The Orgasm Gap with Bella Rolland

Hi everybody, thank you for downloading the podcast and for supporting the show. You were listening to Extreme Restraints University. Are you sure? Hello and welcome to Extreme Strength University. We are so glad you can join us again. As always, myself, Ian Rath, the amazing agent star. Hi. And this month we're lucky enough to have Bella Roland back again. Hey baby, how are you? Good, are you? Excellent. I am very well. So as I say every month, mmm, you're used to this by now, aren't you? Aid.

Hi baby. Hi. What are we what are we talking about today? The female orgasm. Or the female orgasm gap. Oh right. Mind the gap. Mind the gap. So unfortunately. And we've all known this for a long time. Men Pretty much come when you have sex. There's only three percent of men who are doing some research don't orgasm. What is so funny about that? Men, they come and they go. Men, they come and they go. They show up and they come. How many male orgasms?

ruined in your life. A lot. Uh huh. Thank you for asking. You do have a talent. Consensually, of course. I think it's about 3% of men who say they don't achieve orgasm from intercourse. That's heteronormative. But uh it's about thirty-seven. You could fix that, gentlemen. But about thirty-seven percent of women. Say they don't orgasm from heteronormative sex. Now if you're gay or bisexual, that number's far lower because better to be gay. They know what they're doing.

They know what it feels like. So we're gonna hopefully today give you some tools, maybe some tips, maybe, maybe even show you where the clit is or the clit adjacent area that some people like. And try to help you out in this. What do you think? We're gonna help you out. We're gonna help you out, buddies. Um, so I think that Um it's really like yes, those statistics are true, but I think what that misses is that a lot of men in heteronormative binary relationships really want their women.

to have an orgasm, like it would make them really happy to see their female partner have an orgasm. Um and they would derive a large sense of pleasure from it as well. So I think where people get stuck is kind of just the um the breaking down how to go about doing that. And self-knowledge is really important.

Um binary heteronormative ladies and everybody really, but since we're talking in the binary heteronormative today, which I don't even really know that I can do, I'm gonna totally try to fuck them through my nuts. Thank you so much. Anybody can be struggling here. So knowing how your own body works is important because then you can tell your partner. Now there also is a large sense of shame. um that uh a lot of binary heteronormative women and other people as well battle against

Um your pleasure is important, it's important to you, and I promise it's important to your male partner. I promise he wants to see you happy because your pleasure is his pleasure. Wouldn't you agree, Mr. Ann Ralph? Yes, I would agree. But I was listening to an interview um A show the other day and it was uh six or eight fine gentlemen sitting around talking about this. And what they all agreed upon or what they were discussing was

They found it emasculating, which really blows my mind. They found it emasculating to ask their partner what they want. Yeah, that's the shame. Which is horrible. It's terrible.

Quit it. It's not emasculating. It's empowering. So what you need to do at some point, maybe tonight, maybe tomorrow, is talk to your partner, ask them what they like, where they want to be touched, how they want to be touched, and just as important, how they don't want to be.

Because maybe you've been in a relationship with this person for years and years and you've never asked this them this question and you've been touching them incorrectly this whole time. Um some women come from uh penetrative sex. It's a fairly low number. Some women come from clitoral stimulation. That's a higher number. And some women need both. So find out where you're at. Ask them. They will tell you lovingly.

Or you can just go and go, look, let's let's let's experiment. Let's let's let's Let's find out what we're doing. Well and I think too like every woman is so different. And like those guys are probably like, Well, my last girlfriend came when I did this, so obviously every woman can't be able to do that. No, probably she didn't. No. Totally different

And even if she did, it's a totally different person. Totally different person and who knows if she actually did finish. She might have just known that her finishing was so important to you that she faked it in order that she lied? Yeah. So why don't we just like You know, do that for the girl a little bit. Yeah. Make her experience pleasurable. So get on the same page. Yeah. It's kinda interesting. We'll get to that in a second. But get on the same page with your partner. Have the conversation.

That's like Hi, what do you like? And if they don't really know what they like, then Then go on an adventure. Go on a journey of discovery. That's the fun part. Yeah, that's the fun part. And go slow. Now I've picked a lot of toys today that would be is my opinion be very, very difficult.

to jack your partner up. Yeah. Hurt hurt them with. They're bigger, broader base toys or smaller, round, soft toys. So if you really don't want know what you're doing and you're gonna kind of go around down there and look. Go around down here. I know, it's kind of funny to think about, right? Well look, uh we were all talking before we went on camera and actually My abs hurt from all the sex I had yesterday, so please don't make me laugh anymore.

Boom. Try not to. But I actually Bella told me where her spot is. Yeah. Um would you like me to elaborate on it? Yes, please. No, it's I know where it is. Well, I can tell the camera. Yeah, tell the camera where your spot is. So my particular thing, I am one of the girls that I'm more of an external stimulation um person, so uh I do love penetration, don't get me wrong, but I it's a guaranteed orgasm if I have the external stimulation.

going. Um And one thing that I have really noticed, I cannot handle direct contact on my clip. Um if I have a Don't do it. Don't do it. No. Is it like okay we're done? Literally, it's like too too much for my brain. Uh d it's instant like it's it's not a pain response, but I just almost like so overstimulated that I

Scream and you can you kinda hit fight or flight. Very much. Like it's it's a lot. So my preferred spot is just actually to the right. Um and it's only just to the right. If you go Yeah, if you go to the left, it's actually also equally as over stimulating as being directly on top. So I have to go just to the right of my clitoris. And I will get there within minutes. So the the clit has a huge nerve bundle that goes back up.

Right? It's like a little like a little V. Mhm. So you found the spot that you like. Most everybody has one. Mhm. And you just have to f find it. Yeah. What are you looking at? You. What are you jacking that little thing off over there? Everyone. It's just a the degree of insanity. I mean I feel like like I said earlier, you're the common denial.

