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If you're ready to take full ownership of your life and find your true, authentic, Welcome to your weekly dose of transformation. Hi guys. Welcome to another episode of the Self-Mastery Podcast with Maria Fuentez. I am your host and I am extra excited about this, this one because it's about, it's gonna be about breakups and it's gonna be a little taboo, and I'm gonna get really honest with you guys and open.
And I think breakups is one of those things that for many of us, we carry a lot of shame and we carry a lot of. Sadness behind, so we don't really open up to strangers about it. And maybe our like immediate family and friends might know how we, we truly feel after a breakup. But I'm, I'm here to break that taboo nest around it. I don't even think that's a word, but I'm here to break that because. Breakups are just part of life. And I am a true believer.
I heard this a long, long time ago, and it's resonated with me so much, and it's everyone comes into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and it's our attachments to those outcomes that bring us suffering, right? So if somebody is meant to be in our lives for just a season or a big reason, right? Sometimes, Big lessons to learn from people.
But if we attach ourselves to No, that should have been forever and no, that person, I thought, that person was my forever, then the suffering comes instead of just accepting that things happen and life happens and people are there sometimes just for a reason in a season and one day you'll find your lifetime, and sometimes that that means friends too and people around your life, but it's okay to hold space for the other two options that it is seasonally sometimes, and it is for a reason.
and appreciate that, and that is part of healing. I, I believe, after a breakup at Lisa has been for me, is accepting that certain things didn't work out the way you might have hoped, or the ma the way you might have wanted them to. And that's totally fine, and that's totally okay. I've also been divorced. I don't know, I, I've talked about it on Instagram a bunch, but I've also been divorced and that was really hard.
Um, I did jump into a relationship pretty soon after, which is the breakup that I just had. I don't know that I fully, like now giving myself time to heal for my breakup. I can, I don't know that I fully gave myself enough time or actually healed well. from my marriage, from my, um, divorce because I got into that relationship. And even though I went through some emotions while I was in the relationship, it was definitely not the same.
I, I've learned so much and I'm here to share some things that I've learned with you guys most. I have like three main things, but I, I do wanna share what I've done post breakup because I think, like I said, there's not enough people to talk about it. And honestly, I've even thought about having like a, a breakup bootcamp for women because. We're emotional creatures, and that's just the truth. We as women feel our emotions deeply, and some of us I know I have in the past suppress our emotions.
And when we suppress our emotions, we can't truly become who we wanna become because we're not allowing those emotions to flow. And instead, if we suppress emotions come out in other ways. And if you keep suppress enough, you'll just continue on, you know, negative cycles and toxic cycles within relationships and partners. I wanna talk about it all. And it's been, I think when this podcast gets released or this episode gets released, um, like three months I think, um, post breakup.
So at the beginning it was really, really hard, especially cuz I had just moved him and I had just moved into another city and we had lived there for maybe three months, maybe, maybe four months. I don't remember. Um, it's not important anyways at this point, but it was like three, four months and we had just moved and I really. the city that we had moved to, I, it was Northern Atlanta and I loved everything about it.
I don't think I've ever lived anywhere where I was truly like, oh, this feels like home. It's beautiful. It was quiet. We were close enough to a big city Atlanta, but like not in the city. We were like in a nice suburb, um, in Northern Atlanta. And I loved everything about it. And when we broke up, I was like, ed. very much. Not only cuz of the breakup and you know, the little family we had created, I had a stepson.
So there was definitely more to our relationship than just him and I. So not only was I sad and devastated about that, but I was also like, man, I really love it here. I don't wanna move. Like I tried staying there and that was like my first initial reaction, like when we broke up I was like, I wanna stay here. I love it here. And it just didn't make any sense to me living there by. It was just, it wouldn't have made sense. I knew nobody, we had just moved there.
So like, I knew maybe like our neighbors, but obviously I was not gonna stay living, um, in the same area. So it would've been just me, myself and I in Northern Atlanta. And thankfully my nieces, um, that live in Orlando. had their lease was coming up and we were at the same time. So it all just made sense and I think I knew that if something were to happen, I would always just come live with my nieces.
I think I called them once at one time that we had a fight and I was ready to like leave and I was like, I'm coming to Orlando. And they were like, yeah, of course you, you always have a place here. Like I was ready to just jump back to Orlando or jump to back to Florida. I'm from Florida originally, but I was ready to come back to Orlando or come to Orlando and I come back to Orlando. Yeah. So that's how I ended up in, in Orlando.
