Drag queen Alaska Thunderfuck ( RuPaul's Drag Race S5, winner of Drag Race All Stars S2) joins Nicole to discuss what it was like to date another drag queen, how to manifest your dream man, their unexpected dating life after Drag Race , and some nightmare customer service stories. Plus, Nicole recounts the time she performed sketch comedy to Dolly Parton. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and wa...
Mar 12, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 176
Comedian Rhea Butcher ( Adam Ruins Everything , Good Trouble ) chats with Nicole about how they quit smoking after 16 years, being a lifetime vegetarian, and their old stand-up show, Put Your Hands Together . Rhea then discusses what it was like to unravel from their past relationship, dealing with the public aspect of a breakup, and the story of how they met their new partner. Stream Rhea's new special, "Pull Yourself up by Your Bootleg" at bstlnk.to/butcher . Black Lives Matter! For a list of ...
Mar 05, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 175
Comedian Nore Davis talks with Nicole about the movies that have brought them joy, why he's decided to 'date himself', leaving a toxic relationship, and the importance of therapy. This Black History Month , research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://...
Feb 26, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 174
Musician/producer/host Randy Jackson ( American Idol , Name That Tune ) shares his skepticism with app dating, the worst date he’s been on, his favorite love songs, and catfishing. This Black History Month , research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https:/...
Feb 19, 2021•39 min•Ep. 173
Dancer and sex worker Teddy B. Ruxpin chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. They discuss her start into the profession, finding her niche as an "alt girl", dealing with racism in the workplace, and her work for stripper advocacy. Plus, Teddy reveals she dated a comedian who would talk about her work in his stand-up routine. Tonight - See a LIVE virtual episode of Why Won't You Date Me? with Heidi N Closet ! Tickets: onlocationlive.com/nicolebyer This Black History Month , re...
Feb 12, 2021•52 min•Ep. 172
Actress and comedian Tiffany Haddish ( Girls Trip , Night School ) first clears the air regarding her Clubhouse bullying allegations. Then, she talks about how dating has changed since Girls Trip , how men try to manage her, the story of a sneaking ex-boyfriend, and of her first orgasm at the movies. Plus, Tiffany offers tips on: approaching men after the pandemy, how to increase your credit score, and why you should ask men about theirs. February 12th - See a LIVE virtual episode of Why Won't Y...
Feb 05, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 171
Comedian Margaret Cho ( The Masked Singer , All-American Girl) and Nicole chat about claiming your right to talk about sexuality, her experience coming out as queer, learning Japanese bondage, and how she's practicing being a dominatrix. Plus, Nicole's worried she's talking to bots on dating apps. Check out After Hours with Margaret Cho live Feb 14th. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagra...
Jan 29, 2021•54 min•Ep. 170
Actor and comedian Deon Cole ( Black-ish , Barbershop ) joins Nicole to share his deep wisdom about love and relationships. They discuss judging people by the moment, recognizing if your partner is in love with relationships or with you, the troubles of dating someone new in a mask, and getting over wanting what you can't have. Plus, Nicole shares a list of empowering relationship statements she found that moved her. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesm...
Jan 22, 2021•46 min•Ep. 169
Conan O'Brien is here to help solve the root problems behind Nicole's singledom. They also discuss his sexually repressed Catholic upbringing, what it's like to have Big Dick Energy, and his plans for his 20th wedding anniversary. Nicole demands to marry into the O'Brien family, explains to Conan how some of her vibrators work, and describes how she's now using a Theragun to masturbate. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . F...
Jan 15, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 168
Sex worker AM Davies (Host of Yes, A Strippper Podcast ) is here to answer all of Nicole's questions about stripping and sex work. She discusses the difference between decriminalizing vs legalizing sex work, how strippers are coerced into tipping the house, the diversity problem in strip clubs, and how she's working to unionize strippers. Dating as a sex worker also comes with its own challenges - AM shares how partners have been jealous of her work, how she's even been broken up over her Instag...
Jan 08, 2021•1 hr•Ep. 167
Comedian & actress Niccole Thurman ( A Black Lady Sketch Show, Shrill) joins Nicole to discuss their 2021 resolutions, how they are cleaning out toxic negativity in their life, and review each other's Hinge profiles. See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE January 6! Click here for tickets. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook:&...
Jan 01, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 166
Stand-up comedian and #Skategang member Solomon Georgio ( Shrill, Adam Ruins Everything ) talks to Nicole about his recent butt surgery and how he's been adapting to his new butt. They also chat about his skincare routine, the importance of partners posing for photos, and why his mom got kicked out of his brother's wedding. Nicole reveals why she doesn't like Christmas and how she got into a fight about a Christmas tree. Nicole will be doing a live episode of Why Won't You Date Me on January 6! ...
Dec 25, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 165
Roy Wood Jr. ( The Daily Show ) shares his calculations on the safest way of traveling during COVID, discusses dealing with friends who aren't taking the pandemic seriously, getting detained in Canada, and reporting on Black issues on The Daily Show. Learn more about I See Me, Inc charity here . Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebo...
Dec 18, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 164
Drag queen and actress Jiggly Caliente ( RuPaul's Drag Race S4, Broad City) joins Nicole to discuss sex work, walking in on friends or family members having sex, "Dick on-demand boys", and how much sex freakiness should you share with your partner? Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy ...
Dec 11, 2020•54 min•Ep. 163
Actor and comedian Langston Kerman ( Insecure, The Boys ) joins Nicole to discuss her recent broken ankle and awkward brush with healthcare. He also shares the perks of dating long distance, how to attract chucklefuckers, and how he used the ' 36 Questions That Lead to Love ' to open up to his wife. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Fa...
