Rachel Krantz is back to talk about her experience with monogamy after being non-monogamous. Rachel is a journalist and the author of OPEN: One Woman's Journey Through Love and Polyamory. She was the namer of Bustle, and one of its three founding editors. She’s the recipient of the Robert F. Kennedy Journalism Award, the Investigative Reporters and Editors Radio Award, the Peabody Award, and the Edward R. Murrow Award. You can follow her on Instagram @rachelkrantz, and subscribe to her podcast, ...
Sep 10, 2024•1 hr•Ep 496•Transcript available on Metacast For today's episode, we're examining anger from a slightly different perspective: how it relates to anxiety and vulnerability in your relationships. We're going to be talking about the science behind why anger and anxiety are often closely linked, debunking common myths about what these emotions look like in relationships, and giving you practical tools to break free from the cycle of reactivity. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at p...
Sep 03, 2024•50 min•Ep 495•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're back with another Q&A episode in which we discuss one penis policies, labels and identities, and intimate friendships. If you want one of your questions answered on an upcoming episode, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/multiamory! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode...
Aug 27, 2024•53 min•Ep 494•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're discussing the relationship escalator, which is often criticized in non-monogamous spaces. However, some non-monogamous folks may want the same milestones and journey that the relationship escalator provides, so today we're talking about what can happen if you're someone who wants to move up the escalator with a partner or partners. We'll be going over some pros and cons of the relationship escalator, some research about how quickly people tend to escalate in relationships, and how ...
Aug 20, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep 493•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're diving into workaholism and its effect on relationships. A lot of us in western (American) culture pride ourselves on working hard and never taking a break, but how effective is this mentality, really? Often, things like our relationships may suffer without a healthy work/life balance, and so today we'll be discussing why some of us work so hard and so much, some habits to look out for that may be causing more harm than good, and how to shift workaholic tendencies so your relationsh...
Aug 13, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Ep 492•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're welcoming guest Owen Ever to the show to discuss insights they have learned from researching the animal queendom's social-sexual dynamics. Ever is a community-oriented artist and educator committed to wonder, history and healthcare justice. They were previously a curator and historian at the New Orleans Pharmacy Museum, worked in HIV support and prevention at a community clinic and were a research associate with the CDC's national HIV behavioral health survey. They are a theatre make...
Aug 06, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep 491•Transcript available on Metacast We're back with another full-length Q&A episode where we answer questions from our Patreon supporters. Today we'll be discussing cPTSD and over-analyzing, resources for polyamory support, and non-hierarchical polyamory and plus ones. If you'd like your question answered on the next Q&A episode, consider joining our Patreon community! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episod...
Jul 30, 2024•56 min•Ep 490•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're very excited to be showcasing an episode from our good friend Libby Sinback's podcast, Making Polyamory Work. In this episode, she's discussing unmet needs in polyamorous relationships from multiple angles. Libby Sinback is a queer, polyamorous mom, the host of the podcast Making Polyamory Work and a coach for people who want extraordinary relationships while choosing to live and love outside the status quo. She is certified in Relational Life Therapy, and has coached hundreds of peo...
Jul 23, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep 489•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're excited to be joined by Brett Chamberlin from OPEN! Brett (he/him) is a social impact organizer with over a decade of leadership experience building a more just and joyous future. He is the founder and Executive Director of OPEN, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. Prior to launching OPEN, Brett worked in the environmental movement as the Director of Community Engagement at The Story of Stuff Project and the co-founder of the Post Landfill Action Network. He live...
Jul 16, 2024•57 min•Ep 488•Transcript available on Metacast Today, join us for a hopeful discussion about depression! We'll be sharing some personal anecdotes, some research about depression, and some tips for dealing with depression when you or your partner are experiencing bad mental health episodes. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Treat yourself to some stories to tur...
Jul 09, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep 487•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about friendship, love, and romance with Rhaina Cohen. Rhaina is the author of the bestselling book The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. She's an award-winning producer and editor for NPR's documentary podcast Embedded. And she's written about social connection and policy for The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post and other outlets.Find her on Instagram @rhainacohen, or her newsletter here. If this show is helpful to you...
Jul 02, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Ep 486•Transcript available on Metacast We're back with another full-length Q&A episode answering questions from our supporters on Patreon. For today's episode, we'll be discussing what to do when you're in love with someone who hasn't disclosed that you're in love to their nesting partner, getting clarity on why you might want additional partners, and how to stay friends with an ex who has hurt you badly in the past. If you'd like your question answered on the show, consider joining our Patreon! If this show is helpful to you, consid...
Jun 25, 2024•1 hr•Ep 485•Transcript available on Metacast Today, Dr. Marie Thouin is back to talk about compersion and her new book on the subject.Dr. Marie Thouin is a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach who supports people of all backgrounds and relational orientations to create intentional and vibrant love lives. She is a leading expert on the topic of compersion and the author of the groundbreaking book, "What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships.” Marie has published seminal research studies, t...
Jun 18, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Ep 484•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about fear, specifically how it can affect our relationships and what happens when we lead with fear. We're going to discuss fear and what it means to lead with it in a relationship, as well as some ways we can consciously move away from being led by fear to have happier, more fulfilling connections. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group vid...
