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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Eating Off Trenchers, Butting Into Conversations, Serving Instant Coffee, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating off of trenchers, butting into conversations, serving instant coffee to guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Trenchers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Butting into conversations QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm not a coffee drinker, but should I offer coffee ...

Jan 09, 202343 minEp. 168

Holiday Break: Giving Red Envelopes, Reseating in Theaters, Cancelling on Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle giving red envelopes in China, reseating people in metaphorical theaters, cancelling on friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrb...

Jan 02, 202343 min

Holiday Break: Tipping at the Holidays, Ordering Too Much at Drive-Thrus, Begging for Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle tipping at the holidays, ordering too much at drive-thru windows, begging people to buy you presents, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrb...

Dec 26, 202243 min

Blasting Holiday Lights, Announcing Weddings in Holiday Cards, Reciprocating Expensive Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about blasting holiday lights, announcing weddings in holiday cards, reciprocating expensive gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about my neighbor's too-bright holiday display? Is it OK to announce our wedding engagement in o...

Dec 19, 202231 minEp. 167

Surviving the Holidays, Running in Cemeteries, Using Enormous Napkins, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle surviving the holidays, running in cemeteries, using enormous napkins, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: George Washington's etiquette book A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Surviving the holidays QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle a dinner out with people I don'...

Dec 12, 202240 minEp. 166

Picking the Correct Utensil for Mac and Cheese, Spelling Like an Australian, Lingering Past Closing Time, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about picking the correct utensil for mac and cheese, spelling like an Australian, lingering in stores after they're closed, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the correct utensil for eating macaroni and cheese? Should we let our best frien...

Dec 05, 202228 minEp. 165

Double-Dipping in Fondue, Ignoring Grandchildren, Squeaking at the Theatre, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating fondue, ignoring grandchildren, making squeaky noises at the theatre, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Fondue A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Secret Santa QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I get people to stop giving me peach-themed items? What is to be done ab...

Nov 28, 202243 minEp. 164

Enjoying Fancy Hotel Baths, Waking Snoring People, Returning Caning Jars, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about enjoying fancy baths in hotels, waking people who are snoring, returning canning jars, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette around "bath menus" in fancy hotels? Is a "thank you" text enough for a shopping trip with relativ...

Nov 21, 202227 minEp. 163

Toasting in Hungary, Dining Alone, Regifting Host Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle toasting with beer in Hungary, dining alone, regifting host gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Toasting with beer in Hungary A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dining alone QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to regift wine back to the original giver? Should I wai...

Nov 14, 202236 minEp. 162

Asking for Doggie Bags, Sharing Train Outlets, Bringing Your Own Water, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about asking for doggie bags in restaurants, sharing the power outlets on trains, bringing your own water when you're a houseguest, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to ask for a to-go box at a restaurant? Is it rude for a friend to invit...

Nov 07, 202230 minEp. 161

Enjoying Tuscan Bread, Handling Difficult Bridesmaids, Avoiding Gate Lice, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying Tuscan bread, handling difficult bridesmaids, blocking the boarding process at airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Pane Toscano (Tuscan bread) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Book clubs QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle a friend who doesn't ta...

Oct 31, 202242 minEp. 160

Verifying Wedding RSVPs, Hogging Restaurant Gift Certificates, Using Hosts' Expensive Bath Products, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about verifying wedding RSVPs, hogging restaurant gift certificates, using hosts' expensive bath products, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do if I'm not sure if I actually RSVP'd to a wedding? Am I responsible if someone else paid ...

Oct 24, 202230 minEp. 159

Eating Sushi Properly, Donating Items to Charity, Arguing During Zumba Class, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating sushi the right way, donating items to charity, arguing during Zumba class, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sushi A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Donating items to charity QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should my daughter bring a gift to a last-minute birthday par...

Oct 17, 202240 minEp. 158

Holiday Break: Being Late for Surprise Parties, Sending Provocative Selfies, Lighting Candles, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle being late for surprise parties, sending provocative selfies, lighting candles, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CON...

Oct 10, 202246 min

Escaping Excessive Birthday Plans, Updating Professional References, Sharing Phone Chargers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about escaping excessive birthday plans, updating professional references, sharing phone chargers with guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I just celebrate a friend's birthday instead of their birth month? How can I let a professional...

