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You Are Not Crazy

Jessica Knightemotionalabusecoach.com

You’re exhausted from over-functioning. Always managing the chaos. Always trying to keep the peace.

You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you.


You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you’re the problem.


You’re not.


This podcast helps you understand emotional abuse, coercive control, narcissistic relationships, and trauma bonds—so you can stop doubting yourself and start trusting what you already know.


I’m Jessica Knight, emotional abuse coach and survivor. I help people make sense of confusing, destabilizing relationship dynamics—including gaslighting, manipulation, intermittent reinforcement, and post-separation abuse.


Here, you’ll learn to recognize the patterns of narcissistic abuse, understand the psychology of trauma bonding, and rebuild your sense of clarity, stability, and self-trust.


This podcast is especially for you if you are:

• Leaving or recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship
 • Navigating divorce or post-separation coercive control
 • Trying to co-parent with a high-conflict or manipulative partner
 • Questioning your reality after gaslighting
 • Rebuilding yourself after psychological abuse


You are not crazy. Your nervous system adapted to survive something real.


This is your space to understand what happened, reclaim your truth, and heal—on your terms.


🖤 Learn more and find resources at www.emotionalabusecoach.com

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Episodes

Recognizing and Healing from Covert Narcissism with Erin Riley

Erin Riley, the author of A Dark Force 20 Years with a Covert Narcissist, takes us through her journey from having a successful and vibrant professional in the music and entertainment industry to being entrapped in the shadows of a covert narcissist. She unfolds the realities of narcissistic abuse, revealing how she fell into the love bombing scheme and how she struggled to understand the complex dynamics of her relationship. You can connect with Erin here: https://www.erinriley.com/ Support the...

Oct 25, 202341 minEp. 106

How to Divorce a Narcissist with Tina Swithin

Tina Swithin, author of Divorcing a Narcissist and creator of OneMomsBattle.com, has been committed to helping others divorce abusive partners for decades. Together, we dissect the complexities of divorcing a Narcissist and how to protect your children. Our conversation is rooted in our experiences and knowledge, but this isn't a source for legal advice. You should always engage an attorney on the legalities. In this episode we discuss the trials of securing a family court attorney with a deep u...

Oct 18, 202351 minEp. 105

Reactive Abuse: Recognizing Patterns with Paul Colaianni

Navigating the labyrinth of emotional abuse can often be overwhelming. Paul Colainni joins us to help demystify reactive abuse - an insidious form of emotional manipulation where the abuser blames the victim for reacting to the abuse. We dissect the anatomy of reactive abuse, decode the abuser's intentions, and offer insights on how to differentiate it from your response. You can connect with Paul here: loveandabuse.com Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my servic...

Oct 11, 202343 minEp. 104

Understanding and Overcoming Gaslighting in Toxic Relationships with Dr. Frieda

Dr. Freida joins us to break down Gaslighting. With her vast experience as a research psychologist, psychoanalyst, and psychotherapist, Dr. Frida helps us decipher the manipulative tactics often used in abusive relationships. We peel back the layers of gaslighting, understanding its nuances, and how it permeates different areas of life. Learn the signs of manipulation, and listen as Dr. Frida shares invaluable resources for those ready to step out of toxicity. Support the show *Please Note: ther...

Oct 04, 202340 minEp. 103

Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse

Have you ever found yourself looking inward when a relationship goes sour, questioning your every action and thought, neglecting to consider the other person's behavior? It's a common pitfall many of us face, particularly those of us who have had the misfortune of dealing with a narcissist. In this episode, I share some personal reflections on this topic, exploring the dangerous territory of ignoring red flags and manipulative behaviours, blinded by our own introspection. Support the show *Pleas...

Sep 27, 20236 minEp. 102

Recognizing and Overcoming Abusive Relationships: Episode 100

On the 100th episode of the Relationship Recovery Podcast, I will guide you through identifying the red flags that signal emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse, empowering you to trust your feelings and reclaim your life. Our discussion starts with a deep dive into the subtle yet profound signs of abusive behavior, from controlling actions to emotional manipulations. We'll also shed light on how such behaviors like jealousy, rapid involvement, and unrealistic expectations can indicate an ab...

Sep 20, 202322 minEp. 101

Regaining Control in Toxic Relationships

Are you feeling trapped in a toxic relationship and struggling to set boundaries? This episode explores how to set a boundary using "canned responses," a powerful tool that could transform your interactions with a narcissistic or abusive partner. Listen in as we dissect this mechanism that allows you to maintain emotional neutrality while firmly establishing your limits, putting an end to the exhausting cycle of disagreements that might be draining you. You can download the free resource here: h...