Jun 11, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Ep 483•Transcript available on Metacast Join us today for a very special discussion with Todd Baratz! Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los An...
Jun 04, 2024•59 min•Ep 482•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about insecurities, which all of us have in one way or another, and whose responsibility it is to alleviate them. A lot of us are unsure whether it's our own personal work to do or something to work on together with a partner. Therefore, today we'll be discussing the difference between personal insecurities and relationship insecurities, looking at what the science says about trying to manage a partner’s insecurities, and how to create a sense of greater security both in your...
May 28, 2024•56 min•Ep 481•Transcript available on Metacast This week we have a throwback episode going back six years ago to when we discussed three powerful communication tools to strengthen your relationships: switchtracking, bids, and microscripts. We're going to explore each of these concepts, provide examples of each, and talk about some practical and actionable tips to help you use them to foster better communication in your relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.co...
May 21, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Ep 480•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're talking about breaking up again, specifically about the process of grieving a breakup through the lens of the five stages of grief. Long relationships in particular can have difficult breakups and it can be hard to know where to turn. We're going to explore the stages of grief, healing, and recovery, and hope our musings can be helpful for people going through hard breakups. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon...
May 14, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Ep 479•Transcript available on Metacast This week's Q&A episode is circling back to relationship anarchy and how to navigate it when most people either don't subscribe to it or don't even know what it is. If you want your question answered on a future Q&A join our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiam...
May 10, 2024•21 min•Ep 478•Transcript available on Metacast This week, we're exploring the difference between loving someone and liking someone. We're specifically discussing how it is we can love someone but also not like being around them very much, and if one feeling is more important than the other. We'll also be talking about how knowing the distinction between liking and loving can help us show up in our relationships, and as always we'll have some takeaways to help you navigate these distinctions.Take the Love & Like test we talk about in the epis...
May 07, 2024•1 hr•Ep 477•Transcript available on Metacast This week's Q&A episode is tackling emotional and sexual exclusivity and navigating polyamory as someone mostly adjacent to it. Interested in having your question answered on one of our future Q&A episodes? Join our Patreon community at patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was creat...
May 03, 2024•16 min•Ep 476•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about what it means to "settle" in a relationship. We'll be discussing if it's okay to settle and what realistic expectations of a relationship should be, compromise, and whether or not we should hold out for a perfect relationship. We're going to look at research and surveys about finding partners who meet expectations, weigh some pros and cons of compromising versus never settling, and how someone can know if they're settling or being too inflexible. If this show is helpful...
Apr 30, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Ep 475•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're tackling a question about sneaky hierarchy, aka sneakiarchy. We're talking about how to recognize it in future relationships, how to recognize when you might be creating it by accident, and more. If you want your question answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a member of our Patreon community! Visit www.multiamory.com/join to sign up. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can al...
Apr 26, 2024•23 min•Ep 474•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're talking about love languages, and taking a critical look at them to discuss whether or not they're actually as important as we make them out to be. We're going to go over some of the key assumptions behind the love languages and of course, look at what the research has to say. And finally, we discuss both the potential benefits and the possible pitfalls of relying too heavily on the love languages as a framework. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community ...
Apr 23, 2024•55 min•Ep 473•Transcript available on Metacast This week's Q&A episode is discussing couples' privilege and how to be cognizant of when it may affect interactions with other potential partners. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes,...
Apr 19, 2024•25 min•Ep 472•Transcript available on Metacast Today, we're talking about feeling possessive over a partner, the psychology and science behind it, and how even when non-monogamous, possessive feelings can still arise and create challenges for us. We'll even be discussing some times when a little bit of possessiveness can be a good thing! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes...
Apr 16, 2024•1 hr•Ep 471•Transcript available on Metacast This week's question from our Patreon supporters is discussing initiating sex, foreplay, and mismatched communications. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, b...
Apr 12, 2024•22 min•Ep 470•Transcript available on Metacast Nobody LIKES feeling uncomfortable...but today we're going to be looking at a few ways we sometimes avoid discomfort that may be making the problem worse instead of better. We're taking a good hard look at the emotions a lot of us prefer to avoid, how distractions and quick fixes aren't the best things to do all the time, and explore some techniques for reclaiming your ability to feel your emotions and improve your relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing commu...
Apr 09, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Ep 469•Transcript available on Metacast This week's question for our Q&A episode is addressing mismatched desire during busy, long-term partnered life and being stuck in "practical mode." If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes...
Apr 05, 2024•18 min•Ep 468•Transcript available on Metacast Today we're joined by Jeff Guenther, also known online as TherapyJeff! Jeff has joined us to talk about what he does, therapy, non-monogamy, and much more!Jeff Guenther, aka TherapyJeff, is, according to him, the most handsome therapist on the internet and is an international treasure who made Portland Oregon cool when he moved there in 2005. Jeff dedicates his time to creating short videos for TikTok and Instagram, and hosting his weekly podcasts, 'Big Dating Energy' and Problem Solved.’ Honest...
Apr 02, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Ep 467•Transcript available on Metacast 
