This episode is an honest look at what it means to find your voice and show up authentically in life, relationships, and even on national television. Shauhin Davari, public speaking coach and cast member of Survivor Season 48, joins me to talk about how journaling, breathwork, and mindset shifts can help you stop performing and start being the fullest version of yourself. Use code: “YLYL” for 20% off Shauhin’s offerings Shauhin’s Website Connect with Shauhin on Instagram Additional Resources: Ge...
Jul 15, 2025•49 min
This episode is an open-hearted reflection on what the quote “The love I give becomes the love I get” brought up for me, and how it inspired the creation of a new July 7-Day Challenge inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon community. It’s a gentle reminder that even in overwhelming times, connection can be built through small acts of kindness and intention. Whether you join the challenge or not, I hope this conversation helps you feel more connected to yourself, to those around you, and to th...
Jul 01, 2025•21 min
In this episode, I’m joined by Clinical Life Coach & Consultant and former therapist Mollie Birney to discuss the role identity plays in all aspects of our lives. We talk about why letting go of the labels we put on ourselves is often the scariest (and most freeing) thing we can do. Molly shares her personal journey from licensed therapist to coach, the concept of “freedom work,” and how we can stop trying to fix ourselves and instead be in relationship with the parts of us we’ve tried to av...
Jun 17, 2025•40 min
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with returning guest Kiyomi, with Awaken Into Love, to talk about her journey into motherhood and the powerful inner transformations it brought with it. She opens up about the spiritual and emotional journey of becoming a mom, and how she navigated postpartum challenges while maintaining a sense of self. We explore the parallels between motherhood and relationship anxiety, and how both call us into deeper compassion and trust. Whether you're a parent, on the...
Jun 03, 2025•37 min
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in May 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. In this episode, I address questions like: “Did I fall out love with my partner?” “What if I feel love toward my partner, but don’t feel IN LOVE with my partner?” “What if we fall out of love in the future…then what?” “If you fall out of love…can you fall back “in love”? I explore what...
May 20, 2025•55 min
It's officially wedding week! 🎉💍 In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my wedding season — from setting intentions before my bridal shower and bachelorette, to navigating unexpected bumps, practicing presence, and learning how to receive love and support from those closest to me. I also share some honest reflections about the final month of wedding planning — the pressure that builds, how I’m handling human moments (yes, even with years of personal growth work!), and why setting...
May 06, 2025•23 min
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. When you’re in a relationship, life’s big questions present themself: Who I am I? What do I believe? What do I value? How do I want life to look? What is normal? In this episode, I walk through these big life questions and help normalize asking them within the context of a relatio...
Apr 29, 2025•30 min
In this solo episode, I’m sharing what it’s looked like to reduce the pressure and urgency I used to bring into two major areas of my life: my relationship and my work. From letting go of perfectionism in partnership, to allowing myself to embrace a season of maintenance in business, this episode is a reflection on how releasing intensity can actually create more ease, connection, and clarity. Whether you’re navigating a big life change (like a wedding!) or simply noticing that things feel a lit...
Apr 22, 2025•29 min
This week on the podcast I have on Anna Seirian, a writer and coach for ADHD women who want to trade exhaustion and survival for ease and pleasure. She’s the writer of the best-selling Substack Ambitious Softie and the cofounder of Internet People, a digital media company and community for creatives, artists, and entrepreneurs. In this episode we dive into the heart of Anna’s Brilliance Experiment and how small, intentional actions can reclaim our joy, vitality, and sense of connection to oursel...
Apr 15, 2025•45 min
I am so grateful to bring on another former client of mine to discuss her transformative journey with relationship anxiety. In this episode we explore: How the need for certainty in her decisions fueled her relationship anxiety The struggle of knowing if it is anxiety or intuition and how to navigate Moving from black and white thinking to accepting things can be “both, and” Ways she works with her anxiety (not against it) as it shows up If you've ever felt stuck in patterns of doubt, fear, or o...
