During this mini episode, we're answering just one question from our Patreon community. Today we're discussing reframing relationships, de-escalation, and acceptance. If you'd like to have your question answered on a future mini episode, visit patreon.com/multiamory and become one of our Patreon supporters! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions...
Mar 29, 2024•20 min•Ep 466•Transcript available on Metacast Breakup season has passed, so we're going to spend an episode talking about independence is important for everyone, regardless of your relationship status. We'll go over some research and demographics, some common misconceptions about singlehood, and finally, some lessons we can all take to heart about being independent and prioritizing our own desires. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get acce...
Mar 26, 2024•43 min•Ep 465•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about honesty, and what makes it difficult to be honest with a partner. We all have difficulty with being honest sometimes, whether it's sharing a negative opinion about something or disclosing information about other partnerships. We're going to go over some of the research about what sometimes stops us from being honest in our relationships, and share some tools that can help you feel more comfortable being vulnerable and honest with people you love. If this show is helpfu...
Mar 19, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep 464•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about being open-minded: what it means, how it's often misunderstood, and how we're probably not as good at it as we think we are. Typically people think of open-mindedness as a good thing, especially among younger folks, but it's hard to research it, given how difficult it is to objectively measure. We'll be going over some of the research that has been done on open-mindedness, as well as some actionable tips about how to actually be more open-minded in everyday life. If thi...
Mar 12, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Ep 463•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about slow dating and slow love, which was brought to our attention by Damona Hoffman in episode 456. We'll go over what slow love is, whether it's the answer to NRE woes or not, some of slow love's benefits and pitfalls, and how to decide if it's something that's right for you or not. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions,...
Mar 05, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep 462•Transcript available on Metacast Today we have another Q&A episode, so we're diving into some listener questions. Some of the topics we're covering are what happens when just one relationship in a triad has to end, how to support a long distance partner, how to build confidence when you’ve been a “late bloomer” regarding sex and relationships, and what to do when a partner will not acknowledge their own jealousy. If you want to have your own question answered in a future Q&A episode, consider joining our Patreon community! If t...
Feb 27, 2024•56 min•Ep 461•Transcript available on Metacast Today's episode is an interview we did with Sara Sense of the Better in Bed podcast about jealousy and navigating it in the context of relationships and non-monogamy. Sara Tang is a certified sexologist and coach based in Hong Kong. She believes that sex is a skill and everyone can learn how to get better in bed. She is most passionate about helping people who had a limited sex education or culturally conservative upbringing feel more connected and confident with their sexuality. She started her...
Feb 20, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Ep 460•Transcript available on Metacast For our second part of our non-monogamy in the workplace series, we're talking about how to actually go about opening up at work, what kinds of changes your organization can do to make the most impact the fastest, and why companies should care about being accepting and open. To tackle these topics, we're sharing some excerpts from an interview with Dr. Lily Lamboy from the OPEN Workplaces Initiative. Dr. Lily Lamboy is a social impact executive, educator, and researcher who currently serves as t...
Feb 13, 2024•1 hr 18 min•Ep 459•Transcript available on Metacast Today's episode is the first part of a two-parter series on being out as non-monogamous at work. We're going to explore pros and cons being out at work, some tips on making the workplace a more welcoming place for diverse relationships, and some ways to help you decide if being out at work is the right decision or not for you. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, gro...
Feb 06, 2024•58 min•Ep 458•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're welcoming back Emily Nagoski to talk about her newest book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. Emily is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Her next book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections will be out in January 2024.Emily earned an M.S. in co...
Jan 30, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep 457•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're welcoming back Damona Hoffman, the Resident Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and OkCupid's Official Dating Coach. Damona is the host of the long-running podcast Dates & Mates, which has just begun airing its 10th season. She is also an advice columnist for the LA Times and a writer on dating and relationships for the Washington Post. Damona can frequently be seen on Access Daily sharing the latest dating news. We're going to be discussing her upcoming book, F the Fairytale: Rew...
Jan 23, 2024•1 hr 13 min•Ep 456•Transcript available on Metacast We're excited to have a special episode this week! Today Dedeker is flying solo and having a fantastic conversation with board-certified dance/movement therapist Orit Krug. Orit Krug is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist. Orit helps individuals & couples expand their capacity for self-love and intimacy in relationships by processing past trauma stored in the body. Orit is polyamorous, partnered, and a parent to a toddler.Dedeker and Ori...
Jan 16, 2024•1 hr 9 min•Ep 455•Transcript available on Metacast Happy New Year to all! Our first episode of 2024 is diving into a discussion about shifting from non-monogamy to monogamy. We'll be talking about why someone might want to go back to monogamy, what the potential benefits or negative consequences of doing so are, and what you should be asking yourself if you're considering it for yourself. We'll also be discussing how to make the transition back to monogamy more ethical and respectful and giving some pointers to ease the process for everyone invo...
Jan 09, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Ep 454•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about regret. Regret often gets a lot of negative feedback and a bad rap, often being called a useless negative emotion, but we're going to dive into some of the psychology research that indicates how regret can help us gain insight, motivation, and direction. We'll be discussing different types of regret, how regret can influence our relationship choices, and how to use regret to make positive changes in our lives. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazin...
Dec 19, 2023•53 min•Ep 453•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're doing our last Q&A episode of the year! We'll be tackling one final batch of listener questions ranging from unrequited NRE, insecurity and hypersexuality, determining if conscious monogamy is right for you, and more! If you're interested in submitting a question for a future Q&A episode, consider becoming one of our Patreon supporters at patreon.com/multiamory! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. ...