Sep 13, 202310 minEp. 100

End of Friendships & Navigating Post-Trauma Relationships

Have you ever felt the crushing weight of losing a friend who simply couldn't understand your life circumstances or struggles? I know I have. As a single, self-employed mom, I've experienced the harsh reality of friendships fading away as life's complexities took over. I've been in that space where it felt like I was the only one working to keep the relationship alive. This episode dives into such personal experiences, shedding light on the often overlooked aspect of life - the end of friendship...

Sep 06, 202315 minEp. 99

Choosing a Therapist or Life Coach when Healing from Abuse

Imagine going through a grueling therapy session, hoping to find help and healing from narcissistic and emotional abuse, only to discover that your therapist isn't equipped with the expertise you need. In this episode, I will shed light on the importance of seeking specialized training when dealing with narcissistic abuse. I also explain why not every therapist or counselor may be the right fit for this complex journey. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my servic...

Aug 30, 202320 minEp. 98

Unraveling Insecure Attachment Styles: Understanding and Overcoming Anxiety in Relationships

Have you ever pondered why you behave the way you do in relationships? Are you often left puzzled by your reactions to certain situations? Melissa, a psychologist and life coach, explore the three attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, and disorganized - delving deep into how they can shift based on who you're sharing your life with. We also tackle the blame that individuals in unhealthy relationships often bear, offering tips on gaining self-awareness to navigate through anxious attachment styl...

Aug 23, 202325 minEp. 97

Unraveling the Family Court System: Strategies for Protecting Your Child in High Conflict Divorces

If you're eventually going to be entering the family court system, you must listen to this episode. As a seasoned high conflict divorce coach, I've seen how the court system often fails to prioritize the child's best interest. Abusers and Narcissists, armed with charm and manipulative tactics, can twist the system to their advantage. Today, we're going to unravel this complex web, giving you the knowledge to protect yourself and your children in the face of narcissistic or emotional abuse. For a...

Aug 16, 202310 minEp. 96

Escaping the Cycle: Healing from Toxic Relationships and Trauma Bonds with Ben Taylor

Are you tired of feeling trapped in toxic relationships? Ben Taylor joins me to unveil the reasons behind why we get stuck in toxic relationships, the cycle of toxicity, and how to break free. Through personal stories and client experiences, we highlight the importance of taking responsibility for our healing journey and the crucial role honesty plays in overcoming toxic patterns. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just f...

Aug 09, 202340 minEp. 95

Journey to Healing: Overcoming Trauma through Therapy, Yoga and Mindfulness with Anna Hindell

Do you feel caught in a Trauma Response? Anna Hindell, a NY based psychotherapist and Iyengar Yoga Instructor, jouns me to discuss the turbulent waters of trauma, especially after emotional and narcissistic abuse. We unravel the complex web of our body's fight-or-flight response to trauma and discuss how engaging in therapy and mindful practices like meditation and yoga can rewire our responses. With Anna's expertise, we unearth how consciously reconnecting with ourselves can lay the groundwork ...

Aug 02, 202331 minEp. 94

Love After Abuse with Nia Renee

Navigating love after abuse can be very difficult. Nia Renee candidly admits that revisiting her abusive past can be challenging but necessary for healing. We delve into our personal experiences of learning how to love again after enduring such trauma. This episode aims to provide insight into navigating love post-abuse. Nia Renee, known as "How to Love a Battered Woman" on Instagram where she shares her journey of overcoming narcissistic abuse. You can follow her here: @howtoloveabatteredwoman ...

Jul 26, 202347 minEp. 93

How to Begin to Heal from a Trauma Bond

How do you begin to heal from a Trauma Bond? A 10 minute podcast will not fully answer that question, but it's a start. Recently, I posted a definition of Trauma Bonding on my Instagram: trauma bonding is a misplaced loyalty where a victim is emotionally bonded with their abuser and finds themselves unable to leave an unhealthy relationship. The victim remains loyal to someone who has betrayed them time and time again. I had a few people comment on that post asking --- so what's the next step? I...

Jul 19, 202310 minEp. 92

Breaking Free from Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse

Learn to identify and understand manipulative behavior and set boundaries that protect and empower you. The transformation is difficult, but with commitment, time, and resources, I reclaimed my life from the grips of emotional abuse, and I know you too. This episode unpacks my healing program: The Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be chang...

Jul 14, 20234 minEp. 91

Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist {Interview with Tori}

Tori Benitez of Onyx Arrow Consulting joins me to discuss the realities of the Family Court system and the importance of having a strategy when divorcing a Narcissist. In this episode, Tori and I break down the complexities of the Family Court system and Co-Parenting with a Narcissist. According to Tori, family Court is like one big game of chess where children are seen as posessions. This is exactly how Judges, and other court professionals, and your abusive ex, sees them. To play the sick game...

