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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Demanding Birthday Cake, Putting Time Limits on Meals, Getting Nosy at the Pharmacy, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about demanding birthday cake, putting time limits on meals, getting nosy at the pharmacy, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to ask for birthday cake before the guest of honor blows out the candles? Is it OK to be salty for not receivin...

Jul 24, 202330 minEp. 191

Suspending Coffee, Being A Good Customer, Eating on Camera, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle suspending coffee in Naples, being a good customer, eating on camera, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Caffè sospeso (suspended coffee) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being a good customer QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to use a food gift certificate and eat on...

Jul 17, 202347 minEp. 190

SUMMER BREAK: Going Camping, Being Uninvited to Weddings, Giving Gift Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle going camping, being uninvited to weddings, giving gift cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCH...

Jul 10, 202345 min

SUMMER BREAK: Gaslighting Bosses, Addressing Postcards, Trashing Swag, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about showing up for parties that aren't happening, addressing postcards to households, trashing promotional swag, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we had your address.) Have a question for us? Ca...

Jul 03, 202336 min

Sharing Casino Winnings, Taking Photos at Landmarks, Honking at Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sharing casino winnings, taking photos at landmarks, honking at friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are there any etiquette rules for splitting casino winnings? What is the etiquette for taking photos at popular attractions and landma...

Jun 26, 202324 minEp. 189

Wording Wedding Invitations, Behaving on Trains, Picking Strangers' Figs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wording wedding invitations, behaving on trains, picking strangers' figs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Wedding invitation wording A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Trains QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to pick someone's figs if the branches are overhanging a pu...

Jun 19, 202344 minEp. 188

Grabbing Fresher Milk, Escaping Unwanted Reunions, Returning Bad Sangria, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about grabbing fresher milk in supermarkets, escaping unwanted reunions, returning bad sangria, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: In a supermarket, it OK to take the fresher milk from the back of the shelf? Is it now common place for people to ask...

Jun 12, 202327 minEp. 187

Handling Chronic Complainers, Paying Bar Tabs, Choosing Garnishes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle handling chronic complainers, paying bar tabs, choosing the right garnishes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sushi 2.0 A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Chronic complainers QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I only pay what I owe for a friend's bar birthday party? What ...

Jun 05, 202347 minEp. 186

HOLIDAY BREAK: Flying the Flag at Half-Staff, Being the Perfect House Sitter, Using Charity Return Address Stickers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day, being the perfect house sitter, using the free return address stickers from charities, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or ...

May 29, 202338 min

Insulting People's Talent, Ignoring Polite Signs, Flying Without Headphones, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about insulting people's talent, ignoring polite signs, flying without headphones, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you respond when someone insults your talent? Should you turn off your engine at a bank drive-thru if a sign requests it? I...

May 22, 202333 minEp. 185

Giving Anniversary Gifts, Enjoying Theme Parks, Sharing Hotel Rooms, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving anniversary gifts, enjoying theme parks, sharing hotel rooms, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Traditional wedding anniversary gifts A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Theme parks QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Was I disinvited to my colleague's wedding because I'm go...

May 15, 202348 minEp. 184

Skipping Sit-Down Dinners, Using Too Many Towels, Upgrading Friends on Flights, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about skipping sit-down dinners at weddings, using too many towels, upgrading friends on flights, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do people expect a sit-down dinner at a wedding in exchange for their attendance and gift? What do I do about someo...

May 08, 202329 minEp. 183

Eating Artichokes, Enjoying Airport Lounges, Tucking In Chairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating artichokes, enjoying airport lounges, tucking in chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Artichokes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Airport lounges QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's a "wedding gift opening party"? Should you ask fellow patrons at a bar to slid...

May 01, 202336 minEp. 182

Escaping Charity Solicitations, Writing Wedding Invitations, Ghosting Hair Dressers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about escaping charity solicitations, writing wedding invitations properly, ghosting hair dressers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Does it matter in what order people are addressed in a business email or on a conference call? How do we get out ...

Apr 24, 202328 minEp. 181

Enjoying a Fika in Sweden, Staying at Bed & Breakfasts, Telling Guests What Not To Bring, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying a fika in Sweden, staying at bed and breakfasts, telling guests what not to bring to your party, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Fika A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Bed & Breakfasts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should both my partner and I sign a wedding card...

