This week, Ali & Roark chat with Kendra Allen aka Your Break Up Bestie! They talk all about actionable steps to recover from a break up, and they dive into Kendra’s new book, “The Break-Up Workbook.” For example – how to deal with getting your stuff back, cleansing your social media, and whether the no-contact rule is the way to go. Before Kendra joins the pod, Roark shares her great third date, and Ali’s life has taken a real Disney princess turn as birds are literally flocking to her. Time...
Sep 05, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Ep 81•Transcript available on Metacast Did you manifest this episode? Or are you more of a skeptic? Either way, Ali & Roark welcome Haley Hoffman Smith to the podcast to talk all about manifesting. Haley is an author, podcaster, and manifestation coach and breaks down the concepts for Ali, Roark, and the listeners. They learn what exactly manifestation means, discuss all kinds of manifestation basics like how to get started, and Roark shocks Ali by pulling out a vision board! In the Updates section, Roark is really living out som...
Aug 29, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Ep 80•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark are back this week with another career podcast. This week they’re talking about skills that make someone a good manager, how to be intentional in your career, and navigating imposter syndrome. During the Updates section, Roark had a quick catch-up with the Ranger, but also has a new guy which is the most excited she’s been about someone in a while. Ali is back on Bumble with a viral opener with some unintended consequences. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around...
Aug 22, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 79•Transcript available on Metacast It’s a perfect week for a grab bag because Ali & Roark are a little all over the place this week. During Updates, Ali debriefs on the Disco Ball and Roark has a bad date (and the texts to prove it). Then they answer a variety of questions such as double-messaging on dating apps, dating someone who still co-habitates with their ex, how to respond when your new partner “drops a bomb,” and dealing with a bad first kiss. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Grab Bag questions being at around 16:25 If yo...
Aug 15, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep 78•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark take a detour this week away from dating and into careers. They share their very different career paths and start answering some listener questions about finding mentors, asking for a raise, and developing work/life balance. As always, there is way too much to get to so they’ll definitely be doing more career-focused content. Keep the questions coming! In the Updates section, Roark is in love (hyperbolically, of course) and Ali recounts an adventurous date with the Disco Ball. Ti...
Aug 08, 2022•1 hr 28 min•Ep 77•Transcript available on Metacast It’s a Finding Mr. Height first – someone we have dated is on the pod! Ali & Roark welcome the next “30-something man,” who happens to be Mr. Nobody. He answers questions about being friends with exes, date prep, feeling ready for exclusivity, and picking someone up IRL. First, during updates, Roark tells a story about a man from the past who slid into the DMs recently, and Ali shares a story about how the Disco Ball showed up for her. Timestamps: Mr. Nobody joins the pod for a MythBusters a...
Aug 01, 2022•2 hr 35 min•Ep 76•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark return to the topic of bad dates this week. They analyze what a “bad date” even is and how to determine if you're on one, and how to navigate asking for a date to be over, or how to get out a second date you don’t want to go on. In the Updates section, Roark discusses going on Facetime dates versus IRL dates, and Ali discusses her communication cadence with The Disco Ball. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 29:40 If you'd like to hear our personal up...
Jul 25, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep 75•Transcript available on Metacast It’s a super-sized episode this week because Ali & Roark have way too much to talk about with Matchmaker Maria! Maria Avgitidis is the CEO of Agape Match and the host of the “Ask a Matchmaker” podcast. She tells them all about “Maria Math,” the 12-Date “Rule,” and how to embrace a Hoe Phase. All throughout she drops wisdom bombs (and shares some industry gossip along the way!). During their Updates, Roark talks about figuring out vacation plans as a single gal, and RIP Greg. Ali reunited wit...
Jul 18, 2022•2 hr 53 min•Ep 74•Transcript available on Metacast Time to talk about bad dates! We have all had them, and this week, Ali & Roark share their absolute worst date stories (Ali’s is a real doozie). They use their stories to discuss listeners' biggest questions: how do you handle a catfish-lite (someone who hasn’t totally lied, but is using very old pictures); how do you end a date early; and how do you get out of a potentially bad or scary situation? During their Updates, Roark is trying to figure out Greg’s bizarre texting behavior, and A...
Jul 11, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep 73•Transcript available on Metacast Hot Topics are back as Ali & Roark go in depth with three listener questions. During the Updates section, Ali catches listeners up on the Disco Ball and shares a bit of a phone throwing moment; and Roark talks through dealing with a bad texter. Hot Topics include: a guy who calls his ex his “girlfriend” when he tells stories that involve her; whether a listener is being too hard on her cute neighbor’s social media presence; and if a listener is wasting her time with a guy who is on dating ap...
