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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Eco-shaming Friends, Giving Gifts in China, Visiting a Hospital, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving gifts in China, visiting people in a hospital, eco-shaming friends, falling asleep on the subway, using "san" in Japanese correspondence, getting people sick, choosing the right fork, sending us calligraphy, leaving out cookies, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUC...

Feb 24, 202041 minEp. 24

Criticizing Wedding Dresses, Spreading Rumors, Splitting Cupcakes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about criticizing someone's wedding dress, drying your hands without towels, dealing with nasty rumors, handling someone who always criticizes their own body, feeling obligated to make someone a bridesmaid, missing cutlery at a dinner party, handling in-laws who arrive hours early, taking just half a cupcake, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Ha...

Feb 17, 202031 minEp. 23

Stealing Baby Names, Ignoring Emails, Garnishing Without Consent, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using unlucky numbers, handling conversations with people who don't ask questions, stealing baby names, being asked to chaperone a children's party when your own child isn't invited, garnishing dishes without consent, ignoring emails, buttering dinner rolls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPIS...

Feb 10, 202044 minEp. 22

Snuggling Aggressively, Giving Damaged Gifts, Tipping Only 1%, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dealing with damaged gifts, giving Starbucks a fake name, splitting an AirBNB fairly, handling PDAs on a school trip, leaving low tips, tipping on expensive spa procedures, explaining to a friend why they're not invited to your home, powering your phone all the way off, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text...

Feb 03, 202031 minEp. 21

Sabotaging Recipes, Tossing Napkins, Blocking Stairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using napkins, behaving at a live performance, redeeming gift cards, sharing cake recipes, departing earlier than expected, being distracted on stairs, leaning into other diners, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkin etiquette A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to beha...

Jan 27, 202042 minEp. 20

Returning Wedding Gifts, Paying for Birthday Parties, Locking Out Relatives, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about paying for your own birthday party, picking the right urinal, bumping into passengers on an airplane, distracting relatives, trying to exit a crowded bus, choosing between the banquette and the chair, sending wedding gifts back after a wedding is called off, refusing to eat at a dinner party, bringing opened food to a dinner party, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written th...

Jan 20, 202034 minEp. 19

Reclining on an Airplane, Using Finger Bowls, Hitting Reply All, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using finger bowls, emailing the right way, reclining on an airplane, remembering birthdays, using business' bathrooms when you're not a customer, speaking Spanish around non-Spanish speakers, declining free samples, clearing plates at restaurants, losing keys, singing our theme song, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW ...

Jan 13, 202041 minEp. 18

Unloading Emotional Baggage, Planting Cherry Trees, Humming Aggressively, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about unloading emotional baggage on your friends, removing offensive taxidermy, texting at the theatre, commenting on people's body size, getting out of conversations at Whole Foods, eating loudly at the office, taking up too much space at a café, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask...

Jan 06, 202038 minEp. 17

Clinking Glasses, Making Eye Contact on the Subway, Tipping Tow Truck Drivers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving and receiving toasts, behaving properly in New York City, offering guests tours of your home, tipping tow truck drivers, giving aspirational presents to friends trying to lose weight, arriving at exercise classes late, being surprised by unlisted ingredients at a restaurant, buying new luggage, being delighted by a surprise treat, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could....

Dec 30, 201940 minEp. 16

Regifting Fruitcakes, Partying at the Office, Taking Down Your Tree, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this holiday-theme bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about behaving at your office holiday party, sending Amazon Wish Lists to your Secret Santa, dealing with a Secret Santa who's no longer with the company, responding to work emails the day before and after Christmas, regifting, giving people fruitcakes, making handmade gifts for friends, tipping parking garage attendants, hiding from family and friends when going home for the holidays, ta...

Dec 23, 201924 minEp. 15

Using Chopsticks in a Thai Restaurant, Being Prompt, Giving People Personal Space, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using chopsticks in a Thai restaurant, being prompt, asking people to "watch your stuff" at a café or airport, queuing properly at a supermarket, asking for more bread at a restaurant, honking at cars as soon as the light turns green, giving people personal space when dining, asking people to remember your name, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? ...

Dec 16, 201936 minEp. 14

Greeting with a Kiss, Going Rogue at a Dinner Party, Getting Catfished, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this extended bonus segment, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about greeting people with kisses, dealing with rogue dinner party guests, deciding who should go first in a buffet line, removing fish bones from your mouth, giving gifts that need to be displayed, leaving your phone number in a voicemail, stripping sheets when you're a houseguest, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for ...

