This is part one of a two-part interview. My interview with Anna, who lives in Perth, Australia, had been in the works for nearly one year. But what motivated us to making our interview now was a case against her ex-partner which finally landed in a court room. Our interview was made only days after she testified as a witness against this serially abusive and violent man. Anna will also tell us about other abusive relationships. She found herself in. This will shine a bright light on many warnin...
Nov 19, 2024•59 min•Season 4Ep. 63
There is little chance we will ever get an abuser to join us on this podcast and do a recorded interview. But, we have heard enough about the minds of abusers to have insights into what we would hear. It would be the justification of actions taken purely to gain control over another person. It would be a relentless pushback. That is what you will find in this episode. This episode, our fourth in this series, comes with content and trigger warnings: Domestic abuse, domestic violence, and graphic ...
Nov 12, 2024•9 min•Season 4Ep. 62
Lola Reid Allin is such an amazing woman. Growing up, her father discouraged her from becoming anything more than a woman who followed a very stereotypical lifestyle in support of men. Lola fell in love with the idea of becoming a pilot. Her father had the same desire when he was a young man, but did not achieve it. Lola's father didn't handle it well when she succeeded where he had not. Her determination to follow her dreams also crossed over into her sometimes abusive marriage to a man named P...
Nov 05, 2024•1 hr 16 min•Season 4Ep. 63
Our guest is Dr. Diana Ponsky MD FACS, a double board certified in facial plastic and head and neck surgery, carrying certification from the American Board of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery and the American Board of Otolaryngology. She has over 18+ years of experience in cosmetic surgery of the face. Dr. Ponsky has become drawn to humanitarian work. She’s performed free procedures for Face-to-Face — a charitable arm of the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery ...
Oct 29, 2024•49 min•Season 4Ep. 63
PART 3 Barbra Walker’s story takes time to tell. For that reason, it is presented to you in three parts. This is part three. Trigger Warnings!!! Barbra Walker’s story of abuse comes with serious trigger warnings about its content and descriptions. There is much to be learned from listening to her telling of what happened, but it contains potentially distressing material. Ms. Walker had never told her entire story at one time until she contacted the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast and trusted us to bri...
Oct 24, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Season 4Ep. 60
PART 2 Barbra Walker’s story takes time to tell. For that reason, it is presented to you in three parts. This is part two. Trigger Warnings!!! Barbra Walker’s story of abuse comes with serious trigger warnings about its content and descriptions. There is much to be learned from listening to her telling of what happened, but it contains potentially distressing material. Ms. Walker had never told her entire story at one time until she contacted the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast and trusted us to bring...
Oct 23, 2024•49 min•Season 4Ep. 59
PART 1 Barbra Walker’s story takes time to tell. For that reason, it is presented to you in three parts. This is part one. Trigger Warnings!!! Barbra Walker’s story of abuse comes with serious trigger warnings about its content and descriptions. There is much to be learned from listening to her telling of what happened, but it contains potentially distressing material. Ms. Walker had never told her entire story at one time until she contacted the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast and trusted us to bring...
Oct 22, 2024•59 min•Season 4Ep. 58
I interviewed Heather Glogolich a couple of years ago. At that time, she was a police lieutenant. Today, she is a police captain with the New Jersey Institute of technology in Newark, NJ. Nothing has held her back in her amazing career. Heather is also a motivational speaker, an author, a victim advocate, and a domestic violence survivor. Everything she has attempted, she has succeeded in. I want you to hear this rerelease of our conversation. It is not easy to listen to, but it is a wealth of k...
Oct 15, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Season 4Ep. 57
This story was first published a couple years back. I re-released it because it's full of helpful information. Susan Saurman is a survivor on several levels. Abused by her father when she was young, she also needed to heal from the day he murdered her dear mother. This is part two of a two-part story that spans decades. Susan has not let anything deter her from her mission to use her family's tragedy to help others. My admiration for Susan is immense. We continue to stay in touch and we support ...
Oct 09, 2024•43 min•Season 4Ep. 57
This story was first published a couple years back. I rereleased it because it's full of helpful information. Susan Saurman is a survivor on several levels. Abused by her father when she was young, she also needed to heal from the day he murdered her dear mother. This is part one of a two-part story that spans decades. Susan has not let anything deter her from her mission to use her family's tragedy to help others. My admiration for Susan is immense. We continue to stay in touch and we support e...
