Matthew Fray, author of This Is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach To Saving Relationships, has been on my guest wishlist for a really long time. That is why I am truly delighted to share our conversation with you. Matt joins me to talk about how men can show up as better partners in relationships. I first learned about Matt when I read his now-viral blog post, “She Divorced Me Because I Left the Dishes Near the Sink.” It’s not just about dishes. It never truly is, now is it? Matt shares...
May 12, 2022•58 min•Transcript available on Metacast Digital abuse is becoming an increasingly large problem. In this episode, Adam Dodge joins me for a discussion about the ways in which current or former partners may be misusing the internet and tech to harm individuals in unhealthy and abusive relationships. Adam is a licensed attorney whose work is characterized by his dedication to preventing and addressing the ways adults and children are harmed online and via their devices. He is the founder of EndTAB and is an internationally recognized di...
May 05, 2022•50 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week I have the joy of welcoming the exEXPERTS, T.H. Irwin and Jessica Klingbaum, to the show. They're best friends who got divorced at the same time 14 years ago but had totally different divorce experiences. In this episode, they share their experience maneuvering through the overwhelming journey of divorce. They also share how they’ve used their own divorce experiences to create a place online where anyone can go for any phase of divorce, answer all the questions, and feel educated about...
Apr 28, 2022•51 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week I’m re-airing my episode with Dr. Elizabeth Cohen, where we discussed how to cope when your partner has an active addiction. Dr. Elizabeth Cohen helps people get a little more comfortable with something as painful as addiction and divorce. When you’re living with or divorcing a partner who has an active addiction, you may find yourself acting out different behaviors including the need to control every situation. You may become (or already be!) codependent, and you focus on their healin...
Apr 21, 2022•38 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week I am talking about covert emotional abuse with philanthropist and passionate human rights advocate, Annette Oltmans. Annette helps bring awareness to covert emotional abuse, a dangerous and common form of Domestic Violence. If you are a victim or think you might be a victim, this is a must-listen episode. Annette’s personal experiences of prolonged emotional abuse in marriage and her extensive journey of recovery including comprehensive field research into the topics of Original Abuse ...
Apr 14, 2022•59 min•Transcript available on Metacast After last week’s Q&A episode, I received an outpouring of submissions from listeners with questions about co-parenting, relationships, and life after divorce. So I decided to do one more Q&A episode for you! This week I answer two co-parenting questions: one relates to how open to be with children about the details of your divorce, and the other has to do with co-parenting when your ex has a new partner. I also discuss mindset and mental health post-divorce, including how to cope with feelings ...
Apr 07, 2022•40 min•Transcript available on Metacast Earlier this month I aired a listener Q&A episode which ended up being a favorite of listeners, as well as women in my Facebook group. It’s important to me to cover topics that resonate with you. So, here I am again, with another Q&A episode! This time I answer four questions around the topics of supporting your children through divorce, including co-parenting with a narcissist and how to handle a manipulative co-parent. I also cover how to communicate you want a divorce to a partner who struggl...
Mar 31, 2022•26 min•Transcript available on Metacast Dr. Amelia Kelley returns to the show for a deep dive into what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Dr. Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist. She is a trained Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, meditation teacher, as well as a Certified Yoga instructor. This episode is near and dear to my heart because I identify as a Highly Sensitive Person. Once I learned what an HSP is and how it affects the way I see the world around me, it was truly eye-opening! We discuss w...
Mar 24, 2022•1 hr•Transcript available on Metacast The conflict some women experience in their relationships isn’t always just “run of the mill” conflict. In fact, in many cases it is abuse. So, how do you know if what you’re experiencing is conflict or something more sinister like narcissistic abuse? Joining me to discuss the top eight experiences of women who are in a narcissistic abusive relationship is Leanne Oaten. Leanne’s passion is to guide women who are experiencing narcissistic abuse to end the cycle and get clarity on whether to stay ...
Mar 17, 2022•57 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week, we are covering all things domestic violence, law enforcement, and the court. Joining me is Kelli Blackburn, a San-Diego County based attorney specializing in high-conflict domestic violence, child custody, and divorce. Together we talk about domestic violence and the legal implications and give a full explanation of what domestic violence is and how it can intertwine with welfare services. We also explore the underlying litigation that may or may not come from a domestic violence cas...
