We all screw up. We all are too hard on ourselves and not in a good way. And, we all find it really hard to forgive ourselves. Well time to put that crap aside, and give yourself a spoonful of forgiveness and move on beyond whatever has got ya hung up. Here's a few tips how to practice The Art of Self-Forgiveness as a gay man. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays ar...
Apr 22, 2022•10 min•Ep 169•Transcript available on Metacast SHOULD, ought to be banned from the english language. Or at least from the gay man's talk. Because when we should all over ourselves, we don't have much fun. You should do this, you should do that, you don't get much done if you are SHOULD-ing. Instead start doing. Here's 10 Things Gay Guys Over 40 Can Start DOING to improve their lives! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but n...
Apr 15, 2022•14 min•Ep 168•Transcript available on Metacast You hit that point in your life where something has got to change. Get that promotion, find that next gig, be more intentional about your passion. Regardless of how you look at this as a gay guy over 40, you lead yourself, and you can lead others to have that impact in the world. Joining me for a candid, fun, conversation about leading your life - personally and professionally is author, leadership expert and all around great guy - Dr. Steve Yacovelli a.k.a. The Gay Leadership Dude. He's a top d...
Apr 08, 2022•37 min•Ep 167•Transcript available on Metacast We're all fools. Every one of us gay men. No one gets out of life without being a fool. Crappy dating habits. Pursuing wrong careers. Eating unhealthy foods. Not believing in ourselves. It's all foolish. But that doesn't mean you have to stay in that space! Instead, turn your fool into a gay jewel. And what better day to say "Stop pitying the fool" than on April Fools Day, and I'm not fooling with you. Listen and learn how to stop being the fool in your life. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay T...
Apr 01, 2022•9 min•Ep 166•Transcript available on Metacast What motivates gay men? Do all gay men only want sex? What if an open relationship can work? Can I be spiritual or religious as a gay man? Questions, questions, questions. It seems we as gay men are constantly questioning ourselves. To help me answer some of these questions is Brian Madigan of Gay Guru Coach. Join us as we laugh, go deep, and try to dissect the truth of what so many gay men struggle with so they can live their life on their terms. About Brian Brian Madigan has been a full-time l...
Mar 25, 2022•48 min•Ep 165•Transcript available on Metacast Gaslighting. Blaming. Pulling wicked "not me, that's you" bullshit on ourselves and from others. It's called being a Narcissist. If you've ever lived with one you know what I mean. And, if you've ever been one to yourself, you know what I mean. But it's time to slay that narcissistic dragon and move on to a better place in your life. C'mon boys/men, let's to do this - slay that narcissist once and for all. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. ...
Mar 18, 2022•10 min•Ep 164•Transcript available on Metacast As RuPaul sez, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you going to love someone else?" But what many of us as gay men don't realize is when we love ourselves, all is well, all is coming, all is delicious. Our guest today, Jerome Braggs, guides, teaches, and illuminates ways for us as gay men to step into the powerful space of loving ourselves fully. About Jerome In 2004, Jerome checked into the hospital with what he thought was the flu, but instead got diagnosed with anemia, pancreatitis, gia...
Mar 11, 2022•50 min•Ep 163•Transcript available on Metacast As the queen of soul sez: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It is time to respect yourself and if you don't then that is on you, and only you. Because self-respect is where confidence grows. And as another queen sez (RuPaul) - If you can't respect yourself, how the hell you going to respect someone else. Ok I took some liberties with that one, but you know RuPaul would agree with those sentiments too. Now listen and learn how to R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday...
Mar 04, 2022•10 min•Ep 162•Transcript available on Metacast Like it or not, all of us gay men are aging. It's a conveyor belt and there is nothing we can do about it. Nor should we feel pressure to do something about it. Yet, some gay men do choose cosmetic surgery and skin care regimes to make themselves feel comfortable in their aging bodies. Then others do what they do to ensure they take the best care of their bodies in a way that suits them. Rather than be judgy about men who choose skin care, botox, and cosmetic surgeries, listen and learn and you ...
Feb 25, 2022•49 min•Ep 161•Transcript available on Metacast Roles, roles, roles. Everyone wants us to play some role so that it makes it easier to relate to them. We all do it, and don't say you don't. Yet, as gay men, we feel like we have to fit into some constrained role to make our gay lives work...or do we. We're rolling out the roles and saying now more as we explore the sexual roles we play as gay men! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about t...
