A gay man's best friend has such a devastating crush on him, that they can't be friends anymore. The caller begged him to try to get over it. But crushes are crushing. Is there anything this (platonically) jilted caller can do? Here's the scenario: A straight, divorced woman starting dating a *wonderful* man, and they started seeing each other exclusively. He really is spectacular. But then she received a message on Instagram from a woman claiming to be his other girlfriend, who also thinks she'...
Jan 16, 2024•55 min•Ep 899•Transcript available on Metacast Happy Feast of the Ass for all who celebrate! A gay man is fed up with the guys who try to use the gym as their personal hook-up site. When the leering moves into harassment, should he tell management? Or is this just to be expected in gay male spaces? A recently divorced straight man is hot to trot. He dates casually, but catches feelings so soon, that he scares off the women. How can he learn to take it slow? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome Damona Hoffman back to the show. Listen in...
Jan 09, 2024•52 min•Ep 898•Transcript available on Metacast A German lesbian was propositioned by a younger grad student. (This sounds like a porno but it's not.) Thegrad student was raised in a conservative environment, and it's the first time she's ever spoken of her female attraction. They only have a month before they both move away. Should the caller get down with the girl or restrain herself? In a very different call, a gay man has applied for a job at the church he used to volunteer for when he was much younger. Why did he quit, you ask? The clerg...
Jan 02, 2024•48 min•Ep 897•Transcript available on Metacast A lesbian has a terrible bullshit detector. She keeps falling for lies and getting conned. How can our credulous heroine protect herself from lying liars? A man and his ex- girlfriend are utterly estranged. She has cut off all contact from him. But he noticed that she is still using his Netflix password. What's more, he can see what she's watching and when. He doesn't mind letting her mooch off his subscription, but it feels like an invasion of her privacy to see what she's viewing. His question...
Dec 26, 2023•50 min•Ep 896•Transcript available on Metacast For this very special Sex & Politics, we invite you to leave your earthly cares behind and explore with us what sex would be like...in space! It turns out, it will be terrible. Dr. Kelly and Zach Weinersmith, authors of "A City on Mars," are on to talk about the difficult logistics of both recreational and procreational sex on Mars. Learn about a sex test using geckos, the "snuggle tunnel,"and, how we must use the "rocket equation" to answer Dan's question: "How far can you shoot a load in space...
Dec 21, 2023•53 min•Ep 25•Transcript available on Metacast Dick pic backfire! When a woman received an image of her sexting partner's wiener, she was distressed to see small white bumps adorning his penis. Could it be HPV? That's bad, right? Should she tell him? Does he know already? Ah, the folks you'll meet online...A woman connected with a man via Tinder who claimed to have regular vacation sex with his mother. She then found a Reddit community full of folks all claiming the same thing. Is this real? Do we have to date men who have sex with their mot...
Dec 19, 2023•46 min•Ep 895•Transcript available on Metacast A married gay man endured a sexless relationship for 10 long years... until he didn't. After cheating, he is getting a divorce. But now the caller feels villainized, as his ex-husband spins the story out to their friends. How can he avoid being painted as the bad guy? A dad just got a delicious Prince Albert piercing. How can he explain this new jewelry when his young son sees it? On the Magnum: when your career focuses on education around sexually transmitted infections, you are a very busy lad...
Dec 12, 2023•50 min•Ep 894•Transcript available on Metacast When drunk friends pounce! A happily married, monogamous man went to a concert with his gal pal. But she arrived so drunk, staggering around and embarrassing herself, that he had to bundle her in a car and get her home. But she made sloppy moves on him, and although it's been a long time, he can't let it go or fully forgive her. Should he confront her? Will she even remember? A man has been hanging out with and flirting with a woman, letting the sexual tension build. But he and his ex are beginn...
Dec 05, 2023•53 min•Ep 893•Transcript available on Metacast When telling a hook-up that you don't want to continue seeing them, how much detail should you give? A woman enjoyed the sex with her quickie guy, but he was too insecure and needy for her tastes. Should she tell him this in the exit interview? A lesbian was terribly bullied in school by three mean girls. She moved to Europe, came out and got her life together. One of the mean girls has been messaging her and flirting, asking her out for drinks for when she visits. So, to put it bluntly, should ...
Nov 28, 2023•47 min•Ep 892•Transcript available on Metacast A pansexual woman and her new lover got an unpleasant surprise...gonorrhea! But nothing makes sense. They had both tested negative and he claimed he wasn't sleeping with anyone else. Did she get it from her sex toys? What happened here? A woman was messing around with a married man for a while. He always closed his eyes during sex, and never wanted her to talk. He even covered her mouth once when she tried to speak. She broke it off, but wonders what was going on in his tortured mind. On the Mag...
