If you’ve ever found yourself staring your desires in the face, it can be challenging to ride the emotional waves that follow. Trying to suppress your desire can be exhausting — but what if there was another way? How can you prioritize the experience of feeling your desires without taking any action? Dr. Marie Murphy recommends practice. Try allowing yourself to feel your desires, even if they lead to disappointment or impatience. Most importantly, Dr. Murphy notes that letting yourself acknowle...
Jun 16, 2022•41 min
Do you struggle with competing desires in your relationship? Do you find yourself unable to reconcile those longings? Desire is a complex emotion that can take many forms, so how do you learn to navigate all of its intricacies? For most of her adult life, Katy Dion internalized stereotypes about motherhood and the ideal relationship, leading to conflicting desires. It wasn’t until she tried to separate those desires that she realized she could change her mindset to accommodate both. Now, Katy us...
Jun 09, 2022•1 hr 10 min
Engaging in a new infidelity situation can carry intense and conflicting emotions. How can you handle the magnitude and mixture of your feelings? Is it possible to find clarity during these heightened moments? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the intensity of the emotions accompanying a new relationship is compounded with an infidelity situation — especially if the relationship is forbidden or you have conflicting feelings. Dr. Murphy recommends that you take time to digest these feelings to get c...
Jun 02, 2022•36 min
How can you find clarity about your thoughts surrounding couples therapy or counseling? If you already feel sure about ending your relationship, what are your reasons for wanting to go? Before going to couples therapy, you need to have a clear understanding of your reason for attending. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, many people go into couple’s therapy because they’re looking to stall difficult conversations, they feel obligated to attend, or they want help facilitating a breakup. But Dr. Murph...
May 26, 2022•33 min
If you’ve had an affair that’s now ended, you may be worried about what this secret will mean for the future of your marriage. Does keeping your cheating a secret doom your marriage to failure? Do you still deserve love and happiness after your infidelity? Will your marriage still have trust? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, these are all common fears — but none of them are true unless you believe they are. As she says, the future of your marriage depends on what you choose to focus on after your ...
May 19, 2022•28 min
If you experience a major upheaval in your relationship, the disruption can feel like your world is crumbling down. How can you deal with this radical adjustment? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, it may feel like bad shit is happening, but through destruction comes opportunities. If you deliberately choose to restructure your life from the rubble, you can build and grow your authentic self. Dr. Murphy says that to ride out uncomfortable or devastating experiences, you should ask yourself why this ...
May 12, 2022•34 min
Whether you have a large number of assets or are living paycheck to paycheck, breaking up with your partner can cause major financial resentment. So, how can you navigate issues around money as you go your separate ways? During her separation from her partner, Jessie Susannah Karnatz, aka the “Money Witch,” struggled with feelings of financial regret and resentment. Then, she received a piece of advice that changed her entire perspective. Her mother told her: “You made a bad investment. Cut your...
May 05, 2022•43 min
When you’ve formed a bond with your affair partner, it can be a grinding experience when that connection abruptly stops. So how can you overcome the pain of being ghosted? Dr. Marie Murphy says you are responsible for your sense of satisfaction, and if you’re struggling to heal from the loss of a relationship, you will have to change your thinking. By thinking differently about your ghosting experience, you can lessen the intensity and reduce your pain in the future. According to Dr. Murphy, the...
Apr 28, 2022•33 min
Do you feel like you’re constantly pledging allegiance to your past? If you’re stuck in the cycle of recycling and analyzing your past experiences, you may not be sure how to live the way you want to in the present and future. So, how can you engage with the past more effectively in order to create the future that you desire? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the past may seem stable and the future unpredictable. But, as Dr. Murphy says, if you focus too much on what went wrong in the past, it can ...
Apr 21, 2022•37 min
If you aren’t clear on how to move forward with your infidelity situation, what can you do to make a change? How can you make the right decisions for you — regardless of what your affair partner does? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you have the choice between making decisions consciously and deliberately and making them haphazardly or based on fear. Many people want safety, comfort, and security in their relationship. But, are these desires holding you back from what you really want from your fu...