Feb 18, 2022•8 min•Ep 160•Transcript available on Metacast Valentine's Day is just a few days away. So let's start crying the blues about what sucks about being a gay man and no one to love. Nah. Let's not do that. Let's talk about the challenges of not having someone to love but what we can do to be more in love with our lives and ourselves this Valentines Day. Joining me is fellow coach and gay dad, Steve Disselhorst as we dish it about love, careers, aging, health, and all that jazz before we let Cupid's Arrow hit the target of love in our lives. Aft...
Feb 11, 2022•41 min•Ep 159•Transcript available on Metacast How do you as a gay man, conquer the confidence conundrum? we say the last part of that question 3 times really fast, and if you can say that, you've got confidence! Just kidding. But, gaining/finding confidence as a gay man, is about as close as grabbing your middle leg and stroking it to life. Yes, it is that easy to find your confidence if you are willing to do a little bit of work. Listen and learn how! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m....
Feb 04, 2022•10 min•Ep 158•Transcript available on Metacast The clothes are coming off. Your heart's racing and an appendage is growing, and you can't wait to touch him and have him touch you. Then your head - the one above your shoulders starts creating a story that - you're no good, you're no good, you're no good - buddy you're no good at this SEX thing. Get over it. You're good you just need to figure it out and own it! Let's go have some fun exploring being good at gay sex! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month ...
Jan 28, 2022•11 min•Ep 157•Transcript available on Metacast The biggest question I get asked, by guys coming out of the closet, is not how do you take a big penis, it's how do you do gay? Ok, maybe the penis question comes up to, but today we're exploring how you do gay, whether you've been out since you were a teen or just coming out after 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 years old, or older. Let's go explore how you do gay! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk abo...
Jan 21, 2022•12 min•Ep 156•Transcript available on Metacast OMG. My penis no longer works, and my prostate no longer feels pleasure. My life is over! That may be the way it seems, but does having and living with prostate cancer mean, your life is over as a gay man? No! Just ask today's guest, Kenneth A. Johnson. He's living his life to its fullest, owning his challenges with his prostate and sex life, and thriving beyond what would cause most gay men to say, "Screw it. No more sex for me!" This is his awe inspiring story and advice. About Kenneth Kenneth...
Jan 14, 2022•49 min•Ep 155•Transcript available on Metacast It's the beginning of the year, and what do you want to do with this year? I don't know! What do you want from this year? I don't know! What would make you feel fulfilled this year? I don't know! Fine, then sit on your little victim, wandering in the desert of your lost life, and just keep saying, "I don't know!" Or, break the "I don't know" syndrome and get shit done this year. Take a listen and learn to the possibilities that await you when "I don't know," becomes "I do know!" Join Our Live 40...
Jan 07, 2022•10 min•Ep 154•Transcript available on Metacast Do not set a New Year's Resolution. Do not head out to that party dreading the start of another year. Do not do anything that you do not plan to do without a solid INTENTION. That's my advice for this coming year, and every year. And, here's how you do a new year filled with intentions! That is if you want to up your game and your life as a gay guy in 2022! Download The Manifesto Click Here Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep...
Dec 31, 2021•9 min•Ep 153•Transcript available on Metacast You're running yourself ragged, trying to get all the right gifts for everyone. But, what have you done for you? What gift are you going to give yourself? And don't go saying, "That's so selfish!" There's nothing selfish about giving yourself a gift this holiday season, and here's a few gifts you should consider. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time t...
Dec 24, 2021•18 min•Ep 152•Transcript available on Metacast Religious trauma. Seems to be the norm for a majority of LGBTQ people that you encoutner. "You're damned to hell!" or "You're a sinner!" Of course most those people hurling those words for get that they're divorced (a sin), have committed adultery (a sin), have eaten pig (a sin), worn woven fabrics (a sin), but all of that is forgivable, but you just can't be a man and lay with another man, or a woman and lay with another woman - well women that's ok because men find that pleasing to their naugh...
Dec 17, 2021•49 min•Ep 151•Transcript available on Metacast What if there were no Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam? What would you do? Get out and meet guys? Resort to hooking up in the back of bars or restrooms? Or Isolating? Regardless of what you use the in-your-hand apps for, your world may just come to an end...or would it? That's what we're exploring today on the 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk podcast. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but ...
