LeAnn on Trusting Fear

Heart Radio. Hi everyone, I'm LeAnn Rhymes and this is a very new, and to be really real with you, very freaking scary thing for me to do this podcasting because even though some of you may know me because of my singing voice or what you think you know of me because of the voice others have given to my story, this podcast is me at my most vulnerable and my hope is that this podcast allows you to hear my truest voice and to hear it from my mouth and my heart, and to share with you what

I have learned and am still learning during all these years of trying to make sense of all the complexities of this insane human experience. I hope together we can find a sense of healing, a greater connectivity to ourselves into the world, and from me to you and you to me. So with that welcome to Wold Humor indeed word sing that you sing in me, I will admit I have had a pretty fucked up unusual life, truly. I mean that's the only way I know how to

explain it. Um. You know, I started performing at the age of five. I won my first Grammy at fourteen, which I don't talk about very often. That feels even weird to say that doesn't even feel like me Anyway, I did win my first Grammy at fourteen, and I've basically lived my whole entire life, every up and down, every high and low, every success, and every mistake has been laid out there for the whole world to witness

and have an opinion on. From so many years of being in the public eye and being a quote unquote celebrity and leanne rhymes, I have felt incredibly fragmented from trying to be everything that everyone wanted me to be. There was so much deep pain from feeling disconnected on a mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual level from myself and others,

and to be really honest, from my humanity. So at an incredibly dark point in my life, I started following my heart and asking for help, and I began exploring the depths of my humanity and my spirit. I feel like once we start out on this journey, it's one that last for a lifetime, and there's so much information and wisdom to digest, But the greatest wisdom we will

ever find is within. However, there are many great teachers and wonderfully wise humans to help guide us along this sacred journey and trigger moments of remembrance of what it means to feel whole and to remind us of our great connection to our holy and our human And that is what I'm wanting to share with you on this podcast, because I believe that we are all worthy of knowing and creating a life from the truth of who we are. I am a very complex human being. We all are.

And the more I've tried to run away from fragments that might not fall under the heading of quote unquote good, Uh, the more fragments that I've become. And so really it's my journey, and I think all of our journeys are to reclaim both sides of the light and the dark in order to be able to come back to wholeness. That's what this podcast is all about, is the holy human? Um W h O L O Y and h O L Y Is that right? Yeah? By the way, I'm horrible at spelling, will learn that as we go along.

Good thing that I have spell check. Um. But yeah, this it's about reclaiming both sides because that is what we are. We are so holy and we are also very human, and when we deny one part of that, when we deny one side of that coin, is when everything falls apart, we're not ever completely holy and we're not ever only human. How beautiful is that? And our humanity?

I think we've a lot of us have been taught by religion the duality of good and bad, that there's a side of us, there's a piece of us that we cannot claim, we should not claim, should not claim that we've had to hide underneath the covers and never allow out. And there's only freedom and being able to give life to all of you, all of your emotions, all of your energies, I mean, really, that's all that. They are different forms of energy taking on this human form.

And so when we suppress those energies at any moment, that's depression, that's anxiety. We really stunt our growth in our forward movement of energy with fear. And that's what this episode is about. Fucking fear, Oh fear. So the reason that I wanted to start with the topic of fear as the first episode is because I'm fucking terrified. I'm terrified of starting this podcast. I'm terrified of myself.

Where we talking about honestly. Um, I think there's actually really there's a lot of honesty and that I was thinking about this this morning. I think, not only are we afraid of totally fucking up and being shamed and being seen and like all of those things, were also afraid of our greatness Mary and Williamson. That says we're not It's not our shadow. I'm gonna totally screw this up. But it's not our darkness that we're most afraid of.

