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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Removing Shoes at Weddings, Opening Neighbors' Mail, Being Empty-Handed at Potlucks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about removing your shoes at wedding receptions, accidentally opening neighbors' mail, showing up empty handed to potlucks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the time limit for letting a friend know it wasn't appreciated that she showed up ...

Jun 13, 202224 minEp. 143

Throwing Parties for Disliked Bosses, Taking Responsibility for Dryer Lint, Cleaning Rugs Late at Night, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle throwing parties for disliked bosses, taking responsibility for dryer lint, cleaning rugs late at night, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Where to keep your hands while eating in France A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Walking tours QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do we hav...

Jun 06, 202243 minEp. 142

Going to Drive-Thrus Near Closing Time, Asking for Drink Refills, Throwing Parties During Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about going to drive-thrus near closing time, asking for drink refills, throwing parties during weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette for ordering from a drive-thru that's about to close? How do I stop my friends from c...

May 30, 202226 minEp. 141

Drinking Tea with Milk, Wearing Bright Colors At Funerals, Parking In Someone Else's Spot, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle drinking tea with milk, wearing bright nail polish to funerals, parking in someone else's reserved spot, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Drinking tea with milk A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dressing rooms QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend who w...

May 23, 202241 minEp. 140

Taking House Tours, Backing Out of Dinners, Attending Surprise Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking tours of peoples homes, backing out of dinners you don't want to go to, attending surprise weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you have to take a tour of someone's home if invited? What's the appropriate reaction when someo...

May 16, 202225 minEp. 139

Enjoying Escargot, Traveling with Co-workers, Sharing Hot Tubs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating escargot, traveling with co-workers, sharing hot tubs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Escargot A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Traveling with co-workers QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are there rules about getting into a hot tub that's already occupied? How do yo...

May 09, 202239 minEp. 138

Singing Along During Musicals, Flipping Over Wine Bottles, Using Dirty Bathrooms, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about singing along during musicals, flipping wine bottles over in buckets, using dirty bathrooms, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When is it appropriate to sing along with a musical performance? What do I do about my mother who would prefer num...

May 02, 202228 minEp. 137

Passing People in Theaters, Removing Shoes in Homes, Using Coasters Properly, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing people in theater aisles, removing shoes in people's homes, using coasters properly, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing people in theaters A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Taking off shoes in people's homes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if the...

Apr 25, 202238 minEp. 136

Eating Chocolate Truffles, Breaking Up With Gym Partners, Giving Up Your Window Seat, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating chocolate truffles, breaking up with gym partners, giving up airplane window seats, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the proper way to eat a chocolate truffle? Do I have to invite someone to my birthday party if I was invited ...

Apr 18, 202225 minEp. 135

Enjoying Aperitivi, Behaving at Dog Parks, Gifting Towel Racks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying an aperitivo in Italy, behaving at dog parks, buying towel racks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Enjoying an Aperitivo A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dog parks QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I buy my friends a towel rack? Should I say something in eleva...

Apr 11, 202237 minEp. 134

Crashing Open Houses, Demanding Wedding Photos, Stealing Hand Lotion, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about going to neighbors' open houses, asking newlyweds for their entire wedding photo album, using hand lotion without asking, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm selling my house...is it rude for my neighbors to come to my open house without t...

Apr 04, 202225 minEp. 133

Pressing the Flight Attendant Call Button, Eating Drippy Sandwiches, Throwing Bags in Cafes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using the flight attendant call button, eating drippy sandwiches in public, throwing bags in cafes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Furoshiki (風呂敷) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using the flight attendant call button QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is there a proper way...

Mar 28, 202237 minEp. 132

Ordering Appetizers Without Asking, Buffering in Restrooms, Borrowing Bathing Suits, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ordering appetizers for people without asking, buffering stalls in restrooms, asking to borrow bathing suits, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude that my father-in-law orders appetizers for everyone at the table without asking anyon...

Mar 21, 202222 minEp. 131

Meeting Royalty, Calling Out Lazy People, Malfunctioning Umbrellas, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle meeting Queen Elizabeth II, calling out lazy people, handling malfunctioning umbrellas, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Meeting the Queen A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being a Plus One QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: The person who gifted us a wall calendar is coming ov...

Mar 14, 202239 minEp. 130

Turning People Orange, Ordering Extra Courses, Clipping Nails in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about turning people orange with bath bombs, ordering extra courses at meals, clipping nails in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should we let my mother-in-law know that her gift turned my husband orange? How do I thank my mother-in-law w...

