When you have a loved one who is struggling with their mental health, the holiday season can be a mine field! With more stress (even good stress!) comes more flair ups, meaning all your best laid plans could fall apart in a second. Your spouse might have an anxiety attack just as you are heading out the door to go to the church Christmas party, or they might disappear into the bedroom for days at a time, leaving you to manage all the gift buying, wrapping and planning all on your own. In this ep...
Dec 06, 2022•28 min•Ep. 43
Do you ever find yourself having a good day where you are feeling calm and your spouse is doing well and then you immediately get hit with a wave of anxiety? Yup. You're not alone! We are generally not very good at tolerating our positive emotions like joy, happiness, contentedness, peace and love. So today we are talking all about how to lean into it and start expanding our capacity for real joy!
Nov 08, 2022•23 min•Ep. 42
The way you see yourself can drastically impact the helath of your marriage. In this episode, we discuss what your self identity is, where it comes from, how it impacts your marriage relationship and how to change your self identity and by extention, your marriage. Check it out!
Oct 25, 2022•26 min•Ep. 41
Every couple has those issues that are just difficult to solve. You start fighting and feel like it is getting you nowhere. It might be: - Money - Sex - In-law relationships - Division of Household duties - Electronic use (phones or videogames) Whatever the issue is for you and your spouse, there is good news. These issues are totally solvable. In this episode, I'm giving you the do's and don'ts for how to solve all these problems. We have just a few 1 on 1 coaching spots available right now! Ma...
Sep 27, 2022•27 min•Ep. 40
Everyone fights. Even healthy couples. In fact, conflict can be a great catalyst for change, improvement and learning for you and your spouse. In this episode we discuss what you can do after the fight to help propel you into success in the future. It's magical! Click Here to apply for 1 on 1 Coaching with Jessica Farmer for couples or individuals
Sep 20, 2022•23 min•Ep. 39
We've all expereinced thos days (and sometimes months) where you just can't shake that feeling of exhaustion. It doesn't matter how much sleep you get, it doesn't seem to touch it. In this episode we are going to talk about how to combat that exhaustion and how to start moving forward again. I'm telling you all about my personal expereince with exhaustion over the last year and the things that have helped me the most. We are opening up 1 on 1 coaching spots for the last time in 2022! Click Here ...
Sep 13, 2022•29 min•Ep. 38
Is it possible to have a real partnership marriage, even when your spouse is struggling with their mental health? YES! We are talking to relationship expert, Aimée Gianni MS about how to avoid getting stuck in and overfunctioning role in your relationship, cultivate friendship and avoid resentment. It is powerful stuff! Resources mentioned by Aimée: Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown Everything Isn't Terrible by Dr. Kathleen Smith Aimée Gianni, MS, is a M...
Sep 06, 2022•35 min•Ep. 37
We all need an escape sometimes, but usually we feel really guilty about it or we don't even know that we are doing it (hello...Netflix). In this episode, I'm telling you all my guilty pleasure and how having those little escape valves set up in your life can actually be really great for your life and relationship. My Current Favorite Romance Authors- The All Souls Trilogy by Debroah Harkness A Throne Of Glass Series by Sarah J. Maas The Bridgerton books by Julia Quinn A Court Of Thorns and Rose...
Aug 02, 2022•21 min
Every Marriage, even the best ones, have unsolvable problems. Often times these are one of the Big 3 - Money, Sex or Family. But just becasue the issue is unsolvable doesn't mean that we need to resign ourselves to fighting constantly about the same issues for the rest of our lives. In this episode we are discussing strategies for how to turn these unsolvable problems into opportunites for growth and resilience in your marriage relationship. Have any questions? I'd love to hear them! email me at...
Jul 26, 2022•25 min•Ep. 35
When your spouse has mental health struggles, it can affect every aspect of your family life, especially how you and your spouse parent together. This week we are diving into how you can make the most of your parenting relationship, help support your spouse's positive relationship with your children, and how it can actually be the best thing for your child.
