About Today’s Show Not all of us had the luxury of being able to come out at a young age and enjoyed the benefits of long fought for rights. There are many men around the world who still have to live in the closet due to fear of safety and many other reasons. Today Calan Breckon hosts an open discussion with 3 amazing men who all came out later in life. Each one of them has a unique experience to offer through their own coming-out story. You can come out at 40, 50, 60, at any age really, and sti...
Sep 02, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Ep 46•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show What is 'people pleasing' and how is it different from simply wanting to be nice to others? In this episode, we're diving into this very common pattern that tends to have a unique flavour for gay men. We'll answer questions such as: - how has people pleasing impacted your life? - why do gay men start people pleasing in the first place? - how can you start to overcome people pleasing? Psychology Today Reference Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private F...
Aug 26, 2021•53 min•Ep 45•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show There is a cultural shift occurring where more people are questioning whether traditional monogamy is right for them. In this episode, Michael has a candid and informative conversation with professional life & sex coach, Craig Cassey about alternative relationship structures. From monogamy to polyamory and everything in between, this illuminating episode answers questions such as What are different relationship structures and what do they look like? How do you know what’s ...
Aug 19, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep 44•Transcript available on Metacast CLICK HERE FOR THE LIVE INFO SESSION DETAILS! About Today’s Show Your inner circle are the people who you can count on to ride life’s highs and support you through the lows. They can help us foster greater trust, intimacy, and vulnerability. On today’s episode, we’re sharing who is in our inner circle, why they are important, and what you can do to find and connect with these people in your own life. Watch this ep on YouTube Give us a Review! Join the Waitlist for the Gay Men G...
Aug 12, 2021•55 min•Ep 43•Transcript available on Metacast Join the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community! About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt speaks with Sex and Intimacy Consultant Court Vox about sexual consent. The term “consent” is becoming a lot more common in the gay community as men learn to honour and value their need for safety within their sexual and intimate relationships. Come spend an hour with Matt and Court as they unpack the following questions: -What is consent? -Implied consent vs actual consent? -Wh...
Aug 05, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep 42•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show We tend to rely on external things in our lives to make us feel good, but the truth is that our power is actually within us at all times. In this episode, we’re going deep within to understand how things like internal conditioning and beliefs impact our experience of the world around us. We’ll also speak about the difference between external validation vs. intrinsic self-worth and how to find greater alignment with your true self. Watch this ep on YouTube Give us a...
Jul 29, 2021•53 min•Ep 41•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show Life likes to box us in a lot of the time. If you don’t fit into a nice and tidy box with a bow on the top then how are people suppose to judge you accordingly? Androgyny, Boylesque, drag queens, non-binary, it can all be a grey zone at times. In today’s episode, Calan Breckon and special guest Christopher Olwage a.k.a. “Chris Oh!” have a dynamic conversation about exploring the feminine as well as all aspects of ourselves through self-expression. The former Mr. Gay World 2013...
Jul 22, 2021•50 min•Ep 40•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show Welcome to a special takeover episode of GMGD, with special guests Reno, Starron, Mike, and Andre. Today’s episode is a deep, potentially heavy, important, introductory, and ongoing conversation around the topic of internalized racism. We are not experts in the topic, nor do we represent the perspectives of all BIPOC people. In this episode, we speak on our own personal experiences with internalized racism, while briefly touching on some of the definitions, and sharing how we’...
Jul 15, 2021•1 hr 27 min•Ep 39•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show Going through life as a gay man can be alienating. In fact, some say that loneliness is the new gay epidemic. Despite widespread progress in legal and social acceptance of homosexuality, studies show that gay men are disproportionately affected by loneliness. In today’s episode, Michael and special guest Phil McAuliffe a.k.a. “The Loneliness Guy” have a candid discussion about normalizing loneliness and how we can seek a greater sense of belonging. Connect with Phil Watch this...
Jul 08, 2021•57 min•Ep 38•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show What is internalized homophobia? How does it show up in your life? What can you do to address it? In this episode, we’re going deeper within as we unpack internalized homophobia. We’ll share our own experiences as well as some tips that will inspire you to look within to heal the aspects of yourself that may be harbouring these negative beliefs. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter Ga...
