I think we got a situation, here! Well, a situationship that is. Ali & Roark delve into the messy topic of relationships that aren’t quite relationships, but they’re also totally relationships. We said it was messy! As usual, Ali & Roark share their personal updates including Ali’s fun first date and Roark’s CRIME story. Then, they tell stories of their own experiences with situationships and answer listener questions about them like how you can avoid getting into one, and how to voice y...
Jul 12, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Ep 21•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark finally finish the first date trilogy and address after the first date. How do you tell if you’re into someone enough for a second date? Who should send the first text? Should the text say thank you or something else? How much texting between dates is appropriate? Who should set up date two? They address all these questions and more! If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can ...
Jul 05, 2021•52 min•Ep 20•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark have wanted to do an episode focused on LGBTQIA+ dating for a while now, and Pride Month felt like the perfect time! As always, they start with their updates. Ali is *accidentally* perpetrating CRIME and has an all-time phone throwing moment and Roark ran into an ex at a coffee shop. Then, they have two amazing guest segments. First, Ariella Serur, @queerdatingcoach on Instagram, comes on the pod to have both an insightful and fun conversation. Ariella tells Ali & Roark all a...
Jun 28, 2021•2 hr 33 min•Ep 19•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark have an emotional discussion this week as they tackle grief in dating. As always, they start the episode with their own dating updates and delve into a canine-related “weird or nah.” The conversation about grief begins at around 25:30, and given that this can be a difficult topic, they both understand if this is an episode you’d prefer to skip. During “Topic Talk,” Ali opens up about her own personal journey since her dad’s death in 2018. She shares what it is like to talk to a n...
Jun 21, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Ep 18•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark thought discussing the first date would be two episodes, but turns out it is a trilogy! In Episode 14 they covered everything before the date and in an upcoming episode they will tackle after the first date. But first, in this episode, they answer a bunch of listener questions about going on the first date itself. Topics include: how to keep a conversation going and how to end a date before it becomes a marathon hang. Timestamp: Topic Talk begins at about 25:00 If you want to sen...
Jun 14, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep 17•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark could not be more excited to have Logan Ury on the podcast this week. Logan is a behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone. Basically, Logan gives Ali & Roark a coaching session as they talk through the three common dating tendencies that may be holding people back, how to keep your standards high while optimizing your search for the traits that really matter, and how to say "f*ck the spark" and find a life partner rather than a prom date....
Jun 07, 2021•1 hr 18 min•Ep 16•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark are together this week for a second grab bag episode. You read that right - Ali & Roark are literally together! They had a blast recording this one in-person in New York. Both girls went on first dates this week (some more promising than others), and Ali received an apology text from an ex from five years ago. After sharing their updates, they take a bunch of listener questions. On this episode Ali mentions her friend Brandon - the professional photographer who took our pictu...
May 31, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep 15•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark are back this week for part one of two episodes on a very important topic: the first date. In this episode, they discuss everything leading up to the date (part two will be about the date itself). They start off with updates - Ali had her first first date in a hot minute, and Roark had a non-dating related phone throwing moment. Then, they walk the listeners through how to get from in-app messaging onto a date, planning the date, and answer the question - is it ever too late to c...
May 24, 2021•45 min•Ep 14•Transcript available on Metacast It's Ali & Roark's longest episode yet - and for good reason! They welcome on Ilana & Jonah, the duo behind the Seeing Other People podcast, to discuss everything surrounding being friends with an ex. The four swap stories of times they've attempted to remain friends with people they've dated. And they tackle several listener questions: such as the difference between being friends with someone after a couple dates versus a full-blown relationship, and how to set a boundar...
May 17, 2021•1 hr 16 min•Ep 13•Transcript available on Metacast It is a Mother's Day extravaganza as Ali & Roark welcome their moms to the podcast! As always, Ali & Roark start the episode with their own updates. Roark has been chatting with "Hinge Standout Guy" and Ali has been having egg-freezing related phone throwing moments. Next, they bring on Trude & Christine! Ali's mom Trude and Roark's mom Christine share their dating stories, offer advice to their younger selves, and muse about the men they hope Ali & Roark will...
May 10, 2021•52 min•Ep 12•Transcript available on Metacast This week, Ali & Roark are seeing red! Flags, that is. They start by defining a red flag: how is it different from a dealbreaker, and is a yellow flag even a thing? Then they go through how to spot common red flags in dating app profiles, in early messaging or texting, and once you've started dating. In the process, Roark reads Ali two listener emails. One wants to know how to recognize a red flag for what it is rather than thinking the issue will work itself out, whereas the other descr...