Mar 07, 202226 minEp. 129

Drinking Turkish Coffee, Behaving at the Gym, Returning Holiday Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle drinking Turkish coffee, behaving at the gym, returning holiday cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Turkish coffee A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going to the gym QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I handle someone rudely returning our annual holiday card? Sho...

Feb 28, 202240 minEp. 128

Declining Double Dates, Gifting Unwanted Jams, Bailing on Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about declining to go on double dates, gifting unwanted jams, bailing on weddings with no warning, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: My husband would rather not socialize with my friend's husband...what do I do when asked to go on a double date? H...

Feb 21, 202221 minEp. 127

Using Mourning Stationery, Talking While Chewing, Fixing Flat Tires, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using mourning stationery, talking while chewing, fixing flat tires, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Mourning Stationery A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Bragging QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: A friend is hosting a party in my home...what's my role during this event? How...

Feb 14, 202240 minEp. 126

Mistaking Customers for Employees, Forgetting Previous Introductions, Washing Dishes Before Returning, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about mistaking customers for store employees, forgetting you've been introduced before, washing dishes before returning them, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about strangers in stores mistakenly thinking I'm an employee and asking ...

Feb 07, 202224 minEp. 125

Giving Red Envelopes, Reseating in Theaters, Cancelling on Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving red envelopes in China, reseating people in metaphorical theaters, cancelling on friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Red Envelopes - (Hóngbāo - 紅包) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: The theatre metaphor QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Was it rude for friends to ...

Jan 31, 202242 minEp. 124

Feeling Obligated to Babysit, Serving Sliced Lemons, Fixing Friends' Typos, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about feeling obligated to babysit for a neighbor, serving sliced lemons at a buffet, fixing friends' social media typos, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: A neighbor is upset I'm not always available to volunteer to babysit on short notice...what...

Jan 24, 202228 minEp. 123

Following Dress Codes, Copying Roommates' Décor, Clearing Plates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle following dress codes on invitations, copying roommates' décor, clearing plates in restaurants, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dress codes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Unsolicited advice QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a roommate who is copying my d...

Jan 17, 202240 minEp. 122

Glaring at Others, Hanging up Coats, Picking Up Trash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about glaring at others, hanging up guests' coats, picking up neighbors' trash, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is a glare ever within the bounds of etiquette? How can I get guests to hang up their coats when they come over? Is it OK to send one...

Jan 10, 202227 minEp. 121

Holding Teacups, Tying Up Boats, Telling People They Look Tired, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle holding teacups properly, tying up boats, telling people they "look tired," and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Holding teacups A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: You look tired QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to watch me tie up a boat and then go and retie it the exa...

Jan 03, 202240 minEp. 120

Holiday Break: A few of our favorite things

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here are some of their favorite moments from the entire series so far. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Otohime (音姫) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: House sitting QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS...

Dec 27, 20211 hr 13 min

Gifting Pajamas, Expecting Cards With Money, Tipping at the Holidays, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about giving people pajamas, expecting cards to contain money, tipping people at the holidays, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are pajamas an "intimate" gift that should only be given between spouses or between parents and children? What can I d...

Dec 20, 202122 minEp. 119

Eating French Fries, Misspelling Names, Littering at Disneyland, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating french fries politely, misspelling people's names, littering at Disneyland, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: French fries A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Nail salons QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: An old co-worker turned a casual cocktail party into an intimate sit...

Dec 13, 202147 minEp. 118

Choosing Cake Flavors, Embarrassing Teenagers, Showing Up with Wet Hair, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about choosing cake flavors for birthdays, embarrassing teenagers with table settings, showing up to work with wet hair, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to consider my guests' tastes when selecting a cake flavor for my birthday? What d...

Dec 06, 202126 minEp. 117

Devastating People With a Glance, Interviewing for Colleges, Discouraging Office Interruptions, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle devastating people with a glance, going on college interviews, discouraging interruptions at the office, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The Cut A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: College admission interviews QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I just found out that a wedding I'...

Nov 29, 202147 minEp. 116

Spending Other People's Money, Tipping Sanitation Workers, Going Rogue at Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about spending other people's money, tipping sanitation workers at the holidays, ignoring wedding dress codes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I offered to "bring something" to a dinner party and then was given the entire shopping list...what do...

Nov 22, 202129 minEp. 115