother works. Now the caller doesnt know whether to tell her mother she had the abortion, or ho...
Dec 27, 2022•51 min•Ep 844•Transcript available on Metacast A short man who is newly returned to the dating world finds his height is disqualifying him from a lot of women. Does this happen in gayland? A 39 year-old straight man just can't keep an erection when he's wearing a condom? How common is this condom conundrum? On the Magnum, comedian Matteo Lane DARED to start an advice segment in his comedy routine. Dan drags him on the show to test his advice-giving chops, and to talk about sleeping with homophobes, and being monogamous under duress. And, its...
Dec 20, 2022•49 min•Ep 843•Transcript available on Metacast A GGG wife wants to give her man the thing he most wants: his tongue in her ass. But shes so ding-dang ticklish down there, its a no go! How can she learn to suppress her (not sexy) giggles? A former stripper now has a straight job. But her co-workers are a nest of slut-shaming, sex-negative, misogynistic vipers who dont know that she did sex work before. Should she keep her mouth shut, or tell them off? On the Magnum we are always so happy to bring on our favorite sex toy expert- cartoonist Eri...
Dec 13, 2022•54 min•Ep 842•Transcript available on Metacast 
