This is part two of a two-part story with Shannon. At the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, we are fortunate to have loyal listeners from all around the world. We also have survivors who have bravely asked to be interviewed. These survivors have been from Canada, Australia, England, Argentina, Switzerland, and the United States. Today, we add Ireland to our list. We spoke with Shannon who came to us from Dublin, Ireland We thank Shannon for bringing us this story. It holds similarities we have found in...
Feb 26, 2025•39 min•Season 5Ep. 17
This is part one of a two part story with Shannon. At the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast, we are fortunate to have loyal listeners from all around the world. We also have survivors who have bravely asked to be interviewed. These survivors have been from Canada, Australia, England, Argentina, Switzerland, and the United States. Today, we add Ireland to our list. We spoke with Shannon who came to us from Dublin, Ireland We thank Shannon for bringing us this story. It holds similarities we have found in...
Feb 25, 2025•39 min•Season 5Ep. 16
This episode comes with warnings about alcoholism, drug usage, violence, and the use of profane adult language. This is an update to a three-part narrative with Candi Rose. Candi contacted us nearly a year after her first interview, and she asked to return and tell more about the abuse she suffered. We appreciate her for wanting to rejoin us and fill in more about the dark days with Ashton. Candi Rose is her actual name. Her full name is Candace Rose. She was bullied in high school to the point ...
Feb 20, 2025•46 min•Season 5Ep. 15
This episode comes with warnings about alcoholism, drug usage, violence and the use of profane adult language. This is three one of a three-part narrative with Candi Rose. Candi contacted us and asked to return to tell about the abuse she suffered. This interview took place about nine months after parts one and two. We appreciate her for wanting to rejoin us and fill in more about the dark days with Ashton. Candi Rose is her actual name. Her full name is Candace Rose. She was bullied in high sch...
Feb 19, 2025•40 min•Season 5Ep. 14
This is two one of a three-part narrative with Candi Rose. Candi Rose is her actual name. Her full name is Candace Rose. She was bullied in high school to the point where her mother moved her into a different school. There she fell in with the wrong crowd. Things became worse as she made a series of unfortunate decisions. Her lack of experience, wisdom, or good judgment landed her in jail as a convicted felon. Once released what did she do to make a living? She became a stripper. The twists and ...
Feb 18, 2025•44 min•Season 5Ep. 13
This is part one of a two-part narrative with Candi Rose. Candi Rose is her actual name. Her full name is Candace Rose. She was bullied in high school to the point where her mother moved her into a different school. There she fell in with the wrong crowd. Things became worse as she made a series of unfortunate decisions. Her lack of experience, wisdom, or good judgment landed her in jail as a convicted felon. Once released what did she do to make a living? She became a stripper. The twists and t...
Feb 17, 2025•42 min•Season 5Ep. 12
This is part two of a two-part story. In the story, Jill takes us back in time to the many setbacks she experienced as a child. This woman learned early in life how to use her inner strength, it was all she needed to survive. Listen to Jill's story, and you will experience a woman who found inner joy that has been a constant source of peace. She will give us great advice about being your own person and never putting up with someone who treats you badly. That means never giving an abuser a second...
Feb 12, 2025•48 min•Season 5Ep. 11
This is part one of a two-part story. In the story, Jill takes us back in time to the many setbacks she experienced as a child. This woman learned early in life how to use her inner strength, it was all she needed to survive. Listen to Jill's story, and you will experience a woman who found inner joy that has been a constant source of peace. She will give us great advice about being your own person and never putting up with someone who treats you badly. That means never giving an abuser a second...
Feb 11, 2025•45 min•Season 5Ep. 10
There is little chance we will ever get an abuser to join us on this podcast and do a recorded interview. But, we have heard enough about the minds of abusers to have insights into what we would hear. It would sound like the justification of actions taken purely to gain control over another person. It would be a relentless pushback. There would be no apologies. That is what you will hear in this episode. This episode, our fifth in this series, comes with content and trigger warnings: Domestic ab...
Feb 04, 2025•15 min•Season 5Ep. 9
This is part two of a two-part narrative with Lucy. This story comes with content warnings about drug taking. Using drugs or misusing alcohol does not cause domestic violence, but it does allow abusive behavior to become more frequent and more destructive. Lucy contacted me wondering if what she experienced years ago was actually abuse. She is a high-energy woman with great ambition, but Lucy admits she was no saint. She made some mistakes and paid dearly for them by losing the career she wanted...