Apr 14, 2022•33 min
How does the way you understand and express boundaries affect your relationships? What does it look like when your needs are in alignment? And, can creating better boundaries with yourself lead to more pleasure in your external relationships and life? According to Melissa Hite, to live an authentic life, it’s important to communicate boundaries with yourself and with others. Melissa says you should not negate what your body and mind are telling you in order to remain in a relationship. Instead, ...
Apr 07, 2022•57 min
When you’re unclear on your desires, you may feel stuck or powerless in your situation. If you are trying to cheat and want your sanity to stay intact, how can you deliberately decide what you want from your relationships? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you are accountable to yourself and your choices. To make more deliberate and satisfying relationship decisions, you need to manage your mindset and emotions. How? Dr. Murphy has the tools to help you get clear on your desires so you can keep you...
Mar 31, 2022•36 min
If you’re too focused on certain requirements or expectations with a partner, you may miss out on rich connections. So, what can you do to make a change? Is it possible to experience growth in a relationship without sacrificing your needs? As Dr. Marie Murphy says, there is a way to advocate for your preferences while also compromising with your partner. During conflict, many people struggle with taking responsibility for themselves. Fortunately, Dr. Murphy has techniques to help you experience ...
Mar 24, 2022•43 min
Do you expect your relationship to be a constant source of happiness and joy? Do you find yourself feeling discontent with your partner — or thinking that you might be happier with someone else? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the key to true relationship satisfaction is recognizing that the only person who can make you happy is yourself. While there may be times when you feel annoyed or upset with your partner, you can choose to instead focus on emotions and aspects you enjoy about your relation...
Mar 17, 2022•29 min
Do you put your relationships with others above your relationship with yourself? Actively trying to suppress or deny your feelings or your truth can be exhausting, especially during an infidelity situation. So, how can you prioritize being honest with yourself? If you’re looking for a better way to gain clarity and certainty with your thoughts, Dr. Marie Murphy suggests that you take ownership and acknowledge what is true for you. Letting your fear of what other people might think can deter you ...
Mar 10, 2022•27 min
Are you faced with an ethical dilemma in your infidelity situation? When you’re upset, it can be difficult to slow down and make a conscious decision about your relationship. So where can you turn for guidance? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you get to decide how to make the best decisions for you — no one can tell you what to do but you. But, with Dr. Murphy’s help, you can navigate difficult ideas around morality — such as telling the truth versus lying in your relationship — and take action t...
Mar 03, 2022•32 min
Are you struggling with the idea of perfectionism and hustling to show your self-worth in your relationships? Is trying to meet the needs of others holding you back from what you truly desire? If you’re too afraid of failure, you will never succeed. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, many people struggle with other people’s standards about love, acceptance, and worthiness. But, it’s not easy to create relationships you truly want without your own self-worth. So, are you ready to overcome your though...
Feb 24, 2022•34 min
Do you want to change your thoughts about your past but feel helpless about where to begin? Dwelling on the past won’t change the future — but it is possible to reframe your thoughts and regrets in order to identify your desires. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the only things that make an experience regrettable are your thoughts. As she says, you have to decide for yourself what is truly valuable in each situation and use that to create the future you desire. So, how do you break the habit of ne...
Feb 17, 2022•33 min
Does your sense of self-worth depend upon other people’s thoughts and beliefs? Is the desire for perfection holding you back from getting what you truly want from your life and relationships? When you endeavor to conform to societal — or other people’s — expectations of what is acceptable and worthy, you open yourself up to feelings of shame and fear, which may be corrupting your standards and holding you back from your desires. Dr. Marie Murphy suggests a solution: cultivating a sense of self-w...
Feb 10, 2022•25 min
Infidelity often brings forth feelings of guilt and shame, but it shouldn’t lead you to believe you’re a bad person. You don’t have to convince yourself that cheating is good — but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing, either. So how can you minimize feelings of guilt and shame and move towards self-acceptance, self-respect, and self-love? In order to shift your relationship with guilt and shame, you have to be willing to endure these feelings when they arise. Instead of trying to avoid these feeli...