Dec 12, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep 452•Transcript available on Metacast Today we've got a very special episode: we're sharing an interview we did on Rachel Wright's show The Wright Conversations. In this episode we discuss going to therapy with family members, divorce, defining non-romantic relationships, inclusivity in relationship studies and much more! Rachel has a variety of interesting guests on her show every week, so be sure to check out other episodes of The Wright Conversations too! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of l...
Dec 05, 2023•56 min•Ep 451•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're excited to share a conversation with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, Polywise. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonogamy, The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partn...
Nov 28, 2023•59 min•Ep 450•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're taking some time to explore what happens when life's demands and outside stressors take a toll on even solid relationships. Things like busy schedules, financial woes, health issues, or other obligations can absolutely limit the time and energy you have for a relationship. We’ll be discussing strategies for collaborating through life’s ups and downs, keeping communication strong, getting creative with quality time, and more in today's episode. If this show is helpful to you, cons...
Nov 21, 2023•1 hr•Ep 449•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we’re sharing a preview of one of our favorite podcasts: Private Parts Unknown. Private Parts Unknown is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan....
Nov 17, 2023•16 min•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're rejoined by Evita Sawyers, who was last on the show back on episode 310. Evita is back to talk about her new book, "A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Nonmonogamous." Evita “Lavitaloca” Sawyers is a non-monogamy coach, speaker, and educator. Creator of “Today’s Polyamory Reminder”. Her approach is both frank yet empathetic and she is appreciated for her vulnerable openness about her own challenges in non-monogamy and helping others to grow.Check out he...
Nov 14, 2023•59 min•Ep 448•Transcript available on Metacast Today's episode is another Q&A, this time with Amanda Katherine from the Live Your F*ck Yes Life. Amanda Katherine (she/they) — — is on a mission to help you face your fears, speak your truth and get you one step closer to living your f*ck yes life. She has worked as a trauma informed coach, writer and facilitator since 2016 and as an artist, actor and storyteller for the better part of two decades. In 2018, they launched their podcast, Live Your F*ck Yes Life — the space to be for conscious con...
Nov 07, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep 447•Transcript available on Metacast Today we have a special episode highlighting an interview Dedeker did on the podcast Initiated Survivor, hosted by Kelsey Harper. Kelsey is a clinical psychologist and a survivor of sexual violence, and on her show she speaks directly with other survivors to hear their stories and offer practical skills for reclaiming their lives. Dedeker shares her experience with intimate partner violence within a non-monogamous context, since there are very few (if any) resources for survivors of violence tha...
Oct 31, 2023•37 min•Ep 446•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're diving deep into the world of drama! Have you ever met someone who just seems to thrive on it? Or maybe you've seen a bit of that drama-lover in yourself? We're going to be talking about why some of us need drama in our lives (there's science behind it!), and discussing some of the behaviors and whys behind a need for drama. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free epi...
Oct 24, 2023•59 min•Ep 445•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about the five different communication styles in order to help us identify some of the healthy and unhealthy ways we might be expressing ourselves. If we can learn to assert ourselves in a healthy, respectful way, it can improve the quality of our relationships, along with overall wellbeing and happiness. We'll go over some tools and techniques we can use to start improving our quality of communication. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of...
Oct 17, 2023•55 min•Ep 444•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about aggressive fairness in non-monogamy. We all want equitable relationships, but in a relationship style as fluid as non-monogamy there is often more to consider than simple fairness. We'll be exploring what aggressive fairness means and looks like, discuss what fair means for a relationship (non-monogamous and monogamous), and talk about some helpful ways you can find solutions to the questions around equity and fairness. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining o...
Oct 10, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep 443•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're discussing emotional safety and how our close relationships can provide a safe and comforting way to enhance our positive emotions and regulate our negative ones. Unfortunately, many relationships are lacking the feeling of safety and support necessary to facilitate honest emotional expression. We are going to look at a couple recent research questionnaires that set out to measure these qualities of our relationships and see how we can use them to improve our own romantic and platoni...
Oct 03, 2023•55 min•Ep 442•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're highlighting an interview Dedeker did on Rachel Krantz's show, Help Existing. Rachel is also the author of Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy. Rachel and Dedeker have a great conversation about boundaries, covering topics like, How do you figure out what your boundaries are? How should you go about communicating boundaries in a way that is both firm and compassionate? How can you remain flexible and open to change without having porous boundaries? Do...
Sep 26, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep 441•Transcript available on Metacast We're continuing our Q&A episode today with guest Kitty Stryker. Kitty has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over 13 years through her writing, workshops, and website consentculture.com. She's the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture," author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook," and is especially interested in bringing conversations about consent out of the bedroom into everyday life. In her copious free time, Kitty works as a street medic for direct act...
Sep 19, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Ep 440•Transcript available on Metacast Today we have a special guest who has been on our show before! Kitty Stryker has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over 13 years through her writing, workshops, and website consentculture.com. She's the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture," author of "Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook," and is especially interested in bringing conversations about consent out of the bedroom into everyday life. In her copious free time, Kitty works as a street medic for dire...
Sep 12, 2023•56 min•Ep 439•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're discussing aromanticism and aromantic partnerships! A lot of us have heard of asexuality, but the spectrum of aromanticism is a little less widely known. Someone who is aromantic experiences little to no romantic attraction to people of any gender, and lacks interest in having romantic relationships, but that doesn't mean the connections they may form with others are lesser than those of us who have romantic partnerships. We're going to discuss the spectrum of aromanticism, some of t...
Sep 05, 2023•54 min•Ep 438•Transcript available on Metacast 
