Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back on The Mail-In this week to break down your biggest questions and problems. Here's what we've got: - How to deal with your partner being a terrible sleeper? - Do I have to invite someone to my wedding solely because they invited me to theirs? - I'm a teacher and I'm burnt out and discouraged trying to find a new job - How do I stop wedding planning from tearing apart my relationship? - My neighbor's dog will not shut up. How do I go about asking my neigh...
May 18, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Dave Ruff of Circling Back and Too Much Dip joins the show to fill in as a co-host with Brett Merriman. We're solving your problems, folks. Or at least trying to. Here's what we've got this week: - What is on your "ick list" for a typical night out? - How do you navigate the house-buying process in a city like Austin? - Should I pay the best man who offered to pick up a steak dinner tab on a bachelor party? - What should I do to get out of the friend zone? - Should I qu...
May 11, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Transcript available on Metacast We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries to give you what you need: answers. - How do I tell my wife she needs to get her weight under control? - I got a big promotion and am finding it's not all its cracked up to be. What do I do? - My girlfriend is way too into the new appearance changing trends. How do I explain to her that I think they're making her look worse? - How much is too much to ask my friends to pay for my bachelor party? - What can I do ahead of time ...
May 04, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are tackling problems like: - Can joggers be business casual? - After getting someone's number, when should you text them? - How should we go about inviting a divorced couple to our wedding? - Is it lame to have your bachelorette party in your hometown? - Can I reach out to step parents who have been a big part of my life after a divorce? - What is the cutoff age for a belly button ring? Our Partners Butcher Box: Get FREE Chicken Nuggets...
Apr 27, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back to tackle your most burning questions. Things like: - Do you tip at a wedding tasting? - Any advice for initiating intimacy again after having a child? - What do you buy for a 1-year-old's birthday party? - Is it wrong for me to not want to spend time with my coworkers outside work hours? - Am I asking too much of my partner to define the future of our relationship? - Travel tips for heading to Italy Our Partners: Fast Growing T...
Apr 20, 2023•1 hr 12 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are here to help with weddings, bachelorette parties, social media and more. - How do I stop my partner from doomscrolling and freaking out that the sky is falling? - Picking between two best men - Where is the line for calling the police on potentially abusive neighbors? - Trash or not trash to post wedding pics that I look good in but the newlyweds don't? - Do I HAVE to attend someone's bachelorette party that attended mine? - Power ra...
Apr 13, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Sally deFries returns with Brett Merriman to tackle the internet's questions of the week. Here's what we've got today: - How do I tell people (nicely) that they can't always crash at our place? - What do you do to manage friends that don't put in the same amount of effort as you? - How do you ground yourself when so much around you changes in adulthood? - Making wedding planning easier for my future spouse who has lost both of her parents - Am I an asshole for not wanti...
Apr 06, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman hosts as Will deFries, creator of Sunday Scaries and husband of Sally deFries, fills in on the mic. Here's what we've got this week: - One of the wildest drunk text situations we've come across - Tips for trying to get pregnant with your first child? - AirBNB rules when splitting different bedrooms with couples? - How to start a long distance relationship with someone you met while they were in town? - Is it weird that my girlfriend has pictures of her ex...
Mar 30, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Transcript available on Metacast Another episode of The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries in which we get a question that we did NOT see coming. Here's what we have: - Tips for hosting friends in town? - Should I be ok with my husband going to strip clubs with his coworkers? - Is my boyfriend getting a dog a dealbreaker when I'm not a dog person? - Am I the asshole for not attending the birthday party of my 5 year old nephew? - My boyfriend of 3 years has a "goon cave" that I didn't know about. Do I have to break th...
Mar 23, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Transcript available on Metacast Back on The Mail-In this week to break down the biggest problems facing our listeners! Sally deFries and Brett Merriman take you along for a WILD ride this week. Here's what we're working with: - Is it a trash move to not go to a wedding that was supposed to be an elopement? - Feeling stuck in life despite everything being great on the surface. Help. - I got Monica'd. Should we do a small wedding and save money for a house OR spend on a celebration for ourselves? - My best friend's wife wants me...
Mar 16, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Transcript available on Metacast We're back! After a week hiatus due to some unforeseen under-the-weather children, Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back to tackle every question the listeners have to offer. Here's what we have this week: - How does Sally balance friends, family, travel, etc while being a mom? Any tips to a first-time mom? - My wife has a friend who dresses really cute. How do I nudge her towards that style? - How can I introduce the conversation of getting a babysitter to my wife? - How do I friendzone a c...
