Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect , then you’d finally feel at peace? What if the real secret to feeling more fulfilled was actually letting go of that control? This week, I’m joined by Oliver Burkeman, author of 4,000 Weeks, to talk about why embracing our limits—not fighting them—is the key to a more meaningful life. Oliver and I dive into our culture’s obsession with productivity and...
Mar 06, 2025•36 min•Ep 384•Transcript available on Metacast IT'S HERE! My new book "Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head... and How to Get it Out" is officially available as an audiobook and hardcover wherever books and audiobooks are sold!
Mar 02, 2025•2 min•Transcript available on Metacast Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it’s a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of stepping back, we find ourselves doom-scrolling, consuming bad news like it’s our job, and wondering why we feel so anxious and exhausted. Is obsessively staying informed actually helping you—or just keeping you stuck? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down how to rewire your brain’s alarm system, recognize when “being informed” is just people-pleasing ...
Feb 27, 2025•28 min•Ep 383•Transcript available on Metacast Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—waiting for someone to tell you what to do or how to respond? Women are taught from birth that we’re too emotional, too irrational, too incapable of figuring things out on our own—especially when things get tough. But that conditioning is total BS, and it’s costing us our agency, autonomy, and ability to take action. In this short but powerful episode,...
Feb 20, 2025•20 min•Ep 382•Transcript available on Metacast Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting and start being your own best partner—whether you're single, coupled up, or somewhere in between? This week, I’m joined by Meghan Keane, founder of NPR’s Life Kit and author of Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner , to break down the shame and stigma around singleness and how it holds so many women back from fully living their lives. We talk abou...
Feb 13, 2025•41 min•Ep 381•Transcript available on Metacast Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their success makes you feel like you’re falling behind. If so, you’re not alone—this is what happens when we’ve been trained to believe there’s only room for one of us at the top. In this episode, I’m digging into the historical and societal roots of this mindset and sharing thought-hacks to help you break free. You’ll learn how to loosen perfectionism’s grip...
Feb 06, 2025•18 min•Ep 380•Transcript available on Metacast As women, we’ve been conditioned to put ourselves last, and if you hold any marginalized identities, the world piles on even more ways to tell you you’re not enough. But the tools I'm re-sharing this week, radical self-love and exquisite self-care, are your antidote—your way to reject the oppressive systems that want to keep you small and doubting your worth. I'm breaking down what radical self-love and exquisite self-care actually mean, why they’re deeply political acts, and how they expose the...
Jan 30, 2025•24 min•Ep 379•Transcript available on Metacast Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we’re trained to take on responsibility for everything —other people’s feelings, outcomes we can’t control, and tasks that were never ours to begin with. The result? Exhaustion, overwhelm, and decisions that don’t serve us. In this episode, I’m sharing how over-responsibility snuck into my own plans for 2025 and what I did to get back on track. I’ll walk you through the self-coaching process I used to uncover and shift the sneaky tho...
Jan 23, 2025•25 min•Ep 378•Transcript available on Metacast Do you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like you’re responsible for everyone and everything around you? Society has trained women to believe our worth depends on managing everyone else’s thoughts, feelings, and happiness. But this over-responsibility? It’s a dream stealer, an energy drainer, and a massive life suck. In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m diving into how over-responsibility shows up in our lives and why it keeps us stuck. From obsessing over appear...
Jan 16, 2025•19 min•Ep 377•Transcript available on Metacast Ever felt anxious about negotiating a raise, bonus, or promotion? Worried about being labeled “difficult” or facing backlash for advocating for yourself? You’re not alone—research shows that women face unique challenges in workplace negotiations, thanks to deeply ingrained gender dynamics. This week, I’m joined by Kathryn Valentine, a negotiation expert who turned her own experience of facing backlash into a career teaching women how to advocate effectively. Tune in to hear Kathryn break down th...
Jan 09, 2025•32 min•Ep 376•Transcript available on Metacast The two biggest obstacles to creating lasting change? Getting started and not quitting when things go off the rails. We all know we should just try again if we fail, but let’s be honest—that’s a lot easier said than done when you don’t understand what’s really going on in your brain. Tune in this week to learn what happens in your brain when you fail and why failure is a non-negotiable part of the growth process. I’ll show you how to take the sting out of shame, guilt, and anxiety so you can use...
