After four years of work, our book is available for pre-order on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and wherever books are sold! Help us get this book on the mainstream charts by pre-ordering and telling your friends: multiamory.com/bookThe book is a collection of our most popular communication tools, compiled with new insights, real-world examples, worksheets, discussion questions, and more. If you've ever wanted to be able to reference, highlight, or gift our podcast to someone, this is it! We've worke...
Feb 23, 2023•10 min•Ep 410•Transcript available on Metacast Join us for another Q&A episode where we answer some listener questions and discuss post-breakup friendships, fading NRE, creative ways to satisfy touch needs in long-distance relationships, and more! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our ...
Feb 21, 2023•59 min•Ep 410•Transcript available on Metacast We as humans we love novelty, and when our relationships become complacent and repetitive, it can negatively affect them. However, we also crave stability and predictability in our lives and in our relationships, and feeling safe is important. It's because of this duality that we're looking at how rituals can be a benefit to your relationships, exploring some of the research, and discussing some ways that you can incorporate them into your life in a way that is the most beneficial to your relati...
Feb 14, 2023•53 min•Ep 409•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about work, and how your relationship with work can affect your relationship with others, whether you have similar or different views on it. We're also going to be looking at some of the most recent research about workaholic behaviors, as well as how to talk to your partner when you're both having difficulty concerning each other's work habits or schedules. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamo...
Feb 07, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Ep 408•Transcript available on Metacast Love bombing has become a hot topic both in psychology and on social media these days, and so during this episode, we're exploring what love bombing is, what the research says about it, and if it's actually a helpful concept. What does it mean for the future of the relationship, for example? What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of it? We're going to discuss all of this, as well as some actionable steps to take if you've been love bombed by a loved one. If this show is helpful to you...
Jan 31, 2023•1 hr•Ep 407•Transcript available on Metacast We're having our first Q&A episode in the new year with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova! During this episode, we learn a little about Dr. Zhana's work and answer some questions posed by our Patreon supporters. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova is a relationship scientist, consultant, and NYU adjunct professor of human sexuality. She’s a world-renowned expert in nonmonogamy and the creator of Open Smarter™, an online course that guides couples and individuals to identify and navigate the relationship type best suited fo...
Jan 24, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep 406•Transcript available on Metacast One of the most searched relationship questions online is "Is it normal to have doubts about my relationship?" On today's episode, we're exploring that topic, asking is it normal? Why do we have doubts about our relationships? How can we tell the difference between doubts that stem from insecurities versus doubts that are a sign of more serious issues? We're going to discuss some research, and as always, some actionable tools to help when you're having these types of doubts. If this show is help...
Jan 17, 2023•54 min•Ep 405•Transcript available on Metacast For today's episode, we're joined by Damona Hoffman to talk about a variety of topics, including dating and modern dating culture, and she also answers some of our Patreon community's questions. Damona is the Resident Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and OkCupid's Official Dating Coach. Damona is the host of the long-running podcast Dates & Mates, which has just started airing its 10th Season. She is also an advice columnist for the LA Times and a writer on dating and relationships for the...
Jan 10, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep 404•Transcript available on Metacast We talk a lot about handling breakups in romantic relationships, but we haven't talked much about friendship breakups. In this episode, we're discussing some reasons why friendships end, research and statistics on friendship breakups, whether or not reconciliation is appropriate or possible, and of course, how to get through the difficult experience of you and a friend parting ways. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Mul...
Dec 20, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep 403•Transcript available on Metacast Glen Olson and Terry Lee Brussels, authors of the book "Fifty Years of Polyamory in America: A Guided Tour of a Growing Movement," join us for a deep discussion about their book, the history of polyamory, influences from literature and the idea of a utopian society, and more.Glen Olson is an author and historian of polyamory communities in America. He is a retired fire captain, paramedic, and technical writer. Over the years he has made presentations to colleges and science fiction conventions o...
Dec 13, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep 402•Transcript available on Metacast Kathy Labriola is back to discuss her most recent book with us, "Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships," some of the inspiration that drove her to write about aging in polyamory, cultural narratives that affect how we perceive polyamorous elders, and more. Kathy Labriola is a nurse, counselor and hypnotherapist in private practice in Berkeley, California. Her mission is providing affordable mental health services to alternative communities. She has been a card-carrying bisexual and pol...
Dec 06, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep 401•Transcript available on Metacast It's our 400th episode! Join us for a conversation where we talk about how Multiamory is produced, all the people, money, and costs involved, and how the show has grown and changed over the years. We also discuss some of the best parts about doing this podcast, some positive AND negative stories, and finally, we wrap up this monumental episode with some discussion about the future of Multiamory. We want to thank all of our listeners and supporters so much for making this show possible and access...
Nov 29, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Ep 400•Transcript available on Metacast Author and professor Carrie Jenkins joins us this week to discuss her newest book, Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning, and some of the principle themes in it. She goes into detail about questioning the relationship between happiness and love, eudaimonic love, "lovecrafting," and more.Carrie Jenkins is an author and philosophy professor who lives and works on the unceded territories of the Squamish, Tsleil-Waututh, and Musqueam First Nations. Carrie’s first novel, Victoria Sees It, was ...
Nov 22, 2022•55 min•Ep 399•Transcript available on Metacast Today's episode is guaranteed to spark strong opinions. We're discussing relationship anarchy: can it be practiced in monogamy or is it a contradiction of terms? We'll be looking at some of the core components of relationship anarchy and how they can be applied in order to improve our relationships and work against the various normative systems that cause so many to be hurt, disenfranchised, or disempowered.For some more background and a deeper dive into relationship anarchy, check out Episode 1...