Mar 09, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman returns to the show with Sally deFries in the co-host chair. Tackling questions that run that gamut like: - What are your thoughts on influencers these days? - How do you approach a significant relationship stalemate without compromise? - I've worked incredibly hard on my new body, how do I show it off? - Some idiot ordered $900 worth of bottle service on a work trip and we're stuck with the bill - How do I convince my buddy to do more on his bachelor par...
Feb 23, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Transcript available on Metacast The FeMail-In is BACK for Valentine's Day! Sally deFries hosts as Lily Boettcher and Alyssa Ruff join the crew to break down your questions. Here's what we've got this week: - Washed bits that get old? - When is the best time to have your second child? - My friend is being reckless with a pregnancy, how do I talk to her about it? - Advice for your first year of marriage? - My wife is verbally abusive, how do I handle this? - Is there a male equivalent to "Galentine's Day"? - Shower Thoughts 🚿 O...
Feb 14, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Transcript available on Metacast Back after an Austin ice storm derailed the recording schedule last week - thanks for bearing with us. Sally deFries and Brett Merriman co-host on The Mail-In where they help you through your most difficult situations. - If I'm only drinking beer on a ski trip, can I ask to not pay for communal liquor? - What are your thoughts on using backpacks as adults? - Should I tell a new girlfriend about a hookup with an old classmate before they meet? - I'm falling for my married work wife. Help. - Our f...
Feb 09, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are back to break down the internet's questions. A lot on tap: - What's the line between settling and accepting that relationships always require work? - What are some tips you have for making long distance work? - I'm pregnant! What is the etiquette for having a non-traditional baby shower? - Family planning advice: have a baby now or later? - New to Hinge! Wondering how it works when it comes to getting *off* the app? - What's the move...
Jan 26, 2023•1 hr 12 min•Transcript available on Metacast Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back on The Mail-In this week answering your most burning questions. Things like: - What do Sally and Brett's career paths look like? How'd they get to where they are? - What percentage of questions get answered on air? How are they picked? - How do you talk to your boss about being stressed when they have SO much more on their plate than you do? - What's the limit for number of people on a bachelor party? - How soon is too soon for an engagement? Is there su...
Jan 19, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Transcript available on Metacast The Mail-In is BACK after a little holiday break, with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries answering your burning questions. Here's what we've got this week: - My boyfriend's friends caused a rift in our relationship. Can we still trust each other? - My maid-of-honor has been zero help. Can I plan my own bachelorette party? - I heard a stat that couples who move in together before marriage are more likely to get divorced and now I'm concerned ! - Career move: Sioux Falls and $$$ or Denver and fun? ...
Jan 12, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Transcript available on Metacast Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, Mail-In fam! This week Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are sweating out holiday travel weather and tackling your biggest questions. Here's what we've got: - Should I be picking up my girlfriend's bar tabs even though I'm not drinking? - Do I have to retire the 😉 emoji from dirty texting if my mom has started using it? - Are lying, cheating, and home-wrecking too many red flags to get over? - How do I tell my wife that a guys trip is a GUYS trip only, even if...
Dec 22, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are getting into the weeds on mental health, Christmas cocktail hours, and much much more. - How much would you spend on attending the NCAA Championship if your school made it? - Help me set boundaries with my friends and family so we're not the go-to dog/house sitters! - My mental health journey has been a success but I feel guilty about my sibling's not going as well. - Scale of 1-10, how weird is it to send a Christmas card of you and...
Dec 15, 2022•53 min•Transcript available on Metacast Big time episode of The Mail-In featuring Brett Merriman and Sally deFries as they solve your biggest problems and answer your questions. Here's what we've got this week: - How do I continue a "texting thing" over the holidays without seeing them in person? - When do you ask for a dad's blessing before engagement? - Figuring out people who "suck at texting" - How do I split apartment supplies with my roommate who is never home? - Planning a girls trip but my friend will have a 3-month old baby. ...
Dec 08, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman hosts as Sally deFries battles through one of the worst cases of nasal congestion she's ever seen. The gang gets through it and answers some questions in the process. Things like: - I dropped $500 on a birthday dinner and gift for my girlfriend. She broke up with me the next morning. Can I request some money back? - Is it a red flag if you have the same appearance traits as your partner's ex? - Getting on the same page when it comes to how much house/apar...