It's our light. Greatness is a very lonely place to be, and we live in a society who they want you to be great, they also want to see you fail in a lot of ways, especially fall from that greatness. They want to know your humanity, which is beautiful. We all want to know both sides. That's where the wholeness piece comes in, is claiming that greatness along with our humanity somewhere along the way. For me, though as a kid it was so easy for me to claim my greatness,

I had no fear around that. As I actually had more and more success as a child, there's a great low holiness in that it almost feels like the thing that I received love from also pushed love away. Yeah, there thing that I received love from, which is when I would sing and do something otherworldly and great, you know, and as far as you know what how people viewed that it was the thing that I received adoration and love for, but at the same time it became something

that could easily push love away. It's something really interesting about that I was always thinking about this morning that came to me, is like, it's not only the shame and the fear being seen and all of those things that could possibly happen that are quote unquote negative. It's also our greatness that we can fear. So with all of that, let's just dive right into talking about fear. We are really living in a time of fear. It's

a real visceral experience for a lot of people. And of course this is the way our body is programmed. Our minds are actually programmed to look out for the predator. It's the way that we have been created. I mean, think about back in the good old days where you had you know, wooly mammoth like going to trample you when you went out to look for food. I mean, we go into a flight or fight response, and so you really have three options to fight fully or freeze.

And if you froze, when you had a wily mammoth right after you die. So so just to understand this is not this is a natural human reaction that we live with on a daily basis. And now we don't have wily mammoth running after us anymore. But there are real threats, sometimes greater than others. And I think now specifically we have I was going to say perceived threats, but some of it's perceived and some of it is actual.

We are living in a time of pandemic, We're living in a time of insane politics, coming at a seven climate change. You know, we have social issues are I mean deeply deeply rooted that are being dug up at this moment in time for us to reevaluate and in much need of it. You know, people are financially unstable, and just just talking about that right now, I can feel my whole body like ten s uff like it's real. But I do believe that there is a reason that

this is happening. Whether some people want to call that naive or whatever you want to call it, I do believe that we exist in this gigantic puzzle that we can't see how every decision that we make shifts the way that puzzle connects and how we are being used and how the times are being used in order for growth and expansion. I truly have to believe that. I feel like we we all have to have a place to land. And it's not just that I have to believe it because it makes me feel better. It does

to an extent. Sometimes it doesn't. Um Sometimes I wish somebody just show me the puzzle so I could understand, and then we could rewind, and then we could live

in this situation. There's real growth here, an opportunity for growth and expansion, and I I feel like fear is another one of those places if we just reframe what it is, what it means to us, where we can see that it's an opportunity to expand, an opportunity to break out of the cage and the cages that we've kept around ourselves in order to become the next version

of who we're supposed to be. And that next version when we're conquering these fears, we become not the better version of ourselves, but a more expanded version of ourselves. You know, when I think about how fear feels in the body. It is you feel completely contracted. And all the times that I've conquered my fears, every every time I've conquered something that I've been fearful of, my body

just I breathe bigger. There's a high that comes with it of knowing that, oh I didn't die, I didn't die, and I did that thing that I was afraid of. So I think that it's an opportunity for us to get high but also really expand into a more expansive version of ourselves. Whether it's not that it's good, are better or worse, it's just there's more life force that flows through us, and I think I think that's fantastic. I'll just talk about my fear through music and singing

since everybody most people know me from that. I've never had fear of going on stage. I started so young that I think they have this thing called exposure therapy. I was just reading about it actually in this book called Breathe, which is fantastic, by the way, But exposure therapy is basically where they expose the subject to their fear. Over time, they get desensitized to the fear and therefore they're able to face their fears more easily. I guess

I had exposure therapy. From the time that I was five. There was never a time where I had to think about fear when I walked on stage. And that lasted throughout my teens, throughout my successes, throughout everything, until until I wasn't able to hide my humanity really anymore. That's when fear kicked in for me. I knew that my voice was like that one thing that I always did well no one could ever take away from me. And

I knew I was going to walk out. And I mean unless there's some like force of God like come down as like you aren't nailing it today, you're going to screw this up. I knew that I could nail that.

And I don't think until I went through so much public shaming did I feel that I was so afraid to screw up singing because I was afraid that that's the last thing that someone could take away from me quote unquote like and so there was there became so much fear and like, oh shit, what if I don't sing it today, then they can say, oh, she she

sucks at that now too. By the way, when you sing in front of I mean, no joke, millions of people around the world at the fire, and you walk on and you're singing the national anthem, You're gonna have a little bit of something. I would think. I would think the mind was extremely heightened at that point in time of my life, because all of a sudden, I realized, oh shit, if I screw this up, here's one more thing people can add to their list right now of

of shame. I remember peeking my head out of the like holding room at the and seeing all these people, and then someone said to me, I forgot how many people they were saying, we're watching around the world, and I think that number is what freaked me out the most.