Oct 08, 2024•45 min•Season 4Ep. 55
You are about to hear part two of a two-part story with Alissa. This is a teen dating violence story. It does not include physical violence to any great degree, but it makes the point that a relationship can be quite abusive even without the presence of the physical part. This interview is one you might want to listen to with teens present, both in high school or college. You will hear about warning signs that were overlooked. Breaking up is the most dangerous time, especially when the abusive p...
Oct 02, 2024•46 min•Season 4Ep. 53
You are about to hear part one of a two-part story with Alissa. This is a teen dating violence story. It does not include physical violence to any great degree, but it makes the point that a relationship can be quite abusive even without the presence of the physical part. This interview is one you might want to listen to with teens present, both in high school or college. You will hear about warning signs that were overlooked. Breaking up is the most dangerous time, especially when the abusive p...
Oct 01, 2024•43 min•Season 4Ep. 52
This is the third in a three-part narrative with Dawn. This story necessitates trigger warnings due to its adult language, violence, a shooting, the use of drugs, and both emotional and physical abuse. Dawn was a skilled auto mechanic living in the Mid West. She moved to the west side of Chicago to work on cars at a family friend's shop. She was set up for success. A man she met in her apartment building became her boyfriend. From the start, everything felt right, but slowly the relationship too...
Sep 26, 2024•41 min•Season 4Ep. 51
This is the first in a three-part narrative with Dawn. This story necessitates trigger warnings due to its adult language, violence, a shooting, the use of drugs, and both emotional and physical abuse. Dawn was a skilled auto mechanic living in the Mid West. She moved to the west side of Chicago to work on cars at a family friend's shop. She was set up for success. A man she met in her apartment building became her boyfriend. From the start, everything felt right, but slowly the relationship too...
Sep 25, 2024•34 min•Season 4Ep. 50
This is the first in a three-part narrative with Dawn. This story necessitates trigger warnings due to its adult language, violence, a shooting, the use of drugs, and both emotional and physical abuse. Dawn was a skilled auto mechanic living in the Mid West. She moved to the west side of Chicago to work on cars at a family friend's shop. She was set up for success. A man she met in her apartment building became her boyfriend. From the start, everything felt right, but slowly the relationship too...
Sep 24, 2024•47 min•Season 4Ep. 49
This is part two of a two-part story. Kelsey thought Corey was the one. He was a talented artist with a following who bought his works. There were warning signs she though odd, but she decided to overlook them in favor of keeping the relationship moving. When something abusive happened, she felt each one was an isolated incident. This is a story about a caring woman and her narcissistic partner. There is no physical nor sexual abuse in this narrative, but that doesn't mean it would never lead to...
Sep 18, 2024•38 min•Season 4Ep. 48
This is part one of a two-part story. Kelsey thought Corey was the one. He was a talented artist with a following who bought his works. There were warning signs she though odd, but she decided to overlook them in favor of keeping the relationship moving. When something abusive happened, she felt each one was an isolated incident. This is a story about a caring woman and her narcissistic partner. There is no physical nor sexual abuse in this narrative, but that doesn't mean it would never lead to...
Sep 17, 2024•46 min•Season 4Ep. 47
I was recently interviewed by a podcast entitled "Persistence U" by Lizbeth Meredith. Persistence U covers all manner of survivor stories. Take a listen when you have time. Here is my interview with the host, Lizbeth Meredith. Once you have heard it, I hope you felt rewarded for listening to our interview. It is a mix of my daughter's tragedy, but also life-saving advice on how to be a survivor and break free from an abuser. There is nothing like regaining your freedom. NOTE: If you are a surviv...
Sep 10, 2024•55 min•Season 4Ep. 47
The two episodes in this story come with content warnings. This is part two of a two-part story. You may find when listening to this story that the content is too intense for you. If that becomes the case, I strongly urge you: do not continue listening. The descriptions tell of the intense emotional and physical abuse a husband put upon his wife. I thought many times about whether to publish this story, but I promised myself years ago that listeners deserved the option of knowing about the worst...
Sep 04, 2024•1 hr 2 min
The two episodes in this story come with content warnings. This is part one. You may find when listening to this story that the content is too intense for you. If that becomes the case, I strongly urge you: do not continue listening. The descriptions tell of the intense emotional and physical abuse a husband put upon his wife. I thought many times about whether to publish this story, but I promised myself years ago that listeners deserved the option of knowing about the worst of dating and domes...
