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Is your trauma consuming you?
Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression?
Are you struggling to stop negative self talk?
Do you have past hurts that still haunts you?
Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship?
Do you have past hurts that still haunts you?
In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place!
Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you!
If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you!
Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing!
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Is your relationship in danger of failing? Researcher John Gottman is known for his ability to predict the end of a relationship with over 90% accuracy. He was able to identify specific negative communication patterns that predict divorce, which he names The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. 1. Criticism, 2. Contempt, 3. Defensiveness, and 4. Stonewalling. In this podcast we will explain what these 4 problematic behaviors look like and discuss what to do instead, to avoid the impending DOOM! **Join ...
Dec 06, 2022•20 min•Transcript available on Metacast
When you're in conflict what do you do when your conversation goes sideways? PAUSE! In this podcast we discuss how to take a pause and step back and allow your emotions to calm down in the midst of difficult conversations and conflict. No really your brain can't handle it, you need this tool! We discuss the biology of anger and how it affects your brain and why it can make it so difficult for you to manage the conversation when you get upset. **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>...
Dec 01, 2022•16 min•Transcript available on Metacast
Often we get into unhealthy cycles that are difficult to change. Are you always chasing your spouse to talk about problems? Or maybe you are the one that is always running away from talking about problems from your spouse? In this podcast we will walk you through the Pursuer Distancer Relationship and how to change it! **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purpo...
Nov 29, 2022•19 min•Transcript available on Metacast
The holidays can be a rough time for many people, for different reasons. In today's podcast we discuss 10 tips that will help you to survive, and thrive as we enter into the holiday season. **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional h...
Nov 22, 2022•21 min•Transcript available on Metacast
What we think and what we say has a great influence on the world around you. In this podcast we will discuss 3 different studies that talk about the effect that our beliefs and even our statements have on outcomes. The first study we talk about is the Blue Eyed vs. Brown Eyed Study. In this experiment a teacher tells her students that the blue eyed students were found to be more intelligent and she gave them exams. The next day she exclaimed that she had made a mistake and it actually was the br...
Nov 17, 2022•18 min•Transcript available on Metacast
We are not trying to hurt your feelings I promise! But we are willing to hurt them to tell you the truth. Your kids should not be the most important relationship in your life. Your spouse should be. The most important thing you can do for your children is to have a solid marriage. By every metric kids perform better when there is a healthy couple in the house that is raising them. Please listen and reshape your priorities for your kids and your marriage! **Join us over at our Facebook Community ...
Nov 15, 2022•11 min•Transcript available on Metacast
Ok ok ok, so you have been listening and you realize that you need therapy and are ready to jump in...What now!?!?! "How do I wade through the mire and muck to find a therapist that can help me with what I am looking for?" Do not despair! In this episode we discuss a few types of therapy models, some questions to ask your prospective therapist, and we give you a few tips that will help you find the right therapist for you! We'd love to hear from you! Join our Facebook group - Mr. and Mrs. Therap...
Nov 10, 2022•15 min•Transcript available on Metacast
If you are struggling to communicate with your spouse and you feel like the difficult conversations frequently go sideways, this is the podcast for you! Listen in as we teach you a practical tool that can help you have conversations that help resolve conflicts rather than just sending you into another conflict cycle. L = Listen U = Understand V = Validate When Your partner is talking, you will practice L. U. V. on them. Speaker's responsibility- keep it to one laser focused subject at a time and...
Nov 08, 2022•29 min•Transcript available on Metacast
In this episode we continue with Part 2 of Stephanie Reed's powerful story. After struggling with infertility, Stephanie unexpectedly lost her husband Steve in a tragic accident just months before giving birth to their daughter whom they had together waited and prayed for. Stephanie openly shares her experience with grief and loss and the healing that she has experienced. Other Episodes You May Like: Ep. 12 - Grief - Stephanie’s Powerful Story of Loss & Healing(Part 1) Ep. 11 - The Stages of...
Nov 03, 2022•45 min•Transcript available on Metacast
In today's episode join us as we hear Part 1 of Stephanie Reed's powerful story. After struggling with infertility, Stephanie unexpectedly lost her husband Steve in a tragic accident just months before giving birth to their daughter whom they had together waited and prayed for. Stephanie openly shares her experience with grief and loss and the healing that she has experienced. Related Episodes You May Like: Ep. 11 - The Stages of Grief Ep. 13 - Grief - Stephanie’s Powerful Story of Loss and Heal...