Jul 01, 2021•49 min•Ep 37•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt explores the topic of Demisexuality with fellow brothers Carlos, Ron and Andre. All 4 men identify as demisexual and they candidly break down what it’s like to be demisexual in the gay community and the benefits and challenges of honouring this truth. Here are some of the questions explored in the episode: -What does it mean to be demisexual? -In what ways do you find it difficult to fit into the gay community being demisexual? -How has it been communicat...
Jun 24, 2021•1 hr 19 min•Ep 36•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show On this episode honouring Pride Month, we’re celebrating what it means to be gay. We speak out about the challenges we’ve faced and the valuable life lessons they have provided us. Pride has a unique meaning for everyone and this episode is about celebrating who you are in a way that feels authentic to you. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoingDeeper.com -— Join the W...
Jun 17, 2021•1 hr•Ep 35•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show On today’s episode, Calan Breckon has a sit down with RuPaul’s Drag Race season 12 contestant Brita Filter (aka Jesse Havea) to talk about mental health and the experience of being on a show like RPDR. Jesse was very open, honest and candid with Calan as he shared his journey with depression, toxic social media, alcoholism, being painted as “the villain” on his season of RPDR, hitting rock bottom and attempting suicide. He also shared how he’s now on a healing journey, recover...
Jun 10, 2021•55 min•Ep 34•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show The Lone Wolf mentality can feel safe and serve us in some ways, but as we share in this episode, it’s also one of the common blocks that prevent us from belonging and connecting in community. We’ll also share some tips on how you can allow more connection in your life. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoingDeeper.com -— Join the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going De...
Jun 03, 2021•59 min•Ep 33•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show As Pride Month celebrations begin, Michael turns back the clock and takes a glimpse into the evolution of the gay community with long-time activist, author, and educator, Tim McCaskell. Tim shares his unique experience living through those watershed moments of our shared history including the fight for gay liberation and the AIDS crisis. Together they discuss how the gay community has evolved through the last 50 years. They also take stock of where we are today and explore whe...
May 27, 2021•56 min•Ep 32•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show Fear of judgment often prevents us from showing up as our authentic selves. Not only do we fear judgment and criticism of others, but we also have to contend with our self-judgment and self-criticism. In this episode, we’re sharing our experiences with this deep-seated fear and the lessons we’ve learned on how to deal with it. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoi...
May 20, 2021•58 min•Ep 31•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt Speaks with Identity & Mindset Coach, Speaker, Trainer, Author, Podcast Host, Thought Leader, & Entrepreneur Christiano Green about Gender & Sexual Identity. These two coaches candidly breakdown the difference between gender and sexuality and how it is a spectrum, not a construct. Further concepts that are unpacked in this episode are gender fluidity, gender energies, rising of the feminine, topping and bottoming and how we view them as mascul...
May 13, 2021•48 min•Ep 30•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show We tend to avoid vulnerability but when we use it to our advantage, it can be a potent source of personal power and a means of establishing authentic connections with others. In this episode, we’re sharing how vulnerability has actually helped us along our respective journeys to become more self-confident, more rooted in authenticity, and develop deeper relationships. Join Calan , Matt and Michael in today’s episode. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect...
May 06, 2021•56 min•Ep 29•Transcript available on Metacast Click here to find out more and to get on the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership! About Today’s Show Relationships! Always such a hot topic in the gay community (and in all communities really). In today’s episode, Calan Breckon invites guest speaker, writer and Life Coach Jordan Bach back for a chat about gays and relationships. Covering things like resentment after a rejection, conscious uncoupling, clearness is kindness, confidently asking someone out and what “pretty privilege” ...
Apr 29, 2021•1 hr 15 min•Ep 28•Transcript available on Metacast Click here to find out more and to get on the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership! About Today’s Show Romantic relationships give us a perfect opportunity to learn more about ourselves and how we relate with others. In this episode, we’re sharing our perspectives and lessons learned in love, dating & relationships. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoingDeeper.com —...
