Let’s talk about anxiety. Specifically, socially-programmed anxiety. This is a type of anxiety that women, and people socialized as women, feel that comes from trying to live up to the impossible expectations of our society. We’re told we need to look a certain way, behave a certain way, and go about our lives making sure everyone else is happy. Trying to live up to these standards causes immense anxiety. And traditional anxiety-reducing methods like yoga and spa days don’t help. On December 5 a...
Dec 01, 2023•4 min•Transcript available on Metacast We’re getting to that time of year where we start slowing down to reflect on the previous year and start looking forward to the next one. And this is one of the most important episodes for planning, setting goals, and trying to change your life. In this episode, learn what an impossible goal is and how to set one in a way that serves you, understand how perfectionism warps our thinking and how that warped thinking is contributing to the way we think about goals, and how to differentiate between ...
Nov 30, 2023•40 min•Ep 318•Transcript available on Metacast “When are you going to have kids?” is a question that many women are asked in their lives, sometimes by complete strangers. It’s just assumed that all women should want to have children. This week, Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken, licensed marriage and family therapists and hosts of the ShrinkChicks podcast join me as we dig into the anxiety around having, or not having, children (whether by choice or not). Tune in to find out why you shouldn’t base your decision to have kids or not on not w...
Nov 23, 2023•44 min•Ep 317•Transcript available on Metacast To be able to create the outcomes that we want in our lives, sometimes we have to tone down the drama in our brains. But we often don’t have much perspective on whether or not we’re being dramatic, because as women and people socialized as women, we’re taught that simply having feelings is dramatic. Join me this week as I explain what I mean by “being dramatic,” how the facts of a situation may not be as dramatic as you make them out to be, why I think being dramatic can be harmful, and the beau...
Nov 16, 2023•17 min•Ep 316•Transcript available on Metacast Join me this week for a special bonus episode with hosts of the Girls Gotta Eat podcast, Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine! Tune in as we discuss the intricacies of sex, dating, and relationships, breaking free from societal norms, celebrating the unfiltered truth about women's lives, and even their premium sex toy business. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/girls-gotta-eat...
Nov 14, 2023•48 min•Transcript available on Metacast Rae McDaniel, gender and sex therapist and author of Gender Magic , joins me on the podcast this week to talk about the role of gender in a world where we all desire to walk around as our most authentic selves. Even if we don’t have questions about our gender identity, we may question how we’ve been socialized in our genders or how to support others who have questions about their identity. Listen in as we discuss how a positive vision for your future can make it easier to handle challenges you...
Nov 09, 2023•41 min•Ep 315•Transcript available on Metacast Thought work is not frivolous. It’s absolutely necessary, powerful work. The deepest power of thought work is helping us stay centered and grounded when challenging things are happening. Listen to learn the difference between clean and dirty pain, how to not be paralyzed in challenging situations, and how you can reduce and release suffering. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/314...
Nov 02, 2023•27 min•Ep 314•Transcript available on Metacast Working hard has gotten a bad rep lately. When you’re creating something you’re passionate about, it’s unrealistic to think that it won’t be hard work. But there’s a difference between running yourself ragged because you’re trying to live up to someone else’s expectations or you think that’s the only way you’ll be successful, and working really hard on something you’re trying to bring into fruition. I’m joined by Oat Haus founder and CEO, Ali Bonar, as we discuss what entrepreneurship really loo...
Oct 26, 2023•34 min•Ep 313•Transcript available on Metacast Dr. Adrienne Mann and Dr. Tyra Fainstad conducted a study of over 1,000 women resident and fellow physicians, enrolling about half of them in a group coaching program, while the other half didn’t receive any coaching. The results were astounding — their research found that coaching drastically improves burnout, imposter syndrome, and self-compassion (among other things). They join me on the podcast this week as we discuss their study, learn why residents were the ideal group to do this research ...
Oct 19, 2023•40 min•Ep 312•Transcript available on Metacast Let’s talk about anxiety. Specifically, socially-programmed anxiety. This is a type of anxiety that women, and people socialized as women, feel that comes from trying to live up to the impossible expectations of our society. We’re told we need to look a certain way, behave a certain way, and go about our lives making sure everyone else is happy. Trying to live up to these standards causes immense anxiety. And traditional anxiety-reducing methods like yoga and spa days don’t help. On October 24 a...