Mar 10, 2022•1 hr•Transcript available on Metacast Debra Doak is back on the show, this time to talk about all things conflict and divorce. Debra is a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Family Court Mediator, and the author of High-Conflict Divorce for Women. In this episode, we dissect what it means to have conflict, how (and why) it happens, and what to do when it inevitably shows up in the midst of your divorce. Debra believes that while all divorce involves some degree of conflict, most of us have much more influen...
Mar 03, 2022•51 min•Transcript available on Metacast Being in a marriage with a narcissist is exhausting. Divorcing a narcissist is no less exhausting. Tracy Malone is a surTHRIVER of narcissistic abuse, speaker, educator, and emotional resilience coach. In this episode, she joins me to share insights and information from her latest book, DIVORCING Your NARCISSIST: You Can’t Make This Shit Up! Tracy’s book is a fantastic reference for anyone who is thinking about or in the midst of a high-conflict divorce with a narcissist. During our conversation...
Feb 24, 2022•55 min•Transcript available on Metacast I’ve been a fan of Leslie Bennetts for quite some time. She is a journalist and expert on women's issues who has spoken all over the world on financial security and women's empowerment. She is the author of The Feminine Mistake: Are We Giving Up Too Much? She is also my guest this week on the podcast! I am so honored and excited to share this interview with you. Leslie says, “After divorce, men’s standard of living goes up and women’s goes down a cliff.” The system is broken. Moreover, the bluep...
Feb 17, 2022•58 min•Transcript available on Metacast We often talk on this podcast about identifying abusive relationships and offering ways to get out. But what comes next? Dr. Amelia Kelley, a trauma-informed therapist, joins me to discuss how to move forward after surviving abuse. She is the co-author of the recently released book, aptly titled, What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After An Abusive Relationship. Dr. Kelley is also a trained Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, meditation teacher, as well as a Certified Y...
Feb 10, 2022•50 min•Transcript available on Metacast If you’ve been contemplating divorce and feeling guilty about your decision, if you’re wondering if you should change your last name post-divorce, or if you have a spouse who’s in denial (despite you telling them numerous times), don’t skip this episode! Why? Because this episode marks my very first Q&A episode! I asked my community of women to send me their questions and I received some really great ones to explore. Join me as I answer questions about whether you should stay or go, how to handl...
Feb 03, 2022•30 min•Transcript available on Metacast We’re always going through some kind of loss, celebration, or change in our lives. Joining me to discuss the importance of ritual during times of great transition is Day Schildkret. Day is internationally known for the creation of Morning Altars, beautiful pieces of impermanent art. He is also the author of Hello, Goodbye: 75 Rituals for Times of Loss, Celebration, and Change. A conversation about divorce is a conversation about endings. In order to begin again, it is important to mark this tran...
Jan 27, 2022•55 min•Transcript available on Metacast There is no one better to talk about the healing process of divorce than Dr. Elizabeth Cohen, aka the Divorce Doctor. She is a clinical psychologist, the author of Light at The Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You, and a true expert on the topic of how to heal and thrive during divorce. The last time Elizabeth joined me on the show, we discussed the importance of processing your emotions. This time we dig even deeper and talk about how healing is a slow, steady, and often imperfect pro...
Jan 13, 2022•38 min•Transcript available on Metacast Earlier this week on The Divorce and Beyond Podcast with Susan Guthrie, she and I spoke about how to have the most difficult conversation of your life with someone: the “I want a divorce,” conversation. Today, Susan joins me to discuss what happens next. Together we explore some of the things you should do right after having the talk, including how to build your divorce team and considerations for divorce proceedings or mediation. Susan Guthrie is nationally recognized as one of the Top Family L...
Jan 06, 2022•59 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week, Kimberly Nelson returns to the show! We are talking about financial infidelity including how to recognize it and what to do if you find it’s happening to you. Kimberly shines a light on some of the red flags of someone being financially deceitful, why it’s important to exercise your financial agency, and explains why being aware of your finances matters for your divorce. As an Advisor at Coastal Bridge Advisors, Kimberly Nelson focuses on bringing clarity and control to her clients’ f...
Dec 30, 2021•58 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week Michelle Dempsey-Multack returns to the show! She joins me to talk about how to survive the holidays pre- or post-divorce. If you’ve gone through a divorce within the last 12 months or are about to start the divorce process, you are emotionally and financially spent. So, how can you get through the holiday season and feel content with the here and now? If this is your first Christmas alone or last holiday as a single-family unit, this episode will offer advice about how to create new h...