Apr 08, 2025•45 min
Have you ever felt stuck in the same relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to change? This week, I sat down with trauma-informed marriage coach, Becky Aste, to explore how healing yourself can transform your relationship. Becky shares the patterns that nearly led to divorce and how discovering somatic work (aka, soothing your body) changed everything. We discuss how regulating your nervous system, breaking toxic cycles, and shifting from control to connection can create a healthier, ...
Apr 01, 2025•48 min
In this episode, I’m exploring a topic that can sometimes feel a little uncomfy—but is super important to talk about: the role alcohol plays in romantic relationships. This discussion was inspired by a question from a Patreon member, but I know many other people navigate similar dynamics in their relationships. I share my personal experiences with this topic, including how alcohol has impacted my relationship with Nate, my past anxieties around it, the boundaries we’ve set, and open conversation...
Mar 25, 2025•17 min
The Messy Middle — a space we all find ourselves in at some point. It’s that uncomfortable, uncertain period where things feel unclear, and we’re searching for answers that don’t seem to come. In this solo episode, I open up about my own experience with navigating uncertainty, feeling stuck, and provide practical ways to support yourself when you don’t have a clear path forward. Mentioned in the episode: Anxiety Rx by Dr. Russell Kennedy, M.D. The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul Additional reso...
Mar 18, 2025•25 min
In this episode, I sit down with life and manifestation coach, Samantha Chung, to explore how to overcome anxiety, relinquish control, and create inner peace. Sam shares her personal story—from her early struggles with perfectionism and control as a professional ballerina to discovering the power of mindfulness, self-acceptance, and manifestation. This episode is for anyone who struggles with overthinking, self-doubt, or the need to control every aspect of life. Join us as we dive into how to em...
Mar 11, 2025•1 hr 2 min
Ready for a real conversation about sex? This week, I'm joined by sex expert Susan Bratton to explore the path to a more fulfilling sex life. We unpack the importance of open communication and how to overcome the misconceptions that are holding you back from passionate and connected sex. Discover how to take ownership of your own pleasure and build a stronger bond with your partner to unlock the best sex of your life (even if that’s something that currently feels intimidating). Mentioned in the ...
Mar 04, 2025•51 min
I know many listeners have felt the urge to escape a perfectly good relationship. This can show up as questioning if you're making a mistake, if you're truly in love, or if you're missing out on something better. I went through it too, so just know you are not alone. I am bringing back OCD and Anxiety coach Robert James to share his journey with Relationship OCD and to unpack why our brains can send us into panic mode in relationships. We discuss: How rumination and overthinking can keep you stu...
Feb 25, 2025•48 min
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. When anxiety shows up, it can feel tempting to want to make it go away as fast as possible. I’ve found this can actually make the anxiety stronger, and offer up 5 alternate ways to respond next time anxiety shows up. “Is it anxiety or incompatibility? webinar mentioned in the epis...
Feb 18, 2025•29 min
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in January 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. Is there such thing as the “right relationship?” Why is this such a common question we ask ourselves? How do we expand into a new way of thinking? I dive into my thoughts on this subject and how to think about our relationship in a way that is less anxiety-inducing. In the podcast,...
Feb 11, 2025•19 min
We are heading into Valentine's Day month and there will be a ton of messages about having your romantic partner meeting your needs and showering you with love and gifts. While it’s lovely to celebrate our love for people in our life–it’s also important to celebrate the love we give ourselves. Part of how we can give and receive love for ourselves and become our own best friend, our own inner loving parents, or the main character of our life is to intentionally practice filling up our cup. Inten...
Feb 04, 2025•18 min
Reading fiction can be relaxing–unless we’re stuck comparing our lives and relationship to the ones in the books! Then it can become stressful. Just know you are not alone if you feel this way–this episode topic was highly requested from other members of the You Love and You Learn community after I posted about fiction recently! In today’s episode, I explore three reasons why comparison to fiction books is unhelpful (because of all or nothing thinking, because romanticism in and of itself isn’t ...
Jan 28, 2025•48 min
In today’s episode, I sat down with Alena Winter, a clinical Naturopath and Nutritionist in New Zealand who is passionate about helping people understand true foundations of health and the things we need in place to be well. The good news? Many of these pillars of health are simple, accessible, and low cost–yet they can make a world of a difference in how we feel on a day to day basis. We discuss: What the nervous system is and how it influences us (Alena’s explanation is so simple!) Why is it i...