Jul 12, 202349 minEp. 90

"How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?"

"How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?" This question came from somebody who emailed me and said: "How do I get them to understand me? Apparently it's rude to have boundaries or just say no." I hear this question all the time and decided to take this episode to answer the question. I would love to hear what you think: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This in...

Jul 05, 202310 minEp. 89

How I Got Here - My Story

I went for Narcissists and assholes because it was more familiar to feel *not good enough* than to feel valued. That was my version of safe. That was what I knew love to be. I pushed away every nice guy that came my way and prioritized going back to hurtful relationships with men who never valued me for me (they valued me so long as I fit in the box they wanted me to fit in). This podcast unpacks my story. I know you may see yourself in it. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro th...

Jun 28, 202323 minEp. 88

Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse with Manjit Rupri

What is the relationship between Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse Codependents lack a healthy relationship with themselves as they self-sabotage by putting others first - which is a perfect match for a Narcissist. In this episode, Manjit unpacks the connect Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. You can find her: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@manjitruprai?_...

Jun 21, 202334 minEp. 87

Inside Love You More: Surviving Emotional, Sexual and Financial Abuse

Kerry Kerr McAvoy returns to talk to us about her book, Love You More, and her journey leaving an abusive relationship with a Narcissistic Sociopath. When Kerry met her ex, he was everything she wanted in a partner. Yet months after the wedding, she woke up to an unknown woman’s text: “I guess the joke is not just on me but on you too. I’ve been dating your husband.” Shocked, trapped, and still in love, she didn’t leave. For the years following, Kerry's life turned into a living hell as she trie...

Jun 14, 202340 minEp. 86

Growing Up in a Narcissistic Home & Healing from Abuse with Katherine Kleis

After growing up in an abusive home, I never 'bought' the theory that Narcissists are Narcissists because of their upbringing. Katherine Kleis' story has many parralels to mine. She joins me to discuss her upbringing, how she left her Narcissistic parents, and how she healed from Narcissistic relationships. No matter where you come from or where you have been, it is important to never stop fighting for yourself. Katherine runs STAND Coaching. Her mission is to help empower clients to take back c...

Jun 07, 202343 minEp. 85

The Healing Empath with Raven Scott

Raven Scott, from the Raven Scott Show, joins me to discuss her journey, her book, The Empath and the Narcissist, and how she uses spirituality to help people heal from Narcissistic Abuse. Through grounded and heart centered teachings, Raven elevates the spiritual journey and concepts that you are uniquely magnificent and contrary to your doubts, you are here for a purpose. Her unique approach to addressing the souls journey v the ego’s protection mode, gives men and women hope and clarity of th...

May 31, 202343 minEp. 84

The Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse with Rossana Faye

Maybe you are unsure if your relationship is unhealthy. Maybe you are stuck in a trauma bond. Maybe you feel manipulated, used, lied to. Maybe you are reflecting on past relationships wondering if you were abused. Wherever you are -- if you are stuck in the cycle of Narcissistic Abuse, this episode is a must-listen-to. Coach Ro joins me to unpack the Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse. Rossana Faye was in an abusive relationship for 14 years. She now helps women heal from Narcissistic Abuse. Yo...

May 24, 202351 minEp. 83

Importance of Community when Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Kerry McAvoy

Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdiv...

May 12, 20231 hr 10 minEp. 82

What is Trauma Bonding?

What is trauma bonding? How do we get trauma bonded? How can we recognize the signs? This episode explains what it is and how we get trauma bonded. If you want to listen to a more detailed episode, listen to this one: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10022992 Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podca...

May 10, 202315 minEp. 81

The Intersection Between Christianity and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor

Ben Taylor returns to discuss the complex topic of the Intersection of Christianity and Narcissism. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhoo...

May 03, 202358 minEp. 80

Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse with Trey

What does Narcissistic Abuse look and feel like? I dive into that question with Trey as we explore his journey in healing. Trey is a content creator and coach. There are many content creators on Instagram and TikTok, but few speak so you can really hear it. Trey's message spoke to me. I knew little about his story before we recorded and our similarities amazed me. In this episode, Trey walks us through his story and how he understood he was in an abusive relationship. This is a must listen to ep...

Apr 26, 202347 minEp. 79

When You're Stuck in Love with an Abuser

What can you do when you're convinced that you're in love with a Narcissistic or Abusive person? This topic unpacks that complex topic. If you are looking to get Right with Reality and leave an abusive relationship. If you need support, check out my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Program: https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/relationship-recovery Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This ...

Apr 20, 202310 minEp. 78

How Do You Know You're Not the Problem? {aka not a Narcissist}

Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdiv...

Apr 12, 202319 minEp. 77
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