Dec 01, 2022•56 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Sally deFries is back in the co-host chair with Brett Merriman as they take on the hardest questions in the game. Not really. But hopefully you can relate to some of these: - If you had to defeat the devil in one activity for the battle for your soul, which activity would you choose? - How do I handle our friend's wife being too close with one of her male friends? - Relationship tips for an ICU nurse? - Is it weird that I don't want a bachelor party? - Am I being unreas...
Nov 17, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In, Brett Merriman hosts as Intern Calli Rubin fills in for Sally. The two break down the most burning questions their audience has and more. Here's what we've got this week: - Friendsgiving Do's & Don'ts - If someone ghosts you after a first date, can you call them out? - How early is too early for a Christmas tree? - Trying to talk to someone at a 6am gym class? - What's the criteria for working from bars? - Couples trips on a budget? Our Partners: Butcher Box: Get a FREE...
Nov 10, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Transcript available on Metacast Happy November! This week on The Mail-In hosted by Sally deFries and Brett Merriman, we're getting into wedding receptions, breaking off engagements, and much, much more. - What to do if you're the best man for two weddings on the same day? - Why do personal errand days feel so much more productive than work days? - Tips on throwing a great wedding reception? - Breaking off an engagement and getting into a new serious relationship? - Traveling for summer trips: Montana, California, and Wyoming O...
Nov 03, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Transcript available on Metacast On The Mail-In, Brett Merriman and Sally deFries are breaking down the most pressing problems and burning questions that y'all have. Here's what we've got this week: - How long after a trip or dinner do you have to send a Venmo request? - How do I deal with a break up from an unrequited love? - Is one year too early in a relationship to buy jewelry? - I like a guy who doesn't want to do long distance... - Is it reasonable to have a "tough love" conversation with your husband who's been unemploye...
Oct 27, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Transcript available on Metacast Sally deFries and Brett Merriman are back to break down your toughest questions that you need answers to. Here's what we've got this week: - Do I tell someone that her boyfriend is cheating on her? - Can I tell my new girlfriend I got my dog from my ex? - How do I come out to my husband that I'm bi? - Is something wrong with the relationship if I don't miss my girlfriend? - Which month is the best? - How do I do a trip to New York in December? Our Partners: Rothy's: Get $20 OFF your first purcha...
Oct 20, 2022•57 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries: - Open relationship coming to an end - How do I date someone else in the friend group? - Is wanting to move in with someone *after* marriage a red flag? - How do I tell people they're not invited to my wedding? - Bridesmaid expenses are CRAZY - Shower Thoughts Our Partner: Bombas: Get 20% OFF your first purchase at Bombas.com/MAILIN with code MAILIN Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 13, 2022•57 min•Transcript available on Metacast Brett Merriman is back from his week-long road trip to join Sally deFries on The Mail-In, where they attempt to solve your problems in 60-ish minutes or less. Here's what we've got this week: - How do you find the motivation to be productive while working from home - Brett & Sally's hair secrets - My husband and I have decided to not have kids, how do we tell our parents? - Can I turn a fender bender into a meet-cute? - Shower Thoughts 🚿 Our Partners: Bombas: Get 20% OFF your first purchase by ...
Oct 06, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Transcript available on Metacast Sally deFries is hosting today on The Mail-In. Sally and her sister, Lily, are answering your questions and breaking down your problems. Also answering a bunch of questions about being a mom. Here's what we've got this week: - Halloween Costumes - What travel credit card should I get? - How to approach a woman without appearing creepy? - MOM TALK (pregnancy, relationships, postpartum, & more) Our Partner: Rothy's: For a limited time, get $20 off your first purchase at https://www.rothys.com/ MAI...
Sep 29, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Transcript available on Metacast Sally deFries is back from Italy and we're FULL speed on The Mail-In. Brett Merriman and Sally are answering your questions and breaking down your problems. Here's what we've got this week: - What is your walk-up/closer entrance song? - How do you handle your younger sibling getting engaged before you? - How many teams am I allowed to be a fan of? - What are the requirements for cubicle decor? - Can I ask my friends getting married for a plus one? - Bachelor Party Pick: Las Vegas vs. New Orleans...
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