And when I moved here, gosh, that first week was hard cuz um, Florida's in my first choice and it's not, I mean, I'm enjoying it now and I'm in a different head space. But like that first week when you're sad and like angry and, no, actually I wasn't angry then. I was just sad. I was very, there was a lot of emotional baggage that I still had and I went, I remember going to the grocery store, to the, the Publix here. and I was like, oh my God, I have to do my own groceries now.
Like it all just hit me that I was. And that I had like left this life that I had built with somebody behind. And it was that, that first week was rough. Um, after like the initial move and like the chaos kind of simmered down, I actually had a moment to feel and I was like, oh my gosh. Like so much has happened. And it was, it was rough. I definitely felt sadness at the beginning.
Um, but let me tell you a little bit about, let me go back to that, that fight that I said, I called my nieces, um, to let them know that I was coming to Orlando cuz I thought the relationship was done. as women, and I cannot emphasize this enough, and having so many women friends, I know we all do this, whether we've done it multiple times or not, we've all done this as, as women, we've all done this at least once. We stick around way longer than we need to in a relationship.
We know it's done way before we actually pull a plug or way before we actually leave. And to me, Now seeing it as an outsider, like after the breakup, I, that's a trauma response for me because giving myself too much in a relationship is my mo, or was my mo I'm, I'm not doing that anymore cuz I have self enough self-awareness and I've done enough therapy to not do that.
But putting my own emotions, feelings, and thoughts aside to not make somebody else uncomfortable or to not make them feel hurt or being worried that they're gonna feel hurt if I say what I truly feel. That's where we go wrong as women, right? We suppress all this. We re, we put it down deep down inside and we take, and we take and we take, and I'm not sitting here saying that it was just all him or anything like that. There was definitely, our relationship ended because of both of us.
But as women, I feel like we hold on longer to relationships longer than we need to, at least because of a trauma response, because of our need to be there and never give up and give more to our of ourselves than we're willing. Receive or allowed to receive. And I would say that my relationship was probably over like three months before that some, something had happened in our relationship where I knew deep down inside, like this was it.
Like that was, I would never see that person the same way anymore. I, um, like I just knew, you know, and, and sure enough, like we moved and we thought it would be a good fresh start. And we actually started, we, we were going to therapy together already before that, but we started seeing this therapist that. amazing. Like I, gosh, if you're in Atlanta, reach out to me and you need a couple therapists. Reach out to me because she was magical.
She, within our first session, helped us realize so much about our inner selves, like our emotion. She's an emotional, um, type of therapist, so she's emotionally based and, and that's how she approaches the, the therapy session. And I remember we went there in the middle of a fight, our first therapy session, and she. Allowed us to really see deep down inside what we were really feeling instead of like fighting with all our walls and all our traumas. Right.
Sometimes when we fight, we don't really fight or argue, uh, on what we really heard about. We were, we're fighting with our traumas and our responses and our hurt little ch children inside that never felt heard. Those are the ones that are fighting. Those are the two that are fighting. So she was amazing. I highly recommend her. But during that session and multiple sessions that we had with her, that's when we kind of came to the realization like, Now we understand each other better.
We're not fighting with our like, inner little demons anymore, but we, we also can be together because this is like a lot, this is, we're hurting each other, we're triggering each other more. It's becoming toxic. But like I said, I, I knew that before, but did I have to go through those extra three months and moved to Atlanta and experience all that and go to that therapy session? Absolutely. Go to those therapy sessions and meet that therapist.
Meet him in that deeper level, even though he wasn't my forever person. Like absolutely I had to go through that. I had to experience everything that I did and I don't regret or re, you know, think that it should have happened any other way. I will tell you though, I'm gonna give you the little, a little bit of the processes that came after that. I don't regret it now and I'm in a way better place now. But was I angry at some point in this breakup and resentful?
Yes. And we'll get to that here a little later because as women, like I said, we give more than we are willing to receive more than we can sometimes. And I didn't realize how much I was holding back and how much I was actually resenting in the relationship until the relationship was over. Remember, if you, if you get nothing else out of this podcast, people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
And I am more than thankful for anyone that's been in my life in a romantic sense because I've learned so much. Not only have they taught me what I want, but they've also taught me what I don't want in a relationship or in a man. So I am grateful for all my experiences and especially this last one, this last relationship I had has was like the best growing container.
and I'm gonna mention that probably a bunch because we were both willing to grow together, which I didn't have in my previous relationship and the marriage that I was in. Um, if nothing else, I mean, if nothing else, all my relationships and all the men that I've met have always been better than the last in the sense of I evolve quickly, I transform quickly. I'm. Very committed to my personal growth and to my healing.