Jan 29, 2025•53 min•Season 5Ep. 8
This is part one of a two-part narrative with Lucy. This story comes with content warnings about drug taking. Using drugs or misusing alcohol does not cause domestic violence, but it does allow abusive behavior to become more frequent and more destructive. Lucy contacted me wondering if what she experienced years ago was actually abuse. She is a high-energy woman with great ambition, but Lucy admits she was no saint. She made some mistakes and paid dearly for them by losing the career she wanted...
Jan 28, 2025•47 min•Season 5Ep. 7
This is a kind of bonus episode with Christy. We recorded parts one and two of her story. We edited them and figured that was that. But days later, Christy contacted me again wanting to tell of more incidents with her ex-husband. She also wanted to add more of her hard-earned advice. Our three interviews with Christy demonstrate how this selfless woman tried to keep her marriage intact with barely any assistance from her narcissistic husband. Christy was consistently the best, most generous wife...
Jan 23, 2025•57 min•Season 5Ep. 6
This is part two of a two-part story with Christy. Our interview with Christy demonstrates how hard this selfless woman tried to keep her marriage intact with barely any assistance from her narcissistic husband. Christy was consistently the best, most generous, wife and mother of three she could be. Her husband took full advantage of her with his power and control techniques. He took away most of her freedom in life. It took a strong will to break free. Be listening for the warning signs that co...
Jan 22, 2025•48 min•Season 5Ep. 5
This is part one of a two-part story with Christy. Our interview with Christy demonstrates how hard this selfless woman tried to keep her marriage intact with barely any assistance from her narcissistic husband. Christy was consistently the best, most generous, wife and mother of three she could be. Her husband took full advantage of her with his power and control techniques. He took away most of her freedom in life. It took a strong will to break free. Be listening for the warning signs that co...
Jan 21, 2025•50 min•Season 5Ep. 4
This is part two of a two-part story with Anna Astwood. Anna is a survivor of teen dating violence. It happened about 25 years ago, but she has lived with it every day since. As a survivor herself of sexual assault and teenage dating violence from the ages of 12 to 18 years old, she knows the pain, the trauma, the guilt of what relationship violence brings. Most importantly, she knows the healing that can take place after trauma. Although not an easy task, Anna explains that by taking the steps ...
Jan 15, 2025•47 min•Season 4Ep. 73
This is part one of a two-part story with Anna Astwood. Anna is a survivor of teen dating violence. It happened about 25 years ago, but she has lived with it every day since. As a survivor herself of sexual assault and teenage dating violence from the ages of 12 to 18 years old, she knows the pain, the trauma, the guilt of what relationship violence brings. Most importantly, she knows the healing that can take place after trauma. Although not an easy task, Anna explains that by taking the steps ...
Jan 14, 2025•36 min•Season 5Ep. 3
You will find many lists of warning signs if you google them. You can also see a list of warning signs on the WhenDatingHurts.com website, if you like. Danielle's story has many warning signs of a toxic relationship that will show up throughout. Listen to her interview and learn where she made mistakes. Danielle's story underscores that breaking free is never easy. It can take multiple attempts. From the outside, it looks so obvious: Just break up. Get your stuff. And get out of there. Right? Bu...
Jan 07, 2025•58 min•Season 5Ep. 1
A couple of years back, I was interviewed by David Keck of the Process of Healing podcast. David Keck was the unfortunate victim of a hate crime. It is not hyperbole to say it was a miracle he survived this. David has taken his personal tragedy, and his sympathetic outlook on life, to help others and bring hope, healing, and education to individuals who have endured personal trauma. This WHEN DATING HURTS episode is a comprehensive interview which I feel is quite worthwhile for the way in which ...
Dec 31, 2024•51 min•Season 4Ep. 72
This will be our third interview with Mindy. She is a survivor who first appeared in the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast 18 months ago. During our first interview together, Mindy used a created name (Becca). Back then, she had very recently broken away from her abuser of eight years. Mindy was determined to stay away from him, and a year and a half later, she is successful. Six months after our first interview, Mindy gave us her "progress report". She remained zero tolerance against any communications...
Dec 24, 2024•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 71
This is part two of a two-part story with Sarah. This story comes with warnings. There are of graphic descriptions of violence, use of adult language, and other disturbing depictions. So, please proceed carefully. We pick up where we left off with Sarah and part one. Things will become much worse. Sarah will have plenty of reasons to break up with Johnnie, but when she does break away, she weakens and goes back. This is quite common in these unhealthy relationships. Listen for the warning signs ...
