I like to call this the most delusional time of the year because many of us use this time to make goals and resolutions for the coming year that are completely unrealistic for the people we are right now. No wonder many resolutions go unfulfilled; our goals are out of touch with reality. Tune in to this weeks podcast episode to learn one simple concept that will change your habit-making life, how this concept can keep your goal alive even when all hell breaks loose, and how you can tell whether ...
Dec 29, 2022•14 min•Ep 270•Transcript available on Metacast I love the way I dress, but lately I feel like theres been some disconnect in my style. Ive changed, and so has my business, and I want my style to evolve as well. But I found myself not really knowing how to get my outward style to match my inward expression and where Im at currently in my life. Tune in as one of my friends and style coach, Judith Gaton, helps me hone my style and we discuss how to mesh different aspects of your personality into your style, how you can use your thoughts and you...
Dec 22, 2022•43 min•Ep 269•Transcript available on Metacast This week on the podcast, Im joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Sade Curry, Candice Toone, and Karen C.L. Anderson as we break down how patriarchal conditioning affects the way our mothers parent us. Tune is as we discuss mothers and mothering, how socialization impacts what we expect from mothers, and what work you can do (even on your own) to repair a mother or parental relationship in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://un...
Dec 15, 2022•47 min•Ep 268•Transcript available on Metacast Why is it so hard for us to believe that were the authority? Its because as women, we were socialized to think that way (shocking, right?) to feel like were not quite adults and were just faking it till we make it. In this special podcast episode, youll hear an interview I did with Sarah Nicole on The Papaya Podcast. Well discuss how our socialization affects why we dont see ourselves as adults, how women are taught to believe that our value fluctuates, and the conflict and tension inherent in b...
Dec 08, 2022•47 min•Ep 267•Transcript available on Metacast How do you treat yourself when you dont get the result you want? Or when youre wrong about something? Or when you act in a way that you dont like? Do you have your own back in these situations or do you make it mean theres something wrong with you as a person? Listen in as I discuss the difference between doing wrong and being wrong, how thinking youre wrong can actually make you less likely to fix what went wrong in the first place, and how shame from being wrong keeps you from going after what...
Dec 01, 2022•19 min•Ep 266•Transcript available on Metacast We often think romantic relationships have a natural progression, right? You meet the perfect partner, you start dating, and as things get serious you start talking about your future together which usually involves moving in together, marriage, and maybe even kids. But the truth is, you and your partner always get to decide what your relationship looks like - even if its different from societys expectations. This week on the podcast, in the conclusion of a 2-part series, the Gentleman Consort an...
Nov 24, 2022•27 min•Ep 265•Transcript available on Metacast This week, my partner, the Gentleman Consort (GC for short), is making his podcast debut and youre going to get a behind-the-scenes peek at our relationship! In part 1 of this 2-part series, we cover the gamut from first impressions and first dates, to the GCs introduction to thought work, to feeling disappointment in a relationship, to how perfectionism and communication affect your relationships. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/264...
Nov 17, 2022•30 min•Ep 264•Transcript available on Metacast Just a few weeks ago we closed out our last Clutch College Live for a while. Over the course of the 3-day, live, in-person and virtual event, minds were blown and breakthroughs were made. A lot of what I coached on had to do with goals and I want to share some of the amazing takeaways that came out of that weekend. Tune in to find out the real reason you dont set goals, what were actually afraid of when were agonizing over a decision, how to be prepared for the inevitability of your brain offeri...
Nov 10, 2022•17 min•Ep 263•Transcript available on Metacast How often do you spend time thinking about whats possible for you? As women, were socialized to make ourselves small and not go after what we really want. That in order to have what we want, we have to suffer for it now to get our reward later. But when we surround ourselves with other people who can help us hold space for the larger vision we really want for our lives, thats when the impossible really starts to feel possible. Listen to this special episode to learn why were really afraid to ima...
Nov 06, 2022•14 min•Transcript available on Metacast Giving yourself permission to want the things you want *and* to go out and get them is one of the most powerful decisions you can make in your life and its also one of the hardest. This week I continue my conversation with my friend and mentor Brooke Castillo where we dive into the feeling of worthiness, why its ok to want more than what you have, and how tapping into what you really want helps you show up most powerfully in the world. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuc...
