The Multiamory West Coast tour brought the crew to Seattle on February 14th. On this very traditional romantic holiday, we spent some time discussing how people in non-traditional relationships can use this as a time to reflect on the unique qualities each relationship and each partner brings to the table. We also discuss the slightly creepy origins of Valentine's Day itself. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can...
Feb 21, 2017•1 hr 15 min•Ep 107•Transcript available on Metacast This week's episode was recorded during Multiamory's very first stop on their West Coast Tour 2017! Every seat in the house at Octopus Literary Salon in Oakland, California was full as we presented a talk on the 7 habits of highly effective polyamorous people. Drawing inspiration from our mentors and role models, we break down the key qualities found in the happiest and healthiest non-traditional relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding...
Feb 14, 2017•1 hr 17 min•Ep 106•Transcript available on Metacast Our own Dedeker Winston's book, The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory comes out internationally today and we are so excited to be able to interview her about the book and share our own experiences with reading it. Dedeker talks to us about the importance of creating a book that empowers women to have agency in their relationships and shares some of the insights she gained and experiences she had during the two-year process of writing this comprehensive guide to Polyamory for the modern world. Thou...
Feb 07, 2017•40 min•Ep 105•Transcript available on Metacast This is a very special live presentation by the Multiamory crew that took place in Santa Monica on January 20th, 2017. In this episode we are discussing the various ways polyamory and non-monogamous relationships are portrayed in fictional movies, TV, and webseries. From hilarious to touching to bizarre, we explore what stories are currently being told in our mainstream media, including clips from House of Cards, Orange is the New Black, Futurama, and many more. Join our amazing community of lis...
Jan 31, 2017•1 hr 16 min•Ep 104•Transcript available on Metacast This week we are very pleased to speak with Eri Kardos, international speaker, coach, and author of the newly released book Relationship Agreements. Eri takes us through the basic philosophy of using agreements to strengthen your relationships, whether you are polyamorous or monogamous. We also learn how a small, blue, furry monster named Fred can help change the way you think about your romantic relationships.Eri's book will be released on Tuesday, February 24th. You can download it for FREE, b...
Jan 24, 2017•36 min•Ep 103•Transcript available on Metacast If you've ever been in a relationship with a human being, chances are you've encountered some emotions within yourself and the other person. Until the day we are dating Vulcans or robots, our relationships will continue to be sticky, emotional, and not always rational. But all is not lost -- a healthy dose of emotional responsibility can go far! In this episode we deconstruct exactly what emotional responsibility is, and how it can bring clarity and calm to moments of conflict. We explore what i...
Jan 17, 2017•40 min•Ep 102•Transcript available on Metacast This week on Multiamory, Jase and Emily get all Gender Non-Specific with our special guest, professional cuddliest and dominatrix, Tate Ashley! Tate helps us explore queer theory, gender "extremes" vs. gender "middle ground," and language and its inefficiency when referring to gender non-conformity. The three of us also reveal the childhood experiences that helped shape our own personal gender identity and sexuality.You can find out more about Tate Ashley, their work, and their writing at http:/...
Jan 10, 2017•44 min•Ep 101•Transcript available on Metacast It's Multiamory's 100th episode! It's a new season! It's a new year! And that means....New Year's Resolutions. Download the worksheet here to use in your own relationships!In this episode we are discussing how to make resolutions for your relationships in 2017. However, this isn't your typical discussion on goal-setting. We are going to be taking you through a process to dig deeper into your relationships and uncovering what will be the best driving force for you and your partners in the coming ...
Jan 03, 2017•38 min•Ep 100•Transcript available on Metacast 2016 was a challenging year, but the Multiamory crew is tired of all the doom and gloom. In this episode, we review the good parts of 2016. A lot of great things happened for the Multiamory podcast, for the polyamory community, and for all three of us! Join us in generating some positivity to combat all the crap that happened in 2016. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, grou...