It wasn't like the people in front of me. And so I remember walking out and God knows that things going through your mind, and I remember my head spinning out of control, and the judge in my head like trying to make sure that I was gonna do everything perfect so I wouldn't sunk this up. And there I am terrified until I opened my mouth, and then all of a sudden I opened up my mouth, and as soon as I opened up my mouth, my body knows what it's doing like my body has all the memory

in the world to know exactly what it's doing. All I have to do is now get out of my head, which is easier said than done. But for me, I think it was my voice and performing is such a there's such memory there whatever overrides and kicks in, and it's like leand ihimes performing. It's like, basically what was happening in my to me at the time is I had a freeze response that um that was going on. I would literally freeze and as soon as I opened

my mouth, the freeze response with thought out. And that's because there's so much memory there in my body and I just instantly click on. But I'm never having that experience before that. I think it really really traumatized me after the fact, because I mean, look, you do get the high afterwards of oh my god, I just nailed that, And then the first thing that goes into my head after that is, am I going to have to go

through this experience again? Like? Am I going to now have to go through the experience of being afraid every time I go on stage? Now, this was before I had really any awareness of the connection of my head in my body. I feel like I've very much lived up in my head. So whatever freeze response, I just discussed that I now had no idea of what was happening and going on, so no idea of how to con quote unquote control it. I guess it would be

no idea how to work with this energy either. There was just fear and nail it and then no fear, and then fear that rushes right back in because my next thought was I have to do this again, don't I. So what really put me into that fear space, especially within my music, was that the one place where I didn't have fear um is a one place where I could go and just truly let myself be all of a sudden had this feary action. And if I really think about it, that fear response has been there within

other avenues of my life. I remember, you know, being thrown all of these acting roles when I was younger, and I would never let myself. I would never let myself go over and cross over into acting world because I always thought, if I'm this good at singing, I have to be that good at acting and so therefore, and I haven't. I don't. I'd never had anywhere to learn. There was nowhere to eject from being lean rhymes for a second and just be lean learning how to act.

There was none of that. It was always my name, always was attached the idea of who I thought I had to be, the idea of who people wanted me to be, was always attached to that name. So it's very challenging to actually go out and experiment. There was no experimentation. In fact, when I experimented, everyone like sham to me for experimenting. You shouldn't go over and cross over into this other kind of music because you're supposed

to be country. I mean, like little things like that, I guess really started to become the programming of that fear response. And like I said, the only place where I could get away from it was was my music. And now all of a sudden, this fear of response within my music, and that fear, that fear of being rejected, that fear of shame, you know, has kept me way smaller than I need to be for a very long time. There's no way we're getting around our fears without actually

exposing ourselves to them. Like you have to you have to go there, You have to go into the fear. You have to go into the fear. You have to be with the feeling. You have to marinate in it and just let it be until eventually the dial does get turned down. Along my journey, what I've learned is first off, what that fear responses, and how to connect my head with my heart and my body and how to connect you know, there's a there's a spiritual component

to to fear. Whenever we are being vulnerable, fear will rub right up against that. It's just there's no vulnerability without fear. And I think depending on I guess the level of vulnerability will bring, the more vulnerable we have to be, the higher the level of fear. And I also think, depending on have we been here before? Have we prepared for this moment? I think preparation is huge when it comes to alleviating a piece of fear. Have we done this before? If take for instance, have I

done this podcast before? No? I have not, So therefore, my level of fear is going to be extreme. And maybe by my fiftie podcast, you know, the fear will be as heightened. It will. I don't think it will be gone, but it maybe we'll be dampened. And that is a really really good example of exposure therapy. And that's it's funny because I one thing that I've learned which is so powerful, and this is where being vulnerable really does kick in. The vulnerability start with expressing the fear.

And once we can verbalize that fear and have someone witness us and and hear us. To me, what I've learned is, oh, that fear starts to not be that silent killer in your mind, like totally taking you down. It is now out of your body. You've at it. There's a movement of energy and even though it still exists, it's not the thing that you're keeping silent and secretive. There's no way to get around fear with with secrets.

