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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Being Late for Surprise Parties, Sending Provocative Selfies, Lighting Candles, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle being late for surprise parties, sending provocative selfies, lighting candles, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Blackening candle wicks A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using Uber and Lyft QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the best way to handle being late for a surp...

Apr 19, 202145 minEp. 84

Buying Engagement Rings, Eating Lunches on Zoom, Snapping at Waiters, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about spending three months' salary on engagement rings, eating lunches during Zoom meetings, snapping at waiters to get their attention, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend that doesn't want me to bring guacamole t...

Apr 12, 202125 minEp. 83

Asking About Botox, Reaching for the Right Glass, Stealing Packages, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking people if they've had Botox, reaching for the right glassware at dinner parties, stealing packages from mailboxes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Which water glass is yours A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Moving QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about a f...

Apr 05, 202141 minEp. 82

Strip Mining Tarte Tatins, Paying What You Think Is Fair, Eating Quail With Your Hands, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about strip mining Tarte Tatins, paying "whatever you think is fair," eating quail with your hands, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is rude about my step-daughter eating just the apples out of my Tarte Tatin? How do I handle situation...

Mar 29, 202137 minEp. 81

Eating Kit Kat Bars, Wearing Perfumes, Forcing Cake Forks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Kit Kat bars, wearing perfumes and colognes, forcing guests to use cake forks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Asparagus A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Wearing perfumes and colognes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm left handed...what should I do about a host wh...

Mar 22, 202142 minEp. 80

Burdening Friends with Cake, Ousting Toxic Club Members, Tidying Up Messy Schools, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about burdening friends with chocolate cake, dealing with toxic club members, tidying up messy piano schools, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I tell my son's piano school they need to clean up? How do I avoid sending the Zillow link...

Mar 15, 202125 minEp. 79

Enjoying Pho, Harassing Celebrities, Profiting Off Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Vietnamese soups, spotting celebrities in public, profiting off friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Phở A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Seeing celebrities in public QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about a friend who is profiting off of her fri...

Mar 08, 202135 minEp. 78

Trespassing Nomads, Getting Loud in Hot Tubs, Receiving Unwanted Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sleeping in friends' houses without permission, enjoying hot tubs at night, thanking people for unwanted gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend who stayed in my apartment without my permission? How to I ha...

Mar 01, 202130 minEp. 77

Saving Water in Japan, Smoking on Gondolas, Using Treadmill Desks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle saving water in Japanese bathrooms, behaving properly on the ski slopes, using treadmill desks while on Zoom, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Otohime (音姫) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Skiing QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to be using a treadmill desk while on...

Feb 22, 202145 minEp. 76

Screaming Out of Limousines, Loading Dishwashers Properly, Keeping Unwanted Photos, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about screaming out of limousine sunroofs, loading dishwashers the right way, keeping unwanted photos from friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave a note on a dishwasher about how to load it? What do I say to people wh...

Feb 15, 202126 minEp. 75

Eating King Cakes, Hijacking Vacations, Finding Surprises in the Trash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating king cakes, hijacking vacation plans, finding surprises left in the trash, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: King Cake A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using other people's trashcans when cleaning up after your dog QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to be on spe...

Feb 08, 202140 minEp. 74

Eating Spaghetti, Avoiding Chatty Neighbors, Starving at Dinner Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating spaghetti properly, avoiding chatty neighbors, attending dinner parties without enough food, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the proper way to eat spaghetti? What should I do about coworkers who said rude things during ...

Feb 01, 202128 minEp. 73

Showing Up Empty-Handed, Riding French Elevators, Having Nice Weekends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle showing up at dinner parties empty-handed, riding elevators in France, being unapologetic about having nice weekends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: What to say in a French elevator A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: What to bring to a dinner party QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDE...

Jan 25, 202140 minEp. 72

Wearing Sequins, Flirting Politely, Thanking Good Samaritans, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about wearing sequins during the day, commenting on appearances when flirting, thanking good Samaritans for their help, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to invite people to a party when you're not the host? Is it rude to wear seq...

Jan 18, 202132 minEp. 71

Paying for Party Crashers, Sharing Pregnancy News, Drinking Cappuccinos in Italy, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle paying for people who crash your dinner parties, congratulating friends who are pregnant, drinking cappuccinos in Italy after 11am, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Drinking cappuccinos in Italy after 11am A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Reacting to news a friend is pregn...