Jan 01, 2025•14 min•Ep 375•Transcript available on Metacast Do you ever try to shop your way out of a bad feeling, only to regret it later? What’s really driving those impulse purchases, and how is the way society talks about women’s spending warping your relationship with money? (Hint: it’s eerily similar to how diet culture messes with your relationship with food.) This week, I’m joined by Jen Smith and Jill Sirianni, experts in helping people feel good about their finances no matter their income. They’re sharing insights from their upcoming book, Buy ...
Dec 26, 2024•33 min•Ep 374•Transcript available on Metacast Do you feel like new habits just don’t stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get it “right” from the start? Here’s the thing: you’ve probably been taught that perfect consistency is the only way to make habits work—but that’s total BS. What if the real key is actually embracing inconsistency? In this episode, I’m flipping the script on conventional habit advice. I’ll show you why perfectionism is sabotaging your progress and how letting go of the need to get it “perfect” can ...
Dec 19, 2024•20 min•Ep 373•Transcript available on Metacast Tired of setting New Year’s resolutions that fizzle out by February? The problem isn’t you—it’s the patriarchy. In this episode, I teach you how to “patriarchy-proof” your resolutions so they reflect your values, not the ones you’ve been trained to prioritize. We’ll dig into how social conditioning shapes your goals without you even realizing it—and why breaking free from those patterns is the key to creating lasting change. If you’re stuck repeating the same resolutions year after year, this is...
Dec 12, 2024•22 min•Ep 372•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be if you lived in a country with more progressive policies? Universal healthcare, affordable childcare, endless vacation days—it sounds like paradise, right? I know I’ve been there. But is the grass really greener, or is this just another sneaky way our brains trick us into thinking the solution is somewhere “out there”? In this episode, I’ll show you why fantasizing about a “better” life elsewhere might actually be...
Dec 05, 2024•14 min•Ep 371•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement that feels like it’s going nowhere, just looping around the same points? Maybe it’s because deep down, you believe the only way to "resolve" it is if the other person totally agrees with you—or you have to surrender and agree with them. Sound familiar? Tune in as I break down a game-changing reframe for navigating conflict. You’ll get practical tools for spotting your own thought patterns, speaking your truth without needing validation, and fi...
Nov 28, 2024•18 min•Ep 370•Transcript available on Metacast Who you choose to tie the knot with is one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. Even though marriage has evolved a lot over time, it is still an economic institution that women regularly lose their financial independence to. So, whether you're single or partnered, how can you prevent this from happening? To answer this question, I'm joined by tax attorney, wealth expert, and author of her new book, "All the Presidents' Money", Megan Gorman. Megan shares how to have those importan...
Nov 21, 2024•24 min•Ep 369•Transcript available on Metacast Are you catastrophizing about current events and feeling paralyzed by fear and uncertainty? It’s easy to get caught up in the echo chamber of social media and the news, leaving you feeling disempowered and overwhelmed. But what if you could learn to hold belief in the world you want to see, even when the evidence isn’t there yet? In this bonus episode, I explore some of the common thought errors that arise during challenging times. From the idea that we have to be freaking out to prove we care, ...
Nov 15, 2024•27 min•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever avoided dealing with a problem, hoping it would just go away on its own? I know I have -- and I have a WILD story to share with you about what happens when we do this. Join me this week to understand why problem avoidance is so tempting but so counterproductive. You’ll learn how the consequences of problem avoidance can play out in your life, and most importantly, practical strategies for facing your problems with courage and resilience. Get full show notes, transcript, and more in...
Nov 14, 2024•22 min•Ep 368•Transcript available on Metacast Given the events in the United States this week, many of us have brains that are running wild. You might be feeling scared, angry, disappointed, and a whole slew of other emotions. You're not alone-- and this bonus episode is here to help. Join me to hear why catastrophizing isn’t useful or accurate (even if it seems like everyone else is doing it), my own experience of anxiety and fear the last time we had the same results in 2016, and my top 5 tips for what you can do right now to keep yoursel...
Nov 08, 2024•31 min•Transcript available on Metacast Do you ever feel like the more successful you become ... the worse you feel? Jerry Colonna, a venture-capital-guy-turned-Buddhist-executive-coach, found himself in that exact position - until he decided to do the hard work of confronting himself. In this episode, we discuss how practicing radical self-inquiry with compassion is essential for anyone who wants to lead - whether they're leading a company, a family, or just their own life. You'll learn why resolving conflicts mindfully is a critical...