It's just when we keep that for ourselves, it becomes so much bigger than what we what it has to be. So first that vulnerability has a start with verbalizing it. That's one tactic that I've learned is super helpful. All right, we're going to take a short pause, but coming up, I'm going to share with you how facing a huge personal fear ended up putting me on this podcast path

all because of a very motivational friend. Hello, my friends, one of the most potent examples of me exposing myself to my fear was doing the Lewis House Summit of Great Nous. For those of you who don't know who Louis is, he is, first off, an incredible human and he's a fantastic motivational speaker. He's really dedicated his life too exploration of finding life lessons I think for all

of us to learn from. He has a fantastic podcast. Um, he has a huge following and so for him to ask me to speak to his following was a big deal and there was a lot of fear involved in that. And so yeah, I mean there was a there is a reason why. I mean, it's not like it just didn't have a reason why I would be scared. There's a reason. Um. But wonderfully, you know, with him being the person that he is, I felt comfortable enough to be able to kind of dive into to this fear

with him and to be vulnerable with him. About six weeks before his Summon of Greatness, he texted me and said, Hey, would you be up for coming and speaking at my event? And I'm thinking he's gonna say, oh, it's you know, like it's a few months from now or whatever. No, it's like it's six weeks from now, if even it might have been four, which for me is like totally not enough time to plan. I'm like, what what you're

asking me to do? What? When? And I have to fill thirty minutes you want me to film what with words? I'm supposed to talk? Yeah, So it was so uncomfortable, and I have a wonderful way of dancing around things and eventually getting to them. Um, but I ignored him, I think for a day completely, didn't text him back. That's a really good way of of defferring than making sure you don't have to deal with your fears. I'm great at it. Um. Finally text him back and I

basically I basically said yes that yes. Actually, I've noticed I've actually started to use this as a tactic for myself, which is a great one. Just say yes, and then you feel like you're gonna have to do just have to do it anyway. So it's not about whether or not you're going to do it. Then it's about how you're going to get it done. So my focus is actually it actually switches from oh shit, I am so afraid of speaking too well, how am I not going

to suck or get something out of this. It's wonderful to have a friend like Louis who I was able to express. First off, there's a lot of pieces here. One is being able to express your fear, and then you like having Louis. I had a support system. Then all of a sudden, knew what my fear was that could help work with that fear. I was able to expand into a new version of myself. It's I'm not the one who never goes on stage in public, speaks or leads people through a chant, which I was the

first time I ever did that. Also, I become the one who has done that. So there's the expansion is that you're no longer your limitation anymore. Um Now, you might not be comfortable with that because I've only done it once, but I know I can do it. And I've also learned you don't have to just verbalize your fear to one person. Verbalizing your fear to thousands of people is so fucking empowering. And then it's like it dissipates and you can always refer back to it. You

screw up, You're like, see, I'm scared. I told you all. It's also a really good tactic to kind of smooth the edges over. Um. I've done that when I've been on stage for the first time playing piano, which I thought I would never do. I've done that public speaking. You know. It's I really was excited to do something new and branch out, but I was also scared. So I had an opportunity to actually like go into the

excitement and allow myself to feel that excitement. Because our bodies when they switch on for fear excitement, it's kind of similar. It really is about directing your attention. What are you giving your attention to and how are you How are you relating to the feeling that is happening to your body at this moment in time, And so you can either relate to it as oh shit, I'm scared, or in those moments you can rename it and relate to it in a different way of oh, I'm excited,

like really allow ourselves to feel that excitement. That was the first time where I really got to put that thought and that idea into into play was at the Lewis event, and I was really able to dig into the to the excitement piece of it, and I was. I mean, I cried, I did, like the whole thing, like everything that's so me. I had to allow my humanity to show, and I think that was part of my message anyway. So my message was coming out just

through my body. One of the best tactics that I've learned is to own up to the fear being able to walk on stage at Lewis's event, I honestly I lead with my fear. It was the first thing that I talked about, is you know, he asked me to do this, I'm terrified. I think I said something like, if you want to know what being scared shit, listen. Doing it anyway looks like it's me right now, Like this is it? In fact, I wrote what I was