So I, I believe that we attract where we are at in life and I attracted my ex where I was in life and we grew together and so we couldn't keep growing together. And whoever comes next, I'm sure I'm gonna meet them where I'm at in life and grow together. And, you know, one can only hope it's for a lifetime. But I'm at the point in my life that I'm okay if it's not for a lifetime because I love, love, and I am willing and open and. I'm in a head space where I'm not gonna refuse.
Love it ever taps, you know, on my door again, because I, I don't wanna close myself up. I don't want to let the experiences from my past and my hurt and the people that have hurt me, or the relationships that weren't the best stop me from experiencing love again. That's not gonna happen. I won't allow that to happen. I think love is a beautiful thing and we can only grow and learn from it.
So I hope you guys get so a, a little bit more knowledge about me, not only me, but about how to heal from your own breakup. So, alright, let's get into, now that I've rambled enough let's get into the three things that I've learned during this breakup. And I'm also gonna go through some stuff that I've done myself that I've never done before. Not only after a breakup, but just in general. So my very first thing, Don't look for exterior things to make you happy after a breakup. Oh gosh.
This is like the best one because it's so easy to be like, okay, I gotta, you know, I broke up with my guy. He wasn't giving me attention. Let's just say I'm throwing out random examples. He wasn't giving me attention. Now let me go and find other men to validate me, care for me, love me. Give me all this attention that you should really be giving yourself. Men won't give you what you need long term. They might fulfill like small term needs, but long term men will not give you what you need.
You need to give yourself what you need. Um, Going out to parties and just like numbing yourself away with alcohol and staying up late and doing things that ultimately will hurt you in the long run instead of actually help you. And I don't think a lot of people see that. Um, cuz they're just trying to get like a small, a short term fix, like a little dopamine, hit some excitement because they're in so much pain after a breakup. But don't look for exterior things.
And I know it's easier said than done, but here are a couple things that I've done. Minimize that on also meaningless sex. Like of course sex is out there, there's apps. I've personally, side note, I've never been on a dating app and I don't know that I, I'm into them. I'll let you know as my, um, life continues, but I don't think I'll ever be on one.
But being, do you know, having meaningless sex with somebody, letting somebody into your personal space like that after a. it's probably the worst thing you can do because energetically you're allowing all these different energies, and if you're in a low place after a breakup, you're attracting low vibe people at that point, and you're letting those people come, come into your body, into your energies. And that's, to me, I think that's one of the worst things that you could do.
I'm not judging, but I don't, I don't believe that in a like holistic, energetic level that it's a good thing to do. So some of the things that I've done, Not look for exterior things and give myself the things that I wanted. I'll tell you one thing that I definitely was missing in my last relationship was like fun and excitement and going out to eat and like doing things. I love dressing up and like going out to eat. I've done a lot of that by myself.
I remember when we were breaking up, I st, I still live there for like two weeks when we broke up. I started going out to eat by myself cause I didn't wanna be home mostly, but I started going out to eat by myself and it was so uncomfortable. Like, I remember the first time I sat there, I just, I don't know why I felt so uncomfortable. And then I just, it became like a norm and I was like, I'm gonna go be my own date, order myself a glass of wine or two order whatever food I want.
Instead of thinking about like, what is the other person? What, what are they getting? Like I started little by little dating myself even like, while I was still living there. Um, spending time with myself, like honestly, being in solitude has been so therapeutic for me. And I think people mistake loneliness and solitude. Like loneliness is feeling that there's something missing in your life, that there's more that should be out there, that you're, you're not getting and that you're now alone.
Um, solitude is like mastering the fact that you love your own energy so much that you wanna be alone. That. you want like that, they, it's exciting for you though. You actually embrace it. Solitude is a peace of mind with yourself. And when I started actually saying no to, like, I remember Christmas came around, um, my stepdad wanted me to go to Miami and I was like, no, I'm not going to Miami. I'm just staying here. And my nieces were going to Miami for Christmas and I chose to be in Sol.
on Christmas and on purpose because I, I realized that I was going to Miami to not be alone, to not feel alone and be around people. And I was like, no, I need to feel the loneliness. I wanna feel the loneliness. Um, if that's like what's, you know, hurting me. Being alone is my fear. I need to feel it. And instead, I felt solitude and I felt peace of mind, and I felt really amazing. Um, Validating yourself. That was another one for me, is like, okay, let me write myself little love notes.