Jan 21, 2025•52 min
Have you ever felt pressure to “just be grateful”? Maybe you have sat down to write a gratitude list before, but it took you a while to think of things about your life, your relationship, your partner–and you felt guilty about it; “shouldn’t I be more grateful?!” In this week’s episode, I sit down with Karden Rabin, nervous system expert to explore a new perspective on gratitude that will (hopefully) help you feel way less pressure and approach it from a more compassionate lens. This was a big s...
Jan 14, 2025•40 min
Having a strong mindset in relationships can be a big game-changer. Our mindset affects the way we think, feel, and behave–so it makes a big difference if we come from a mindset of “why bother?” (victim mindset) or “I can’t change anyway” (fixed mindset) as compared to a mindset of “I can influence my life and relationship (creator mindset) or “I am not there yet–but I am getting there” (growth mindset). And this January, I am going to be focused on helping you strengthen your relationship minds...
Jan 07, 2025•30 min
Nate and I celebrated 8 years together yesterday, and I wanted to take some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in our time together. The 8 lessons I explore in more detail are: The more we resist feeling “bad”—the more we suffer. The more we accept feeling “bad”—the sooner it will come and go It’s much easier to look at the ways our partner is lacking than to turn inward and see our own shortcomings Don’t sweep things under the rug, but don’t spend excessive time thinking and thinking and thin...
Dec 17, 2024•33 min
I am so excited to bring you this conversation with Dr. Courtney Paré, a licensed naturopathic doctor, holistic anxiety coach, speaker, and author. Courtney empowers those facing anxiety and OCD to experience greater peace and confidence in their lives and relationships, and just published her first book Overcoming Relationship Anxiety! I had a chance to read the book and it’s fantastic. I know this resource and the wisdom Courtney shares in this episode will be useful for anyone who experiences...
Dec 10, 2024•55 min
I can’t believe we’re already at episode 100 of this podcast! After sitting down with 50 guests, there were many lessons learned about love that I wanted to recap and share–so I went back and listened to the final question I ask all guests; “what is one thing you have learned about love that you want to leave listeners with?” I found that there were 7 key categories of these lessons, so I went more into depth about each one and am sharing the key ideas from my wise guests over the last couple ye...
Dec 03, 2024•40 min
In this episode I am back with past guest, Ela Topcuoglu, who is a Life Transition Coach that helps us intentionally move through life’s big milestone moments (that can often be challenging for someone with anxiety). Things like moving in together, getting engaged, a breakup, changing jobs, or looking ahead to marriage. One stage of transitions in particular, the limbo stage (in between the old life and the new) can be particularly uncomfortable and confusing, so Ela is back to explore: A quick ...
Nov 26, 2024•42 min
In this episode, I sit down with Lily Sais, a former school psychologist turned registered Three Principles practitioner, whose journey has taken her from anxiety to a place of peace. Lily is passionate about helping others uncover the peace that already lies within them, beneath anxious thoughts (the peace that already lies within…LOVE!) We cover: Why it’s important to stop focusing on what’s wrong with you Why seeking more information is not always useful How we can release the need to think a...
Nov 19, 2024•50 min
Over the years, there is a recurring ‘theme’ that brings up discomfort for me within my relationship, and that is when things feel boring or mundane. It used to really freak me out, and I would jump to thinking I had to go find a more exciting partner or relationship. I still have these moments of judging the boredom, but when I pause to reflect further, I see things a little differently now: as a chance to pour into my life more intentionally, vs. placing the relationship or Nate on a pedestal....
Nov 12, 2024•25 min
This is a long overdue episode to explore signs of what an abusive relationship is and isn’t. I often give the disclaimer “my work does not apply to abusive relationships” and wanted to have a licensed therapist explain the types of abuse so people are aware. And who better than Dr. Molly Burrets, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles with 15 years of experience practicing psychotherapy, conducting research, and teaching at the undergraduate and graduate levels. In the episode, w...
Nov 05, 2024•47 min