Nov 21, 2023•50 min•Ep 891•Transcript available on Metacast Cock blocked...by his own sister?! A man and his sister are very close, living in the same town. He developed a crush on one of her friends, but she forbade him from asking her out. The sister used to date his friends now and again, which he encouraged. Should he risk angering his sister and ask the girl out already? A woman is interested in trying anal sex. Does she have to change her diet in order to prepare for the big night? On the Magnum, feel like throwing a party? How about a SEX PARTY? D...
Nov 14, 2023•47 min•Ep 890•Transcript available on Metacast A midwife has recently learned that people who were born with a tongue-tie might have trouble giving oral sex later in life. Should she advise new parents to get their newborns surgery on their itty-bitty little baby tongues? A woman has started crying during sex, and not the joyful release kind of crying. She has no history of trauma or abuse. So why does sex bring on such unhappy feelings? On the Magnum, musical theater nerds rejoice! This one's for you. Dan brings on writer and actress Julie ...
Nov 07, 2023•45 min•Ep 889•Transcript available on Metacast A woman's casual partner like to sext her before they meet up. He tends to obsess over the things she's told him she won't do. Is he pushing her boundaries intentionally, trying to get to "Yes," or is he just fantasizing? In any case she wishes he would knock it off. A gay man wonders if it's ok to take performance enhancing drugs so he can accommodate the horny twinks in his dungeon. On the Magnum, Dan chats with TikTok dreamboat Connor Clary from the Five Star Review podcast. There's nothing C...
Oct 31, 2023•47 min•Ep 888•Transcript available on Metacast Is there a homo bro code? A man hooked up with his casual boyfriends roommate. Then the boyfriend moved away and they broke up peacefully. Now the caller is worried about resuming his hook-ups with the roommate for fear his exs friends will find out and revolt. Does this happen in gayland? A woman is willing to indulge in hot-wifing to please her husband. She met a new guy, but finds she gets so worked up and horny that it eats up all the headspace in her already busy life. How can she learn to ...
Oct 24, 2023•45 min•Ep 887•Transcript available on Metacast A masochistic woman is happily paired with her sadist. They both love it when he bites her. But lately, shes become more sensitive, maybe because she stopped taking hormonal birth control. In the past few sessions, she had to use her safe word and hes beginning to sulk. How can they get back to the rough love bites they both crave? 33 eggs: Thats how many of a womans eggs are sitting in a test tube somewhere, awaiting fertilization. She is in her mid 30s, and is about to marry her 42 year-old bo...
Oct 17, 2023•46 min•Ep 886•Transcript available on Metacast A mans dad is deeply, absurdly closeted. He has been married to the callers mother for decades, but could never admit the truth. Now the callers mom has dementia and angrily brings it up to shame her husband in front of her sons. Should the caller tell his dad that he knows hes gay? Should he tell his mother to stop being so cruel? Hear the agonizing tale of the woman whose boyfriend of 3 months ghosted her without explanation. Spooky. Our Magnum guest this week is Bryan Safi from the Attitudes ...
Oct 10, 2023•43 min•Ep 885•Transcript available on Metacast A man has discovered his love for wearing feminine clothing. His friends and fianc are all supportive. But his brother- not so much. Should the caller just expect to move through the world offending people with his unconventional dress? A gay transman has started having kinky hookups. Although he doesnt want the intimacy associated with after-care he does need a little TLC after the more rough encounters. How can he give that to himself? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with infectious disease speciali...
Oct 03, 2023•46 min•Ep 884•Transcript available on Metacast A 24 year-old single woman wants to learn how to perform dirty talk, but she has no one to practice on. How can she learn the dark art? A woman is newly out of her bad relationship, and into a joyful era of slutting around. Shes happy as a clam, but when her parents ask about her love life, they treat her like a sad spinster. How can she explain that shes doing JUST FINE without going into too much detail? On the Magnum, have you heard of the movie Caligula? It was a 1979 film produced by Pentho...
Sep 26, 2023•41 min•Ep 883•Transcript available on Metacast We start the show with two ass-tastic calls! A domme woman has a pet boy who wants to eat things out of her butt. He suggests licorice. Any ideas for safe food items to be served out the back? And, another woman jokingly asked her husband to eat the dried mango slices he so adores off her ass. When he complied, she discovered that she really, really liked it. How can she get him to keep doing it, even though she knows its terribly weird? A lovely, curvy woman in Paris cant find men to date her b...
Sep 19, 2023•44 min•Ep 882•Transcript available on Metacast A woman is enjoying a new friends-with-benefits relationship. She booked them an airBnB, but he had to cancel because his mother had a stroke. Now she feels insecure about him. Should she keep reaching out to try to make the tryst happen? Or wait and give him space? Is he lying about his mother? A sub, masochist woman is into intense head-trips with her dom online-only play partner. He went too far into violent story-telling until she had to end the session. He responded kindly and appropriately...