Let me journal my, my thoughts and journal what I would want somebody that loves me to tell me. And I started really just truly like, it was almost like I was dating myself. I was taking myself out to dinners. I was spending time by myself. I was writing myself letters. I was buying myself flowers at the grocery store that I hate going to. I started going there and actually romanticizing my. I heard, I don't know who I heard say this, but somebody said, romanticize your life.
Like, be excited to go to the grocery store, be excited to go on walks, be excited to be by yourself. So I started doing all that instead of actually looking for exterior things. Cause I learned nothing in the outside. World's gonna make me happy. I need to be happy with myself. And it wasn't easy. It definitely hurt. There was times where I was lonely, I cried. I was emotional. I went through a rollercoaster of emotions. I definitely.
I didn't feel like it was the right thing to do all the time. Um, I definitely doubted it, but I knew that I had to like, fight through the uncomfortableness and fight through the, ugh, this, this sucks. Feeling like this is sad. Um, and that was my initial feeling when I first moved here. And after the move kind of settled and I, I started feeling really sad and I was. you know, like sad space. And I just allowed myself to feel sad. I cried.
I actually, I don't know that I recommend this, but I'll tell you, I did say, I was gonna say everything I did, I went through old journal entries while I was in the relationship because when I was sad, I was definitely missing the person. I was missing the relationship. I was missing and remembering all the good times, and maybe this is a little sadistic, but I went, I went into old journal entries and.
all the things that were happening that weren't happy that I journaled about, that were painful and that I even minimized in my journal entries. I remember writing things down and I'm like, I don't even wanna like actually embrace the fact that I am this unhappy with something, because it, it felt wrong. It felt like I shouldn't be this unhappy with something and I should find things to be grateful for. So reading that, actually it turned me.
It took me from sad to just mad and resentful and angry, and I think Gabby Bernstein says it the best. So she says, you know, when you're feeling a heavy emotion, try to find another emotion. Um, and she calls it like, like scaling emotions or something like that. Like go to the next emotion. And lone and behold, from sadness, it was straight anger and resentment.
Cause I realized how much, like I said earlier, I. Put aside and not spoke my mind because I was worried and scared that I wouldn't be taken correctly or that I was gonna hurt the other person's feelings, or that maybe part of me thought I was asking for too much. Like, gosh, if I, if I ask him, or if I say this to him, he's gonna think that this is too much because I don't deserve that. Maybe I don't, maybe I'm asking for too much.
Maybe I'm thinking I need all these things, but I don't, and I'm learning now that your, your voice is powerful. And if you're with somebody that you don't feel comfort, Saying those things too, like you're not with the right person and doesn't mean that they're a bad person. It just means that you're not with the right person for sure. So that was my first tidbit is don't look for exterior things to make you happy.
Um, and then my second one is, and this was huge for me because I, this is probably my biggest learning experiences, like, and I'm still learning it now, is finding myself again, like, who is Maria? If I add. I'm turning 33 in March. If I add up, like I got married at 23, I've been in a relationship basically the last decade of my life and sure, you, you find yourself a little bit while you're in a relationship. You grow together. You, you evolve, you.
There's definitely growth that happens, but. who am I now? Who am I now in my thirties? Who do I wanna be? Who do I wanna become? What are things that I've always wanted to do and wasn't able to because I was in a relationship? What are some, some things that I can explore? What are some things that I can get excited about, um, and actually truly be myself? And I made lists. I started journaling things. I planned a trip. This is exciting. I've always wanted to go on a spiritual retreat.
Not, not always, but like when I was 29 I thought about it and, um, then Covid happened and, you know, that that idea went down the, the drawing pretty quickly. But I always wanted to go on a spiritual retreat, and that was one of the first things I did after my breakup was I looked for a spiritual retreat and I'm going in Costa Rica on my birthday. I get there on my birthday and I'm there for a week and I cannot.
and I will definitely share that experience with you guys cuz I will also be doing, um, ayahuasca and more. Deep healing. So I'm excited for that. And also a little nervous, but we won't get into that right now. But yeah, going back to that, I, so, like I said, since I was 29, I wanted to do that. And you know, I always felt guilty, like, oh my God, in my marriage, I shouldn't just leave for a week on a spiritual retreat without my husband. That's wrong. Or with my ex.