Nov 07, 2024•39 min•Ep 367•Transcript available on Metacast How often do you feel like you’re concealing the “real” you? Do you struggle with being your authentic self, especially in challenging environments? “Authenticity” has become a very popular buzzword -- but what does it really mean? This week, I’m joined by Deesha Dyer, former White House Social Secretary and author of the book, "Undiplomatic: How My Attitude Created the Best Kind of Trouble". Deesha shares her incredible journey from going to community college at 29-years-old to working up the r...
Oct 31, 2024•25 min•Ep 366•Transcript available on Metacast Are you having a tough time figuring out whether therapy or coaching is right for you? Both have their own benefits, but it can be overwhelming to figure out which one is the right fit. And let's be real - people are always trying to compare them and say one is better than the other (trust me, I've got thoughts on this). There's a lot to unpack here, and I'm diving into it all in this episode! This week, I break down the debate of therapy versus coaching and how these practices can actually work...
Oct 24, 2024•29 min•Ep 365•Transcript available on Metacast I'm sure there are plenty of you who saw the word "strategy" in this episode's title and thought, “I’m not a strategic thinker, so this won’t apply to me.” And I don't blame you -- social conditioning teaches women that we’re either workhorses, nice, or lucky, and that being strategic is beyond our capabilities. Well, today's conversation is here to challenge that conditioning. You've probably heard of Seth Godin - entrepreneur, marketing genius, and bestselling author. He joins me for this bonu...
Oct 22, 2024•34 min•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I’ve got to get my shit together?" -- even if your life is... pretty together, given the circumstances? Even if you're the most productive woman on the planet, that nagging thought can still creep up—and it’s actually not about how organized or efficient you are. It's just a sign you've fallen into what I call the Efficiency Trap. This week, we uncover the real reasons behind the Efficiency Trap and how to redefine productivity in a way that aligns with y...
Oct 17, 2024•17 min•Ep 364•Transcript available on Metacast How do the messages you received as a child impact the way you parent your own kids? What if we could raise the next generation to be more empowered, resilient, and free from limiting gender stereotypes? To explore these questions, I’m joined by clinical psychologist and author of the new book, Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World, Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD. As an expert in feminist parenting, Dr. Finkelstein is here to illuminate how even the most w...
Oct 10, 2024•29 min•Ep 363•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever thought about what a truly fulfilling life might look like to you? Not just a life that includes more fleeting moments of happiness -- but a life that's sustainably joyful, calm, and rewarding. Join me for this Greatest Hits episode to hear the difference between the emotion of happiness and big-picture happiness, the role of confidence and self-safety in achieving your wildest dreams, and how happiness, confidence, and self-safety work together in powerful ways. Get full show note...
Oct 03, 2024•15 min•Ep 362•Transcript available on Metacast How often do you feel like you don’t REALLY know what you want? Do you ever catch yourself waiting for someone more knowledgeable, responsible, or wise to either validate your choices or tell you it’s a bad idea? Join me this week to learn why so many women struggle with being decisive and how our socialization impacts the way we think about making decisions and taking risks. You’ll hear why there is so much value in embodying decisiveness, and my top tips for practicing self-coaching around you...
Sep 26, 2024•24 min•Ep 361•Transcript available on Metacast As you heard last week, women are constantly taking over-responsibility for everything and everyone in their lives- and it's exhausting. What if I told you there’s an antidote that doesn’t require isolating yourself in the woods or becoming a self-centered jerk? Well, you're in luck because in this episode, I explore the solution to over-responsibility: self-responsibility. You’ll learn why self-responsibility is the key to showing up in a way that’s supportive and aligned with your values, and ...
Sep 19, 2024•12 min•Ep 360•Transcript available on Metacast Society teaches women that we are responsible for everything – from our appearance to others’ emotions, and even outcomes beyond our control. This belief system leads to anxiety, guilt, and shame, creating a constant state of mental and emotional exhaustion – and it's time to put an end to it. Listen in as I break down how over-responsibility manifests in women’s lives, what happens when you subconsciously or consciously believe you’re responsible for everything and everyone, and the long-term c...
Sep 12, 2024•15 min•Ep 359•Transcript available on Metacast 
