Fortunately, there's no Polyamory Board of Directors who decides who makes the cut or not. However, that doesn't prevent many people from worrying about whether or not they can claim a polyamorous identity. On this episode, we discuss identity, gatekeeping, and common questions that we get: "Am I still polyamorous if I still feel jealousy?" "Am I still polyamorous if I only have one partner?" "Am I still polyamorous if I'm not dating at all?" Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory...
Nov 13, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Ep 196•Transcript available on Metacast Online dating presents a wealth of opportunities to connect with like-minded people, but it also introduces the potential for endless frustration. If you're feeling discouraged from rejection, confused about how to write a good profile, or just plain burnt out from the whole process, check out our tips for maintaining your mental health and emotional wellbeing while navigating the world of dating online. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale ...
Nov 06, 2018•1 hr•Ep 195•Transcript available on Metacast We get a lot of questions related to infidelity: can you even "cheat" when you're consensually non-monogamous? If my partner cheats on me, should we transition into an open relationship in order to stay together? Is it possible to heal a relationship after infidelity? Tune in for the answers to these questions, as well as guidance on recovering from infidelity or other major breaches of trust. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptio...
Oct 30, 2018•1 hr•Ep 194•Transcript available on Metacast Long distance relationships are pretty common in non-monogamous communities, and they are becoming even easier to maintain with modern technology. This week, we share the latest statistics on on the success of long distance relationships as well as fundamental practices to keep your LDR running smooth. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amaz...
Oct 23, 2018•1 hr 6 min•Ep 193•Transcript available on Metacast Forget participation trophies! This week we're talking about self-esteem. We all have our highs and lows, but did you know that having greater self-esteem is associated with better health and a better social life? We'll talk about the easiest ways to get a lasting self-esteem boost, whether it's possible to have self-esteem that's too high, and how to access self-esteem and self-love even when it's hard. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale ...
Oct 16, 2018•54 min•Ep 192•Transcript available on Metacast Are your relationships a dumping ground for toxic waste? This week we talk about the hallmarks of toxicity in relationships. Whether you've got a toxic metamour, romantic partner, co-worker, or friend, tune in to learn how to recognize the signs and break free. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was crea...
Oct 02, 2018•46 min•Ep 191•Transcript available on Metacast Do you feel like you can do anything? Are your palms sweaty and your stomach butterfly...ish? You may be feeling New Relationship Energy (NRE). This week we talk about the chemical overload your brain gives you when you're first falling in love, as well as strategies to stay grounded and care for other relationships even while you're over the moon. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free ...
Sep 25, 2018•50 min•Ep 190•Transcript available on Metacast When you start talking to people about non-traditional relationships, the reaction isn't always pretty. This week dicuss what motivates negative reactions to non-monogamy, as well as practical tips for handling the haters and rocking tough conversations with grace and ease. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multia...
Sep 18, 2018•1 hr 2 min•Ep 189•Transcript available on Metacast Some people think polyamory can only function with a primary-secondary hierarchy. Others think it's a recipe for disaster. On this episode, we want to dive into the nuances of hierarchy -- how it has affected our lives personally, when it's been beneficial, and when it's been painful. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord commun...
Sep 11, 2018•1 hr 12 min•Ep 188•Transcript available on Metacast No one wants a relationship full of drama...or do they? Turns out there are specific roles that many of us actually enjoy to play in any given "drama" situation. This week we talk about how to break the cycle and transform drama into empowerment. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker ...
Sep 04, 2018•56 min•Ep 187•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever tensed up when a partner tried to hug you after a fight? What about feeling weird when a partner comes home from a date with someone else? This week we're talking about the best ways to reconnect with a partner after a physical or emotional separation, even when it doesn't feel easy. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing D...
Aug 28, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Ep 186•Transcript available on Metacast On this episode we speak with Dr. Alex Bove about the findings of his recently published research on metamours and masculinity, titled: "Meta, More or Less? A Phenomenological Study of Polyamorous Men’s Relationships with Their Male Metamours." Tune in to find out more about the three phases of the metamour relationship, as well as the key traits of healthy metamour connections. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone ...
Aug 21, 2018•1 hr 6 min•Ep 185•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're coming at ya live from our first ever patreon retreat in Lake Tahoe, CA! We answer questions from our Patreon supporters, discussing how to avoid scarcity mindset, preventing burnout, fostering inclusivity, Emily's goddess voice, and more! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by...
Aug 14, 2018•1 hr 5 min•Ep 184•Transcript available on Metacast What does it mean to have a relationship that feels "equal"? Is it a fair division of labor? Mutual trust and respect? Treating every partner exactly the same? This week we dive in to equal and inequal relationships, as well as how the concept of equity can help to bring balance to your love life. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing D...
Aug 07, 2018•1 hr 6 min•Ep 183•Transcript available on Metacast If you've listened to this podcast for a while, you're aware that the Multiamory crew are a bunch of gaming nerds. This week, we dive into the principles and psychology behind gamification, as well as how you can gamify your way to self-improvement and better relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multia...