Apr 17, 202342 minEp. 180

SPRING BREAK: Eating Like Europeans, Signing Business Emails, Giving Repeat Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating like Europeans, signing business emails, giving repeat gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE...

Apr 10, 202338 min

Invoicing Guests for Parties, Spitting in Public, Ruining Spa Days, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about invoicing guests for parties, spitting in public, ruining spa days, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What reasons should I give my mother-in-law for why I'm not using the wallet she gave me? Can we ask guests to chip in for a murder mystery...

Apr 03, 202326 minEp. 179

Sending Wedding Cards to Exes, Being Polite to Smart Speakers, Asking People for Favors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle sending wedding cards to exes, being polite to Siri and Alexa, asking people for favors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: "Il Galateo" by Giovanni della Cassa A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Riding in cars QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I send a card to my ex who i...

Mar 27, 202340 minEp. 178

Tossing Food at Hotels, Sharing Discount Tips, Entering Without Knocking, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about tossing unopened food at hotels, sharing discount tips with friends, entering rooms without knocking, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should we toss our unopened food when we're leaving a hotel? Is it rude to ask people to take time off to...

Mar 20, 202323 minEp. 177

Passing Salt and Pepper, Asking for Pickles, Running Into Acquaintances, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing salt and pepper, asking people if they're going to eat their pickles, running into acquaintances at bars, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing salt and pepper A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Menu substitutions and secret menus QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Ho...

Mar 13, 202349 minEp. 176

Correcting People's Grammar, Declining Expensive Invitations, Sharing EV Charging Stations, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about correcting people's grammar, declining expensive invitations, sharing electric vehicle charging stations, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When is it OK to correct someone's grammar or punctuation? Are you obligated to share a taxi with som...

Mar 06, 202323 minEp. 175

Throwing Bridal Showers, Losing Lasagna Privileges, Contacting Noisy Neighbors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle throwing bridal parties, losing lasagna privileges, contacting noisy neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bridal Showers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Co-working Spaces QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I handle a late cancellation for a lasagna dinner pa...

Feb 27, 202345 minEp. 174

Holiday Break: Cutting Lines, Answering Phones, Picking Berries, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle answering phones, cutting lines, telling restaurants it's your birthday, selling items online, responding to rude customer service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or te...

Feb 20, 202342 min

Taking Calls on Treadmills, Discarding Broken Freezers, Surviving Middle School, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking phone calls on treadmills, discarding broken freezers, surviving middle school, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: At the gym, is it considered rude to be on a phone call while on a treadmill? We were gifted a broken freezer...how do w...

Feb 13, 202325 minEp. 173

Eating Cake With Ice Cream, Behaving in Movie Theaters, Cutting Nails in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating cake with ice cream, behaving in movie theaters, cutting nails in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Eating cake with ice cream A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Movie Theatres QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to send a gift with "signature required"? ...

Feb 06, 202340 minEp. 172

Returning Dirty Handkerchiefs, Reading Office Emails Aloud, Getting Permission from References, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about returning dirty handkerchiefs, reading office emails aloud, getting permission from professional references, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's proper handkerchief etiquette? What should I do about a coworker who reads all his emails o...

Jan 30, 202327 minEp. 171

Eating Rambutans, Using QR Code Menus, Paying For Free Theatre, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating rambutans, using QR Code menus in restaurants, paying for free theatre tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Rambutans A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: QR code menus in restaurants QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about a friend who promised to ta...

Jan 23, 202340 minEp. 170

Sharing French Fries Fairly, Doing Dishes Incorrectly, Inviting Enemies to Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sharing french fries fairly, doing dishes incorrectly, inviting enemies to parties, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If one person asks another for a bite of food, who gets to pick the bite? What do I do about my father-in-law who does not ...

Jan 16, 202322 minEp. 169

Eating Off Trenchers, Butting Into Conversations, Serving Instant Coffee, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating off of trenchers, butting into conversations, serving instant coffee to guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Trenchers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Butting into conversations QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm not a coffee drinker, but should I offer coffee ...

Jan 09, 202343 minEp. 168

Holiday Break: Giving Red Envelopes, Reseating in Theaters, Cancelling on Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle giving red envelopes in China, reseating people in metaphorical theaters, cancelling on friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrb...

Jan 02, 202343 min