Today we're welcoming guest Owen Ever to the show to discuss insights they have learned from researching the animal queendom's social-sexual dynamics. Ever is a community-oriented artist and educator committed to wonder, history and healthcare justice. They were previously a curator and historian at the New Orleans Pharmacy Museum, worked in HIV support and prevention at a community clinic and were a research associate with the CDC's national HIV behavioral health survey. They are a theatre make...
Aug 06, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Ep 491•Transcript available on Metacast We're back with another full-length Q&A episode where we answer questions from our Patreon supporters. Today we'll be discussing cPTSD and over-analyzing, resources for polyamory support, and non-hierarchical polyamory and plus ones. If you'd like your question answered on the next Q&A episode, consider joining our Patreon community! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group...
Jul 30, 2024•55 min•Ep 490•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're very excited to be showcasing an episode from our good friend Libby Sinback's podcast, Making Polyamory Work. In this episode, she's discussing unmet needs in polyamorous relationships from multiple angles. Libby Sinback is a queer, polyamorous mom, the host of the podcast Making Polyamory Work and a coach for people who want extraordinary relationships while choosing to live and love outside the status quo. She is certified in Relational Life Therapy, and has coached hundreds of peo...
Jul 23, 2024•1 hr•Ep 489•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're excited to be joined by Brett Chamberlin from OPEN! Brett (he/him) is a social impact organizer with over a decade of leadership experience building a more just and joyous future. He is the founder and Executive Director of OPEN, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. Prior to launching OPEN, Brett worked in the environmental movement as the Director of Community Engagement at The Story of Stuff Project and the co-founder of the Post Landfill Action Network. He live...
Jul 16, 2024•56 min•Ep 488•Transcript available on Metacast Today, join us for a hopeful discussion about depression! We'll be sharing some personal anecdotes, some research about depression, and some tips for dealing with depression when you or your partner are experiencing bad mental health episodes. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Treat yourself to some stories to turn...
Jul 09, 2024•1 hr•Ep 487•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about friendship, love, and romance with Rhaina Cohen. Rhaina is the author of the bestselling book The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. She's an award-winning producer and editor for NPR's documentary podcast Embedded. And she's written about social connection and policy for The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post and other outlets.Find her on Instagram @rhainacohen, or her newsletter here. Join our amazing community of ...
Jul 02, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep 486•Transcript available on Metacast We're back with another full-length Q&A episode answering questions from our supporters on Patreon. For today's episode, we'll be discussing what to do when you're in love with someone who hasn't disclosed that you're in love to their nesting partner, getting clarity on why you might want additional partners, and how to stay friends with an ex who has hurt you badly in the past. If you'd like your question answered on the show, consider joining our Patreon! Join our amazing community of listener...
Jun 25, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep 485•Transcript available on Metacast Today, Dr. Marie Thouin is back to talk about compersion and her new book on the subject.Dr. Marie Thouin is a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach who supports people of all backgrounds and relational orientations to create intentional and vibrant love lives. She is a leading expert on the topic of compersion and the author of the groundbreaking book, "What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships.” Marie has published seminal research studies, t...
Jun 18, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep 484•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about fear, specifically how it can affect our relationships and what happens when we lead with fear. We're going to discuss fear and what it means to lead with it in a relationship, as well as some ways we can consciously move away from being led by fear to have happier, more fulfilling connections. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discus...
Jun 11, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep 483•Transcript available on Metacast Join us today for a very special discussion with Todd Baratz! Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los An...
Jun 04, 2024•1 hr•Ep 482•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about insecurities, which all of us have in one way or another, and whose responsibility it is to alleviate them. A lot of us are unsure whether it's our own personal work to do or something to work on together with a partner. Therefore, today we'll be discussing the difference between personal insecurities and relationship insecurities, looking at what the science says about trying to manage a partner’s insecurities, and how to create a sense of greater security both in your...
May 28, 2024•57 min•Ep 481•Transcript available on Metacast This week we have a throwback episode going back six years ago to when we discussed three powerful communication tools to strengthen your relationships: switchtracking, bids, and microscripts. We're going to explore each of these concepts, provide examples of each, and talk about some practical and actionable tips to help you use them to foster better communication in your relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so ...
May 21, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Ep 480•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're talking about breaking up again, specifically about the process of grieving a breakup through the lens of the five stages of grief. Long relationships in particular can have difficult breakups and it can be hard to know where to turn. We're going to explore the stages of grief, healing, and recovery, and hope our musings can be helpful for people going through hard breakups. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions ...
May 14, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep 479•Transcript available on Metacast This week's Q&A episode is circling back to relationship anarchy and how to navigate it when most people either don't subscribe to it or don't even know what it is. If you want your question answered on a future Q&A join our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/multiamory. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiam...
May 10, 2024•21 min•Ep 478•Transcript available on Metacast This week, we're exploring the difference between loving someone and liking someone. We're specifically discussing how it is we can love someone but also not like being around them very much, and if one feeling is more important than the other. We'll also be talking about how knowing the distinction between liking and loving can help us show up in our relationships, and as always we'll have some takeaways to help you navigate these distinctions.Take the Love & Like test we talk about in the epis...