Nov 01, 2022•50 min•Transcript available on Metacast
Grief is often a painful and intimidating subject for people to address. The feelings that they bring up can be overwhelming and cause you to want to run and hide, or maybe even pretend that it's not there. In this episode we help you to better understand what the stages of grief are and to normalize your feelings and experiences. First, let's address that grief is not synonymous solely with death, but rather with loss. What kind of loss have you experienced lately? Loss of trust? Loss of respec...
Oct 27, 2022•25 min•Transcript available on Metacast
Boundaries! Many people struggle with knowing what are appropriate boundaries and when to implement them. If you struggle with boundaries, the idea of saying "no" to someone will probably make you cringe, however, if you would like to feel less stressed and less burn out, learning to say "no" more often is the exact prescription that you need. In today's episode we introduce the basics of boundaries and how those who have good boundaries are often happier and more loving. We give 10 examples of ...
Oct 25, 2022•23 min•Transcript available on Metacast
Today is the final part of our EMDR series where we will share how EMDR helped Tim become Tim 2.0 and now even Tim 6.0. EMDR is one of the few things that sounds too good to be true, but isn't. Listening to his story might help you understand how EMDR can help you improve and see significant growth in your daily life even based off of correcting "little t" traumas or disturbances. For more information on EMDR: YouTube video: Timothy Olson EMDR- https://youtu.be/icn-FnZpWeM Book: "Getting Past Yo...
Oct 20, 2022•16 min•Transcript available on Metacast
This is Part 2 of our 3 part EMDR series. In the last episode we introduced the basics of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Today we'll use a quick example of how EMDR helped our 7 year old daughter increase her confidence and improve her ability to handle difficult situations. **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com Related Episodes You May Like: Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the B...
Oct 18, 2022•12 min•Transcript available on Metacast
In our previous episode we talked about trauma and how it can negatively affect you. In this episode we talk about how EMDR can help you resolve trauma. We will introduce you to EMDR which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. We talk about the fundamentals of this technique and how it can help you with things such as PTSD, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and negative thoughts and beliefs, as well as increase your ability to experience happiness and joy. We discuss the 8 ...
Oct 13, 2022•17 min•Transcript available on Metacast
If you don't think trauma has affected your life, listen to this episode and see if it could be disrupting you more than you even realize. In today's episode we'll discuss what trauma is and how trauma affects our brain. We'll also talk about how "disturbing events", although it may not be clinically diagnosed as PTSD or not normally labeled as trauma, could be stored in our body and affecting you in the same way trauma does. Recommended Material: "The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in ...
Oct 11, 2022•15 min•Transcript available on Metacast
Recovering from an affair is an absolutely monumental task. This podcast includes some of the basics to understand when moving through an affair but so much more is required to fully recover. Stay, listen, and be encouraged. There is hope and light at the end of an affair. Next Episode is on Trauma! If you have been through an affair you also have trauma. Related Episodes You May Like: Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My ...
Oct 06, 2022•29 min•Transcript available on Metacast
Steps to Protect your Marriage from an Affair Let us help you avoid the pain and heartbreak of experiencing a relationship after an affair. In this podcast we are going to talk about how to safeguard your relationship from affairs by helping you understand the psychology behind affairs and practical rules and boundaries that you can use as well. In our next episode we will talk about how to Recover from an Affair! Related Episode You May Like: Ep. 5 - Recovering From an Affair **Join us over at ...
Oct 04, 2022•23 min•Transcript available on Metacast
In this episode we use the analogy of a bank and deposits to describe how to keep a healthy relationships with positive actions toward each other. Watch your account levels and don't fall into the RED! Follow along and learn what makes deposits and what withdrawals from your spouses account. **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended...
Sep 27, 2022•15 min•Transcript available on Metacast
In this episode we will explain the Daily Dialogue and how to use this daily/weekly check-in. This is a communication tool that you can use to help you have a more open and connected relationship! We will give you the 3 Questions to ask in your relationship that will help you improve your communication and decrease future conflict. **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com {Disclaimer: This podcast is for inform...
Sep 27, 2022•19 min•Transcript available on Metacast
In this episode we will be explaining how additional stressors have a compounding negative effect. If you are feeling overwhelmed and like you cant keep your head above water this episode is for you. The Emotional Richter Scale will help you to understand your emotions and also learn how to manage them by prioritizing or cutting things out of your life. **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com {Disclaimer: This...
Sep 27, 2022•18 min•Transcript available on Metacast