going to say the night before. Like That's another thing that I've learned about myself that I used to think was a very bad thing, but I've actually turned it into a really positive thing. Is that I sometimes wait to the last minute to do things when it comes to writing or comes to figuring out what I'm gonna say. And there's two reasons why. One I've learned that's another one of my ways of like avoiding my fear. But I've also learned how once again to use that in

a more positive way. There's a real truth too. I'm waiting to be spoken, I'm waiting to be written, and so I've learned as a songwriter, I've learned not to rush things too. I like, I have to go write this speech because I'm speaking in two weeks. Whatever it may be. I allow myself to be worked through, and sometimes especially I like for things to be very in

the moment, especially there. I knew I wanted to talk about how I was feeling in the moment and what my experience was, and so I waited till the night before to really write what I was gonna say. But I knew that, and this is where the trust piece comes in. We're gonna talk about trust in a second, but the trust piece for me was I will be

work to do. I'm gonna put myself in this situation, and then how whatever is supposed to come through me will come through me, which it started to the night before and then just extended on into you know, the whole next day of me being on stage and leading with my fear and telling people, hey, this is what it looks like, this is what scared shit list looks like and doing it anyway and being able to lead with my vulnerability and the honesty of my fear was what put me in a place of power, of real

power when it actually brought me right into that moment with other people. It allowed for a more honest space, and then whatever flowed through me through after that, Like I think I whatever I wrote I expanded upon like times fifty. Another lesson that I've learned about fear and I'm still learning it because this one is probably the most challenging for is accepting the outcome without judging it.

For instance, this morning at tennis, which by the way, in my mind, I'm going pro in tennis at some point. It's my next job. Um. I love tennis so much. It's so much fun to play. But I'm definitely in the learning process. And it's funny because my coach like has me forgetting about the last thing that happened, being in the moment. Because we missed one shot doesn't mean we're gonna miss the next. When we're learning, we have to remember we're not going to hit every shot perfectly.

It's just not going to happen. And that's where we learn. We learn more when we screw up than we do when we do it great. It feels good to do it great, feel shitty to not not do it. Do not do it great, But at the same time we're That's where we have a chance to learn. But we can't learn and we can't grow from that if we hang on to that moment and judge it as proof to us that we suck at the thing that we just did, except in the outcome, as that's what just

happened in that moment. There's a new moment, there's another time to try. That is so important. And also knowing that the thing that we just did doesn't say anything about who we are now. I say this, but it is so challenging for me to do because my whole idea of Leanne Rhymes is a lot of the time tied up into being LeAnn Rhymes. Now that has changed tremendously in the past several years. I realized that I am so much more outside of lean rhymes, the celebrity

and who people I think I have to be. I am. I am not that fragmented piece, that one singular piece of lean rhymes. I am a whole being. And so what we need to remember we have so much more to offer outside of that funk up that just happened. It's just not that's not the end all. So yes, accepting without judgment, which leads me to also trust. I have trust as a tattoo on my arm, actually, and I put it there because I knew that I needed

to trust life, myself, people more. Actually, as we get older, we end up not trusting because we end up living in those places that have proved to us that life and myself and other people are untrustable. And now I'm going to get on a soapbox because it's I can't tell you how frustrating I know it is for me to live in the past. It is so frustrating and it's so life sucking. And to be able to to move on from the things that have happened, it takes

a lot of reprogramming, conscious reprogramming. I guess I got this tattoo. How old was I? I was like twenty eight when I got my trust tattoo, And clearly, like my higher self and future self, knew that I needed this because it was something that I was desiring in my life, was to trust. When we don't trust, like we cut ourselves off from life. We cut ourselves off from life force energy, we cut ourselves off from our

creator basically. And so yes, I'm getting into the spiritual piece of of fear because I like to trust what's going to work through me. Preparing is such a huge piece of the puzzle when it comes to addressing fear, because when we prepare, we we really There is such a thing as muscle memory, There is a thing as like really getting it into the body so the brain