The blue and the green one are actually so fun to watch. So anyway, if we're gonna if if we're gonna jump into this yeah if we're gonna jump into this uh uh because uh Ms. Starr is uh Is just kind of like a little klepto and always has to pick stuff up. This is the Bang Ultra Powerful Vibration Seven Times Bullet with Four Attachment. So it's the seven times bullet with four attachments. Seven means it's gonna have seven speeds.

So this is hold the whole thing up. It's a little adorable. It has little it's the perfect size for traveling, first of all. Um all these uh except for the uh the wand But hold up uh the other catchments. Do you want to hand them to Bella? So these would be good to experiment with solo or with a partner now. Don't put them in your ass. Don't put them in your ass. Don't do it without a base, without a trait.

Right. You will go and have a very info embarrassing photo taken by a doctor. Yeah. Black and white. So if you've if you've never really masturbated, you've never achieved orgasm through masturbation Try. And the the thing is is You might have to go through two or three or four toys before you find one that you actually like which

A little problematic when you're buying a bunch of stuff. Yeah, and I it'd be nice if there was like almost uh this is so fun, a little like training kit of different toys. Cause I used to be such a fan Ha ha. I love how you're trying to like. Talk while I'm doing it. It's so distracting. But I used to be I used to think I was a fan of the vibrators that were penis shaped. Right. Just'cause that's what you had. That's what I had. And so that's always just what I assumed. Now I've

grown up and I've explored more, those are my preferred. Um the wand. I've never tried the attachments before. So this is this is a wand. This is our version of the wand, which is a thunder stick. We sell a couple others. Uh they're plug in Which is awesome. We talk about this wand every episode because I think it's a must have. It's absolutely a must have. And it's nice and smooth. It's got the v uh varia a variator wheel, so it actually goes higher and lower than um

one of the other most popular brands. And then if it's still too vibraty for you, Wantoppers. Now there's there's five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten different kinds of wantoppers. Uh all in different shapes and sizes. Yeah, that's a wandhopper for a wandhopper. Oh what you do here is you put the wiener In whichever end really. But you know, I like to put it in this end'cause then that's gonna touch the tip of the wiener. Yeah.

And you can put it on the wand topper and then you can jerk the wiener. So this this so this goes out to the three percent of men who have problems orgasming. Is there are wand toppers for men? Oh, honey. you guys We're lying. You got a lot of you people like this. I know because I have a bunch of them. You guys like So there's penis haverers. Penis havers. So there's a lot, if you're a penis haverer too, this is a very entertaining stroker.

Um can you can what I It looks like a like a stroker speaker. Yeah. It looks like a speaker, but it's not. But it's a stroker. So the ends come out. It actually plugs in um and it vibrates. Oh yeah. That makes so much more sense. When I first saw it, I thought it was a toy that you sat on.

You can sit on this. Yeah, you can sit on it. You can sit on this. Especially if the wiener if you just like the tip of the wiener. So if you had it on the wiener and then you're just kinda humping the wiener. A little bouncy rider. A little bouncy ride. It's good for the bouncy ride. Oh and that's so nice and soft and squish. So that's the ten X Cyberstroke. Um three speeds, seven patterns of vibration. So pretty cool. Um and then this little guy. That's a butthole. I can tell that.

side. We have three, four, five of these. This one happens to be a vagina on one side and a butthole on the other, so you can either penetrate or look at something. Stroken. This does not vibrate. But it is it is very uh very squishy and textured inside. Uh so hopefully this will get you off. Strokers are good. This is the mistress series, see, Mistress, and this is called, oddly enough, the double shot.

Double shot of this. And there's cute little cap so you can chuck it in a drawer and like this is perfect too for traveling. Like this looks so inconspicuous. Yeah. This one is very uh uh The uh the 10x cyberstroker is very very nubbed inside. So it should actually should get you off if you're gonna There's no there's really no hard fast rules here. And then the last thing we have for guys is uh from the mistress series also, this is a deluxe. See it's all sealed? Pussy Stroker.

She's pretty. She's pretty. She's got a pretty little pussy. Oh and she's nice and soft. Yeah. She feels good. It's really made of a really nice material. Um these are what is this? Uh we're gonna get the box out. See, get the box out. Uh textured inner tunnel, soft and stretchy for a real life look and feel. Uh open into design so it's easy to easy to clean out. Um It is phthalate-free, it is latex-free, it is made of a material called bio.

Oh that's my favorite material to use. Yes. Yeah. So didn't it feel it doesn't irritate at all. Hyper allergenic. It's hyper it feels like real skin. It's not. Squishy pussy. So those are strokers for for for Gentlemen or for men. Um people with penises. Yeah, you can use it on yourself or you can have your partner use

On you, which is which is fun. Pretty cool. We are gonna get oh, you're kind of fixated with the rose then. I don't know what you're talking about. I just asked a question. It's so cute. That is the bloom gasm. Uh-huh. Mystic Rose. Uh sucking and vibrating silicone rubber. So uh Billy, you said you'd never used a sucky sucky toy. No. But you're very excited to. Yes. Or lie to me. I no. I'm very excited to use it. And at first we didn't know that it

Was working, but one um one of the buttons is actually for the vibration and then the other button is for the suction. So if you like to have your clip gently sucked on That's for you. You could you could I know you're not a big clitoral girl. It's like over to the left and Yeah, it's not like a crate it doesn't feel like it's gonna take my clit off. So I think I that would be fine. Right? It's like a good little

As a as opposed to those people who get the vacuum out and go Yeah Don't do that. No. No no no no no. But a lot of sanitary. The thing I think is nice about these toys is that if you're just exploring They're they're powerful enough or not powerful enough, but they're big enough that you're not going to hurt yourself. Don't put this in your butt. Don't put anything on this table in your bottom. Yeah. Don't do it. None of this is butt stuff. This is cute and fancy.