Jul 04, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep 72•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark are joined by the Cancer Fashionista Melissa Berry to start the conversation about two big topics – dating after cancer and dating after 40. They talk about handling life’s major curveballs and busting expectations and societal pressures. Before Melissa joins the show, Roark and Ali give their yin and yang updates – Roark has several first dates and Ali narrows the field. Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 32:00 Where to find Melissa: her website www.cancerfashionista.com, h...
Jun 27, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Ep 71•Transcript available on Metacast The conflict series comes to a close (for now) as Ali & Roark discuss conflict resolution. They discuss defensiveness, saying “sorry,” when to compromise, and using relationship check-ins to keep lines of communication open. During the Updates portion, Roark gets vulnerable when discussing body image, and shares about a new matchmaker date; and Ali gives updates on all three of her irons in the fire! They also read a Phone-Throwing Moment from the audience and have a debate over a very silly...
Jun 20, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep 70•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark are joined by Jillian Richardson to talk about a different type of relationship – friendships! They discuss navigating conflict with friends, how to make new friends, friend “break ups,” and overall celebrate the complexity of female friendships! During Updates, Roark and Ali both have matchmaker dates to recap! Timestamps: Jillian joins the show for a Myth Buster and Topic Talk at around 25:40 Where to find Jillian: at her website www.thatjillian.com and on Instagram @thatjillia...
Jun 13, 2022•1 hr 25 min•Ep 69•Transcript available on Metacast The conflict series has turned into a trilogy – because of course it has. On this episode, Ali & Roark answer questions listeners sent in after the First Conflict One, including: how to make conflict healthier, how to confront “unsolvable” problems, and how to deal with recurring arguments on the same topic. During the Updates portion, Both Ali & Roark read the descriptions of their matchmaker dates and analyze the bios! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 35:00 If y...
Jun 06, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep 68•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark welcome Chi Love to the pod this week! Chi runs her own matchmaking business and is here to answer all our listeners’ questions about how she prioritizes people’s traits and identifies compatible matches, what it means to have “success” as a matchmaker, and how to be your own matchmaker! During the Updates section, Roark talks about an experience that reminds her of SNL’s Stefan sketches, and Ali continues to navigate early dating while being short-term long distance. Timestamps:...
May 30, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep 67•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark discuss conflict this week. First, they discuss when they think it’s worth bringing up a topic that could cause conflict. Then, they focus on how to handle hard conversations like when you feel like you might shut down, what happens if you cry through it, and do you re-open the conversation if you think of something else to say later. They couldn’t cover it all, so more conflict-related topics will be on later episodes. Mention “conflict” in your questions on www.findingmrheight....
May 23, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep 66•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark start a new series this week with their first recurring guest – Roark’s friend Matt! Ask a 30-Something Man will feature different guys in our lives answering your questions. Matt tackles a variety of different questions like what makes a profile “swipe-able,” whether men tend to be intimidated by smart women, and if men want women to offer to pick up the check. During Updates, Ali recounts her visit to DC and Roark talks about Lots of Dogs. Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at aroun...
May 16, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Ep 65•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark have a bit of a reset episode this week. Rather than cover a specific topic, they walk listeners down a dating life memory lane – covering all the major exes that are worthy of a nickname. They hope this will be a good reference episode in case you’ve missed any relationship origin stories. During the Updates section, Roark describes a meh first date, whereas Ali has an excellent one! Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 28:15 If you'd like to hear our personal updates bef...
May 09, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Ep 64•Transcript available on Metacast This week, Ali & Roark have the pleasure of welcoming comedian and podcaster Erica Spera on the podcast. Erica brings her vulnerability and humor to the pod to share her experience dating with herpes, bust herpes myths, and answer listener questions like when and how to disclose with a new partner. Also, Ali has updates galore this week after a weekend in DC and a new (well sorta) guy on the scene. Timestamps: Erica joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 27:35 Where ...
May 02, 2022•1 hr 21 min•Ep 63•Transcript available on Metacast This week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about friends who choose to stay friends with your ex. Then, they tackle a question about disclosing *your own* red flags. And they conclude with a Dating Mythbusters question – do men just decide they’re ready one day? During the Updates portion, Roark accidentally hard launches Lots of Dogs, and Ali has a fabulous date with the Disco Ball! Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 22:00 If you...
