In this Patreon Only episode: I give advice (and information backed by neuroscience and trauma informed experts) to a Patreon subscriber who wrote a question in the chat community. The themes in this question are so relatable to us ADHD/AuDHD humans like; feeling overwhelmed when we finally have time to ourselves, freezing when it’s time to make a decision, struggling to know what we actually want in the short-term and long-term; feeling ashamed about all of that, and having trouble asking for h...
Aug 25, 2025•9 min•Ep. 53
In this episode, I am talking about an article in Psychology Today called Why Autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School that shines a light on a new study that shows that schools place double emotional burdens on neurodivergent students. I talk about how so many of us were overlooked for diagnosis as kids and how our emotional needs weren’t being met and how we carried that emotional neglect from the world into adulthood. This show exists because of my Patreon members — and I’m p...
Aug 18, 2025•47 min•Ep. 52
Autistic & AuDHD Humans Do Not "Understand" Hierarchy This month's Out From Behind The Paywall Episode is a Little Pod bonus episode that until today was on Patreon only. I'm talking about the AuDHD and Autistic tendency to not be motivated by social climbing and not wanting to cooperate with workplace hierarchies. I know what it’s like to feel alone with your brain. That’s why I make this show—and most of the deep-dive, honest stuff lives on Patreon. This episode is just a taste. If it help...
Aug 11, 2025•21 min
In this episode: It's all about letting go of self-esteem as a goal. It's vague, unmeasurable, and often just makes things worse—especially for people with ADHD/AuDHD. But self-efficacy is EVERYTHING. Simply put: it’s the realistic belief that you have the skills to do a task or handle a situation. Your self-efficacy can be improved (thanks to neuroplasticity) and there is irrefutable science and studies that support its life-changing results. I’ll explain more about the findings on self-efficac...
Aug 04, 2025•49 min•Ep. 51
In this episode: Most people don’t associate ADHD with hope — but they should. This episode explores the science behind hope as a cognitive process. Drawing on research I look at how hope is built, how it functions in the brain, and how it can get eroded by chronic adversity — especially for people with ADHD and AuDHD. If you’ve been struggling with follow-through, feeling stuck, or wondering why things feel harder than they “should,” this is an episode that explains why — and how you can cultiv...
Jul 28, 2025•56 min•Ep. 50
EPISODE 49: An ADHD Guide To Cortisol + 13 Tips To Lower Your Cortisol Levels In this episode: Exhaustion during the day, racing thoughts at night, sleep problems, anxiety, and unexplained inflammation can all be signs of a nervous system stuck in high-alert mode. While dopamine gets most of the attention in ADHD conversations, cortisol — the body’s primary stress hormone — plays a major role in how energy, focus, and fatigue are regulated. High cortisol, not low, is often behind chronic stress ...
Jul 21, 2025•49 min•Ep. 49
In this special Out From The Paywall Episode - you're getting a Little Pod Patreon only bonus episode that originally aired on June 22nd, 2025. I have a special offer for you. You can join Patreon for FREE right now by clicking here. You'll get one month FREE of "You Are A LOT" on Patreon at Tier 1 which gives you access to all of the archives, video episodes, AMA's, bonus episodes, transcripts, a private chat community and more! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR MONTH! No commitment required after the m...
Jul 14, 2025•19 min
In this special Out From The Paywall Episode - you're getting a full Patreon only episode that originally aired on May 18th, 2025. I have a special offer for you. You can join Patreon for FREE right now by clicking here. You'll get one month FREE of "You Are A LOT" on Patreon at Tier 1 which gives you access to all of the archives, video episodes, AMA's, bonus episodes, transcripts, a private chat community and more! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR MONTH! No commitment required after the month is up. (...
Jul 07, 2025•52 min
In this episode: I unpack (get it?) what it means to travel as a neurodivergent person, especially when you’ve internalized a bunch of rigid “rules” about what travel is supposed to look like. For a long time, I thought travel had to mean a picture-perfect vacation, and I put pressure on myself to pack light, leave comforts behind, and plan for an idealized version of my destination—rather than the reality of my actual needs. Plus, I’m creating a digital course about neurodivergent travel, and y...
