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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Eating Like Europeans, Signing Business Emails, Giving Repeat Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating like Europeans, signing business emails, giving repeat gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: American versus European fork usage A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Email closings QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can I tell my boss I don't want the same Christmas gift ...

Sep 21, 202037 minEp. 54

Ranking Wedding Guests, Refusing Requests for Money, Prodding Slow Charities, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ranking wedding guests, refusing requests for money, prodding slow charities, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to put your wedding guests in priority groups and tell them which group they're in? Is it OK to ghost if someone...

Sep 14, 202032 minEp. 53

Wearing White After Labor Day, Apologizing Correctly, Sending Glitter, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing white after labor day, apologizing the right way, sending things with glitter, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Wearing white after Labor Day A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Apologizing QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you tell someone not to answer their doo...

Sep 07, 202041 minEp. 52

Hiking on Trails, Criticizing Your In-laws, Writing in Cursive, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hiking on trails, criticizing your in-laws, writing in cursive, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When there's a meal train for a new mom, is it OK for her to make last-minute changes? Is it OK to write in cursive if people have troubl...

Aug 31, 202031 minEp. 51

Cutting Lines, Answering Phones, Picking Berries, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle answering phones, cutting lines, telling restaurants it's your birthday, selling items online, responding to rude customer service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Answering the telephone A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cutting in line QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is i...

Aug 24, 202041 minEp. 50

Meeting New Neighbors, Going Overboard with Gifts, Avoiding Carpools, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about moving into a new neighborhood, going overboard with giving gifts, avoiding carpooling with people you don't like, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you don't want to carpool with someone? How to handle a friend who g...

Aug 17, 202031 minEp. 49

Slamming Car Doors, Eating Cocktail Garnishes, Borrowing from Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle borrowing things from friends, eating olives in martinis, slamming car doors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to insert a card into an envelope A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Borrowing things from friends QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are you allowed to bring your ...

Aug 10, 202039 minEp. 48

Handling Mothers-In-Law, Disobeying Gift Instructions, Exiting Gracefully, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about replying to voicemails with text messages, handling mother-in-laws who don't respect your wishes, making graceful exits, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you reply to a voicemail with a text message? What do you do about a mother-...

Aug 03, 202032 minEp. 47

Eating Corn on the Cob, Asking Someone's Age, Ignoring RSVPs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating corn on the cob, asking people how old they are, handling people who never RSVP, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Eating corn on the cob A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking people how old they are QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you stop inviting someone who ...

Jul 27, 202045 minEp. 46

Sliding Into a Stranger’s DMs, Leaving Dirty Dishes at the Office, Using Wedding Gifts Before the Wedding, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sliding into people's DMs, dealing with a coworker's dirty dishes, following up on whether gifts were received, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to slide into someone's DMs? Is it OK to ask about the cost of a "market price...

Jul 20, 202029 minEp. 45

Giving Toasts, Blowing Bubbles, Leaving Out Cash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving toasts, blowing bubbles, holding photos hostage, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Topping Trees A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Giving Toasts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave cash out for someone without a note? What do you do if a friend is holdi...

Jul 13, 202036 minEp. 44

Texting During Therapy, Cutting in Lines, Uninviting Guests, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about cutting in lines, scraping teeth on forks, sending thank you notes for checks, handling a therapist who texts during sessions, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If I'm first into a parking lot, does this mean I should also be first in ...

Jul 06, 202032 minEp. 43

Meddling Neighbors, Pre-approving Gifts, Flying the American Flag, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flying the flag, pre-approving children's gifts, dealing with nosy neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Etiquette for the American Flag A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Etiquette with very close friends QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it normal to have parents req...

Jun 29, 202038 minEp. 42

Wedding Bonus: Bringing Your Own Food, Skipping Thank You Notes, Inviting Yourself, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus wedding-themed episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about paying for weddings, scheduling mid-week ceremonies, skipping thank you notes, bringing your own food, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Who pays for a wedding? Is it rude to have your wedding on a holiday or on a day ot...

Jun 22, 202035 minEp. 41

Eating Lobsters, Leaving Group Texts, Bashing Hometowns, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle serving guests, eating lobsters, bashing hometowns, cutting birthday cakes without permission, leaving group texts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: French, Russian, and American service A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to eat Lobster QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Wha...

Jun 15, 202044 minEp. 40

Wedding Bonus: Asking for Cash, Declining Invitations, Giving Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus wedding-themed episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about creating guest lists, declining invitations, asking for cash gifts, forgetting to send thank you notes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Who do you have to invite to your wedding? Do you have to go to a wedding if you'r...