Jan 11, 202144 minEp. 70

Stealing People's Spotlights, Tipping While Bartering, Leaving Negative Reviews, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about making major life announcements at other people's parties, tipping while bartering, leaving negative reviews, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to make a life announcement about yourself at someone else's party? In Sydney, h...

Jan 04, 202127 minEp. 69

Eating Caviar, Imagining Etiquette of the Future, Hiding During Video Conferences, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating caviar, imaging what etiquette might look like in 300 years, turning your camera off during video conferences, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to eat caviar A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Etiquette in the future QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you have ...

Dec 28, 202044 minEp. 68

Sharing Sonograms, Sending Company-wide Emails, Cleaning AirBNBs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about declining to see people's sonograms, sending company-wide emails, cleaning AirBNBs before departure, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you don't want to see someone's ultrasound photos? How do you stop people from wan...

Dec 21, 202026 minEp. 67

Flying on Private Planes, Forgetting To Take Gum Out, Blowing Leaves Blindly, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle traveling with VIPs on private planes, forgetting to take gum out at dinner parties, blowing leaves into neighbors' yards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Flying on a private plane with a VIP person from the government A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to disagree QUES...

Dec 14, 202042 minEp. 66

Napping Without Permission, Removing Price Tags, Positioning Toilet Lids, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about napping guests, removing price tags on gifts, leaving toilet lids up, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for guests to nap in the living room? How do I navigate my office's holiday gift giving culture? Is it rude to write per...

Dec 07, 202029 minEp. 65

Tipping at the Holidays, Ordering Too Much at Drive-Thrus, Begging for Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle tipping at the holidays, ordering too much at drive-thru windows, begging people to buy you presents, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Circumambulation at a Buddhist temple A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Christmas Tipping QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond to ...

Nov 30, 202042 minEp. 64

Hanging Wind Chimes, Questioning People's Choices, Being Overly Competitive, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hanging wind chimes in your back yard, questioning people's life choices, being overly competitive about a dog costume contest, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to have wind chimes in your yard? What do you say to people wh...

Nov 23, 202032 minEp. 63

Eating French Cheeses, Going Home for the Holidays, Blowing Up Other People's Credit Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating cheeses at French dinner parties, going home for the holidays, blowing up other people's credit cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The cheese course at a French dinner party A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being a good houseguest when home for the holidays QUE...

Nov 16, 202042 minEp. 62

Flipping through Wall Calendars, Enduring Boring Relatives, Waiting to be Noticed, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about flipping through people's wall calendars, enduring boring conversations with relatives, waiting for people to notice you when you walk into a room, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to flip through someone's wall calendar? H...

Nov 09, 202031 minEp. 61

Asking for Favors, Borrowing Spices, Using Service Plates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking people for favors, letting people know their spices have expired, using service plates the right way, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Chargers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking for favors QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I tell my neighbor her spices hav...

Nov 02, 202044 minEp. 60

Gifting Peacocks, Paying with Benjamins, Ignoring DMs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending thank you notes for peacocks, asking to be seated away from other diners in restaurants, ignoring people's DMs on social media, paying with $100 bills, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you write a thank you note for a p...

Oct 26, 202027 minEp. 59

Touching Fruit in Italy, Flossing in Public, Answering the Door in a Robe, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle buying produce in Italy, going on a job interview, flossing in public, opening your door in a robe, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Buying produce in Italy A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going on a job interview QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to ask someone t...

Oct 19, 202040 minEp. 58

Asking Doctors to Wash Their Hands, Waiting for Bosses to Show Up, Yawning Too Much, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about asking doctors to wash their hands before an exam, waiting for bosses who are never on time to meetings, telling therapists that they are yawning too much, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How can I tell my doctor to wash his hands be...

Oct 12, 202027 minEp. 57

Poaching Friends, Putting Elbows on Tables, Refusing Old Soup, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle putting elbows on tables, poaching friends, refusing old soup, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Elbows on the table A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Friend poaching QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I decline old lentil soup from a friend? Is it OK to send thank you no...

Oct 05, 202041 minEp. 56

Hosting Against Your Will, Reheating Leftovers at the Office, Inviting Yourself to Events, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about being forced to host against your will, inviting yourself to events, reheating leftovers at the office, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK that my husband doesn't want to take my leftovers to reheat at the office? What do I do ...

Sep 28, 202028 minEp. 55