doesn't have to think, it doesn't have to function. And that requires doing, which requires us having to expose ourselves to the thing that we have to do in order to really take a one piece of the fear component out of the way. Preparation is so important, and then comes trust where we can step out of the way and be worked through. I mean there are real moments where I sing where I know I'm not doing it. I mean something else is doing it. There's such a

freedom to that trust. It's not just trusting if it's good, it's trusting if it sucks. It's trusting that oh I needed to experience this, or someone else needed to experience this, someone else needed to witness this. That's the picture right there, and it ends with trust. I say that so flippantly. The trust is such a key piece because that's our

dance with the divine. All right, after a quick breath, we're going to be diving even deeper into the sources of fear and how they're often passed down through generations. Welcome back into this sweet space with me. Something else that I've learned about fear is that you cannot internalize someone else's projection and their fears in their judgments. Our parents fears. There are so many things that my parents

had fears about. I literally had to unfunk myself with all my mom's fears, because I mean, my mom was a very sheltered, very sheltered child and had so many fears about the world. And here I am having to go out and live in and amongst the world in like such a crazy way. And I was always with someone. I always had people with me. I either hadn't you know, my ex husband or my parents at one point, you know, and or a manager and agent, whatever it may be.

And then all of a sudden, I was getting divorced and I was living alone. My mom's fears, all of her fears that everything about the world was, you know, scary and dangerous. Oh my god, they all of a sudden became mine. So the projection and the what we take on is so important when it comes to other people's fears. When fear comes up, it's a great question, is this mine? Where did it come from? Where did it come from? It isn't mine? And does it need to be here? Is it serving me? What? What is

it protecting? What is it trying to protect me from? Yeah, it's not your fear. You can you can discard it. You can literally disconnect from it. And I know that sounds like some people are thinking like, oh, it's that's not that easy. It is. Actually it can be the answer,

you know. I think in those moments when we realize that it's not it's not ours to carry, I guess it is really too to love the one who thinks they have to carry it, because somewhere inside of us there's a little one who feels like they have to carry this for someone. At least in my case, that's definitely been the through line is like this codependency. I feel like I need to carry this for you. I feel like this is the way my world is going

to be because it was your experience. When it comes to putting down other spheres, especially when it comes to our parents, there's a real sense of detachment there. There's a real sense of a feel of loss, and we may feel guilt when it comes to those things of putting down other people's fears and no longer carrying them. There may be guilty that comes up, and that's when we we have to start expanding our container to be

able to be with those those feelings. There's a saying in the spiritual community that fear is the absence of love. I do feel like there is a when we are so locked into fear, the only way is into it. First off is to to connect with it, not ignore it. And once we do, we have to bring love to it. The only way through it is to it, and then you've got to get to it to get through it.

And then to be able to bring that love into the fear is when we can actually be with it in a loving way where there's not a judgmental way, like you shouldn't be fearful about this. I mean, there's it's so easy for us to go there, and that's where most of us go, but too to treat your fear and bring love to it like you had a child, which some of us, by the way, are still learning

how to do. I mean we're learning how to parent ourselves, and not some of us, a lot of us, because there's so much we have to learn to give ourselves that our parents can never give. So when we bring that that pure unconditional love to to that fear, we allow for something to really shift. I don't think that fear is just the pure absence of love, because there's I don't feel like we can ever really be separated from the thing that we are, and we are ultimately

pure love. It's not like we're going to be getting rid of fear anytime soon. It's not like it's a it's saying something about us. If we're in fear and that we're we're disconnected from love. It is a natural human response, and so we have to bring consciousness and loving awareness to this so that we can we can have a different experience with it, we can dance differently

with it. But just knowing that humanity will always be there, This is where we get into the human and the holy humanity will always be there, and so we have to bringing the love to that humanity instead of trying to rid ourselves of our humanity. This is where the dance is so important and where we do become whole is because we get to connect those two pieces that

have been so deeply disconnected. One thing I want to make incredibly clear is that we're talking about one specific I think version of fear, because I think there are real fears, fears that keep us safe and fears that tell us when to leave somewhere, like you know, if there's an abusive relationship, or if we're walking down you know, a dark alley at night and something in us is like, don't go down this alley. Like that to me is like there are real fears that do keep us safe,