Sep 03, 2024•55 min
Abigail was 18 when she met him. She was taken by the idea that he played in a very well-known Seattle band. The idea that he wanted to pay attention to her thrilled Abigail. By the way, this man was 28. See how a young woman who trusted someone she didn't know well was lured into a hyper-unhealthy relationship. She learned the hard way about what can happen. We can each learn from her. Abigail had not intended to take her story to the world until she heard the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. We than...
Aug 27, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Season 4Ep. 46
I was urged to run this episode again. IT'S THAT POWERFUL! So, it's back once more! One of our well-informed WHEN DATING HURTS listeners sent me an email with a list of things you must do before leaving your abuser. In this episode, you will hear the kinds of items a domestic violence counselor will tell you while figuring out your escape plan to safety. This is a short episode, but one of our most valuable. Have a pen and paper handy so don't miss a thing. Share this episode with friends and fa...
Aug 20, 2024•15 min•Season 4Ep. 36
There are so few instances when a man has come forward to tell his story of marital abuse. In this case, he was almost murdered. That is why we decided to reprise this story. It is so compelling. We apologize for some of the buzzing on this track, and we hope it does not interfere with your listening to it. J.D. McCabe maintained a loving relationship with his wife for nearly twenty years before their marriage, family, and world began to crumble. Their foundation had been rooted in "trust is the...
Aug 13, 2024•1 hr 8 min•Season 4Ep. 35
Living in Ontario, Canada a few years ago, Maggie and her husband were wondering what was going on with Alyssa. They saw bothersome warning signs around her, but Alyssa's parents were at a loss trying to figure out exactly what was going on. Alyssa had dropped out of many school activities, she stopped interacting with friends, she changed the way she dressed, and her marks dropped. She had already suffered from anxiety, but it seemed to be getting worse. A breakthrough came when two of Alyssa's...
Aug 06, 2024•51 min•Season 4Ep. 45
With survivor stories, it is so disturbing to hear what one person has done to another person. In these stories, it is always an ongoing pattern or campaign. It’s never just one instance or one awful act. In this episode, we speak with Josephine. She will tell us about childhood abuse, intimate partner, violence, psychological abuse, sexual assault, and even reproductive coercion. We want to thank Josephine for showing such courage and coming forth to tell us her story. Her life has taken her do...
Jul 30, 2024•1 hr 19 min•Season 4Ep. 44
This is Hera’s story. On Oct. 20, 2012, Hera McLeod’s ex-boyfriend murdered her 15-month-old son. He killed him to get more than $500,000 in life insurance. Few of our episodes have more twists and turns than this one. You will not be able to guess what Hera discovered about her psychopath ex-boyfriend. He was a predator beyond our wildest nightmares. You need to hear this one. Today, Hera McLeod is a Washington, DC-based writer, speaker, and civil rights activist. She is known for speaking out ...
Jul 23, 2024•49 min•Season 4Ep. 43
This is part two of our two-part interview with Kathleen. She will tell us about more than one ill-fated relationship with the men she dated. With the last one, she became pregnant. That is when all of his abusive behavior, selfish style, and narcissistic personality was on full display. We will see the many times she gave second chances to her boyfriend, Al. But, no matter what she tried, he never found it within himself to come around and support her. Kathleen deserves our respect for being a ...
Jul 17, 2024•58 min•Season 4Ep. 40
This is part one of our two-part interview with Kathleen. She will tell us about more than one ill-fated relationship with the men she dated. With the last one, she became pregnant. That is when all of his abusive behavior, selfish style, and narcissistic personality was on full display. We will see the many times she gave second chances to her boyfriend, Al. But, no matter what she tried, he never found it within himself to come around and support her. Kathleen deserves our respect for being a ...
Jul 16, 2024•56 min•Season 4Ep. 39
In this special episode, we examine 10 classic warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. We also take another look at "The Template Every Abuser Follows". Then we talk about the many differences between a healthy and an unhealthy relationship. Within this episode, we describe what dating abuse and domestic violence are. NOTE: If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com The WHEN DATING HURTS book...
Jul 09, 2024•40 min•Season 4Ep. 38
This time, I am interviewing Brandon Chadwick, the esteemed host of Narcissist Apocalypse podcast. Narcissist Apocalypse is a raw and unfiltered podcast that gives a voice to survivors of domestic violence. Brandon Chadwick has been interviewing guests since 2019. Specifically, interviewing survivors of narcissistic and domestic violence abuse. Brandon has published over 250 survivor stories. He has interviewed subject matter experts, therapists, lawyers, domestic violence advocates, and domesti...
Jul 05, 2024•44 min•Season 4Ep. 37