Yeah, it's it's pretty cool. And it's fairly powerful. And I like that it's almost like the mini version of that one. Yeah. I like the bullet vibes. That's that's what that style is, it's good. ДИНАМИЧНАЯ МУЗЫКА ДИНАМИЧНАЯ МУЗЫКА But I do like that this bullet's like a little bit thicker, whereas like the bigger this is also phthalate free. Okay. And it's waterproof. So you can you can jack off in the shower or the bathroom.

Mm. Or the pool or the hut. That is so nice. But I like how it's just a little bit bigger. Mm-hmm. And there's just a little bit more there. Whereas like these with the attachments Well I like I I I would really like uh the Excel bullet which is what this is from the Bang series, uh for People who haven't masturbated a lot or people who have a hard time because it's it's a little robust. Yeah. It's not tiny. You can do your back with it also.

But and you're probably and you can use it internally too. Mm-hmm. Stick it in your vagina. Because there there is a good percentage of women who need vaginal uh interior uh and external to come. So you have to play around a little if you're not getting off

Maybe try a little something inside and something outside or just try inside or just try outside. You can do it all. Do it all in the same masturbatory session. And it's fun'cause like sex is a f such a like good place to explore as long as like you and your partner are both good.

with consent and laying down um personal rules. Um It's so fun to be able to explore like All of these other gadgets, like this is just like not even the tip of the iceberg of things that are out there for you to like figure out. Barely just the tip. But these are I think these are really good for beginners. Yes. Or even if you're thirty, forty, fifty, sixty years old And you wanna just try it. And you wanna try something out.

And then talk to your partner and say, you know what, babe, we've been married for 20 years and very rarely do you make me come. And if that happens, don't be hurt. Don't be hurt. Just go with it. Go, okay, how can I do better in the future? Don't feel you're emasculated because you're not.

Yeah, wouldn't you wanna know the truth? Yeah and Thing yeah, and everyone's different and it's not like yeah, just because you didn't make them come one time, okay great, let's work on that and I'm I'm gonna make it a mission that you are gonna orgasm. Maybe not the next time, but we're gonna figure it out until we get you there. And then this is really this is really adorable. This is by Gossip and it's the G Thrill silicone finger vibe. Yeah. So

It's just it's a little battery operated vibrator. So cute. So if you want to There we are. If you if if you're finger-centric and you like to masturbate with your fingers, that's great. If you need a little buzz buzz, this is a little buzz buzz. And it's like the perfect little bullet. Yeah. If you are a penis haver and you're a fucking somebody in whatever way you're fucking them. Let's say you're fucking someone's pussy. You can put this here and be touching their clip.

Yeah, or they can your hand won't get tired of make your finger won't get tired of making the circles. Well or they can be they can have a vibe on their clip while you're fucking. Yes, that's my personal favorite thing. She's a yeah.

It it does not ema it it does not emasculate you. No it doesn't need to No, you know what um you know what the sign of a real man is is being good in the fucking sack. Yeah. Yeah. You wanna be a real man, get real fucking good in the sack. I'm real good in the fucking sack. Yeah. But it takes practice and it takes caring. It does. And it takes empathy. That's true. And you have to care about your partner. That's true. You can't be a self-

About that. Ah, that's the word I was looking for. Yeah, if you want to be selfish, just use a stroker before she gets home and then be nice when she gets there. I'm just saying. But don't be a selfish lover. Ask your partner what they want. Yeah. And then if they express what they want. Don't be judgy.

Mm-hmm. If they shared something really personal with you and said, Oh, whatever it is, I want to be spanked. I want to be tied up. I want you to go down on me. Could you eat my ass? I would really like you to eat my ass. Do it. I was waiting to see where this was gonna go.

What things are you recommending, Ian Rack? I'm not recommending anything. I'm saying talk to your partner. Yes. See what they would like to do and if you really don't if you're good with it, if you don't have some weird moral or ethical issue, do it. Yeah, come on. To the best of your capabilities in like terms of like keeping yourself safe. Yeah, don't do anything unsafe. Yeah, I'm not sure. Like a fucking pussy, bro. Don't do anything unsafe. Exactly.

If you're watching some like really crazy BDS BDSM stuff, maybe you should talk to professionals beforehand. But if it's like watching somebody just rail somebody against the balcony or blah blah blah and the maids are coming in, like That's that's fun and that's great. Yeah. Well if you wanna try some cra if you wanna try some crazy BDSM stuff. Start slow and develop that skill.

Like you're really you're not gonna have a a a skill set to tie bondage right off the bat. You're probably not gonna have a skill set to be a decent flogger right off the bat. No, you're not. But practice. Practice, practice, practice, develop that skill. And if you want to play with somebody and you say, hey, I'd like you to flog me, don't just assume they know how to do it. Ask them if they actually have that skill set.

And if you don't have that skill set, say, you know, I really don't know how to do that but But I'd love to learn. But I'd love to learn. Yeah. Because I love you and I would like to Play within your skill set. Yeah.

There these are all practical or practiceable things that you can learn. Yeah. And communicate during like if we could go back to the pussy. Um communicate. Like if you're licking someone and they you can you can't really tell if they like it or not, ask them, be like, Hey, is this working for you? Like higher, lower, harder, like what do you need? People might also need mental stimulation. I'm a big mental stimulation person. I'll come harder, um, depending on what's going on.

Um, so maybe they need some mental stimulation, whatever that is. Maybe they want mood lighting or romance or emotional connection or maybe they want a back massage first or kissing um or you know, attention to their other erogenous zones besides just their pussy. Ask first.