Jun 08, 202037 minEp. 39

Attending Zoom Parties, Wearing Cummerbunds, Giving Babies "Weird" Names, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing cummerbunds, attending Zoom parties, giving babies "weird" names, addressing letters to couples, handling complicated coffee orders, commenting on innocuous social media posts, taking out the garbage, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Cummerbunds A QUESTION ...

Jun 01, 202043 minEp. 38

Orienting Toilet Paper Rolls, Sending Insincere Invitations, FOMOing on Venmo, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about installing toilet paper rolls, responding to insincere invitations, changing RSVPs, declining photos at tourist attractions, making inside jokes on Venmo, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the correct way to install a toilet pa...

May 25, 202031 minEp. 37

Ordering at Drive-Thrus, Offering Tap Water, Passing Ports, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing decanters of port, ordering at drive-thru windows, offering guests tap water, taking advantage of tea enthusiasts, talking in elevators, using smart watches at the theatre, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Do you know the Bishop of Norwich? A QUESTION OF ET...

May 18, 202044 minEp. 36

Using Knives on Salads, Holding Doors for Others, Tipping on Discounts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about holding doors open for others, liking your own social media posts, cutting salads with knives, getting colleagues to respect your desk space, tipping when there's a discount, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the appropriate ti...

May 11, 202027 minEp. 35

Ghosting, Visiting Renaissance Fairs, Using Hot Towels, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using towels at a Japanese restaurant, ghosting, dressing appropriately for Renaissance fairs, speaking to flight attendants while wearing headphones, correcting people who get your name wrong, asking about a partner's opinion, visiting crowded museums, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE C...

May 04, 202034 minEp. 34

Receiving Tacky Gifts, Cracking Knuckles, Knocking Before Entering, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about accommodating dietary restrictions, knocking before entering public restrooms, receiving tacky gifts, cracking knuckles in public, tipping on credit cards, asking inappropriate questions in groups, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: At ...

Apr 27, 202026 minEp. 33

Making Small Talk, Eating Pistachios, Recognizing Celebrities, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating pistachios, making small talk, telling people they have toilet paper stuck to them, returning dropped calls, correcting incorrect terminology, recognizing celebrities, handling annoying phone calls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Eating pistachios A QUESTI...

Apr 20, 202036 minEp. 32

Invoicing Party Guests, Keeping Scent Secrets, Walking Around Barefoot, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about invoicing party guests for food, walking around apartment buildings without shoes, asking friends to keep quiet at lunch, getting rowdy at musicals, handling inconsiderate dog owners, snooping on other people's phones, keeping scent secrets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask....

Apr 13, 202034 minEp. 31

Raiding Strangers' Fridges, Wearing Backpacks on Subways, Declining Multi-Level Marketers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle riding escalators in Osaka, being around people who don't like you, declining multi-level marketing solicitations, going through a stranger's pantry, buying gifts for real estate agents, wearing backpacks on subways, breaking rules on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS ...

Apr 06, 202044 minEp. 30

Eating Cheetos, Knitting in Public, Calling Dibs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Cheetos, calling dibs, handling supermarket line cutters and slow baggers, behaving at a funeral, shutting down resentful relatives, going barefoot in a no-shoe household, emailing professors, knitting in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FR...

Mar 30, 202035 minEp. 29

Borrowing Money, Forgetting Invitations, Saving Forks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating mukhwas, asking friends to repay you, forgetting to invite important relatives to parties, handling people with big hair, getting attention at a bar, sharing fears, saving forks, getting rides, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Mukhwas A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE...

Mar 23, 202039 minEp. 28

Unfollowing Exes, Standing on Escalators, Vaping in Offices, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about cleaning a roommate's dishes, hovering over people in restaurants, seating in taxis, avoiding conversations with drivers, unfollowing exes on social media, handling a coworker's after-hours messages, vaping in offices, splitting restaurant bills, telling provocative stories, standing on escalators, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a ...

Mar 16, 202034 minEp. 27

Scolding in Elevators, Tipping Bathroom Attendants, Worrying for Others, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle slashing names on social stationery, worrying for other people, conflicting information on invitations, scolding people in elevators, tipping bathroom attendants, handling impolite parents, FaceTiming in public, overcrowding in vestibules, holding packages for neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.w...

Mar 09, 202042 minEp. 26

Eating Oreos Properly, Dumping Your Hair Stylist, Seating Incomplete Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Oreos properly, dumping your hair stylist, toasting grammar, duplicating housewarming gifts, seating incomplete parties at restaurants, dealing with gassy coworkers, lowering the volume on loud people, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILD...

Mar 02, 202037 minEp. 25