Jun 17, 2025•31 min•Ep. 48
In this episode: Have you ever felt completely frozen, staring at your project, knowing exactly what needs to get done — but physically unable to begin? It’s not procrastination — it’s ADHD Paralysis — and there are three kinds: mental paralysis, analysis paralysis, and task paralysis, all of which can lead to shutdowns. It’s a neurological issue (executive functions not functioning) as well as an emotional one (a trauma response). Whether you're ADHD or AuDHD, this episode helps you understand ...
Jun 09, 2025•44 min•Ep. 47
In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD shows up at work — from time blindness to burnout — and breaks down what your rights are under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). She walks you through real-world accommodations that can make a huge difference (including remote work), how to actually ask for them without overexplaining, and also rethinks the whole concept of why we even have to ask for things like this on our own in the first place. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, vi...
Jun 02, 2025•59 min•Ep. 46
🎧 This is the first five minutes of this month’s Patreon-only episode. ✔️ It is a must listen if you’re feeling stuck with a life goal. That’s why I’m offering a 🎉HUGE DISCOUNT! ✨ Click here to get 70% off of your first month of Patreon for all levels . (They’re regularly only $3, $6, or $10 monthly anyway) Use code 38E07 at checkout. Offer ends 5/31/25. Jen explains a thought-provoking concept she recently learned—the difference between having a real plan of action for a life goal versus bein...
May 19, 2025•5 min•Ep. 45
In this episode: Jen opens up about her surprising Autism diagnosis last summer, which added AuDHD to her identity alongside ADHD. She shares how this revelation unexpectedly tied together all the loose ends of what she’d felt was “wrong” her entire life. Jen also reflects on how many therapists missed what now seems like an obvious diagnosis, and why so many professionals still struggle to understand this complex neurotype. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Embrace Autism is a...
May 12, 2025•55 min•Ep. 44
In this episode: Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article in the Sunday New York Times Magazine titled “Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong?” Jen let’s the experts speak for her and she reads the intelligent analysis done by Dr. Russell Barkley and the editors of ADDitude Magazine. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go...
Apr 28, 2025•57 min•Ep. 43
This week’s episode is Patreon only. This was a long one so I am sharing 15 minutes of the episode and I highly recommend joining the Patreon and getting this episode. In this episode: Ever heard of limerence ? It’s not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I’m taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov’s original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hy...
Apr 21, 2025•22 min•Ep. 42
In this episode: Did anyone ever tell you that being a PEOPLE PLEASER is a core trait in ADHD/AuDHD Humans? In this episode, I’ll tell you all about it. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our coping mechanisms that we developed early on in order to avoid rejection and seeking validation from others due to our feelings of inadequacy because of our (especially undiagnosed) ADHD/AuDHD. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHO...
Apr 14, 2025•46 min•Ep. 41
In this episode: ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated. In this episode, I talk about how impulsivity, time management challenges, and emotional regulation difficulties all play a role in why boundary-setting can be so hard for us. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% o...
Mar 31, 2025•48 min•Ep. 40
In this Jen Chat I talk about the origin of the term "Asperger's Syndrome" and why it's no longer used. The short answer: Nazis. I'm reading a book about Hans Asperger, the Austrian pediatrician who worked with the Nazis but claimed not to be one of them. To this day the idea of how "functioning" an autistic person is seems to be deeply and darkly rooted in only what their value to the workforce is - and not their value as a human being. Get 20% off of the book “Asperger’s Children: The Origins ...
Mar 24, 2025•17 min
EPISODE INFO: This week’s episode is Patreon only but you can listen to it if you are one of the first 50 people to CLAIM YOUR FREE ONE MONTH to the Tier #2 of the “You Are A Lot” Podcast Patreon. Click here to claim! Patreon Only Episode 39: “Skeptical of Scams & Cults?” In this episode: In response to last week’s episode about reasons why ADHD/AuDHD Humans sometimes have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM’s and other sketchy setups - there is an equal and opposite argument that...