like there's a there's a reason for it. It's when we have these perceived fears and what keeps us from growth is what we're talking about in this specific podcast. So I just want to make that really clear, because fear is fear is a gift, is a gift that are when our body tells us that something is wrong. I really want to just give you some some things to just chew on, some little tidbit to take away from this and ruminate on um. I guess ruminate ruminate

in the best way. If we're going to have our mind ruminate, which it does a lot of the time, we might as well have something good to chew on. So I feel like that love is not the opposite of fear. I feel like courage is the opposite of fear, and it takes courage to live, to truly live, Otherwise we're just surviving. Fear means that you are living on your edge, that you are pushing your edge and going into places where you are outside of your comfort zone.

And that is a good thing. That means you're growing and expanding, and there's more life that can flow through you, and there's more opportunities that this world can bring you. There's more of you have a bigger receiving antenna, and life is going to get so much better when we take that courage and move into our fe years and live on our edge so that we can expand. Preparation is key. You can't avoid the process. You can't avoid people experiencing your process. You're never going to learn and

prepare by yourself all the time. That's one of my biggest lessons that I've learned and one of my biggest hurdles has been people witnessing my process. I still don't like it. I like people to see the final result like tada, I'm just this good all the time. Um, But that's where our vulnerability kicks in and and our preparation is such an important piece that we can't avoid that and then expect to get the results that we're wanting on the other side. So preparation and then finally trust,

just trust. I don't know, I say that every time, like, oh yeah, just trust, but because it feels so big sometimes to me to trust, and it seems the simplest thing, just to you know, it should be like to just open your arms and trust and surrender. But we want to control everything. We think we are the controllers of

our of our lives. And to me, that's the spiritual piece that kicks in of know that you are here for a reason, that you are worked through and in the moment that you're doing the thing that you're fearful of, and noe trust that the outcome is exactly what it should be. We may not understand it at this moment in time of why, but it hopefully will make sense in the long run. So trust trust, trust. Trust. If there's anything that you take away from this to me,

fear is maybe trust is the opposite of fear. Maybe that's what it is. Maybe that's what I just took away from it. Trust is the opposite of fear, because if we're in trust, how can we be fearful? I mean, I guess the fear will always be there. But if there's no good or bad outcome, if it's just is we allow the outcome to just be, then we're trusting that all is well no matter what the outcome is. It's not just trusting the process that will be worked through,

it's actually supposed to happen for our greatest expansion. So with that, I'm going to trust fully that you are here listening to this for a reason, that I am in your ears for a reason, that we are here together and going to explore this journey together for a reason. Throughout this podcast, I want to introduce you to some of my personal teachers and people who have inspired me along the way, people who have really been profound witnesses to my journey and major guiding lights to help me

find my wholeness. And I hope that we are able to call back the fragments of ourselves together so that when all this is done, we're holy humans. I think that sounds like a good idea, don't you. So I have something in my arsenal that I can't leave out of this podcast because it's the whole piece of me, or the wholeness of me. So I thought I would lead you guys through a chant that just kind of sets the tone for the podcast, for who we are,

for what we're discussing, what we've discussed today. So if you're driving, be careful. If you're not, actually just close your eyes and take a deep breath and let it out and allow your shoulders to fall just a little further away from your ears and your body to relax a little more. Just take a moment with me, and we're going to chant hi Am hum ha i am Holy Chrace renews me. It's love that guides me. Hi Am hum hi am Holy Chrace renews me. It's love

that guides me. Everyone, take a deep breath in, let it out. Thank you so much for joining me today. A blast recording this for you, guys. I hope you've enjoyed listening. Thank you for connecting with me. On an even deeper level, and I look forward to so much more of this exploration with you, of this human and holy existence. On our next episode of Holy Human, I will be joined by the wonderful Nicole Lowis, who is

a woman who has truly truly changed my life. She'll share her insight into what it really means to embody the concept of being completely whole and how you can also incorporate it into your everyday life. We're going to be getting into all the fields and I mean bodily feels, because that's what we're going to be talking about somatic work. So please join me next time Holy Human with me Leanne Rhymes is a production of I Heart Radio World Say Not All You saying Me Die