Oct 03, 202224 minEp. 157

Celebrating Bidet Day, Living in Dorm Rooms, Withholding Pony Rides, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bidets properly, living with others in dorm rooms, withholding pony rides from guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bidets A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dorm Rooms QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are you obligated to talk to fellow passengers on an airplane? Sh...

Sep 26, 202240 minEp. 156

Sending Electronic Birthday Cards, Telling People You're Moving, Making Voice Calls on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending electronic birthday cards, telling people you're moving out of state, making voice calls on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do if I've overheard an unkind conversation about me? How do I stop a friend from send...

Sep 19, 202224 minEp. 155

Enjoying High Tea, Overcoming Terrible Handwriting, Tipping for Gas in New Jersey, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying high tea, overcoming terrible handwriting, tipping for gas in New Jersey, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: High tea versus afternoon tea A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Driving QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you overcome terrible handwriting? I forgot a fa...

Sep 12, 202244 minEp. 154

Holiday Break: Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating Peking Duck, borrowing DVDs without returning them, flaunting office ice cube rules, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com...

Sep 05, 202248 min

Wearing Hotel Robes, RSVPing with Explanations, Waving on Rural Roads, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about wearing hotel robes outside hotel rooms, giving explanations for RSVPs, waving on rural roads, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to wear a hotel robe from your room to the hotel pool? Should I give an explanation on the RSVP card fo...

Aug 29, 202229 minEp. 153

Going Camping, Being Uninvited to Weddings, Giving Gift Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle going camping, being uninvited to weddings, giving gift cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: V/r in emails A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Camping QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I still go to the rehearsal dinner after being uninvited to a wedding? Should you wr...

Aug 22, 202244 minEp. 152

Harvesting Office Cilantro, Returning Dirty Aprons, Painting Nails on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about harvesting cilantro at the office, returning dirty aprons, painting nails on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a coworker who picked all the cilantro in our office garden? How do I decline to say hello on speake...

Aug 15, 202230 minEp. 151

Slurping Ice Cream Sodas, Shopping at Farmers Markets, Finding Silver Linings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle slurping ice cream sodas, shopping at farmers markets, finding silver linings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Ice cream sodas A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Farmers markets QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it weird to ask guests to make their beds with hospital corner...

Aug 08, 202246 minEp. 150

Giving People Shopping Lists, Receiving Mysterious Gifts, Ruining People's Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about giving people shopping lists, receiving gifts from mysterious senders, ruining people's weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I tell people I don't want to shop for them on my vacation in Milan? What do I do about a gift from an...

Aug 01, 202232 minEp. 149

Behaving In Group Fitness Classes, Being Nosy About Engagement Rings, Littering in Rome, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle behaving properly in group fitness class, being nosy about people's engagement rings, littering in Rome, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Holding glasses at cocktail parties A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Group Fitness Classes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I say...

Jul 25, 202240 minEp. 148

Leaving Items Behind, Using Postcards for Wedding Thank You Notes, Talking Loudly on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about houseguests leaving items behind, using postcards for wedding thank you notes, talking loudly on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to do a house sweep for forgotten items before a houseguest departs? Do I have to offer ch...

Jul 18, 202227 minEp. 147

Eating Soup Dumplings, Navigating Airport Security, Waving While Driving, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soup dumplings, navigating airport security, waving while driving, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Xiao Long Bao (小籠包) (Soup dumplings) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Airport security QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you have to put your fork down between bites?...

Jul 11, 202245 minEp. 146

Summer Break: Attending Polo Matches, Inquiring About Missing Invitations, Receiving Outrageous Emails, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite summer episodes from the archives in which they tackle attending polo matches, inquiring about missing invitations, receiving outrageous emails, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrb...

Jul 04, 202240 min

Sharing Combs at Gyms, Hijacking Hiking Plans, Starting Toilet Paper Rolls, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sharing disposable combs at the gym, hijacking hiking plans, starting toilet paper rolls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about someone at the gym putting used combs back into a communal jar? What do I say when someone asks if...

Jun 27, 202234 minEp. 145

Eating Pizza, Singing Karaoke, Criticizing Cultures, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating pizza the right way, singing karaoke in groups, criticizing other cultures, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Pizza A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Karaoke QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I clarify whether or not I'll be paid to paint at a friend's wedding? Is...

Jun 20, 202241 minEp. 144