Dec 04, 2020•58 min•Ep. 162
Drag queen & makeup artist Creme Fatale joins Nicole to discuss dating horror stories, how to leave a bad date fast, why aren't there any lady gloryholes, and makeup. Check out Creme Fetale's YouTube channel here: youtube.com/channel/UCJS8an0aBA9NfTBku95UOtw Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicoleb...
Nov 27, 2020•50 min•Ep. 161
Drag queen Lucy Stoole joins Nicole to discuss the story behind their drag name, their recent breakup, the struggles of dating app messaging, and if it's okay to leave a bad date early. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_...
Nov 20, 2020•59 min•Ep. 160
Drag queen Priyanka (Winner of Canada's Drag Race , host of YTV's The Zone ) joins Nicole to discuss their very recent breakup, getting COVID19 from Brooke Lynn Hytes, evolving from a kids tv host to a drag queen, and explains the dark spiritual energy of Obeah. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: ...
Nov 13, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 159
Comedian Patti Harrison ( Shrill , Search Party ) joins Nicole to chat about 90 Day Fiancé, issues with casting in today's media, and advocates for the well-being of child actors. Plus, they discuss their love for the Fast & Furious franchise, Patti shares the details of her childhood Vin Diesel sex dream, and Nicole shepherds Patti into trash television. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Bye...
Nov 06, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 158
Comedian Mitra Jouhari ( Big Mouth , Three Busy Debras, host of Urgent Care ) joins Nicole to discuss missing malls, the horrors of dating in high school, awkward Zoom auditions, and reminisce about their improv days in NY. Plus, Mitra talks about how she's providing hygiene kits to the unhoused, and how you can support your local community help organizations. Donate to Resisterhood LA here . Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesma...
Oct 30, 2020•55 min•Ep. 157
Dating coach Damona Hoffman (A&E Network's #BlackLove , A Question of Love ) is here to dish some professional advice. She shares tips for video-dating, setting up your dating app profile, how to stay sane with your partner in lockdown, and so much more! Plus, a conversation on racial bias in dating, navigating interracial relationships, and the struggle of in-person communication. Check out Damona's dating podcast: Dates & Mates Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources ...
Oct 23, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 156
Writer and podcaster Nichole Perkins ( Thirst Aid Kit ) joins Nicole to discuss setting boundaries in your casual relationships, dealing with thirsty groupies, and, can you get COVID from your pussy? Plus Nicole writes a letter to her dream man, and is shopping for a $600 sex machine. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: w...
Oct 16, 2020•51 min•Ep. 155
Comedian and actress Sydnee Washington ( Broad City, Gayme Show ) joins Nicole to discuss feel-good foods to eat when you're sad, their lowest points in life, finding love on Instagram, and setting boundaries with toxic family members. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch: ...
Oct 09, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 154
It's our longest episode ever! Comedian Yassir Lester ( Black Monday, Duncanville ) joins Nicole to discuss sex protocol for a COVID era, reconnecting with old flings, body modifications, Yassir's Jersey Mike's tweet , and a list of signs that a man is into you. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicoleb...
Oct 02, 2020•2 hr 41 min•Ep. 153
The incredibly funny Yamaneika Saunders (Broad City, Inside Amy Schumer) joins Nicole to discuss comedy, following her mom's love for stand-up, her defense for humor about people with disabilities, and the depths of racism in our society. After the break, Yamaneika discusses breaking up in the pandemic, and her plan to freeze her eggs. Trigger Warning : My guest misgenders a person in a retelling of a story and I didn't correct them and I’m sorry to those who listened and were offended. Support ...
Sep 25, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 152
Drag queen Latrice Royale ( RuPaul's Drag Race, RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars) joins Nicole for a good teeheehee. She discusses getting into drag on a dare, writing on AJ and the Queen , meeting their husband Chris at a meet & greet, and the story behind their Chicago pride festival proposal. Check out Latrice's podcast: The Chop . Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicole...
Sep 18, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 151
Comedian and writer Dewayne Perkins (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, The Break with Michelle Wolf) joins Nicole to talk about getting back together with his ex, the importance of checking in with your partner, and how America has failed everyone. They also get into the systemic racism present in writers' rooms, and how to turn the thought of death into something positive. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nicole By...
Sep 11, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 150
Comedian Sam Jay (writer at SNL) discusses how she met her girlfriend, the influence of wealth in a relationship, and the difference between flirting with men and women. Sam teaches Nicole about bad bitch energy, and how she developed her "lady game". Plus, why aren't interviewers asking White people about #BLM? Check out Sam Jay's special on Netflix: netflix.com/title/81078802 Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co ...
Sep 04, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 149
Ziwe (writer for Desus & Mero) and Nicole chat about being horn'd up, what they've been crying over, and are trying to learn to love what they see in the mirror. Nicole's back on the apps, where it seems like performative activism is the growing trend in dating bios. On the plus side, Nicole's been getting treated better on dating apps since the #BLM protests. Oh boy, life is wild and there's lots to unpack in this one. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to he...
Aug 28, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 148
Writer and actress Amber Ruffin (Late Night with Seth Meyers, A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about the weight of having to discuss politics on Late Night , how they can make racism funny, and what the upcoming Zoom Emmy awards will be like. Plus, Amber helps write some Hinge messages, and Nicole challenges white people to come up with a good slave joke. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co . Follow Nic...
Aug 21, 2020•56 min•Ep. 147