Oct 17, 2023•4 min•Transcript available on Metacast We may be experiencing fear, grief, anxiety, and uncertainty about what's happening in the world, even if those events are far away from us. What we do together in this community is make space for our emotions and choose the thoughts we want to believe so we can show up better for the world outside of us, no matter what is happening. But sometimes you need support when you’re going through something hard, personally, politically, or both. This episode provides a reminder of specific podcast epis...
Oct 13, 2023•4 min•Transcript available on Metacast We assume that clutter is inherently bad or a problem. And for many, lack of organization and clutter leads to anxiety, overwhelm, and stress. On top of that, we're absorbing socialization around the expectation to keep a perfectly tidy and organized home. Join me and values-based organizing expert, author, and coach Shira Gill as we discuss the perfectionist fantasy of organization, the mental or emotional blocks that may come up when you’re trying to get organized, how your disorganization may...
Oct 12, 2023•38 min•Ep 311•Transcript available on Metacast No matter how long you’ve been coaching yourself, it’s normal to have blocks and challenges come up. If you’ve been self-coaching and just not seeing the results you want, there are a few specific reasons that may be holding you back. Tune in as I share with you the six primary blocks to self-coaching and find out why we really have to see circumstances as neutral, why we need to dig deep in our thought work practice, what role shame plays in thought work, and why insight alone isn’t going to ch...
Oct 05, 2023•18 min•Ep 310•Transcript available on Metacast Enrollment for the Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching is officially open for certified coaches and licensed mental health professionals! This will be our only group in 2024, and the last group that I'm going to do as an advanced certification for trained coaches and for therapists. Join us to deep dive into feminist thinking and the history of women's legal, political, and social rights and roles that impact the way that women think today. If your clients have absorbed social messaging ...
Sep 29, 2023•6 min•Transcript available on Metacast Discover the power of coaching and therapy through a feminist lens on this week's podcast episode. Tune in as we explore how understanding the impact of socialization on women's brains can transform coaching and therapy and hear from Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching alumni Jen Fadden, Osaru Anyumba, Nicolassa Galvez, and Rachelle Siebke, as they talk about how ACFC has empowered them in their work and solidified their self-identity, the need to question established norms, how feminist...
Sep 28, 2023•48 min•Ep 309•Transcript available on Metacast Calling all certified coaches and licensed mental health professionals! If your clients (of any gender) have absorbed social messaging about women, their brains have been impacted by it. Which means that whether or not you consider yourself a feminist, you need to be able to coach like one. Join my free training How to Coach Like a F.E.M.I.N.I.S.T. on September 26 at 1:30pm ET where I’ll teach you the 8 pillars of feminist coaching. Text your email address to +1 347 997 1784 and send code word F...
Sep 22, 2023•3 min•Transcript available on Metacast We all feel fear in our lives for all sorts of different reasons. Some fear can be useful and some fear can be unproductive. Regardless of whether your fear is useful or unproductive, it’s important to listen to it, not to give into it but to better understand its source. Tune in this week to my conversation with author, personal finance expert and host of the So Money podcast, Farnoosh Torabi, as we discuss the role fear plays as a natural instinct, how you can differentiate between useful and ...
Sep 21, 2023•49 min•Ep 308•Transcript available on Metacast As a historically patriarchal institution, marriages of the past benefited the man far more than the woman. A man and woman became one legal entity, but the woman was essentially absorbed by her husband — she couldn’t hold a profession or make legal decisions for herself. She existed for procreation and unpaid labor. So what happens when despite knowing all of the statistics and all of the history, you think you still might want to get married? In part 2 of this series about my engagement, I foc...
Sep 14, 2023•24 min•Ep 307•Transcript available on Metacast Most coaching certification and therapy programs don’t teach how to look at socialization and the way it impacts women’s brains and the way they think about themselves in the world. So I’ve created a brand new, free private podcast called How to Coach Like a Feminist: Adding A Feminist Lens to Coaching or Cognitive-Based Therapy. In this limited series starting September 18, you’ll learn about marketing and selling, the client/coach relationship, how to set your client goals, the feminist coachi...
Sep 13, 2023•7 min•Transcript available on Metacast We're socialized to believe that the way other people act is about us. Women are socialized to want big romantic gestures from men, which they then equate to how much the man loves them, which equates to how valuable they are as a woman. Newsflash: Other people’s behavior is not actually about you. Tune in this week to find out why our expectations of how we want other people to behave (in all sorts of contexts) are influenced by our behavior, how engagements and the expectations that go along w...