Jul 19, 2022•27 min•Ep. 34
When we are working on makeing changes in our relationships, and aren't seeing the results yet, it can be super frustrating and we can get caught in thinking that it's not working. The things we are trying is just not enough. So this week we are talking about why our brains believe that a big grand solution is necessary for real change to happen, how we can lean into practicing small and simple things to improve our relationships, and the key to finding hope that things will get better....
Jul 12, 2022•27 min•Ep. 33
I hear this from my clients all the time. "I am too busy to deal with all this crap!" I get it. It can feel really overwhelming and discouraging to do the work that it takes to change your marriage to a more resilient and connected relationship. So today we are talking about how to go through the process as painless as possible and staying the way you are is actually using MORE time and energy than it would take to change. Schedule your free Small Group Program Discovery Call SmarterEveryDay - T...
Jun 28, 2022•32 min•Ep. 32
Marriage Advice Myth Debunked: You should never talk about your marriage outside of your marriage. I think I know where this one is coming from but honestly, it is so problematic. So in this episode, we are talking about how to find a safe person to talk to about the dificulties you are having in your marriage, and how to do it in a way that will actually strengthen your relationship. Small Group Coaching Progam start July 14th! If you want in, lets chat. Email me at jess@jessicafarmercoaching.c...
Jun 21, 2022•27 min•Ep. 31
Do you ever feel defeated becasue no matter what you do, you feel like you just can't trust your spouse? You are not alone. In this episode we are talking about how to break down the concept of trusting your spouse into bite sized chunks and how to develop a more trusting and loving relationship. Attachment Styles Quiz
Jun 14, 2022•27 min•Ep. 30
We've all been in that place where we want our spouse to be different than they are. In big and small ways. But trying to get them to change is the hardest way to do this whole marriage thing. Instead, we are talking about how to find peace and happiness in your relationship without your spouse changing thier behavior. It's Possible! Get Your Free Training! How To Stop Walking On Eggshells In Your Marriage Sign Up Here...
Jun 07, 2022•22 min•Ep. 29
We all wish our spouse would just be able to read our mind right? Well, it's possible. Ok, they can't REALLY read your mind, but you can get to the place in your marriage where you and your spouse know how to help each other fill your needs in the way that is most meaningful to you. This episode is all about teaching your spouse how to help you meet your needs in the way that is most meaningful to you. Free 3 Day Training! How To Stop Walking On Eggshells In Your Marriage Click Here To Get Yours...
May 31, 2022•20 min•Ep. 28
We all have those moments when we feel like we are a failure. We feel like we are overwhelmed with our absolute human-ness and it can be so discouraging. It can keep us stuck exactly where we don't want to be. So today on the podcast, we are talking all about the one practice you need to move from feeling like a failure to having a growth mindset. FREE TRAINING- How To Stop Walking On Eggshells In Your Marriage Click HERE to Sign Up!...
May 24, 2022•23 min•Ep. 27
"I just don't want people to think less of him, or me" When Your spouse is struggling with their mental health it is natural to want to shield them from other people's judgements. But, as we talk about in the episode this week, it can lead to some patterns that aren't healpful for eaith one of you. So in this episode, we are learning how to respond when someone in judging you, and how to feel peace, no matter what is happening. Free Training! How To Stop Walking On Eggshells In Your Marriage Cli...
May 17, 2022•27 min•Ep. 26
If you are married to someone who has a mental illness or who has struggled with theri mental health, you probably have trauma. The good news is that we know how to notice it, work through it and learn from it. That's what we are taling all about this week so check it out! There is 1 1:1 coaching spot left for the month of May! After this one is filled, to work with me, you will be added to a wait list for the next available spot. If you want in right now, Click Here...
May 10, 2022•25 min•Ep. 25
Resentment is one of the most common emotions I see with my clients, it's destructive in a relationship AND it's totally within your control to work past it. This week we are diving into how you may be feeling resentment without even knowing it, how to recognize it and how to move past it. Feeling Wheel Brene Brown's Atlas of The Heart Ready to start making lasting changes in your relationship? Click Here to set up a call with Jessica and create a plan to make it happen for you and your spouse!...