Dec 27, 2016•36 min•Ep 99•Transcript available on Metacast The holidays are upon us, and so is the holiday stress! This week we are talking about all the aspects of the holidays that makes us fall into a temporary stress-induced insanity. We also give insights on managing the holidays with multiple partners and how to tackle coming out to your family members. But most exciting of all, we play a very special Christmas edition of Two Truths and a Lie. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions...
Dec 20, 2016•47 min•Ep 98•Transcript available on Metacast This week we are discussing a unique communication system to try out in your relationships: agile scrum. The agile scrum system was originally developed to be applied to software development, but writer Alanna Krause adapted the system to become a new system for communication in her relationship. The Multiamory crew tested out holding monthly scrum meetings with our partners, and today we're going to tell you all about the results! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast....
Dec 13, 2016•40 min•Ep 97•Transcript available on Metacast This week we are excited to speak with Jackie Stone, director of the poly-themed web series, Compersion. Jackie shares with us her inspiration to tell the story of a monogamous couple opening up their marriage, and her commitment to bringing gritty realism to her storytelling. We also open up the discussion surrounding race, diversity, and representation of people of color within the media and within the poly community itself.You can get started with Compersion episode 1 by clicking here: https:...
Dec 06, 2016•42 min•Ep 96•Transcript available on Metacast This week the Multiamory crew is very excited to intereview sex educator and podcast host for The Nerdist, Sex Nerd Sandra! Sandra takes us through the complex world of consent within relationships and sexual encounters. We discuss the education about consent, the ways that men and women both respect and violate consent differently, and also about how delicious FRIES are. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can als...
Nov 29, 2016•50 min•Ep 95•Transcript available on Metacast This week we welcome very special guest Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex Positive Quest for Love.We dig into all kinds of topics in this one: sex positivity, sex party etiquette, being a single hetero man in the swinging scene, quick fixes for handling jealousy at a play party, and just a little bit about butt stuff. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, grou...
Nov 22, 2016•45 min•Ep 94•Transcript available on Metacast At Multiamory, we generally discourage people from building their relationships on a basis of strict, primary-secondary hierarchy. However, primary-secondary relationships are still very common in the polyamorous community. All three of us have engaged in these kind of relationships at one point or another, for better or worse. In this episode, we talk about the experience of being a secondary partner, and we give our advice to secondaries for crafting relationships that will keep them safe, hap...
Nov 15, 2016•35 min•Ep 93•Transcript available on Metacast Coming out to partners, family, friends, or co-workers about being polyamorous is an important decision that could potentially change your life and your relationships, for better or worse. In this episode, we run you through the most important risks and benefits to consider before deciding to come out to someone important. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video disc...
Nov 08, 2016•47 min•Ep 92•Transcript available on Metacast Only 1/3 of the Multiamory crew identifies as male, but social expectations of masculinity have had an influence on all of us. This week we're digging in to the fundamentals of masculinity. What does it mean to "be a man"? What are the classic hallmarks of masculinity, and how are those expectations both hurting and helping us? What's more, we discuss how traditional notions of masculinity sometimes clash with the ideals of polyamory. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.superca...
Nov 02, 2016•43 min•Ep 91•Transcript available on Metacast Have you ever felt alone on your poly journey? Do your friends or family immediately jump to blaming polyamory for any relationship problems you may have? We've definitely all encountered this and have wished for a better support network.On this episode we talk with two people who created their own Poly Processing Group that has been hugely transformational in the way it helps them and others (including Jase!) get through those tough patches and emotional challenges. In addition to discussing th...
Oct 25, 2016•41 min•Ep 90•Transcript available on Metacast This week, the Multiamory crew is pissed off. The current political climate has inspired us to vent about a number of topical things that get under our skin: toxic masculinity, sexual harassment, the alt right, and more. In particular, we examine how the polyamorous community is not immune to these things, as well as addressing what steps everyone can take to turn things around. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone ...
Oct 18, 2016•44 min•Ep 89•Transcript available on Metacast Most of us enjoy feeling special, particularly to our romantic partners. In traditional relationships, one's specialness is closely linked to exclusivity. You are the person I choose to be monogamous with, therefore you are #1 special person in my life! But when you have multiple partners, this thinking gets turned on its head. This week we discuss how to maintain a sense of specialness in each of your relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer s...