Jul 31, 2018•1 hr•Ep 182•Transcript available on Metacast We're extra excited to speak to Professor Kim Tallbear. Dr. Tallbear is the author of The Critical Polyamorist blog, as well as several books, articles, and talks on settler sexuality, Indigenous peoples, technology, and relationships. We dig into the details of what settler sexuality is, how it influences our relationships, and the many different ways in which we create extended support networks of kin. You can find more of Kim's work at CriticalPolyamorist.com and TipiConfessions.com. Join our...
Jul 24, 2018•55 min•Ep 181•Transcript available on Metacast It's a questions we've gotten since starting the podcast -- can mono/poly relationships work? We're joined by Phoebe Phillips, author of the Polyammering blog and creator of the "Monocorn Sanctuary" group on Facebook. Phi shares her own experience as the mono side of a long-term polyamorous relationship as well as her guidance for people considering this type of dynamic. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also...
Jul 17, 2018•55 min•Ep 180•Transcript available on Metacast Anxiety can rear its head in the form of some weird gut feelings or nervousness, or it can be a full blown panic attack. This week we talk about the full spectrum of how anxiety and anxiety disorders show up in our relationships, how to cope with them, and how to comfort a partner who is experiencing anxiety. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and o...
Jul 10, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Ep 179•Transcript available on Metacast Let's look at the fundamentals of boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most powerful and important tools for having healthy relationships, but it’s one that is often misunderstood and misused. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme m...
Jul 03, 2018•1 hr 2 min•Ep 178•Transcript available on Metacast This is your brain. And this is your brain on love. We’re talking about your brain on relationships -- how the different parts of your brain affect how we relate to our partners, and how we can use that to build better relationships. This week's episode was inspired in part by Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin, MFT. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, an...
Jun 26, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Ep 177•Transcript available on Metacast Peace be with you! This week we're sitting down with Rev. Austin Adkinson and theologian J.D. Mechelke to dive into the tricky topic of polyamory and Christianity. How is the Christian church handling shifting values around sexuality and non-traditional relationships? What about the church's bad track record with sex positivity? And what the heck is a sword drill?J.D. R. Mechelke (he/him/his) J.D. R. Mechelke currently lives in Minneapolis, MN. He graduated from Augsburg University in Minneapoli...
Jun 19, 2018•1 hr 6 min•Ep 176•Transcript available on Metacast The Internet: making you get in fights with strangers since the 90s! This week we dive into online arguments: how they happen, how to avoid them, and how to most effectively communicate when you find yourself in the thick of it. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lind...
Jun 12, 2018•1 hr 7 min•Ep 175•Transcript available on Metacast Author and gender therapist Dara Hoffman-Fox joins us once again to talk about gender, identity, and the full spectrum that lies outside the traditional binary. We discuss terminology, misconceptions, and the important journey of discovering one's self identity. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was cre...
Jun 05, 2018•57 min•Ep 174•Transcript available on Metacast Can you stay close with an ex after a breakup? Multiamory proves that it is possible! In this episode, Jase and Emily explore the subtle nuances of transitioning your relationship from romantic to platonic, the necessary time it takes to transition, and how sometimes it isn't always worth it to try to stay in each other's lives. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group vide...
May 29, 2018•1 hr 6 min•Ep 173•Transcript available on Metacast In this live show episode from our 2018 tour, we're surveying how pop culture has treated polyamory and other non-monogamous relationships in the past year. We look at clips from She's Gotta Have It, Professor Marston & the Wonder Women, Steven Universe, and many more. For the full experience, be sure to check out this episode on YouTube. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, ...
May 22, 2018•1 hr 22 min•Ep 172•Transcript available on Metacast We're pleased to have Dr. Eli Sheff back on the show to talk about her 15+ years of research into polyamorous families with children. Sheff shares the shifting trends she has seen over the course of her study as well as some practical tips for polyamorous people looking to cohabit or raise children with multiple partners. You can find more of Sheff's work at https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door. You can support her research on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/bePatro...
May 15, 2018•1 hr 11 min•Ep 171•Transcript available on Metacast Multiamory made some new friends at RelateCon! We sit down with Cosmo Meens and Melissa Mango to discuss their work in consent, pleasure-based touching, and how objectifying your partner can actually be really, really sexy. You can find more of their work at sexlovesoul.com and at happytouch.ca Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Disc...
May 08, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Ep 170•Transcript available on Metacast This week we’re talking about how to be open, honest, and unafraid when talking to other people about your relationships, whether they are someone you are dating, a new acquaintance, or an old friend. -- a little something that we call being unapolygetic. Check out Dara Hoffman-Fox's worksheet for coming out here: http://darahoffmanfox.com/comingoutworksheet/ Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access ...
May 01, 2018•1 hr 2 min•Ep 169•Transcript available on Metacast We’re opening our Communication Hacks: Booster Pack! The Multiamory crew walks each other through a communication tip that we recently discovered and thought was super awesome. Learn how switch-tracking, bids, and micro scripts can take your relationship communication to the next level. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord comm...
Apr 24, 2018•1 hr•Ep 168•Transcript available on Metacast On this episode of the Multiamory podcast we’re at the first annual Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, Arizona speaking with lawyer Jonathan Lane, who specializes in family and immigration law for the polyamorous, kinky, and LGBTQ communities Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston,...
Apr 17, 2018•50 min•Ep 167•Transcript available on Metacast 