I'm like, no, I can't just leave him and my stepson for a week. Like they, they need me. Like I can't just leave him. And I felt guilty doing these things. Really being like, who am I and what do I want? And I'm gonna give it all to myself now. Like there is no one stopping me. I will do whatever I want, whenever I want, spend the money I want, doing whatever I want. And, well, that was another one, like money.
In the last two relationships I've had, money has always been, I don't wanna say an issue, but it's been. I, no, I guess it was an issue. It's been a problem in the relationship and I think it's because I had such a hard time accepting money and being feeling worthy of money that I never energetically let money flow in those relationships the way it should have.
Um, so having that financial independence, just being by myself now has been like liberating cuz I can just do whatever I want with my money when I want to, however I want to. And it's been amazing. and what else? Let's see. Finding myself. So, yeah, that is the second tip is just finding yourself again and what do you enjoy? What do you want? Make some lists. I made a list of all my wants. I made a list of everything that I want. Like just in general.
And I'm excited to just start checking them off. I plan on traveling a lot this year, so I'm excited for that as well. And yeah, just take time to actually find yourself before you jump into anything else, with anyone else, because if you don't know what you want, you can't attract somebody that knows what they want. And I think as women, we all want a man, a true masculine man that knows what they want. you have to first know what you want, right?
You can't just jump from relationship to relationship like I did, and expect the person to come be your hero and like come quote unquote save you and, and give you all the things that you want when you don't even know what you want. So, and then my third tip is, or my third thing that I learned is post breakup can look very different than you expected it to when my ex and I broke up. We both thought we would be like these great friends.
We actually got along so great the last two weeks that I lived there and we were like, this is crazy. We broke up and like we took the tension off the relationship and now we can actually be friends and have like a healthier relationship. And we thought, okay, this is gonna be great. We're gonna stay friendly. And as I was processing my emotions, like I said earlier about going through my journal entries, feeling sad, being mad, feeling resentful, I found.
Not being okay with talking into him as much, and we were trying to stay in touch and I had to really, I had to voice that, and I don't think that it was taken lightly or taken the right way. I don't think I voiced it the right way either because I was so mad and angry and resentful. I think I definitely said it in, I said some things that I probably shouldn't have from that space, but breakups won't look differently.
than you expect, and give yourself grace and give yourself space and set boundaries because at the end of the day, you can. to be friends with your ex or hate your ex or whatever you wanna do, but you are your most important asset in life. Like, if you are not okay, and if you're not giving to yourself first before you can give to anyone else, nothing else will matter. So take care of yourself first.
Um, and don't feel guilty with setting boundaries, like let people know in your life what it is that you want and need. And I knew that was a big one for me. I wasn't gonna just minimize myself anymore. I told him that too. I was like, Hey, I need some space. I need some time. I need to heal. I can't just keep talking or or being there for either of you at this point, cause I need to be there for me. And that felt really good but also really scary cuz setting boundaries like that for people.
It, it felt wrong. It felt like I was being selfish. But guess what I mean, being not selfish is what gotten me to these points in life and, and these relationships where I feel like I give more than than I receive. And I'm to the point in my life where I'm not doing that anymore. And just being true to myself is like the biggest thing. So the third one is post breakup will look differently for you than you assumed. Um, one thing that has helped me heal a lot, I don't.
if anyone listening is the same way as me. But music is very therapeutic for me, and I've made like a post breakup song list playlist, and I like, love it. Like, I mean, I'm not listening to it now as much as I did, like the first couple months that I, we were broken up. But I would just, like, songs would come up and I'm like, yes. Like I felt that line, I felt that lyric, and I would just like sing it in the car, sing it in the shower, sing it wherever.
You know, journal things like journal my emotions, cry, be angry. And you know, like now I'm on a different space with that. I don't feel angry, I don't feel resentful. I feel like it is what it is at this point, but I'm still just worrying and focusing on myself. Um, so definitely give yourself that space to be mad, to be sad, to be angry, to cry, to feel your emotions. Definitely don't.
ever hold back your emotions and don't ever, ever like minimize your emotions for somebody else or to make yourself or to make the other person comfortable. And also, I mean, I don't wanna give this advice cuz everyone's breakup is different. Like I said, every breakup.
