Hey guys, welcome to this week's episode. As you can tell by the title. It's a reset and reboot, and I'm actually going to make this a shortest episode. I probably have ever had. Because I want you to come back and listen to this. Ever you need a reset and a reboot because it doesn't just happen once. In your lifetime, you don't just reset one time, right?
Or at the beginning of the year, or when you set new goals or new year resolutions, or the time that you decide to go on this diet and clean it all up. That's not the only times that we need a reset, a reboot, but those are the only times we allow ourselves and give ourselves permission to do so. So I'm here to tell you that the recent and the reboot is absolutely normal. It is actually very necessary. It's okay.
And I'm going to tell you why, because if you're resetting and rebooting, that means you kind of strayed away from your goals, your aspirations, your maybe even your values, whatever you're feeling right now that you're not in alignment with. And that's okay. Because sometimes we needed those moments to learn our lessons. For life, for love, for whatever it is that you're going through. Right. There's so many times that.
We get so strangeness on what we think our life should look like and should be like, and we're so happy when we're going and we're doing all the things we said we're going to do. And. We're still proud of ourselves. And the moment that we don't do the things we say we're going to do, or we're not hitting our goals or things, aren't going the way we want them to be. Or maybe we've let ourselves go a little bit, but we've been eating a little more. We've been drinking a little more.
We haven't gone and done that one thing we said we were going to do. We get so hard on ourselves. And we say, well, I'm obviously not meant to do this. I'm obviously not going to be a great person. I'm obviously never going to live up to my highest potential. I obviously suck as a human. We go. And we beat ourselves up. And we would never do this to somebody that said to us, oh my gosh, I really, I fell off. And I'm so unhappy with myself right now.
I feel maybe a little extra fat or a little extra fluffy, or I'm not proud that I drank a little too much, or I'm not proud that I didn't do the thing that I said I was going to do for my business or for my goals or for my friend. And you know, my friends mad at me now I'm, I'm really feeling like, not good about myself because I didn't do the things that I said I was going to do.
We would never say to our friend or to anyone that came to us, we would never say, yeah, you should feel bad about yourself. You should feel like crap. You're a terrible person. Just quit and give up. We will never say that. So why would we say that to ourselves? It's okay. Sometimes life happens and all we could do is do better. Right. We can always reset and restart and redo whatever we want. And we don't need a Monday to do it. Like I said, we don't need a new year's day.
We don't need anything, but a choice and an action to do better and be better. And I'll give myself as an example. The last few months I lost my menstrual cycle. I think I've, I've talked about it on here. And I've gained some pounds and of course I'm in a new relationship and I've gained some love pounds, I've been really hard on myself when I'm not in my routines when I'm not doing the things that I say I'm going to do. It happens every once in a while. I'll be good for a few weeks. And then.
I'll travel with him or with my family, or, you know, overeat on a weekend or I'll drink a little too much. And my body just doesn't feel good. I'm so used to being so on point and feeling a certain way and I need control sometimes over everything. Then when I. I don't feel good about myself or great about myself.
I do get down on myself and I'm like, oh my gosh, why didn't do the things that I say I was, I said I was going to do, and now my confidence is shot and I can now stop myself and realize, Nope, I'm not going down that rabbit hole. I won't allow myself. Because my confidence has nothing to do with the exterior things. I should not be any less confident in myself.
Because I had two days of maybe to overdrinking and eating a little too much when I've had weeks of eating healthy and working out and showing up for myself, I will not allow myself to only look at the negative and only allow myself to look at. At the times that I didn't show up for myself versus the times that I did, because confidence comes from the things that you do consistently and how you show up for yourself. So as long as you continue to show up for yourself, don't get down.
If you didn't for a week, a month, two months, three months, because life happened because your kids were sick because things just, whatever life got wild, it is. Okay. In the big scheme of things, think of how long you're on this earth. We're on this earth, hopefully for a good long life. And if you can consistently do the right things to feel good, that feel aligned to you. It's okay.
Every once in a while, when life comes and throw something at you, whether it's something that maybe you weren't expecting, somebody passed away, maybe your kids started school, maybe your kid's sick. Maybe you fell in love. Maybe you start a new relationship. Maybe you're traveling more than usual, whatever curve balls life is throwing at you. It's okay to fall off. What you said you were going to do as long as you always bring it back.
And that's why I think these resets and these reboots are so necessary. And it also, that's a boost of confidence. If you have enough, self-awareness to say. I haven't done my best. I haven't been my best. I said I was going to do this thing and it's been months now. It's been weeks and I've let all these other things kind of come and. I've made that a priority. I haven't prioritized myself and my goals and my wants and needs. But today I'm going to choose to do different.
That is a big boost of confidence. That is a great way to get out of the funk. Versus saying well, because I've been so bad, I might as well just keep doing it now. I'm so far off my goal. I'm so behind now I'm never going to get to this or that. We sometimes set unrealistic expectations. To where we think if I'm not here by a certain date or a certain timeline, I'm a second life and I must be the worst. And I'm just going to quit now before I'm ahead.
Look at the people that have been successful in life. And I I'm sure you hear so many motivational speakers talk about this. Nobody had a smooth sailing success story where they decided one day, well, today I'm going to be this, or I'm going to look this way or I'm going to achieve these goals. And they just woke up one day and it all came to them. No, they had ebbs and flows and people gain weight and lose weight. They. I fall in love. They break up. They love people that people pass away.
There's friendships. Start off really great. And the people are there for a reason in your life. And then they fall off your life. Everyone has these ebbs and flows and life will continue to have them. But don't allow yourself to beat yourself up because you didn't show up for yourself every single time that anything came to your life and shook it up a little bit. It's okay. I'm here to tell you and give you permission to reset and to reboot. That is my pep talk.
Like I said, this is, this was going to be a short one. Because I want you guys to listen to this will never, you need one. I want you to think of me the next time that you're like, wow. You know, I've really just fallen off. I don't feel like myself. I'm not really confident right now. I actually feel awful. I'm not happy in my relationship. I'm not happy with my friends. I'm not happy. With anyone, like, why am I not happy? I think it's because I haven't been taking care of myself.
I haven't been doing the things that I say I'm going to do. That's when I want you to come back to this episode. And play it because we've all been there. I've been there so many times and everyone I know has been there. So don't be hard on yourself. These are the things that people need to talk about more. And give yourself grace, give yourself compassion.
You will get to whatever goal you have, but you need to give yourself compassionate and you need to decide today to hit that reboot and that reset and start again. Thank you for listening and joining. And I cannot wait to talk to you guys next week.