Nov 03, 2022•29 min•Ep 262•Transcript available on Metacast Im extremely proud of all of the work Ive created as a coach. But if I had to pick one thing Im most proud of, it just might be the incredible, supportive community Ive helped create inside the Clutch, my monthly feminist coaching program. New Clutch chickens are always amazed that a community of this size, with this much diversity, is truly showing up to engage in thought work *without* any drama and is working to create whatever results they want in life. Listen to this special episode to hear...
Nov 02, 2022•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast What does it mean to have authority over your own life? When it comes down to it, having authority looks like having your own back, no matter what happens. This week Im talking with my mentor, friend, and the person who trained me to be a coach and showed me how to have my own back no matter what, Brooke Castillo. Tune in as we discuss how we define authority, what the ultimate claiming of authority is, and how you can take the first steps toward claiming more authority in your life. Get full sh...
Oct 27, 2022•36 min•Ep 261•Transcript available on Metacast In this bonus episode, Im giving you a little taste of a brand new collaboration Ive been working on. I recorded five brand new podcast episodes for Radio Headspace, and Im releasing the first episode today on the podcast. Tune in to this collaboration with wellness app Headspace as I dive into neuroplasticity, one question you can ask yourself to begin shaking things up inside your brain, the pitfalls of perfectionist thinking, and more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://un...
Oct 24, 2022•9 min•Transcript available on Metacast Women are taught that someone else always knows better than we do. Even in areas where women are stereotypically presumed the authority, like running the household, were still constantly told that we dont know what were doing! (Think all of the messaging about how we should parent our children or how were doing meal prep all wrong.) Tune in to this weeks podcast episode to find out how this socialization plays out in our lives, what is the most important thought work you can do, and how you can ...
Oct 20, 2022•17 min•Ep 260•Transcript available on Metacast Maybe this is dumb, but , I know I shouldnt feel this way , Does that make sense? These may seem like simple, innocuous words, but theyre just an outward example of the many ways that women and people socialized as women dont trust their own authority. Its no wonder that as women we struggle with people pleasing, seeking validation, and not being able to tune into what we really want - were literally socialized to do these things. But from October 24-28 Im hosting a live training series designed...
Oct 14, 2022•14 min•Transcript available on Metacast On this weeks episode of the podcast, Im going to share what thought work really is, teach you how thought work is more than just working on your thoughts and show you how it encompasses your emotions, values, social conditioning, and more. Tune in to find out why your body is actually a key part of thought work, learn one crucial aspect of my teaching, and hear why I think theres no problem that thought work doesnt help. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com...
Oct 13, 2022•30 min•Ep 259•Transcript available on Metacast This week on the podcast Im joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Elizabeth Sherman, Jill Angie, and Karen C.L. Anderson, as we begin to unravel how socialization affects the way women feel in their midlife years. Tune in as we talk about why midlife is a great time to re-evaluate the relationship you have with yourself and the boundaries you hold with the people in your life, how to not allow your stage in life define your identity, and a better, more empow...
Oct 06, 2022•44 min•Ep 258•Transcript available on Metacast This week on the podcast Im joined by one of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Lindsay Poelman, and her husband, Danny, as we discuss what its like for men to recognize their own patriarchal socialization. Tune in as we talk about how patriarchal conditioning is not a zero sum game, how patriarchy can be oppressive to people of all gender identities (not just women), and why the feeling of disempowerment in privileged white men can actually lead to positive change. Get ful...
Sep 29, 2022•49 min•Ep 257•Transcript available on Metacast Something incredible happens when you introduce intersectional feminism into your coaching - you move from coach to change-maker. And my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching student Stephanie illustrates the transformation brilliantly in her ACFC reflection. Tune in to this special bonus episode to hear how Stephanies life and business have transformed as a result of this work. Applications for ACFC are open through October 7. To register, text your email address to +1-347-997-1784 and us...
Sep 28, 2022•11 min•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever wondered when you should manage your mind versus when you should take action? Would you like to know the single question that will get you 90% of where you need to go in a coaching session? Are you curious about what my best piece of business advice is for new business owners? Tune in to this weeks episode as I answer these and more questions from coaches about business and coaching. Youll find out why theres no such thing as knowing your niche, how you can get your clients to take...
Sep 22, 2022•20 min•Ep 256•Transcript available on Metacast In this bonus episode, I dive deep into the perfectionist brain with my friend and coaching colleague, Dr. Katrina Ubell. Tune in to my conversation with Katrina to learn why not all coaching tools work for all brains, how perfectionist thinking can hold us back from reaching (or even setting) our goals and how it keeps us stuck in a cycle of allowing anyone but ourselves to be the authority over our own lives. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/bonus-katr...