Feb 03, 2022•29 min
No matter who your partner is or what kind of relationship you have, breaking up can be terrifying — even when you’re the one initiating. So what should you say to gracefully maneuver this difficult conversation? There are ways you can prepare and deliver your message to turn this dreaded conversation into one that can benefit both parties. Remember: breaking up doesn’t have to be a bad thing. With planning, thoughtfulness, and the right preparation, you can create the best possible experience f...
Jan 27, 2022•36 min
How do you prepare yourself for the difficult emotions of ending your relationship? Deciding to end any relationship can be a tumultuous decision — especially if you have no support. So, where can you turn for help? If you’re looking for a way to prepare for a breakup, Dr. Marie Murphy has some steps to help you navigate this process without fear and choose the best course for you. As she says, once your vision is clear and you have a better understanding of what you want, you can begin to take ...
Jan 20, 2022•35 min
Do you want relief from your complicated feelings about monogamy? What can you do to get what you really want out of your monogamous relationship? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, there is no simple solution. The first step is to determine what you’re looking for from your relationship — but many people struggle to find that clarity. That’s where Dr. Murphy comes in. She has the strategies you need to get clear on your desires and configure the relationship that’s best for you. With her help, you ...
Jan 13, 2022•28 min
What do you want other people to believe about you? And, do these opinions stop you from pursuing your true desires? The concept of selfishness may feel inherently bad — but does it need to be? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, in order to achieve what you really want from your relationship, you have to examine the definition of selfishness in your own life. Many people struggle with the idea of seeming selfish and instead choose to avoid their honest wants and needs. That’s where Dr. Murphy comes ...
Jan 06, 2022•27 min
How can you initiate change if you aren’t getting what you want out of your infidelity situation? What can you do to create a difference in your pattern of thinking as you approach the New Year? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you can make the changes you desire by permitting yourself to take effective action. As she says, you have to be willing to invest in the journey to achieve the results you long for in your relationship. By altering your mindset and taking the first steps forward, you can m...
Dec 30, 2021•24 min
Are you struggling to let go of your old self and transform into who you want to be? In order to change, you must surrender to what you want in your relationship and in your life — and that can often cause a shroud of doubt. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, only death allows for rebirth, and a metaphorical death can help you embrace your new self and reach the outcome you truly desire. While the awareness that life is fleeting and unpredictable can be uncomfortable, it is helpful for examining you...
Dec 23, 2021•28 min
Deciding to end your marriage for your affair partner can be complicated. It can leave you with feelings of discomfort and confusion about what you truly want. Fortunately, there are ways to gain more clarity about the best path forward in your infidelity situation. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, if you’re able to change your thinking, you can change your circumstances. Deciding to leave your marriage for your affair partner is not without its challenges. But to procure what you want, you have t...
Dec 16, 2021•44 min
Are you feeling conflicted and confused about your infidelity situation this holiday season? How do you distinguish between taking action because of your genuine desires and taking action because of your impulses? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, learning to refrain from overthinking and instead sitting still with your discomfort can help you reach the outcome you truly desire. While it’s essential to recognize your conflicting thoughts, it is also crucial to avoid letting the confusion manifest. ...
Dec 09, 2021•30 min
If you’re having an affair and want to change the situation, how can you overcome the fear of finding the right time — especially during the holiday season? Are you just avoiding the uncomfortable feelings about facing your situation? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, feeling uneasy should not prevent you from doing what you want. Purposefully learning how to deal with the emotions that make you uncomfortable can help change your mindset and become someone who faces fears and does not let fear dict...
Dec 02, 2021•31 min
Is your current infidelity situation what do you want this holiday season? How do you find significance and clarity in what you want? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the meanings we assign to the holidays will determine our experience this season. How you think you should feel determines your behavior — and your behavior will impact the results you see in life. When you can master your thoughts and have a clear understanding of what you believe to be true, you have the power to take action. In th...
Nov 25, 2021•25 min