Oct 11, 2016•38 min•Ep 88•Transcript available on Metacast For a long time there haven't been many public role models to demonstrate healthy, high-functioning polyamory, in contrast to the many demonstrations of monogamy we see every day on TV, movies, and other corners of the media. It's easy to make mistakes when first venturing down the path of non-monogamy. This week, we take you through five common mistakes made by people first opening up a closed relationship or dabbling in polyamory. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast...
Oct 04, 2016•33 min•Ep 87•Transcript available on Metacast Sustainability means making decisions that address the needs of the present without compromising the needs of the future. The term is most often applied to environmental policy, but how does the concept of sustainability apply to relationships? Are poly relationships more sustainable than monogamous ones? Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our a...
Sep 27, 2016•38 min•Ep 86•Transcript available on Metacast Having a positive relationship with your metamours can dramatically improve the quality of your relationship landscape. In this episode we cover the who, what, where, when, why, and how of meeting your metamours and setting yourself up for the best possible outcomes. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory wa...
Sep 20, 2016•35 min•Ep 85•Transcript available on Metacast If you are new to poly or just opening up your relationship, you may come to a realization that is exciting for some and terrifying for others: time to go on first dates! Going on first dates when you're poly presents a whole host of unique benefits and challenges. In this episode, we lay out all the pros and cons of poly dating, as well as our most Zen advice for making each first date enjoyable and fulfilling, even if you don't feel that the chemistry is there. Join our amazing community of li...
Sep 13, 2016•42 min•Ep 84•Transcript available on Metacast It's dangerous to go alone...take this! It's the Triforce of Communication!What is that, you ask? The Triforce of Communication, other than being a nerdy title, are the three primary goals of communication in any given conversation or interaction with a partner. Communication breakdowns often occur when you and your partner have mismatched goals. If your partner thinks you are seeking support or acknowledgment when you are actually seeking problem-solving advice, disappointment and frustration c...
Sep 06, 2016•41 min•Ep 83•Transcript available on Metacast This week we are discussing the theory of attachment in adults. That may sound daunting, but it's actually quite simple. Your individual attachment style is how you react when a particular relationship experiences separation, threat, or pressure. Some people react by becoming clingy and impulsive, and others react by pushing the other person away. In this episode we discuss the four main categories of attachment style, and how these may manifest differently in multiple relationships. Join our am...
Aug 30, 2016•34 min•Ep 82•Transcript available on Metacast The Multiamory podcast just turned two years old! Welcome to the terrible twos, baby! On this episode, we give a recap of all the things we've accomplished in the past two years, much of it with the inspiration of our wonderful listeners and fans. We also talk about the personal turning points we've each had in the past year, and how that has changed our lives and our relationships. As an added bonus, we try to make Jase cry. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. W...
Aug 23, 2016•43 min•Ep 81•Transcript available on Metacast Your love language is the way in which you express love and prefer to receive love from your partners. Each person has a unique combination of love languages, some stronger than others. You may not realize it, but you and your partner may be speaking different love languages, which can lead to confusion and frustration. If you can determine your love language, as well as that of your partner(s), it can open up a whole new world of effortless communication and intimacy. In this episode, we cover ...
Aug 16, 2016•36 min•Ep 80•Transcript available on Metacast OmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmWelcome and namaste! This week we are talking about the spiritual side of alternative relationships. Polyamory has long been associated with the free love movement, which in turn has long been associated with the New Age spirituality of hippies. Though modern-day religions tend to condemn polyamorous relationships, there are a number of people in the poly community who closely tie their relationship structure to their spiritual practice. Is it possible to find enlightenm...
Aug 09, 2016•42 min•Ep 79•Transcript available on Metacast Sexual orientation and gender identity are currently hot-button topics. The non-monogamous community attracts many people who are exploring alternative identities, but many of the challenges in dating, acceptance, and personal discovery remain the same. How do you operate with grace and confidence in a culture that isn't necessarily fair to everyone? Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-fre...
Aug 02, 2016•40 min•Ep 78•Transcript available on Metacast 