Dec 18, 2024•53 min•Season 4Ep. 70
This is part one of a two-part story with Sarah. This story comes with warnings. There are of graphic descriptions of violence, use of adult language, and other disturbing depictions. So, please proceed carefully. Sarah lives in the Midwest. From the time she was young, she was denied attention from her parents. Her mother was alcoholic. Her father not only used drugs, he manufactured them. Sarah will tell us about this and a lot more. Life was not kind to Sarah as she advanced through high scho...
Dec 17, 2024•52 min•Season 4Ep. 69
This is part two of a two-part story with Katie. Be sure you are ready to hear this story. As it proceeds, you will be hearing about horribly abusive physical violence and actual torture... Trigger warnings need to be expressed due to both the content and graphic descriptions. Katie's Story When Katie met Mark, he appeared as this attractive guy playing amazing bass fiddle in a rockabilly band. She loved his music and soon felt he was the one. As soon as they were introduced, they were an item f...
Dec 11, 2024•44 min•Season 4Ep. 68
This is part one of a two-part story with Katie. Be sure you are ready to hear this story. As it proceeds, you will be hearing about horribly abusive physical violence and actual torture... Trigger warnings need to be expressed due to both the content and graphic descriptions. Katie's Story When Katie met Mark, he appeared as this attractive guy playing amazing bass fiddle in a rockabilly band. She loved his music and soon felt he was the one. As soon as they were introduced, they were an item f...
Dec 10, 2024•40 min•Season 4Ep. 67
This is part three of a three-part story with Paula. Our interview with Paula is strong and descriptive. You will immediately notice Paula's voice has been distorted so she could speak freely and cannot be recognized. We apologize that some parts may be difficult to understand. At the time of our interview, Paula was speaking from Melbourne, Australia. We spoke for 2 1/2 hours which has been edited into three parts of about 1/2 hour apiece. This will take you from the time she met John even thou...
Dec 05, 2024•48 min•Season 4Ep. 66
This is part two of three parts with Paula. Our interview with Paula is strong and descriptive. You will immediately notice Paula's voice has been distorted so she could speak freely and cannot be recognized. We apologize that some parts may be difficult to understand. At the time of our interview, Paula was speaking from Melbourne, Australia. We spoke for 2 1/2 hours which has been edited into three parts of about 1/2 hour apiece. This will take you from the time she met John even though she kn...
Dec 04, 2024•42 min•Season 4Ep. 65
This is part one of three parts with Paula. Our interview with Paula is strong and descriptive. You will immediately notice Paula's voice has been distorted so she could speak freely and cannot be recognized. We apologize that some parts may be difficult to understand. At the time of our interview, Paula was speaking from Melbourne, Australia. We spoke for 2 1/2 hours which has been edited into three parts of about 1/2 hour apiece. This will take you from the time she met John even though she kn...
Dec 03, 2024•42 min•Season 4Ep. 64
This is part two of two parts with Molly. Growing up, Molly's mother had little interest in her. So living at home was rarely a positive experience. Molly felt used by her mother when it benefitted her mother's constant need to put on a show outside of the home. In her 20s, she met John. He was handsome, he was fun, and he seemed to be bringing Molly the interest and love she never saw at home. She felt secure with John. They had children. Little by little, the real John emerged. Besides his con...
Nov 27, 2024•42 min•Season 4Ep. 63
This is part one of two parts with Molly. Growing up, Molly's mother had little interest in her. So living at home was rarely a positive experience. Molly felt used by her mother when it benefitted her mother's constant need to put on a show outside of the home. In her 20s, she met John. He was handsome, he was fun, and he seemed to be bringing Molly the interest and love she never saw at home. She felt secure with John. They had children. Little by little, the real John emerged. Besides his con...
Nov 26, 2024•36 min•Season 4Ep. 62
This episode was created for educational and dramatic purposes only. Some of the voices are computer generated. What if Kristin Mitchell could speak to us today? That is what this episode explores. Kristin would tell us what she didn't know about dating abuse and domestic violence in the days leading up to the moment she was violently murdered by her ex-boyfriend in June 2005. She would tell us what she has learned (too late) since those dark days after her death nearly 20 years ago. This is a s...
Nov 25, 2024•13 min•Season 4Ep. 61
This is part two of a two-part interview. My interview with Anna, who lives in Perth, Australia, had been in the works for nearly one year. But what motivated us to making our interview now was a case against her ex-partner which finally landed in a court room. Our interview was made only days after she testified as a witness against this serially abusive and violent man. Anna will also tell us about other abusive relationships. She found herself in. This will shine a bright light on many warnin...
Nov 20, 2024•53 min•Season 4Ep. 64