My third thing that I learned is post breakup looks different for everyone, but I do think, and one of my girlfriends had told me this, is that yeah, You can wanna be friends with your ex like that sounds like a great idea, but give yourself time to heal and maybe separate the that, give yourself that time separation where you guys don't speak for a while and. Let yourself heal cuz it is very hard to stay friendly with somebody that you still care about or that you still love.
And I have a lot of love for him. So I definitely, giving yourself that space has really helped me. And I, I can't tell you how it's gonna turn out. I dunno if we'll be able to be friends. My wish is that one day we will be in a healthy space or I'll be in a healthy space to be friends with him and, um, not have these heavy emotions behind it. But yeah, I mean, I've, I think I've given you guys all my, my.
Tidbits, um, during this breakup, and I hope that my story helps you and helps you feel less alone because so many of us go through terrible breakups and divorces and there's nobody else really that you feel like can understand you or give you advice that is actually like inspirational, I guess, or motivational. I don't even know. The word that I'm trying to look for is, I remember a lot of people during my divorce being like, angry.
You know, I would tell 'em the stories of like, what happened and they would be angry and like, I don't wanna be angry after a divorce. I want, I want somebody to help guide me into a more positive space within myself. So I hope that you got that, that positivity and that positive space that you can get here. And where I'm at right now, like I said, I'm probably like almost three months post breakup. I'm in a weigh different space and just know that.
Your very valid feelings and sadness and anger and whatever you're feeling is okay, and it will get lighter. I promise you. Every day will feel a little bit better. Every day will feel a little lighter. Um, also don't, this is a side note, but don't like go looking for them like, like I said, don't talk to 'em for a little while, but also don't like add them on Instagram or keep in touch with them or figure out what they're doing. Like give yourself that actual separat.
Because if you're still linking yourself energetically to them and worrying about what they do, they're always gonna be in the back of your mind. You're not letting yourself heal. It's like out of sight, out of mind, right? Like you need them out of your head space so that you can heal emotionally. And I know a lot of people do that. I don't do that. I don't, I don't even, I don't even think he has social media right now, but I. when I'm done with with something, I'm done.
And I wanna clear that energy and clear that space so that you can heal. And then eventually this is a bonus, right? This is, I did this the other day. Little bonus thing that you can do after a breakup is once you feel like you're in a good space, write down everything that you want in a future guy. Now that you've had these experiences, now that you.
what it was like to have a relationship that maybe you didn't love or there was things about you about it that you did love, but others that you didn't. Maybe qualities and traits about that person that you did love, but others that you didn't make a list of everything you want in a man. And for me, I'll tell you some of the things that I wanted, uh, without getting in too much, too much detail, but what's what it's gonna do?
It's gonna put you in that energetic mag magnetic field of that's what I'm gonna attract next. And you're not gonna get stuck in those cycles because now you. You've made the separation between you and your ex. You're, you're doing the healing, you're validating yourself. You're giving to yourself. You're not looking for exterior things to come fix you or heal you. You're doing all the right things.
So now you're gonna open yourself up and be in a space where you're ready to receive something and someone that's amazing and some someone, and something that you've always wanted. So make that list for me. I'll, I'll just say a couple things that's on that list for me. A man that's in his masculine energy is very important. I want a man that knows what he wants, and like I said earlier, I haven't ever really had that. because I've never really known what I wanted.
I've kind of just gone with the flow, but I am so clear on my purpose right now, and I will forever be pur clear on my purpose. I'm not ever gonna get lost in a relationship like I have in the past, that I need a man that's clear on his vision, a clear on his life what he wants that doesn't play games, that doesn't, that's just completely open and ready to be with somebody like me. And also a man that's willing to grow with me. That's a big one for me, is.
Grow with me, love me where I'm at, but grow with me. Love me today. Love me tomorrow. Love me the next day because I mean, let's be honest here. If you're gonna date me, you're probably gonna date a few different Marias in your in your lifetime with me. So those are a couple things that I'm looking for in whatever other relationship I get into in the future.
Um, but yeah, energetically write down what you want so that you can be a vibrational match to that person when the time's right, whenever life happens, you will. You'll be magnetizing that type of energy because you've become it, because you've made the time to work and healing on yourself instead of just filling time and, and avoiding your emotions.
So anyways, I hope you guys got a lot of good information on here, and I hope this helps you if you are in a dark place with your breakup or if you're on the other side of a breakup or if you're in the healing phases, whatever it is. I hope you took something positive out of this podcast and this episode, and thank you so much for listening in, and I will catch you guys next week.