Um and see, you know, what's gonna get them in the mood. And if you're good at getting the ladies in the mood, trust me, your life's gonna be better. Everyone's life is gonna be better, especially yours. Because their pleasure will bring you Well, in a lot of the research I did over the last couple of days, um a lot of women experienced'cause I wanted

A lot of women experience pain during sexual intercourse. And so what's recommended is at least 20 minutes of foreplay prior. Not just bend over, let's go. But a little kissy face, a little stroking, a little tell'em you love'em or Get the lubricants going. Get the lubricants going, man. Relax, man. Tell'em you love'em. All the good things. Yeah. Toy Hoarder, can I can I have um buy can I have the blue one? Can I have the XL bullet please? Yeah I don't know.

Uh so let's say I'm I'm gonna use this on bell, right? And uh I need to listen to Bella when she says higher, lower, to the left, to the right, more pressure, less pressure.

More vibration, increase the speed, take it down. Take it down because it's her body and I'm trying to bring her back. Take it down a notch. And I actually dig this toy because I don't think you could do a a a huge amount of damage. No,'cause I think too with the the way that you have to hold it it also makes

the toy just a little bit shorter'cause it I guess it kind of to some people it can look like quite a long toy. Yeah. I mean I dig it. But the way that you have to hold it to be comfortable, yeah. There's only a few inches in the average vagina is like four to five inches deep. And so I think yeah that looks perfect. No no holes will be punched here. No. And very just in case you don't know, very few women like anything slammed up against their.

Just just don't. Not me. Yeah, not me either. It feels like uh like the way that people with testicles describe being kicked in them is what it feels like when So please don't think that's a good idea. Yeah, oui. One one thing I like to say to people is I like to be stretched open, not have a hole punched through.

That's fair. That's very fair. Super fair. So listen to your partner, and if your partner's embarrassed to talk about these things, just go slow. Just go, look, I really love you and uh I'd like you to have more pleasure. I'd like both of us to have more pleasure in our relationship. How can we get there? What what would the path be? And let's figure this out together. And you'll have a better relationship and you'll be closer.

And it can be awkward sometimes too. Like I'm a lot of like friends and stuff, like back when everyone was getting sex toys, the amount of friends that I would have to go in and get the toys for because they were just too uncomfortable with like having to go in there, pick one, like all of this stuff and it's like it's

I guess it can be c a little bit of an uncomfortable situation for like Yeah, it is it's that's the word, daunting. But Fortunately, extreme restraints is online. You go online, boom, Bob's your uncle, it gets delivered in the case. Easier than ever before. It doesn't say sex toys on the side. Yeah, it doesn't say dildo on the side of it. It doesn't get delivered like this. It's all wrapped up. Here's your dildo, Mr. Johnson.

The extra large, is that what you ordered? Comes in a plain brown box. Your neighbor's the postman. There's your gallon drum of lubricant, Mr. Johnson. Well, what's wrong with that? Nothing. So your neighbor's your postman, no one will ever know.

But you may have to go through you may have to go through two or three or four toys before you find something that you really, really, really, really, really, really dig. Yeah. Really dig. And there are so many different options. And then it's worth having because you're like, oh no, I I didn't think I could come and now I'm ultra orgasmic. Woo.

Worth it? Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. Like I said, I'm excited I've never tried a suction one before, so I'm excited to see what that's like. But I like direct clitoral stimulation. So I like suction ones. And we're we're gonna see. But I know for a fact this one. Yeah. The wands gonna work. You've never tried a wand topper. No. Wow. I've never even heard of it.

'Cause it spreads the sensation. Human yeah You're off to the left a little, you're right. He he didn't not get it. Yes. Um well and then if you're left or right and I went to the wrong place and you went, uh uh, other side it's like, Oh, okay, we're gonna pivot, other side. And I've done that. Yeah, don't get upset. Just like move'cause you're the one who screwed.

And you're helping. But yeah, now how are you supposed to know that you screwed up unless I say something and be like, hey, you need to actually go on the other side. Yeah, if you don't expect your partner to be a mind reader when they're trying to please you, they're gonna be able to trust you more and it's gonna deepen your emotion.

Thanks very, very much. So how about this? Without further ado, you wanna jack off for us? You wanna play some toys? Okay. All right. So give us a quick second, we will be right back. This is Ian Rath. Thank you for downloading and enjoying the podcast. XRU is brought to you by extremestraints.com.

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And we are back. Thank you for thank you for hanging out. And now you get to see the uh the lovely and delicious and divine Bella. So what we're gonna do right now is Bella is lovingly sitting here sp uh opened up. Bella darling. It's really hard not to touch them. No, they're just really in the way. They stick out really far. Bella, you want to zoom in? Where's your clip, please? Oh my gosh, my clit is right here. This is the hood. You have to fold her back in this teeny tiny

You have a you have kind of a weak clit, don't you? I have such a weak clit. She's so tiny. But she's very, very sensitive. Oh my god. So clitoral size is not a designation for how sensitive or non-sensitive a clit is. No. Just like dick size. Just like dick size.

But yeah, and yeah, there are different sizes of clits too. So like s some girls have more like a sticking out, like more full one. Whereas mine is I most people have said it's very small, especially for my size of a person. I don't think that m Correlates and correlates. No, dick size doesn't correlate like that either. It's a shame because I like a there, but whatever.

Yeah. Like a four foot dick? Where the fuck have you been hanging out? We have a four foot dick. It's the uh the Moby. It's over there. It's over there in the corner. Oh my god. But anyway, and then uh uh outer labia. Outer labia, these are the outer labia, these little those little these shiny ones on the other side. These guys are the inner. Inner labia are traditionally very sen much more sensitive than the outer labia. Yes. Much, much, much.