Apr 24, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep 62•Transcript available on Metacast She blinded us with science! Ali & Roark are joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf – a psychologist who tells them all about how the brain affects our relationships. The focus of the conversation is closure – what is it, why do we want it, and how can we get – but Abby goes much further and they probably could have talked for hours because she is so darn lovely and interesting. During Updates, Roark recounts an epic Phone Throwing Moment in her friend-group group chat, and Ali goes on a first date and ...
Apr 18, 2022•2 hr 37 min•Ep 61•Transcript available on Metacast The stars align this week as Ali & Roark get to talk to astrologer Aliza Kelly. Aliza has a really interesting and nuanced approach to astrology that has even consummate cynic Roark intrigued. They discuss topics like what does it really mean to have a particular sign? Is your sun sign the be all end all? And should we *really* not date THAT sign (you know which one we mean)? Before Aliza joins the pod, Ali & Roark give some quick updates on the Disco Ball and Lots of Dogs. Timestamps: W...
Apr 11, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep 60•Transcript available on Metacast It’s just Ali & Roark this week as they start a conversation about how to long-distance date. With Ali back from Colombia, the two have a lot to catch up on and they spend more time on updates than usual. Both Ali & Roark had great first dates that they eagerly report. Then, they transition to Topic Talk with a Weird or Nah about starting a relationship while long distance, and Ali tells her story of accidentally ending up in an LDR. They take a few listener questions about how to *date*...
Apr 04, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep 59•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark are joined by Desiree Simone this week to talk about dating after divorce and dating a partner who has kids. As is par for the course, they bite off more than they can chew, and the three mainly discuss dating after divorce. First, Desiree shares her own story. Then, she offers perspective on sharing your divorce story with a new partner, and, if you’re dating someone who is divorced, how to discuss it with them without being invasive. For the first time in a while Ali and Roark ...
Mar 28, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Ep 58•Transcript available on Metacast It has been a minute since Ali & Roark did a Grab Bag episode and they are excited to bring it back! In this round of Grab Bag questions, they tackle dating as an introvert, breaking up with someone you live with, whether an age gap is too much to overcome in dating and many more! But first, it’s the updates - Roark gets Googled before a first date and Ali gets blocked! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 26:30 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else...
Mar 21, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep 57•Transcript available on Metacast This week, Ali & Roark have Meghan Wainwright on the podcast to share her experience being lovebombed. She talks about what it felt like to experience a “whirlwind” romance and the moments that gave her pause and the red flags she should have seen more clearly. And the three discuss how Meghan approaches dating differently now and how to call out a lovebomber. During updates, Roark is looking at her flaws and Ali heard from … the ROWER. Timestamps: Meghan joins the show for Weird or Nah and ...
Mar 14, 2022•1 hr 18 min•Ep 56•Transcript available on Metacast This week, Ali & Roark welcome Gigi Robinson to the pod. Gigi uses social media to talk about mental health, body image, chronic illness – and the intersection of them. The three discuss how to tell others about a chronic illness, how to hype yourself up when your body image isn’t at its best, and how to know you’re “enough.” During Ali & Roark’s updates, Ali tells Roark something that literally makes Roark’s jaw drop. And Roark recaps the end of her Dallas stay. Timestamps: Gigi joins t...
Mar 07, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Ep 55•Transcript available on Metacast The Topic Talk is a little more serious this week as Ali & Roark discuss gaslighting. They analyze how the term has become vastly overused in a way that can sometimes undermine how genuinely serious real gaslighting is. Given this, they largely focus on unintentional gaslighting or gaslighting “moments” – how to spot them and how to call them out. Before Topic Talk, Roark discusses how Dallas dating has reminded her of her standards, and Ali has a new matchmaker date on the horizon. They als...
Feb 28, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep 54•Transcript available on Metacast It’s official – Ali & Roark celebrate one year of podcasting! And funnily enough, their guest this week joins the podcast to talk all about time. Well, timelines, really. Laura Behnke didn’t have a relationship until she was 35, and she comes on the pod to say “who cares” to following anyone’s timeline but your own. The three discuss embracing your life without a partner, being fully yourself on dates, and much more! Before that, Ali shares a recent first date and a couple phone-throwing mom...
Feb 21, 2022•1 hr 16 min•Ep 53•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark dive into the five love languages this week! Although this isn’t a series, this is a big topic and they will definitely revisit it, so please send in your questions if you have any. They walk through the five different love languages, then discuss the utility of the framework, its shortcomings, and their own experiences sharing their love languages and receiving their partners’. During their updates, Ali gives the full story of the end of the Rower, and Roark talks about dating i...
Feb 14, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Ep 52•Transcript available on Metacast 