Dec 09, 201928 minEp. 13

Eating Soup, Giving Compliments, Entering Without Knocking, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soup, giving and receiving compliments, doing business with rude people, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to eat soup A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Giving and receiving compliments QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to do business with people who have bad man...

Dec 02, 201929 minEp. 12

Talking Politics, Being Vegan, Saying Grace, Bringing Tupperware, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this Thanksgiving-themed bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about talking politics at the dinner table, bringing flowers without a vase, arriving and departing at appropriate times, selecting good gifts for the host, being gluten-free and vegan, saying "grace" if you're atheist, hating turkey, bringing your own Tupperware for leftovers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a questio...

Nov 25, 201928 minEp. 11

Ordering Wine in a Restaurant, Writing Condolence Letters, Talking in Elevators, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle ordering wine in a restaurant, writing condolence letters, saying farewell to colleagues when leaving a job, correcting people who spell your name wrong, getting dragged into other people's problems, talking in elevators, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to ord...

Nov 18, 201936 minEp. 10

Texting Late at Night, Escaping Dinner Parties, Regifting Dreamcatchers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending texts late at night, escaping long dinner parties, telling people their fly is down, receiving unusually large gifts, waiting for people to retrieve their finished laundry so you can use the machine, abandoning a friend without Global Entry, returning missed calls when there's no message, regifting dreamcatchers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if w...

Nov 11, 201926 minEp. 9

Eating Grapes the Wrong Way, Exercising in the Airplane Bulkhead, Texting Thank You Notes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating grapes correctly, using foreign words in conversation, bringing wedding gifts to the ceremony, following up with someone who doesn't send a thank you note, sending thank you notes via text, stretching your legs in the bulkhead on an airplane, wearing earphones when not listening to anything, criticizing live performances while you're still in the venue, taking too long to fill up your water bottle at the gym, and much m...

Nov 04, 201933 minEp. 8

Halloween Helpings: Dealing with Greedy Children, Choosing Appropriate Costumes, Being Too Old for Trick-or-Treating, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions how to choose appropriate costumes, whether gore is OK at the office, cultural appreciation versus appropriation, how old is too old for trick-or-treating, what to do about greedy children at your door, and more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's consider...

Oct 28, 201913 minEp. 7

Removing Socks on Airplanes, Splitting Bills at Brunch, Hosting Weddings on Grass, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using wooden Japanese chopsticks, asking people "What do you do?", cleaning your host's filthy home in the middle of the night, removing your socks on an airplane, splitting the bill at brunch, disclosing environmental hazards to your wedding guests, being too folksy in a restaurant, giving bad directions to strangers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question f...

Oct 21, 201932 minEp. 6

Leaving Your Spouse in Coach, Confronting Celebrity Neighbors, Avoiding Obnoxious Colleagues, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about whether you have to upgrade your spouse if you're flying in business class, how to avoid inviting an obnoxious colleague to a party, when it's appropriate to burp in public, what to do about a celebrity neighbor who won't take a hint, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUE...

Oct 14, 201921 minEp. 5

Congratulating Brides, Sending Food Back, Leaving Voicemails, Remembering Names, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle proper greetings for brides, sending food back at restaurants, charging guests at weddings, remembering names at parties, leaving voicemails, standing too close on the subway, and more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: What not to say to a bride A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Rememberi...

Oct 07, 201928 minEp. 4

Wearing Windsuits, Ghosting Colleagues, Seasoning Food, Flagging Waiters, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about being forced to wear a windsuit at work, what to do if you're being professionally ghosted, whether or not it's rude to salt your food before tasting it, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it ok to listen to music on your phone on sp...

Sep 30, 201926 minEp. 3

Popping Champagne, Cancelling Plans, Double-Dipping, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle popping champagne bottles, cancelling plans the right way, double-dipping when you're dining alone, giving up your seat to the elderly, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to open a champagne bottle A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cancelling plans on others QUESTIONS FRO...

Sep 23, 201921 minEp. 2

Snooping in Medicine Cabinets, Tipping on Take-out, Going to the Opera, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing dishes at a dinner party, behaving at the opera, posting photos of others on social media, tipping on take-out, snooping in medicine cabinets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing platters at a dinner party BE OUR GUEST: Sam Neuman, Opera Expert A QUEST...

Sep 09, 201931 minEp. 1

Sneak Peek: Were you raised by wolves?

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and stand-up comic Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Suppo...

Aug 27, 20194 min