Mar 18, 2025•4 min•Ep. 39
In this episode: Did you know that ADHD/AuDHD Humans have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM’s and other sketchy setups? I explain why we are targets (hint: our impulsivity, need for community and outsider feelings) and talk about how to spot red flags. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, AMA’s with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when yo...
Mar 10, 2025•46 min•Ep. 38
In this episode: Jen breaks down the ins and outs of PDA; Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. She chats about why even the simplest requests can feel like too much and how people with PDA handle those constant demands. Jen looks at the behaviors, challenges, and some ways to work on keeping a sense of autonomy even when triggered. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT...
Feb 24, 2025•34 min•Ep. 37
In this episode: Jen answers a question from a listener regarding medication for ADHD. Jen gives researched information about what to discuss with your doctor such as; things to consider when doing trial and error with ADHD medication, the different types of medication available and what they do, how meds interact with various life situations, and why it’s a more complex issue than a podcast is equipped to solve but luckily - Jen can give a LOT of sourced facts in one place that helps everyone k...
Feb 17, 2025•6 min•Ep. 36
In this episode: Jen talks about the other side of masking which is unmasking! She explains how we can safely and consciously choose to un-mask, the risks for some of unmasking, and how we may find ourselves unconsciously unmasking as people around us say things like, “You’re acting more ADHD/Autistic ever since your diagnosis.” But it’s not an act. It’s our authentic selves coming through. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat...
Feb 10, 2025•29 min•Ep. 35
In this episode: Jen talks about the exhausting art of masking with ADHD and/or AuDHD. She explores why so many of us feel the need to mask (both consciously and unconsciously), what the very real consequences of masking are and when it benefits those of us with ADHD. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community . Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any le...
Jan 27, 2025•34 min•Ep. 34
In this episode: Did you know that people with ADHD/AuDHD are vulnerable to ending up in toxic relationships (of all kinds)? You are not broken and neither is your “picker”. There is science behind this. It’s due to our issues with communication, impulsivity, low self-esteem, and that old need for dopamine! This episode may make you feel sane and help your confusion as to how you got here - especially if you don’t have any “big T” trauma in your upbringing. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transc...
Jan 20, 2025•6 min•Ep. 30
In this episode: Jen explores the concept of Justice Sensitivity in people with ADHD and AuDHD. She explains why fairness and injustice can feel so intense for neurodivergent individuals and how these strong reactions shape everyday experiences and influence relationships, work, and personal well-being. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community . Sta...
Jan 13, 2025•31 min•Ep. 32
In episode 31: Jen talks about the very real psychological issue of feeling like an imposter despite our accomplishments. While this can happen to neurotypicals as well, especially in a career context, ADHD humans walk around feeling this way consistently. We can feel like a secret failure at just LIFE itself, and since having ADHD erodes self-trust, we also feel like imposters if we don’t seem “ADHD or AuDHD enough”. - For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Ar...
Oct 07, 2024•43 min•Ep. 31
In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD humans can withdraw from friendships due to our “out of sight, out of mind” brains despite loving our friends and gives advice on how we can maintain our friendships. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are ...
Aug 26, 2024•40 min•Ep. 30
In this episode: Jen talks about the pros and cons of hyperfocus. Pro: In a hyperfocus we are working at our optimal ability. Con: Too much hyperfocus and we’re neglecting our basic needs and the needs of people in our lives. Also, Jen talks about why she thinks that “flow” and “hyperfocus” are two different states of being. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually...
Aug 19, 2024•36 min•Ep. 29
This week: Jen talks about how being an ADHD Human comes with a lot of misunderstandings, from neurotypicals not understanding that ADHD traits aren’t moral failings, to not being able to understand ourselves after being labeled as “lazy” or “rude” for so long, and how ADHD itself is misunderstood even by the people who have this neuro-developmental disorder. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast Patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6...
Aug 12, 2024•44 min•Ep. 28