Sep 12, 2023•52 min•Ep 881•Transcript available on Metacast We open the show with two questions from people who think they are aromantic. One of them is a woman with two sweet boyfriends, but worries shes not giving each of them what they deserve. The other is a gay man who has never felt the jolt and tingle of new love. Will he ever be swept off his feet? Our caller is starting a female-only book club reading works by, for and about women. A male friend of hers offered to be their naked servant, making drinks and offering snacks to the clothed attendees...
Sep 05, 2023•50 min•Ep 880•Transcript available on Metacast A transman is under deep cover in his hostile, misogynistic, anti-queer work environment. And whats more, one of his co-workers is probably a closet case who has a crush on the caller! Complicated! Dangerous! A straight man has become dependent on anal sex in order to come. Did porn hijack his erotic life? His previous girlfriend was into it, but how can he find another willing partner? On the Magnum, Dan brings on Sex Therapist Claire Perelman to talk about some of the problems that plague coup...
Aug 29, 2023•51 min•Ep 879•Transcript available on Metacast Son, Im open. A gay man has a great relationship with his son. They hang out together, and the son drops by all the time. The caller has a boyfriend who also get along with his son. But what the son doesnt know, is that they have an open relationship, so sometimes the caller welcomes other men into his house. What if his son drops by then? Should he explain his open relationship ahead of time? A womans boyfriend proposed to her in a public, grand gesture. She hated it. They had never discussed m...
Aug 22, 2023•55 min•Ep 878•Transcript available on Metacast A woman hooked up with a seemingly nice guy. She asked him to wear a condom, and he said he did. But after he left, she couldnt find evidence of the condom- no wrapper, nothing. Did he stealth her? Should she call him and ask? Ureaplasma: Whats this fresh new STI? Dan is stumped, so he brings on Dr. Ina Park, his go-to expert on sexually transmitted diseases. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Shallelujah the twitch streamer with a sexy, sexy voice. They talk about parlaying a great voice (and mic) i...
Aug 15, 2023•56 min•Ep 877•Transcript available on Metacast Oh Lordy, hear the tale of the twisted teen! Hes been sneaking into neighbors houses and stealing their sex toys, including some from elderly women. How dangerous is this kid? Should someone call the cops? How can his long-suffering mother correct him and end this behavior? What do you do when youre disgusted by your girlfriend squirting? What do you do when youre repulsed by your boyfriend coming in your mouth? Two separate calls, one conundrum. On the Magnum, Dan and Atlantic writer Faith Hill...
Aug 08, 2023•52 min•Ep 876•Transcript available on Metacast Goodbye son, Im off to Kink Camp! A gay callers dad got divorced, came out as poly, and wont shut up about it. He introduces the caller to all the girlfriends and brags about his various exploits. Our poor caller doesnt want to hear the various details. How can he set some reasonable boundaries with his horndog dad? A womans spiritual leader is a Buddhist who leads meditation and holds counseling sessions. Hes 20 years her senior, and she thinks hes kind of hot. He sent her some photos of a burl...
Aug 01, 2023•53 min•Ep 875•Transcript available on Metacast When it comes to love, never ever give up. Unless you really, really should. A woman has been crushed out on her best friend for years. Each time she asks if he feels the same, he gives her an unequivocal No. Should she keep pestering him? Continuing in the theme of delusions, a caller heard that semen can prevent hair loss, and anecdotally noticed that his stomach does have quite a lot of hair, right on the target. Dear listeners, hes been rubbing his own spunk on his head. Will it work? Dan en...
Jul 25, 2023•53 min•Ep 874•Transcript available on Metacast See you next week on July 25!
Jul 18, 2023•38 sec•Transcript available on Metacast Every day a certain number of people learn about sounding. Our first call is from one of these people and he has some questions. Are you next? Listen in. A woman with chronic illness and pain has a calm, pragmatic attitude about her condition. But how can she roll this out to new partners, and when? On the Magnum, do you have a dick, or love someone who has one? Then this is the show for you! Dr. Ashley Winter, our urologist pal is on (with her newborn baby occasionally chiming in,) to answer so...
Jul 11, 2023•57 min•Ep 873•Transcript available on Metacast Happy birthday America, damn youre kinky! This weeks show features a ton of calls by the kinky, those who love them, or those who are considering becoming them. Lets dive in. A woman and her bestie are no longer speaking to each other. Why? Because she refuses to help change out the callers labia piercing jewelry. A switch woman (she can either be the dom or sub,) isnt into humiliation. But all her partners assume she is or try to push her into it. How can she be clear about this simple hard no?...
Jul 04, 2023•53 min•Ep 872•Transcript available on Metacast 