Nov 15, 2022•1 hr 14 min•Ep 398•Transcript available on Metacast We're back again with another Q&A episode to answer some of our listeners' questions! Today we're tackling the difficult topics of different nesting styles, different communication styles and discussing the future, discovering community in non-monogamy, unintentional impressions of hierarchy, navigating sex after a prolonged period of not having it, and polysaturation signs.Want your question answered on a future Q&A episode? Join our Patreon community! If this show is helpful to you, consider j...
Nov 08, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep 397•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're joined by Michael Kaye, head of communications at OKCupid! We're thrilled to have Michael join us to discuss online dating, how it has changed over the years and over the course of the pandemic, give some specific online dating advice and insight about dating trends, and answer some questions from our listeners about non-monogamous dating on OkCupid. Find more of Michael at @MichaelKayePR and @OkCupid on Instagram and Twitter respectively.OKCupid has also been generous enough to offe...
Nov 01, 2022•59 min•Ep 396•Transcript available on Metacast Part 2 of 50 Way to Handle Jealousy is here! Today's episode covers the final 24 out of the 50 tools we're discussing this series. Last week we discussed tools for your brain and tools for your body, and today the tools we're going over fall into the categories of tools for your relationships, and tools for your heart and soul. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, gr...
Oct 25, 2022•57 min•Ep 395•Transcript available on Metacast Everyone in a consensually non-monogamous relationship gets asked the question, "How do you deal with the jealousy?" Even people who have practiced non-monogamy for years or who never expected to experience jealousy do experience it, so it's worth building a toolkit for yourself to break into when you need it. In today's episode we're discussing it by going over 26 different tools that can be used to help us handle jealousy when it comes up (and it will come up!). Stay tuned for next week when w...
Oct 18, 2022•54 min•Ep 394•Transcript available on Metacast It's time for another Q&A style episode! We're discussing some of our Patreon supporters' questions concerning polysaturation, communicating about availability, feeling homesick for an existing partner when on a date with a new one, friends with benefits, and more! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was ...
Oct 11, 2022•58 min•Ep 393•Transcript available on Metacast We have another episode about stress to share with you! Today's episode is a discussion on what stress is and how it can affect your partnerships, particularly if there is a disproportionate amount of it between partners. At the end of the episode, we will go over some ways to alleviate stress and promote healthier partnerships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, g...
Oct 04, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep 392•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about love addiction! Love addiction is a bit of a controversial term to begin with, so today we're going to go over what addiction even is, how addictive behaviors can manifest in relationships, and the differences between healthy polyamory and love addiction. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more!...
Sep 27, 2022•1 hr•Ep 391•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're joined by Jessica Levity Daylover, elder millennial, polyamorous parent, entertainer, author, and more. Jessica has a BA in Philosophy and Sociology, and a certificate in LGBT/Gender Studies from the University of Wisconsin–Madison. After moving to Reno in 2008, she launched Homeslice Productions, which is the umbrella production company through which she produces all the pieces of her imagination: podcasts, shows, comedy, social media, game shows, murder mysteries, guided meditation...
Sep 20, 2022•57 min•Ep 390•Transcript available on Metacast We're back with another Q&A episode, and this time Libby Sinback is joining us to give her perspective as a queer, polyamorous mom. She is also the host of the podcast Making Polyamory Work and a coach for people who want extraordinary relationships while choosing to live and love outside the status quo. She is certified in Relational Life Therapy, and has coached hundreds of people in breaking their unhelpful relationship patterns so that they can have happier, more nourishing love in their lif...
Sep 13, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep 389•Transcript available on Metacast Today brings us to part 2 in our series on our discussion about self-worth and comparison, with this part focusing more on the comparison aspect. We'll be covering how comparison can affect your relationships with not only significant others and peers, but also with yourself. We'll talk about some research done on comparison, and end things with some ways to stop comparing yourself to others and an exercise to explore your strengths that can be found here: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets...
Sep 06, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep 388•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're kicking off part 1 of 2 in our series on self-worth and comparison and its impact, both positive and negative, on relationships. During this part of the series we're discussing self-worth and its relationship impact, reviewing some studies done about it, and sharing some steps you can take to gain a better sense of positive self-worth! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ...
Aug 30, 2022•59 min•Ep 387•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're joined by Drs. Marie Thouin and Sharon Flicker to discuss compersion and the research they have conducted about it. Dr. Marie Thouin was last on the podcast on episode 285 to discuss her compersion research that was not fully completed yet, so we are excited to have both her and Dr. Sharon Flicker here to go over their collaborative findings and discuss whether or not compersion is necessary in a relationship. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of ...
Aug 23, 2022•50 min•Ep 386•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're looking at conflict in relationships, what you can do to make sure conflict isn't negatively affecting your relationship, some research on it and some ways we can apply these lessons to our everyday lives, whether that's in a romantic relationship or another type of relationship. We'll be looking at some common patterns of unhealthy conflict, some specific research studies on it, and some actionable takeaways to improve how we can do better when engaging in conflict. If this show...
Aug 16, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep 385•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're joined by Emma and Fin from the podcast Normalizing Non-Monogamy! We're doing another Q&A style episode where we answer some of our Patreon questions while also hearing perspective from both Emma and Fin. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Em...
Aug 09, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep 384•Transcript available on Metacast This week's research roundup is covering recent studies about ethical non-monogamy and mental health, sexual health, and the health of children and adults in non-monogamous families. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is For...
Aug 02, 2022•1 hr 18 min•Ep 383•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome to part 1 of our non-monogamy research roundup! Today's episode features some interesting research about non-monogamy: who practices non-monogamy, what studies have found motivates people to pursue it, and how healthy non-monogamous relationships are in general. Stay tuned for part 2 coming next week! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussio...
Jul 26, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep 382•Transcript available on Metacast 