May 03, 2021•56 min•Ep 11•Transcript available on Metacast Ali & Roark welcome their first guests to the podcast: their best guy friends Matt & Darcy! But first, Ali & Roark update listeners on their latest dating prospects and Roark discusses a potential hack to get around Hinge's "Roses" paywall. Then, they bring on Matt & Darcy! Ever wondered what it is like to have a close friend of your preferred dating gender? The four cover everything from how to tell a new partner about the friendship, how to navigate awkwardness, to ...
Apr 26, 2021•55 min•Ep 10•Transcript available on Metacast Ali and Roark are switching it up and trying all the new things! But first, they have a rather long list of updates to share. Then, they introduce a segment where they ask, "is that weird or nah?" and answer as many questions as possible submitted by @findingmrheight Instagram followers. Topics range from middle-distance relationships to situationships to lessons we have learned from our dating past. Follow along @findingmrheight on Instagram to participate in the next "weird or nah&...
Apr 19, 2021•51 min•Ep 9•Transcript available on Metacast As great philosophers once said, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends." The Spice Girls were right! Which is why Ali & Roark are talking all things surrounding meeting the friends. Whether you've decided to make the introduction or you've been asked to meet your new person's friends, Ali & Roark are here for you through the entire process. What does it mean to you to meet someone's friends? How do you make the invitation? And what happens after...
Apr 12, 2021•45 min•Ep 8•Transcript available on Metacast Should you get back together with your ex? The bad news: Ali & Roark don’t know. The good news: what they DO know are some questions you can ask yourself when deciding if this is right for you. Using stories of their own and those of friends they discuss how there is no hard-and-fast rule, but there are healthy and unhealthy ways to make the decision. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find it all at www.findingmrheight.com...
Apr 05, 2021•46 min•Ep 7•Transcript available on Metacast Ever feel like you're having a great back and forth with a match over text, but it just never seems to end with a date? Sounds like you're in a pen pal situation, and both Ali and Roark have been there, too! They read listener questions and discuss how to nudge a match into making a date without being "pushy." Also, they open up their own text archives and read through their experiences with pen pals. Want to find and use the pen pal text scripts in this episode? Have a question ...
Mar 29, 2021•43 min•Ep 6•Transcript available on Metacast "If he wanted to, he would" - sound familiar? Spoiler alert: Ali & Roark do not approve this message. They debunk this dating myth and rewrite the common phrase to put the focus on communication and understanding your own needs. But first, Ali confesses she had yet another phone-throwing moment (reset the incident clock!) this week. And the girls analyze a perfect example of "if he wanted to, he would" in the Bravo show Summer House. Want to see the Summer House PowerPoint sl...
Mar 22, 2021•46 min•Ep 5•Transcript available on Metacast Boo! Don't worry, this podcast isn't disappearing, but Ali and Roark are talking about men who did! Ghosting. One of the most common problems facing modern dating. First, Ali and Roark define what is and what isn't a ghost. Then, they share stories of times they were ghosted, and Ali reveals her tried-and-true "text script" for how to maturely confront a ghost. Finally, they admit that they, too, have been the ghosters. But Finding Mr. Height is a firmly anti-ghosting podcast...
Mar 15, 2021•46 min•Ep 4•Transcript available on Metacast This week, Ali and Roark discuss how to talk to people who are skeptical about online dating: parents, friends, and even people ON the apps (we are talking to you lets-lie-about-how-me-met people). But first, Ali confesses to making the same mistake twice in one week and they both muse on the power of sending audio messages to matches. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find our submission form at www.findingmrheight.com/podcas...
Mar 08, 2021•47 min•Ep 3•Transcript available on Metacast It's only episode two and Ali & Roark are already tackling *that* topic...that's right, dick pics, requests for nudes, and when a match gets too sexual too soon for your comfort level. Before responding to listeners' questions and sharing their own experiences with this behavior, Ali reveals an embarrassing moment with a Bumble match and Roark nervously talks about a promising first date. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? Genera...
Mar 01, 2021•51 min•Ep 2•Transcript available on Metacast It's here! The *real* premiere episode of FMH: The Podcast. Get to know your co-hosts as Ali & Roark share both their friendship origin story and walk down memory lane of relationships past. Then, they discuss their vision for the podcast. And finally, Roark tells Ali about a potentially awkward encounter at a recent date's place of business, which reminds Ali of her own story from a few years back. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode?...
Feb 22, 2021•49 min•Ep 1•Transcript available on Metacast Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast - a teaser! Meet dating coach Ali from her @findingmrheight TikTok and Instagram and her good friend Roark as they embark on a podcast. Full episode airs on Monday. In the meantime, reach out to Ali & Roark at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast/ Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code FMH for a great deal: happymammoth.com * Check out Recess and use my code FMH for a great deal: www.takearecess.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/bran...
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