May 03, 2022•29 min•Ep. 24
Letting go of old patterns in our reltaionships, even when they are patterns that we don't like, can be hard and even feel dangerous. So in this episode, we are talkingall about how to recognize if you are holding onto things in your relationship that you need to let go of, and how to start embracing the wonderful changtes that are happening for you, your spouse, and your marriage. I have 2 1:1 coaching spots opening up in May! The price: $850 per month. The result you can expect: finally feelin...
Apr 19, 2022•26 min•Ep. 23
I love my spouse but I sometimes don't like being around them I want to stay in my marriage, but sometimes I daydream about what it would be like to not deal with it anymore I am so grateful for my spouse, but it also feels like they aren't doing enough These conflicting emotions can be so frustrating and overwhelming. On the podcast this week we are diving into how we can move past them and start feeling more peace. There are 2 spots opening up in May for 1:1 coaching with Jessica! If you want ...
Apr 12, 2022•24 min•Ep. 22
We know that we are supposed to avoid contention in our relationships but did you know healthy conflict is NECESSARY in order to have an intimate and resilient marriage relationship? It is! So in this episode we are exploring what the difference is between conflict and contention, the ways that we approach conflict and why it creates lots of problems in our marriages, and some things you can do to use conflict in a healthy way to build closeness and connection in your marriage while avoiding con...
Apr 05, 2022•29 min•Ep. 21
When your brain fixates on needing your spouse to change, we block ourselves off from seeing the wonderful parts of them! So this week we are diving into how to move out of wanting them to change and strat getting to a plalce of acceptance, so you can start feeling better and moving forward in your relationship. If have any questions, email at jess@jessicafarmercoaching.com To schedule a free consult session https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18238476&appointmentType=1126535...
Mar 29, 2022•24 min•Ep. 20
In this episode I'm talking with Heather Frazier, a parenting coach for teens and thier parents. We are talking all about the challanges of having mental health struggles in the family weather you are the parent or spouse. Heather helps parents like their teens, without their teens needing to change at all! As a mother of four, ranging from young adult to tween, she understands the emotional stamina necessary to successfully navigate the teen years. She hosts the podcast, Pivot Parenting, where ...
Mar 22, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 19
Sometimes we find ourselves in circumstances that feel heavy and neverending. We may feel angry, overwhelmed and fearful. This is especially true when you have a loved one that is struggling with thier mental health. If you are feeling this way today, this episode is for you. If you need someone to talk to and feel like you are ready to get some help in dealing with the really hard days click here to schedule and appointment and we can work together to find solutions....
Mar 15, 2022•25 min•Ep. 18
Marriage Roadmap Session Link Link To Schedule Couples Coaching Consult Call In this episode we are talking about -What happends in your brain when you're feeling triggered -A personal story where I was feeling triggered and how I pulled myself out _How to talk to your spouse about it without making it worse...
Mar 08, 2022•24 min•Ep. 17
This episode is a continutation of my conversation with Lindsay Poelman about - How to foster intimate connection in your relationships -What self care actually looks like as the spouse of someone with a mental illness -How to support you with your spouse is working through trauma Lindsay Poelman is a certified coach that specializes in Relationship Trauma. She went through her own Betrayal Trauma 5 years ago and became so passionate about the resources available to her that she left her career ...
Mar 01, 2022•17 min•Ep. 16
Lindsay Poelman is a certified coach that specializes in Relationship Trauma. She went through her own Betrayal Trauma 5 years ago and became so passionate about the resources available to her that she left her career in public and derivative accounting to create programs that blend the best parts of what helped her to use with clients. After seeking additional training and working with women in trauma for over 4 years, she now trains coaches to do the same—so that they too can provide the deep ...
Feb 22, 2022•37 min•Ep. 15
Schedule your Marriage Roadmap Session HERE We know that we should be dependant on our spouse, but we are also supposed to independant and in charge of our own thoughts and feelings. So how do we find that balance in a resilient marriage? On the podcast this week, we are talking all about how to find Healthy Interdependence in your relationship and also, how it's totally OK if you aren't there yet. We've got you covered, no matter what!...
Feb 15, 2022•21 min•Ep. 14