Than the outer labia. So if you're gonna do any kind of BDSM stuff, we'll just segue for a second to BDSM. Generally don't ever fuck with the inner labia. Do stuff to the outer labia. You'll uh unless unless it's asked. Yeah, the uh outer labia if you are doing stuff to the outer labia gets the closer you get to the cliff. Yeah. So like clamps would go here in the middle and not like right up here next to the clip'cause they will hurt more. Mm-hmm. So are we so we're kinda familiar now?

Kinda sorta. This is a pussy uh. You're welcome. Yeah. It's not a vagina, it's a vulva. It's a pussy. You're fucking welcome. This is true. Inside is the vagina. Yeah, spread, please, thank you. Vagina. And then the rest, the outside is the bulb. Vagina vulva, vagina vulva, there you go. And then if you're looking for the G spot, the G s which is a little more advanced, I know. Inside directly below the clitoris.

Squishy walnut. So you have to very delicately. Right in here. Mm-hmm. Yeah. So and you, Bella, you, you have chosen to masturbate. You have chosen to masturbate today, man. You've chosen to masturbate today. And the first toy you're gonna masturbate with is the Mystic Rose by Bloom Gasm, which is kind of adorable. It's so cute, Jake. I owe you a towel. Yeah, I owe you a towel.

Okay, so there's one button that makes it suck and one button One button will make you grow larger and the other button will make you grow smaller. The one that looks like a raindrop is the vibrating button I found out and the one that looks like the circle is the suction. I've realized. Okay, so hook yourself up. Do it. Do it, do it, do it. Do you need loot?

I think I'll be okay. I'll start with just the vibrating right now and I'll go directly on to see how that okay, that feels fine, honestly. That's actually really light. Ooh. So I can hear you turn the sucky bit on. So that I know I just actually turned up the vibrator. Okay. Now I'm gonna turn the sucky part on. Sounds like chipmunks. Oh my god. How is that? Wow, that was I did

That was wow, I didn't expect that. Oh my god. The sound is funny. Well it's not making the weird sound now. No no no no. But you pushed it that it's got a seal. What are you thinking? Oh wow, that is very that is a little too overstimulating for me. I wonder if I go just to the side. Yeah.

Whoa. You can literally see it suck inside of there. I love it. That's crazy. It's fun. I love those. And you can like yeah, you can see the like not all of the sucky toys work, but this one does. So there you go. Some of the sucky toys just vibrate, they're no good. Mystic Rose. Yeah, that's pretty nice, honestly. Does the suction get more? Kick it up. Hit the button. Ooh. Wow, okay. Okay. Oh my god.

Don't worry if your clitoris, your clithood or your vulva becomes engorged or swollen a little bit, as long as you're not in pain. That's natural. You like it? Uh-huh. Yeah. That's lovely. When they when they when their toes curl a little bit and they get quiet. Yeah, you can tell by the feet. The feet never lie. Yeah. Uh-huh. That's true. It's true. Oh.

And you're not okay, so you are not directly on your clip right now. No, I'm I'm just to the right of it. Okay, you're on your spot. Yeah. So it works for Sucky Toys too, we find out. It does work for Sucky Toys, which is cool, because I've just never gotten them because I just

assumed I wouldn't like them. They're great. But it it's nice in your environment you can you can tr you can try. They they work anywhere you like to these suck so if you like your nipples sucked you can put them on your nipples also. They're Ooh, I'm gonna try that. I didn't even think about that part because I do love Well that caught your attention. Oh my god! I love that more on my nipples than I did on my clip. It's nice. Whoa, and it's like

You can see it. See your partner from the lockdog like happens in my house. It's so cool. You can literally see my nipple get sucked into there. Whoa. So we okay, so would you want two of these so you could like Yeah, honestly that'd be like perfect just to like while I'm getting like'cause I I'm one of those people that I like to be penetrated and externally stimulated and I am very fortunate to be one of those did I take it off? Oh no it's still there. Um

Things you learn. They're nice, I like them too. They're so nice. Um, but no, I love nipple stimulation. That can make me cum sometimes. Like just that alone. Same. It's having a harder time getting uh getting this one. I think this is my bigger oh there we go. Oh my god. I think she likes it. I love this one.

Okay. So let's try let's try the uh gossip uh fingerbot. Because I think this would be an excellent little toy for beginners, even if you're fifty, sixty years old and Unfortunately I haven't seen it. masturbated in your life. This this would be a nice little easy

Easy piece. That was a sad story you just told. Yeah, I know. Well even I was one thing that's just reminded me of. I don't know if anybody else has this problem or if it's a long torso thing, but s I'll sometimes the angle Um, it's hard for me to finger myself because my arms, I don't know, I d just the way that I get it like my fingers go in, I'll get like a really bad like wrist and hand cramp.

And so this might be yeah, so this might be this is great for like if you have repetitive motion because I was talking about like doing the like clit rub with your thumb while you're fucking. So same idea where if you have any repetitive motion disorder, this is gonna be great to help with that. Yeah, and this like it seems like it can just do all of the work for you. Yeah. It's fantastic. So you're gonna use that as an as

Insertible toy. Yeah. As opposed to I mean you could go a little both a little bit of both. Honestly. You do a little both. A little bit of both. But yeah, I feel like this would be like the perfect one just because I do get like a wrist cramp and I love the outer Okay, so how's that? You've got it turned on. I've got it turned on. How many levels does it go? Because the one is really nice. Oh, let's see. I think it's just the on and off.

But it is phthalate free, which is which is very important. And I think it's only one speed. One touch bullet. Yeah, but if you had that one and then you got this one, I'm sure you could put this one in there and then interchange it. What you could do is with you know this could I could I do two at one time? Could I jump ahead? Absolutely.