Sep 07, 2023•23 min•Ep 306•Transcript available on Metacast This week I’m joined by Executive Coach and Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching grad Jamie Lee as we discuss how to ask for and advocate for what you want in your professional life (and all parts of your life). Tune in to learn about the “outside the performance review network” that’s important to getting ahead, the 3-step framework for advocating for whatever it is you want in your professional life, and how to interrupt the unintentional thought patterns that are holding you back. Get ...
Aug 31, 2023•40 min•Ep 305•Transcript available on Metacast The things you do and the choices you make —the direction in which your “life GPS” is set — determine the outcomes in your life. So if there’s an area in your life where you aren’t happy with the outcomes you’ve been getting or you feel bad about them, you may need to check what your GPS is set to. Tune in to this week’s podcast to learn how to make sure your GPS is set to a destination that you can actually reach, why your destination doesn’t have to be a concrete goal, and what you’ll need to ...
Aug 24, 2023•15 min•Ep 304•Transcript available on Metacast Nearly all of us will experience a breakup at some point in our lives (if we haven’t already). No matter how or why the relationship ends, it’s what we choose to do once that relationship is over, that really matters. This week on the podcast, fellow coach Ali Ryan is joining me to talk about using thought work to navigate breakups, divorce, and separation. We’ll discuss how breakups can be a tool for transformation, why the relationship with yourself may be the most important when you’re going ...
Aug 17, 2023•31 min•Ep 303•Transcript available on Metacast Vacations. Most of us can’t wait to get away and just chill out. You might imagine yourself in a gorgeous location, eating delicious food, seeing beautiful sights, lounging by the pool or at the beach, feeling rested and happy. Or maybe you find yourself dreading it because you’re already counting the things that are sure to go wrong. So, how can you prepare for the disappointment that may come with a perfectionist fantasy like scenario one? And how can you avoid letting difficult or frustrating...
Aug 10, 2023•16 min•Ep 302•Transcript available on Metacast Every one of us has received social messages not only about how we should spend our time, but also what kind of morality is attached to how we spend it. Women have an added layer of time socialization on top of this, because we’re socialized to believe that we exist for the purpose of doing things for others. It’s no wonder many women in today’s world feel like they never have enough time. This week I’m having a conversation about women and time with the host of the Feminist Time, Productivity, ...
Aug 03, 2023•53 min•Ep 301•Transcript available on Metacast Fun, joy, and pleasure should come naturally to us, right? But if your brain is anything like mine, they may not come that easily. Patriarchy and our socialization can make pleasure, joy, and relaxation hard to access, and these are things that I really want us all to experience more of this summer. This August inside the Clutch, we’re hosting Feminist Summer School where we’ll have special bonus trainings and challenges focused on fun, joy, and pleasure from a feminist thought work perspective....
Jul 29, 2023•5 min•Transcript available on Metacast There’s too much goodness inside the Clutch to contain it to just one episode, so here comes Part Two! Here’s your chance to get a look inside my feminist monthly coaching program. In Part Two of this episode, I’ll share about the power of coaching – especially one-on-one coaching – and you’ll find out why it’s ok to need support, how you can regulate your nervous system when your anxiety is high, and how you can join the amazing Clutch community. Get full show notes and more information here: h...
Jul 28, 2023•1 hr•Transcript available on Metacast Whether you’re a new listener and unsure what the Clutch even is or you’re a long-time listener who’s always been curious about the Clutch, here’s your chance to get a look inside my feminist monthly coaching program. In Part One of this episode, I’ll share what led me to become a life coach, the Clutch Community Manager will tell you about all the goodness inside the member’s only Clutch site, and our Clutch Coaches will break down some of their favorite resources that are included in the Clutc...
Jul 27, 2023•43 min•Ep 300•Transcript available on Metacast This week I’m joined by EbonyJanice, author of All the Black Girls are Activists. Tune in as we discuss how to reclaim authority over your own life, how doing the work to show up as your true self is a political act, why wellness culture and the idea of a “soft life” can be misleading, why your inner guard dog may sound different than you think, and more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/299...
Jul 20, 2023•46 min•Ep 299•Transcript available on Metacast As women and people socialized as women, we’re often making decisions from an emotional place, deciding what to do based on whether doing it or not is going to make us feel worse, aka ashamed or guilty — two emotional states that we’ve been taught to avoid. Tune in to find out why guilt and shame are not moral truths of the universe (and what they actually are), and how deciding what to think and feel on purpose will help you lead a life that’s aligned with your values. Get full show notes and m...
Jul 13, 2023•17 min•Ep 298•Transcript available on Metacast 