Dec 23, 2021•46 min•Transcript available on Metacast Everyone is talking about the holiday season. Well, this week we are talking about peak dating season - which is coming up in ten days. Bela Gandhi re-joins me on the podcast to talk about what peak dating season means and how to maximize it. Plus, if you’re feeling resistant or somewhat cynical about dating, like me, Bela shares some advice to help you (and me) work through those feelings. Bela Gandhi is a dating/relationship expert, founder of Smart Dating Academy, TEDx speaker, and a media pe...
Dec 16, 2021•51 min•Transcript available on Metacast Lindsey Ellison returns to the show this week. You know her as the author of MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist. She has a new book out called Blessons of a Breakup. In this episode, both Lindsey and I share some of our unique experiences with healing from trauma, codependency, or co-addictive relationships. We also explore love addiction and being love avoidant, including what it is, and how it manifests. For those of you new to Lindsey, she is a relationship coach and foun...
Dec 09, 2021•53 min•Transcript available on Metacast Rhonda Noordyk joins me to discuss her customized strategy women can use for financial wellness before, during, and after divorce. Often not having experience around household finances during marriage leads women to financial injustice post-divorce. In this episode, Rhonda shares her passion for helping women achieve financial justice and financial wellness. Rhonda is the Founder and CEO of The Women’s Financial Wellness Center, is the host of the podcast, Divorce Conversations for Women, a publ...
Dec 02, 2021•1 hr•Transcript available on Metacast Tina Swithin returns to the show this week! You know her as the leader of One Moms Battle, whose mission is to raise awareness and educate family court professionals on post-separation abuse as it relates to co-parenting and the family court system. She is also a fierce advocate for survivors and change in the family court systems. In fact, through her work, she has been able to get the month of November to be declared Family Court Awareness Month in eight states to date. If you're eventually go...
Nov 24, 2021•53 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week I am talking all about healthy relationships with Dr. Akua K. Boateng. Dr. Akua answers the question, “What the hell does a healthy relationship look like?” We explore the mechanics of developing a healthy relationship with Self and also learn the steps to reconnecting with your intuitive guidance. Dr. Akua K. Boateng is a sought after mental health and relationship expert. With over 14 years experience in clinical practice and education, she specializes in an integrative approach to t...
Nov 18, 2021•57 min•Transcript available on Metacast Betrayal can affect your entire life - work, health, and even your relationships. In a previous episode, I explored how to heal from betrayal in your relationship. This episode focuses on how to heal from betrayal within yourself. Joining me to discuss post betrayal syndrome and post betrayal transformation is Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the au...
Nov 11, 2021•54 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week I am pulling the curtains back and giving a glimpse of what it takes to build a business, post-divorce. You’ll hear the lessons I learned, the pivots I made (and re-made), as well as how I faced some of the hard truths of business building (d-e-b-t) and life. Plus, this episode is a celebration of the culmination of so many things: first and foremost, it celebrates you! The show has reached one million downloads and that’s because you keep tuning in week after week, sharing episodes, a...
Nov 04, 2021•28 min•Transcript available on Metacast This is the last week of domestic violence awareness month, so I wanted to explore the topic of narcissistic trauma and recovery. Caroline Strawson helps us understand the complexities of narcissistic trauma and the healing journey that is necessary for those of us who have suffered from it. Caroline Strawson is a multi award winning narcissistic trauma informed therapist and coach and best selling author of Divorce Became My Superpower. She has completely transformed her life from being at rock...
Oct 28, 2021•57 min•Transcript available on Metacast Betrayal is a broken promise. And oftentimes when you are faced with the decision to stay or go, you are forced to decide if you can work through the betrayal or if it’s better to walk away. Further, a betrayal leads to erosion of your sense of Self. So, how can you move forward—whether you remain with your partner or not—and come out the other side with your heart and sanity intact? This week I am joined by Gilza Fort Martinez to talk about what it takes to heal from a betrayal and how to recov...
Oct 21, 2021•59 min•Transcript available on Metacast I am back with another solo episode this week. October is domestic violence awareness month, so, I wanted to take this opportunity to talk about a specific type of domestic violence: emotional abuse. Yes, emotional abuse is a form of domestic violence. Talking about emotional abuse is part of my healing, my personal journey, and my growth. So much of the work that we do in my Facebook group is around helping women identify emotional abuse and come to terms with the fact that that’s what's happen...
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