Oh my goodness. Cause I bet this is a good thing. So what Bella wants to jump to control yourself is the Bang 7X bullet roots. So this is gonna be nice to trap the clit. Yeah. Real nice. Real nice to trap the clit. So see that? See the trapping and clip movement that she's doing here? This is a finishing move like in Mortal Kombat when they tear the head off.

That's this finish finish her. So that's right at okay, so that's you've got your clithood. She's like mm-hmm here's the end of Mortal Kombat right now. And so y uh what'd you say? So it's not on your clit. Uh your clit hood is protecting your clit. So it's on either side of her clit hood. Yeah. If I was brave, I would take my hood off, but I am a But this is like wow this blue thing is crazy

Scorpion. Oh no, sub zero. Holy fuck. Yeah, you're and you're you're talking about this blue thing. Uh-huh. Yeah. Bang ultra powerful vibration. Seven seven X. Seven times or seven speed bullet with four attachments. Oh like you could turn that bullet up, whereas this one only has one speed, that one has more. So you could like s you know.

Switch'em, swap'em, whatever. You're gone. Bye bye. See you later. Sorry. Yeah, let me know when this is over. No, no, so you're multi-orgasmer. Yeah. Okay, go ahead. Okay, cool. Rub one out. Cool. We'll just talk over you. That sounds good to me. Did you have a nice weekend? I did. I had a lot of things. I actually am very sore from the amount of sexual. So you've been saying. Yeah. I've been getting fucking laid uh We just went and saw a s uh a Krooner, a Sinatra imitation.

I dressed up like the big bear big bad wolf and fucked my friends while they were dressed like the little three little pigs. Awww, that's so good. Huh. You gotta do something. Little pig, little pig, let me in. Did you do the right? No, but I did bang on the door and I said, Little pig, little pig let me in. I'll huff and I'll puff and I'll blow your house down. And they said not by the hair of my chinny chin chin. No, they were like, Yeah, fuck our buttons. Open the door. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah,'cause I have this watch that says that it's always anal o'clock. It's funny. Thank you. It actually says six Can you can you can you can you take this out so we can see just this one? I wanna see this. Let me turn you off. Turn you off. What do you want? You're bugging me. Um, one thing I will say that I notice that I like, I like Christ. Um Oh trapper moves very yeah. And then when I pull drag it up.

Just to expose the clit just a little bit. Yeah, just a little bit. That is crazy. Yeah, a tiny bit. So it's I feel like for such a small for such a small little toy. Yeah. It's rocking, isn't it? Oh yeah, I literally feel it in my toes. Wouldn't lie. Wouldn't lie about that. Not sorry. Not even sorry, I I think Do you think you could use this while your partner was penetrating you and would you enjoy the orgasm more? Yeah. With him inside of you? Yeah. See how that works? That's wonderful.

And also this toy, oh no, I guess you can still feel it.'Cause the one thing is when I use my big vibrator, a lot of the times my partner will go numb from the vibration. Oh sure, so this is better. So So yeah, is that close? Okay, don't sit on that forever though. Okay. But it Oh my god, it's um So that's working better than you thought, isn't it? It's working really, really good, especially for how tiny it is. And it's this is a plug-in toy. That's nice. It's it's rechargeable. Yeah. Right?

Oh my god. Um this is fun. I love my life so much. Oh my god. Also, I don't know if maybe it's'cause my clit is a little swollen now from just all the vibration, but I'm Okay Well why don't do do you wanna try another Are you really set on this? I mean I do love this thing. But what's nice is the little grippies you can actually pull up a little bit. Yeah, this has little see, this has little ripples. Okay.

This looks like the top of a lipstick container. It's looks like a lipstick and this one's like a a little mini wandhopper, like a little bee wandhopper. Little wee wandhopper. Wait, hold on. So I want to see that. A leprechaun wandhopper. The white Yeah. No the way that those jumped. You want a little which one do you want? Yeah, what do you want? I kinda wanna try this one. Okay. This one looks like a leopard one talk. Tick tick tockleries. Oh looks kind of luries.

So this has little grippers too. No, look it's it's it's it's kinda. Oh yeah. It's groove. Okay, groove. I was gonna say wait for the colour. Yeah. See, this is more of like almost the traditional like miniature vibrator. That's exactly what this feels like. And this is literally how I would

Just sit it while it'd be getting fucked just to the right of my own. Yeah, and then this isn't a big toy. This would be easy to have um uh penetrative intercourse. While you're using this. While somebody's using it. It d it's not like so if you're gonna use a wall. It doesn't interfere with sex, it adds to sex. It enhances sex, sexual enhancements. Well and I think I I got distracted. Um but You can be distracted.

The thing with um, like when I use wands with like my partner, um, he often says that the vibrator, because it's such a big Get too bad. It transfers too. It transfers too much. Whereas this is so nice and compact, it I don't think it would transfer as much. Yeah. Whereas like No, I kinda like uh personally I kinda like that when my partner uses a wand or vibrator and we're fucking I like the transfer. Yeah I think it's great.

He goes numb though. So everybody's different. He's he's he's far more sensitive than I am. Mm-hmm. Go figure. Sensitive little beans we are. Mm-hmm. Little beans. Oh. So you have at least two more toys to go. Yes. Do you want to put that aside for a quick second? You don't have to. It's fine. I love bullets. I haven't had a bullet in so long.

I love them. I think they're OG. They're see they're the OGs, but I think'cause you get so many of them, you kind of are like, ah, I'll move on to the bigger, better stuff, and you forget how clutch stuff like this really is. So this is the 10x megavib by Bang also. And it's so I like how smooth it is. Yes the material is super nice. Yeah, this is rechargeable and waterproof. Waterproof is really important because I I've I've had a number of partners who like to jack off in the back.