May 07, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Ep 477•Transcript available on Metacast This week's Q&A episode is tackling emotional and sexual exclusivity and navigating polyamory as someone mostly adjacent to it. Interested in having your question answered on one of our future Q&A episodes? Join our Patreon community at patreon.com/multiamory. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was creat...
May 03, 2024•15 min•Ep 476•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about what it means to "settle" in a relationship. We'll be discussing if it's okay to settle and what realistic expectations of a relationship should be, compromise, and whether or not we should hold out for a perfect relationship. We're going to look at research and surveys about finding partners who meet expectations, weigh some pros and cons of compromising versus never settling, and how someone can know if they're settling or being too inflexible. Join our amazing commun...
Apr 30, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep 475•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're tackling a question about sneaky hierarchy, aka sneakiarchy. We're talking about how to recognize it in future relationships, how to recognize when you might be creating it by accident, and more. If you want your question answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a member of our Patreon community! Visit www.multiamory.com/join to sign up. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get ac...
Apr 26, 2024•22 min•Ep 474•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about love languages, and taking a critical look at them to discuss whether or not they're actually as important as we make them out to be. We're going to go over some of the key assumptions behind the love languages and of course, look at what the research has to say. And finally, we discuss both the potential benefits and the possible pitfalls of relying too heavily on the love languages as a framework. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We...
Apr 23, 2024•57 min•Ep 473•Transcript available on Metacast This week's Q&A episode is discussing couples' privilege and how to be cognizant of when it may affect interactions with other potential partners. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group vi...
Apr 19, 2024•24 min•Ep 472•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about feeling possessive over a partner, the psychology and science behind it, and how even when non-monogamous, possessive feelings can still arise and create challenges for us. We'll even be discussing some times when a little bit of possessiveness can be a good thing! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord...
Apr 16, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep 471•Transcript available on Metacast This week's question from our Patreon supporters is discussing initiating sex, foreplay, and mismatched communications. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our am...
Apr 12, 2024•22 min•Ep 470•Transcript available on Metacast Nobody LIKES feeling uncomfortable...but today we're going to be looking at a few ways we sometimes avoid discomfort that may be making the problem worse instead of better. We're taking a good hard look at the emotions a lot of us prefer to avoid, how distractions and quick fixes aren't the best things to do all the time, and explore some techniques for reclaiming your ability to feel your emotions and improve your relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.co...
Apr 09, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep 469•Transcript available on Metacast This week's question for our Q&A episode is addressing mismatched desire during busy, long-term partnered life and being stuck in "practical mode." If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group v...
Apr 05, 2024•18 min•Ep 468•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're joined by Jeff Guenther, also known online as TherapyJeff! Jeff has joined us to talk about what he does, therapy, non-monogamy, and much more!Jeff Guenther, aka TherapyJeff, is, according to him, the most handsome therapist on the internet and is an international treasure who made Portland Oregon cool when he moved there in 2005. Jeff dedicates his time to creating short videos for TikTok and Instagram, and hosting his weekly podcasts, 'Big Dating Energy' and Problem Solved.’ Honest...
Apr 02, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep 467•Transcript available on Metacast During this mini episode, we're answering just one question from our Patreon community. Today we're discussing reframing relationships, de-escalation, and acceptance. If you'd like to have your question answered on a future mini episode, visit patreon.com/multiamory and become one of our Patreon supporters! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our...
Mar 29, 2024•19 min•Ep 466•Transcript available on Metacast Breakup season has passed, so we're going to spend an episode talking about independence is important for everyone, regardless of your relationship status. We'll go over some research and demographics, some common misconceptions about singlehood, and finally, some lessons we can all take to heart about being independent and prioritizing our own desires. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-...
Mar 26, 2024•45 min•Ep 465•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about honesty, and what makes it difficult to be honest with a partner. We all have difficulty with being honest sometimes, whether it's sharing a negative opinion about something or disclosing information about other partnerships. We're going to go over some of the research about what sometimes stops us from being honest in our relationships, and share some tools that can help you feel more comfortable being vulnerable and honest with people you love. Join our amazing commu...
Mar 19, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Ep 464•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about being open-minded: what it means, how it's often misunderstood, and how we're probably not as good at it as we think we are. Typically people think of open-mindedness as a good thing, especially among younger folks, but it's hard to research it, given how difficult it is to objectively measure. We'll be going over some of the research that has been done on open-mindedness, as well as some actionable tips about how to actually be more open-minded in everyday life. Join o...
Mar 12, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep 463•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about slow dating and slow love, which was brought to our attention by Damona Hoffman in episode 456. We'll go over what slow love is, whether it's the answer to NRE woes or not, some of slow love's benefits and pitfalls, and how to decide if it's something that's right for you or not. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our ...
Mar 05, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep 462•Transcript available on Metacast 