Sep 20, 2022•47 min•Transcript available on Metacast Sometimes, despite our best efforts, our bodies simply dont work the way we want them to. Maybe its an occasional occurrence for you or maybe its something you live with every day. We take on all sorts of messages about what health is (and what its not), how we get healthy, and how we stay healthy. But is all of the social messaging we absorb really helping us measure health? Or is it something that has been designed and packaged to tell us how to measure our own morality and worth? Tune into my...
Sep 15, 2022•49 min•Ep 255•Transcript available on Metacast Self-confidence goes by many names - self-love, self-esteem, self-regard. But no matter what you call it, its important to dig deep and examine whether yours is conditional or unconditional. When youre constantly looking to outside factors to feel good about yourself, thats conditional self-confidence. Conditional self-confidence has a big impact on our relationship with ourselves, but what are the larger implications? Listen to this weeks podcast episode to learn the impact conditional self-con...
Sep 08, 2022•24 min•Ep 254•Transcript available on Metacast Being a first-generation immigrant and experiencing dual socialization (of any kind) profoundly shapes how you experience the world. And thats exactly what I talk about on the podcast this week with two of the coaches from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching, Ana Lopez and Cris Berlingeri. Tune in to learn how dual socialization can help you clearly see how our thoughts are subjective, why its important to define cultural traditions vs. non-cultural traditions, and about the power of ...
Sep 01, 2022•36 min•Ep 253•Transcript available on Metacast I get a lot of questions from people who are new to thought work that have to do with gaslighting themselves. Its a totally normal concern and one that Ive talked about many times on the podcast. But heres why its so interesting. It comes from the assumption that your original unconscious thoughts are better or carry more importance simply because it is your original subconscious thought. Why are we giving more importance to the first thing our brains spit out than the thoughts we intentionally ...
Aug 25, 2022•17 min•Ep 252•Transcript available on Metacast Do you worry about the future? Do you stress and plan for a hundred different worst case scenarios in the hopes that doing so will make you more prepared for whats to come? Humans evolved to fear uncertainty above all else, which kept us safe from starving to death or being eaten by a predatorbut now, its a recipe for crippling anxiety. Tune in to todays episode to learn how to solve your uncertainty problem so you can transform your fear into peace and acceptance. Get full show notes and more i...
Aug 18, 2022•25 min•Ep 251•Transcript available on Metacast Most coaching training teaches that all coaching tools apply to everyone the same. That coaching is black and white. But when youre aware of different lived experiences, different identities and systems of oppression in the world? And you understand how to navigate those with your clients in ways that help them feel empowered? Thats coaching in technicolor. Listen to this weeks podcast episode to learn more about my intersectional approach to coaching, why I think intersectionality in coaching i...
Aug 11, 2022•30 min•Ep 250•Transcript available on Metacast For most people who dip their toes into the world of thought work for the first time, there are usually some questions that come up around subjectivity and reality. If all thoughts are made up in our brains - is anything really true? How do I know if something is true? But the truth is, our brains are making things up all the time. Were actually hallucinating all the time (and no, you havent been unwittingly dosed with mushrooms!). Listen to this weeks podcast episode to learn about the way our ...
Aug 04, 2022•15 min•Ep 249•Transcript available on Metacast Twice a week I lift weights with a trainer. This way of moving, yes, strengthens my body, but it has also done wonders for strengthening my brain. So what is the connection between mind and body? And how do we unravel the internalized messages we receive about our bodies to find where true confidence really comes from? In this special release podcast episode, you will listen to an interview that I did on the Thick Thighs Save Lives podcast to learn practical tips on how to grow authentic confide...
Jul 28, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep 248•Transcript available on Metacast A lot of people want to become entrepreneurs to enjoy the freedom that comes with being able to call your own shots. But at the first hint of any of entrepreneurships hallmark instability, they usually take it to mean theyre doing it wrong. This inherent brain error of only fantasizing about the positive and rejecting the negative is one I see play out time and time again in all facets of life. Listen to this weeks podcast episode to learn about the inherent brain error and how it can hold you b...
Jul 21, 2022•17 min•Ep 247•Transcript available on Metacast 