Well even that or even just like some of us will just masturbate and masturbate and masturbate until we're literally soaked and then your toys are So this has uh ten vibration patterns. Uh it is silky smooth, though. Yeah. D would you say it's silky smooth? Absolutely. Silky smooth. Even like these tips are really soft, but even the difference of like rubbing these tips on me versus like this, it's like velvet. It is phthalate-free, waterproof, USB rechargeable. So all the good things.

I love the phyllight free. Do you? Yeah, because of the toys that are phallic free, I've noticed that um they don't make my vagina feel hot. Afterwards, you don't have a reaction to it. Yeah, so so a lot of people have a reaction to phthalate in toys. So most of our stuff, if not all of it, but I would say most of it is phthalate free. And if you want to make sure it will say what the materials are in the description. So be careful with what you put in your

Yeah. How's that one? What do you think? This is really nice. And you're and you're one of the lower speeds. Yeah. I can on the low speed I can actually put it on my clip because it is like soft material and it doesn't like hurt. Oh that's cool. Yeah. Is that kind of amazing for you? A little bit, yeah,'cause I'm actually very like sensi I tried to put the um like this pink one on and even

Like it felt it felt good, but even yeah, the grooves were just a little bit too much. You could have done the lipstick top. I think that would have been probably ideal. But even like super nice and then I know it's do not put it in but if you just like put it on your butt That's very pleasant. That is really nice. A little a little butthole vibe. Don't put it in. Don't put it in. Just resting it or having your partner just rest it there is lovely. Mm-hmm.

Okay, so we're gonna take that away from you. Okay. We're gonna go for the XL bullet. Oh, it's a giant bullet. It's a giant bullet. Oh, I love that. That's the XL portion of the bullet. I love that. And this does this also very smooth. I think this comes in three, if not four, colors. So if you don't like the Ultra powerful vibration, XL Bellets by Bane. Yeah. Ultra powerful three speed rechargeable vibrating XL bullet.

Silky smooth feel, phthalate free, USB rechargeable, waterproof, powerful vibration, three speed. Hmm, nice. You get that? I keep pushing the wrong button. It's the charge button, not a plug. Yeah, I kept doing that too. So the charge is the little hole at the end, the little urethra at the end here, and then the on off is on the other side. Oh I love that you called it a little urethra. It looks like a little urethra. It does.

Fun fact, I didn't know that it's like a waterproofing thing, and so I just thought that all of my toys were Disposables for the longest time. So use it and throw'em away? Yeah,'cause I didn't realize that this they're rechargeable. I I Oh my gosh. And I was like, Well, they give me the like

cord to charge it but there's no hole on it like I don't know what to do. In the urethra. And the hole that you can barely see. I know. We we all have to grow up and realize that point that we're going to do. What do you think it why do you think it came with a charger? I don't know, honestly. You know, I'm just not that bright.

times. Okay. Leave it at that. I love you. After masturbating so much that the toy died, I just it was like, well, I guess we gotta throw it away now. I guess this is done now. How's that one? Yeah. That's actually lovely. Mmm. Are my lips vibrating when I do that? Yep. Yep. Ooh, I feel that on my butthole. Is it nice? Yeah. I'm gonna go Oh we're on the left side and it's very intense.

Oh yeah, for some color coordination. What if you masturbated with that inside of you and that as the clit trap on your own? And you're all color coordinated. We're all color coordinated here. Nice lovely turquoise and turquoise. Is that a little rockin'? Oh my god, fucking fuck. That means she really likes it. I literally did one stroke and I thought I was gonna

Okay. You gotta get your phone. Well when I watch your eyes, she's like I gotta reset. I gotta reset, I gotta get the floor. Oh my god, I'm sorry. She'll be your buddy, she'll hold your leg again. You're not gonna hurt me, don't worry about it. Ready, set. Go. You zooming in on this a little? Good deal. And then up to her pretty face. Oh my god. And I want you to remember you get to take all these home with you. Yeah. Lovely Tuesday afternoon. Yes. What you want this to happen in your house?

Oh my Oh my god, I can't turn one of them off. I have you. Thank you. You're welcome. Holy fucking god. That worked, didn't it? That was a good one. You need a little water? You need anything? My legs are shaking. A quick nap? Yeah. Oh my god. Ha The re the after I had readjusted Oh my fucking god. The way And these are not these are I need to catch my breath. These are not expen these are not expensive toys. These are not cost prohibitive.

Yeah, they don't seem like they're They all have a very nice price point and they're very well made and the materials they're they're made out of quick a little warm. Yeah, a little they're a little sweaty. So we're gonna give you a second to regroup and then I won't I I'm really curious how well you like the wand topper. Yeah. I'll give you whatever time you need. Okay. Do it now, do it now. Like some little orgasm monsters.

But yeah, man, after I regrouped it took a second to like find the exact spot. It takes a minute to put that, but like it's okay if it takes a minute to find the exact spot. That's really natural. Yeah. So if you're if you're playing if you're doing this with a lover Take direct.

Lovingly take direction. And you also ask for direction. No, ask for direction. I always ask for so is is this your spot? A little higher, a little lower, a little to the left, a little to the right. What what's gonna work for you? And sometimes it's like, okay, a little higher, no, no, no, a little lower.'Cause you get a little confused at direction on occasion. Yeah.