Dec 10, 2021•8 min•Ep 150•Transcript available on Metacast From a young age, the fear of God caused him to tremble in his boots about his secret. Then, in his 40's he could no longer live within that secret, and he realized he had to be who he was, a gay man. Then he made national headlines by taking a stand as a gay educator, fighting for the right to teach in his classroom, when parents saw him as a threat to their children. All because people judged who he was and who he was meant to love and share a life with. James Merrick shares is truth and his j...
Dec 03, 2021•36 min•Ep 149•Transcript available on Metacast We're coming into the home stretch of the year and it's - HOLIDAY TIME! Don't freak out, don't put pressure on yourself, and please don't try to please everyone. OK, EASIER SAID THAN DONE. However, you can have a peaceful holiday season in your gay life by following a few of these tips, without being or needing a douche! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’...
Nov 26, 2021•9 min•Ep 148•Transcript available on Metacast You want a man, and you want him to be perfect. Really? Maybe you should be looking in the mirror. For every expectation you put on your man you better be ready to put it on yourself. It's time to stop killing your relationship with expectations that probably are extreme or out of reach. Take a listen and learn how. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s tim...
Nov 19, 2021•11 min•Ep 147•Transcript available on Metacast As a gay man do you find yourself constantly looking for answers, and then getting frustrated because they aren’t right there in front of you? What if they are but you just simply haven’t dug deep within yourself enough to find them? Take a little journey with fellow Life Coach - Ed Wilson - as we explore what might happen if the dig deeper pursuit was as important as the get laid pursuit! About Ed Ed is a 32 year-old, gay male, Australian, life coach, born in Perth to English migrants, living i...
Nov 12, 2021•47 min•Ep 146•Transcript available on Metacast There isn't a gay man alive who hasn't hated on himself or another gay man. Sometimes, we do it subconsciously and don't even realize what an ass we're being. It's ok, society groomed us this way. So let's break that internalized homophobia and start loving ourselves and each other just as we are as gay men. Here's a few ideas to make it easier. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to d...
Nov 05, 2021•17 min•Ep 145•Transcript available on Metacast We're all perfectly imperfect. But for gay men, perfection seems to be a futile pursuit - perfect abs, ass, chest, smile, bank account, material things...the list goes on. But when it comes to our bodies and our body image, we can be evil bitches to ourselves with a capital "B." It's time to start loving on ourselves in a way that says, "Small dicks and flabby abs, you are loved!" Helping to change the way gay men think about themselves, is my fellow coach and friend Anthony Catalino. He also is...
Oct 29, 2021•41 min•Ep 144•Transcript available on Metacast Sex, laughter, sex, love, sex, money. That's all it takes to make a healthy gay relationship work. If you believe that I've got a bottle of Clorox for you to fight COVID too. Truth is, it takes a lot of patience, understanding, and sex to make your gay relationship work. Here's a few tips on thriving in your gay relationship. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? The...
Oct 22, 2021•11 min•Ep 143•Transcript available on Metacast LGBTQ people are 9-10 times more likely to addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol or food. Why? For many reasons, but the most obvious reason is we've been shamed into submission for not being good enough. It's time for that shame to end and to demystify the pathway to treatment and recovery from whatever your addiction may be. Gregory Silva, Director of Operations at Living Longer Recovery, helps us as gay men understand our addiction tendencies and shares how to get the right kind of help to a sober,...
Oct 15, 2021•34 min•Ep 142•Transcript available on Metacast This man-to-man connecting, dating, mating, and relating, is so damn hard. Or is it? It can be if the effort isn't there, but it does take effort in all the right places. It may even take work, but when you invest in the relating and connecting the dividends can pay off for you in your gay relationships - friendships, hookups, or a serious long-term relationship. Here's how to look at relating in a different way. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You ...
Oct 08, 2021•11 min•Ep 141•Transcript available on Metacast When you hit 40 you think, "It's all down hill from here!" Sure it is if you are on a bike, riding 500 miles and you come into the home stretch of the AIDS Life Cycle ride. Yes, after turning 40, that is just one of the things that today's guest did, that enriched his life. He's even become an animated film producer, and that is after he turned 50. Join us for a fun, campy, sassy chat with Anthony Hand, about how 40 is just a number, not a destination. About Anthony Hand Creator, Director, Produ...
Oct 01, 2021•39 min•Ep 140•Transcript available on Metacast 