Apr 22, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Ep 27•Transcript available on Metacast Click here to find out more and to get on the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership! About Today’s Show What is ‘super gonorrhea’? What are the side effects of PrEP? What is U = U? In this bonus episode, Michael and special guest, Pharmacist Andrew Schonbe dismantle some of the myths and misconceptions about STIs and PrEP. Join us for an open and informative discussion about sexual health. Click here for more Sexual Health info Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us ...
Apr 15, 2021•42 min•Ep 26•Transcript available on Metacast Click here to find out more and to get on the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership! About Today’s Show Developing friendships with gay men can be challenging when the line between platonic friends, friends with benefits, fuck buddies is blurred. In this episode, we talk about our own unique experiences with making friends and how we’ve learned – and continue to learn – ways to nurture these important relationships. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect wi...
Apr 08, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Ep 25•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt speaks with Arnoud Boek and Steven Band from the Gay Men’s Brotherhood about HIV Stigma. The three of them unpack some of the heavy topics that surround this issue that many face within the gay community. Some questions they explored are: 1) How has Prep impacted the gay community? 2) How has being HIV+ impacted dating and intimacy for you? 3) How have your family relationships been impacted by your HIV+ status? 4) How quickly do you disclose your HIV+ st...
Apr 01, 2021•1 hr 20 min•Ep 24•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show In this episode, Calan , Matt and Michael are talking about what it means to surrender. Whether it’s surrendering control of outcomes or surrendering to our emotions, there are valuable gifts and lessons to be learned. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMensBrotherhood.com — Sign up and get new episodes delivered directly to your inbox!...
Mar 25, 2021•55 min•Ep 23•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show In today’s bonus episode, Calan Breckon has a one-on-one with Jordan Bach; Life Coach, Writer and Motivational Speaker. Jordan has been on the Life Coaching scene for over a decade and quickly became a trailblazer for gay men looking to go on a personal development journey. In today’s episode Calan and Jordan chat about how he started his career as a coach, working through “imposter syndrome,” how to handle those nasty keyboard warriors, healthy boundaries and much more. Jorda...
Mar 18, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Ep 22•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show Are you a control freak? Recovering Perfectionist? Or maybe you feel like you’ve never had any control. Today we dive into the topic of control and how we navigate this illusion that we can control the things and people around us. We share insights on how we learned to let go of the need to control everything around us and how we each embrace the energy of allowing and having faith in the process. Calan also shares a very personal story in today’s episode about where his need ...
Mar 11, 2021•54 min•Ep 21•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show In this juicy episode, Michael and his partner have a raw and refreshing chat about gay relationship dynamics including interracial love, monogamy, and conflict. They’ll share how they overcame their fears and trust issues in a messy yet authentic way. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode is full of tips and advice for you. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitte...
Mar 04, 2021•45 min•Ep 20•Transcript available on Metacast About This Episode In today’s episode, we’re talking about how we handle change. A fitting topic for us as we say “goodbye for now” to our co-host, Reno who shows us how to gracefully navigating change. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMensBrotherhood.com — Sign up and get new episodes delivered directly to your inbox!...
Feb 25, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep 19•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show In this bonus episode, Matt & Reno unpack the hot topic of racism in the gay community with guests Mav Mehta & Edward Tsang. They share experiences of overt and covert racism, how our preferences can be a way to hide behind attitudes rooted in racism, and how to overcome the conditioning that may be contributing to our preferences. They also openly share their own personal biases when it comes to their own preferences/attractions and provide some solutions on how to st...
Feb 18, 2021•1 hr 24 min•Ep 18•Transcript available on Metacast About Today’s Show Dating in the time of a worldwide pandemic brings a whole new set of challenges to deal with. Bubbles, social distance walks, and Zoom dates have become the norm in 2020 and beyond. This week we’re talking about what we’ve learned about dating in the time of COVID. Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMensBrotherhood.com — Sign up and get new episodes delivered di...
Feb 11, 2021•59 min•Ep 17•Transcript available on Metacast