'Cause it's like like we just did earlier. It's like your left, my right. Uh so and exploration is fun. Yeah. It's fun and very connective. Very, very, very That's one thing you want to do with your partner is be connective. Yeah. And explore. Can you if you reach right back behind you? These couches have plugs on them because we're whores. There's a oh an extension cord because we're also whores. Like in that in that way as well. All of the good ways were

Key now. Oh my god. This is the thunderstick with a wand topper. Do you see that? Look at that. The little bottom piece. And this particular wand topper is the tingler. It wraps all the way around, so if you like your butt vibrated it'll you can get it through a little rocky motion and you can get it get it happen in the back of the body. This uh is also phthalite free. And it's textured with soft tingler. They are very soft. And it is flexible. Yep, flexible.

And of course because it's a big piece of uh whatever it's made out of, it is as it's flexible. Or it says it's waterproof. Yeah. House would it not be waterproof? The wand is. Don't don't put the th do not ever jack off with the thunderstick. Because it plugs in. Yeah, that's like a toaster. Yeah, it's like a toaster. Don't masturbate with a toaster in the bathtub. Okay? Alright. Ooh. Whoa. Do you like the wheel? Yeah.

See and and you're a left or a right of center girl. I am a I'm a to the right girl. You're a to the right girl, but this is over everything right now. And it feels fine. Okay, see. This is almost like how um And you are very in touch with your body and you're very in touch with yourself but you're actually learning a few things about yourself today. Yeah. So imagine the people out there that aren't as brave as you

Sorry for the faces. I'm not sure. No, no, no, we love the faces. Jump on it. Yeah, go go go. Okay. Go go go. If you just sat there stone faced, it'd be weird. Okay. Yeah, no, this is um I don't know if anybody else Does this, but I personally I like to um personally masturbate with a blanket over me. Okay. And so this is that.

Similar feel. Because it deadens it. Yeah. Oh, you mean overuse so you can put your wand on top? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, sorry, no, not for privacy reasons, but it's like that barrier, and this is a very similar feel to that. And I So I've always told people that you can use a blanket, you can use um uh like a a washcloth, or I know this sounds weird, and go ahead and laugh.

a sock. Yeah. Just anything that's gonna scrub a little vibration out of it. And the wand toppers will do that. But this is still plenty powerful enough to better than a sock. Get you off. Better than a sock. The cool thing too is you c oh my god, like just me touching it just a little bit. Forcing it down a little bit. Like I'm barely touching it and it it Crazy. I can't do that with a sock. It's true. You can't do that with a soft.

Can't do that with a blanket. Can't do that with a sock or a blanket. So and you're sexually very and you are sexually very brave and experimental. I think I would like to say so. So to all those people who who in the pat in in their life would not be brave or sexually experimental. Sorry, uh taking it off as I wanna try it this way. Oh my god, I'm now I'm scared. I did have to put there's like a bowl but one of the ends. I did put that slightly to the right, but that's right.

I think the word that came out of your mouth was nice, but it was it was chopped up a little bit from the nice. Well. Black sorry. Why would you be sorry? Don't be sorry. Okay. Let's go with it. Be brave. There are worse ways to spend your day. Yeah. Yeah. Like literally anything. This is the best. So you like it better turned this way than the other way? Oh the ha it coming off is like, oh wow.

Actually I don't know which way I prefer. Both of them are really great, but also Uh you just found someplace. I would imagine if you tip Yeah, like this is more like And oh my god, if I go up it's my clip! Ha ha ha Yeah. Fun toy. I've never been able to put that much.

pressure on my vibrator either which is really cool. Because I I it's that is one thing. It kind of does take away from the orgasm because if I press too hard, it's too overstimulating and then I'm right back where I'm started whereas this it like if I pushed harder then like the it just is really good at um distributing the vibration.

Evenly so it's it's on your clithood, it's on your labia, inner and outer. It yeah, no, this thing fucking rocks. I think this is actually my favorite piece out of all of the They're popular models. I've never even heard of this before. Yeah, wandhopper. So if you go to extreme restraints and you type in wandtoppers, I would imagine all the wantoppers

should show up. Or go to the wand department and look through for the wand toppers. There's one that there's ones that go inside you you can use for internal. Which is cool. And there are many different kinds of ones that are different shapes for exterior use. Mm-hmm. Collect the whole set. Collect em all. Collect em all. Ha ha ha, gotta catch'em all, baby.

So you liked you like the rose. Um I don't think there's something up here that you didn't need to. I was gonna say I don't think there was a single thing that was on the table that I didn't like. And these would all be easy if you had n never really masturbated before. to use. It's all very self-explanatory, which is nice. Yeah, very intuitive. Yeah the this wand topper is very broad based. Yeah. It's it's kind of a a big oval at the top. So it it takes up a lot of room. It's not a pinpoint

Yeah, and it's also like like I wouldn't look at this and be like, oh well, maybe I put it in me. Like I would personally I would look at this and be like, oh, this perfectly cups the outside. So that's where it goes. But these are all very simple toys to use. Um Trelot. So anything anything Anything else you got? Any other words of wisdom? Any other words of wisdom? Any other words of wisdom? Mm-hmm. Um

You should you should talk to your partners and see what makes them come more. And also you should go shopping with your partners at l at sex shops or online, extreme restraints so that you can find fun toys. And you can figure out like hey this is really cool. I want to get this one. Hey, this is a cool color. I want to get it in that color. Yeah. Sex toy shop together.

Right, get a few different things. And the nice thing is you is now you can do it from the privacy of your own house, right? Which is very cool. And then it will be delivered in a couple of days in a plain plain plain brown box. And then you can have the excitement of opening it up and going, shall we? Do you wanna Let's give it a shot, baby. Hey baby, you wanna Yeah.

And they have cool kits on there too, which is fun. Yeah, lots of kits. So um thank you for joining us this month. We really appreciate it. I hope you learned something. And if you didn't, well too bad for you. Hope you have a boner. Bye. Hi everybody, this is Ian Rat. You're listening to Extreme Restraint Universal.